Thread: Sarah's (sarahsunshine) Lodge! - postpartum

congrats on your lodge Sarah!!!!

-Jodi

Thanks all,

I feel much better about it today. Mostly I was just upset because we haven't spent that much time together lately and I was expecting he would be home. He really should go to Manitoba for a week out of every month - he's technically the acting director of the area covering Manitoba and Saskatchewan, but lives in Alberta. He managed to get out of going there in March and April - which is likely why it's even more important that he goes now - particularly since he's a Fishery Officer and back in March and April most lakes and rivers were frozen so he didn't have to worry too much a that point! Now, though, it's a different story.

He already told his boss "no" because she wanted him to go out for another week and conduct a search warrant and he said it would just have to wait. And there's a bunch of paperwork that has to be done out there so when the new person gets hired it's relatively organized - and that should happen in a couple months. So yeah, he does need to go, and he will be accessible by phone, and he will come home ASAP if I go into labor - and the midwife is great too, and we have some really good friends in town, and he doesn't work so if I need support ASAP I can always call him.

DH knew I was feeling bad, and had felt bad telling me he had to leave to begin with. Last night he took me out to eat Indian food (my favourite currently), then he and SS went for a bike ride, we played UNO for a while, and then DH and I watched a movie. He knows that I don't usually worry about him going a way here and there for a little while, and knows I haven't been sleeping well. He's been so great while I've been pregnant that I could at least give him some leniency here when he's already done all he can to make it shorter than he should leave for and to pick the best time.

And today he made me stay home and rest/nap while he goes out and does some grocery shopping. That's why I'm online!

I do wonder, however, where he is because he has been gone for about 3 hours now and it doesn't take too much to get him distracted and buy a bunch of other stuff that he would like but we don't need ! Last time he came home with a router and router table... Then the next day we had to exchange the router for another because it didn't fit on the table . And he mentioned something about hanging plants for the back porch - so I hope, if he gets some, that they get watered enough! They would certainly look nice.

And I am also probably starting to feel a little overwhelmed by everything going on, and what I feel I should be doing - like getting the stuff for our homebirth list organized... I have to go out and get a bunch of stuff - like some washcloths, vinyl table cloths, plastic fitted sheet (for a california king bed - have no idea where to find that!), etc...

I did find a friend who's baby just grew out of their car seat yesterday and are going to give it to us though!!!

If you can't find a fitted sheet for your size mattress, I imagine just the plastic tableclothes/shower curtains/something wrapped around the edges will work just fine...

I'm very happy that I got moving a few weeks ago and spent a weekend collecting all those things I'll need. Then last Saturday I cleaned off an old basement shelf and put it in the birthing area, and arranged all the "Xander" stuff on it, so the midwives and DH can find everything they need without having to ask me!! ( And I STILL had to get up and walk over to show DH where the sheets were this morning, when he was getting the birthing area ready... he was staring at the top shelves and didn't even notice them on the bottom...)

Hope your weekend goes well and is productive!! And that your DH doesn't come home with something really ridiculous... LOL

Meghan

I bought a few things yesterday...among them some baby washcloths, hooded towels, a tiny plain 'onesie'...a few things for you...but haven't found the bathrobe you'd like yet. Boy, were they all ugly and useless for your purposes! I'll look somewhere else if I have time.

Today your dad chose buttons for the knitted jacket I'm making. He's so excited...(me too!)

Have I ever mentioned how great DH is? He spoils me rotten.

DH has totally made up for not being around much the last month and having to go away again - like he even had to!

Yesterday he dug up a whole flower bed (5'x15') that used to be covered in 6" of red rocks (previous owners). The rocks are now in a pile on the driveway, fresh dirt, manure, and peat have been mixed in with the old dirt, a soaker hose was buried in the soil, and today it was my job to plant the plants!!! I got halfway through, but bending over constantly and lack of sleep has made me so tired and dizzy that I only planted half of them before I had to go find DH and have him help me plant the rest of them!!!

Now it looks like a whole bunch of 2-8" plants have been planted there - but they'll grow soon!!!!

I can't wait! It will be a nice shade garden!

And I still have designs on splitting 2 more hostas from other areas and planting them in the same bed - but they'll just have to wait a little while!!!

On top of that, we had a bunch of friends over last night and DH made EVERYTHING!!!! Fresh salmon, rice, asparagus, spinach salad, hollandaise sauce, barbecued deer steaks. I made the easiest desert in the world (it took a full minute I think, because DH had already washed the grapes!), and cleaned up the bedroom. And then, the only other thing I think I could find to do was to put placemats on the table, and get one person some water.

SHEESH!!!

I never mentionned how he sent me out to get some fish, and while I was gone he cleaned the house as well, did I?

I SO wish I had as much energy as he does! He's amazing!


And yesterday, I also saw my ex-bf who I lived with for 6 years until last winter. I had to pick up the last thing that he has of mine (I hope). I was hit by this wall of angry, unhappy, uncomfortable energy from both him and his roommate. My ex-bf has always been like that, but I have had very little of that energy directed at me before. Just feeling it made me wonder how I ever dealt with it for so long, and very happy that I had the guts/intelligence to get out of that relationship!

Neither he nor his roommate looked me in the eye the entire 5 minutes I was there, his dog tried to come home with me, and ex-bf took out some of his anger at my dog who he lived with for about 4 years... What a guy! Why did I stay in that relationship for so long? What was I thinking?

And my relationship with DH is so happy, and simple, and understanding, and unselfish. My brief interaction with my ex-bf just reinforced all that big time, and made me feel so selfish for being upset that he had to leave the other day! In the grand scheme of things, it's a non-issue. But still, DH didn't toss it off as "pregnancy silliness", he considered my feelings fully and we worked through them.

I'm so lucky!

I wish everyone could experience a relationship as perfect as the one I'm in.

Sorry you had to deal with the ex, sounds like a bit of a butthead! Hindsight is certainly 20/20 isn't it? How sweet that your DH is being so wonderful to you! I wish mine would clean the house or make dinner, you are making me very jealous!

Wow, your dh sounds like a wonderful guy...

Your DH is a keeper!! It's so great that you are getting so much help and support, I can totally hear in your tone how much your spirit has been lifted by his attention and help the last few days.

YAY for sweet DHs!!

Jen

OH, I keep coming up with little stories here and there that I would like to post here. I’ll post them as I remember them.

DH’s excitement!
On Saturday night, a friend of ours was asking if I was taking off a whole year for maternity leave. I replied that our current plan was for me to take 6mo, and DH to take 6mo. And then DH broke in with how much he was looking forward to being a SAHD, and how fun he thought it would be, and just kept talking about it for about 5 minutes. He was so excited it was really cute!

Random Friend’s Comments
And another friend that DH and I hadn’t seen in a long time came over to our new house for the first time last night. The first thing he said when he saw me was “Hey – you look as if you’ve gained some weight!”

Ummm… yeah… duh… I’ve gained 36lbs (not a huge amount). I don’t think he meant it as anything derogatory just a statement of fact, but it was the kind of comment that you just don’t get very often. I simply replied with “yep, that’s what happens!”. What else was there to say? I suppose if I was completely awake I would have replied – “At least I have an excuse!” or something else mildly humorous, but being mostly asleep already…