Sarah's (sarahsunshine) Lodge! - postpartum

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Sarah's (sarahsunshine) Lodge! - postpartum

Welcome to your lodge!

Tell us everything.

In the edd list, it says "no ultrasound." Did you really have no ultrasound at all? Team Surprise is terrific. Do you have a hunch about whether you've got a boy or a girl in there?

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Sarah, I am so excited for your lodge. It makes this getting so close to edd's much more of a reality! I am excited to hear more of your story!

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Sarah,

Congratulations on your lodge! Wow, a July lodge!

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A July lodge.... That means I'm not that far off from seeing Ethan :shock:

Congrats Sarah!

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Oh my goodness! This is a surprise. I don’t know why, but I really hadn’t expected to have a lodge even though I’ve been involved here quite a bit! It’s pretty exciting!

I’m at work right now and should be pretty busy this week, but I’ve always been able to squeeze a little bit of pg.org in here and there (by copy and pasting from word so it looks like I’m busy!!! Lol ) so I don’t see why I can’t do that right now!

So just a little background (I have plenty of stories to tell I’m sure!) this is my first, and DH’s second, and we are both very happy. My pregnancy has been pretty smooth sailing, with a couple of hiccups here and there – though nothing serious. I’m planning to have a homebirth with a birthing pool, and we found a midwife who get along with great, so all seems to be shaping up well.

To answer selkiemom, no, I haven’t had an ultrasound at all. My MW is generally against them, but very supportive of whatever the parent’s decision is. I think that she is actually very surprised that we opted against the u/s because there are heart problems on both DH and my side (my brother, and SS). In fact, at my last appointment it was almost as if the MW was wanting us to change our minds because “she didn’t want to have a baby with heart problems die on her at the birth”. I think I alleviated those fears because none of the heart problems have been life threatening – except that the doctor messed up with SS’s case and that mistake DID make it life threatening! As a result he has had open heart surgery to correct the doctor’s mistake but the original ‘problem’ has never been an issue! Typical case of a medical system ‘oops’.

Anyway, I’m glad I’ve had no u/s because of the sheer number of people who have had false positives and have had a whole bunch of stress because of it. I know I’ve done everything I can right (I’m healthy and have been eating well and resting lots), been quite stress-free, and generally quite peaceful. The rest is up to chance and our ability to cope, and an ultrasound was not likely to change any outcome – so why have one?

DH has been awesome! He’s completely supportive of the homebirth, and really, seems to intuitively know a lot of the stuff that people have been posting as “news”. I ask him whether he’s read a whole bunch of books about it and stuff and he says “no, it just makes sense”. He must have been a MW in another life or something Smile . I asked what he saw his roll as at the birth, and he said he didn’t know. But he’d fill whatever capacity was needed at the time. I know that for many people that’s a cop-out, but I know that for him, he is being completely truthful and he’ll be magnificent. He’s definitely a very calming influence on everyone around so the combination between him and the experience of MW is going to be great – especially if for some reason I need to go to the hospital.

We plan to have SS with us for the birth (8yo), and are very lucky that his mom also thinks that it’s very important, so she’s on board for driving him over if he happens to be under her care at that point in time. We just read a couple books this weekend (Welcome With Love, and one of the Dr. Sears kids books), and he is super excited about the whole thing. I think, of all of us, that he is most excited about whether it’s a boy or a girl so maybe we’ll have him announce it. We’ll see how it works out.

OK, enough for now!

Hey, I have a lodge!!!

Thanks all!

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Re: Sarah's (sarahsunshine) Lodge!

"selkiemom" wrote:

Do you have a hunch about whether you've got a boy or a girl in there?

Oh! I think it's a girl!

Don't know why.

I always said I’d never be able to deal with a girl and didn’t want one, but as soon as I found out I was pregnant I’ve just “known” it was a girl. I went through a period of doubt, but it’s back in full force. Now we get to wait and find out whether I’m right!

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"sarahsunshine" wrote:

as soon as I found out I was pregnant I’ve just “known” it was a girl. I went through a period of doubt, but it’s back in full force. Now we get to wait and find out whether I’m right!

Y'know, I had a feeling all along we were having a boy, even dreamed about him multiple times before my u/s. So when I had the u/s at my doctor's office and they told me it looked like a girl, I was shocked! A lot of people had told me I would just KNOW which it was.... I never felt at peace thinking about "her" and had a hard time getting used to the idea and referring to her by name.

Then 2 1/2 weeks later I did a 4D and lo and behold, there were boy parts! It ended up being the owner of the u/s place that did mine, and he knew I wasn't confident about having a girl. Afterward he looked at me and asked if I had really felt it was a girl, or I thought I was having a boy. When I told him boy, he said he had found few if any women that were wrong about their intuition on it!

So I'm realllllllly curious to see what you end up having! BTW, I've had some doubt creep in too, even with an obvious picture....

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Sarah! Congratulations on your lodge! I'm not having an ultrasound, either, for the same reasons. I haven't even had a doppler yet, but if we can't hear the baby with the fetoscope at my next appt (20wks) I think I'll opt for a quick listen. I'm still debating it, though. Anyways, I'm looking forward to your birth story! Our stories are so similar (though this is the first for both me and DH) and I can't wait to read about the end of your pregnancy!

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Congrats on your lodge, Sarah! Can't wait to hear about your homebirth and your little girl! Biggrin

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"aylaanne" wrote:

Sarah! Congratulations on your lodge! I'm not having an ultrasound, either, for the same reasons. I haven't even had a doppler yet, but if we can't hear the baby with the fetoscope at my next appt (20wks) I think I'll opt for a quick listen. I'm still debating it, though. Anyways, I'm looking forward to your birth story! Our stories are so similar (though this is the first for both me and DH) and I can't wait to read about the end of your pregnancy!

I think I had my first doppler about a month ago (30 wks). It was neat, and really the first time that I heard a clear heartbeat. I guess it was the position of the baby.

The whole heartbeat thing doesn't really excite me that much (I know it does some people). I guess I'm of the view that if I was worried that the baby was alive or not, then I'd already know if it wasn't moving much and then it would be important. But if the baby is active, does the heartbeat add anything to our knowledge? I suppose there could be a very obvious heart murmur...

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My mom (gardenbug) told me early on that I should write a pregnancy journal. I tried a couple times and it just fizzled. I've never been very good at keeping a journal. But maybe, for the next month (about) I'll see if I can steadily add some reflections about me and pregnancy. Here is the first go:

Monday June 4th's reflection:

Well, I did a quick overview of pregnancy and the past 8 months from work today, but now that I’m home and everyone is gone (DH is away on a business trip, SS went to his mom’s, and our friend who is visiting went out), I have some time to sit and reflect. Much of this stuff has gone by the wayside, and it would be neat to have it all in one place.

My journey to motherhood has been a huge learning experience. It didn’t just start 8 months ago. I suppose, I could say it started the day I was born, but instead of going over my whole life (that would be rather tedious!), I’m going to go over the highlights of my own self-realization.

Most would call me a tomboy growing up. I didn’t care about dresses, or clothing, and never did understand why people would waste money, or more importantly, time, on makeup or shaving. Why was it wrong to be yourself? Why should anyone change oneself for anyone else? I still don’t understand. I didn’t see it as being a tomboy, but as being myself. I didn’t care what other people thought – that was their problem to deal with, not mine! – as long as I could run faster/play better position/be better at sports than they could.

I had a great relationship with my dad. I played soccer, and hockey and he coached me. When I got to a higher level, he came to all my games. With my mom, I took piano and flute lessons and did figure skating. I think she had hopes of me doing something girly – or maybe figure skating was the only way of getting me into a dress! I loved music – particularly the community and togetherness of singing and playing guitar around a campfire. My dad was the best guitar player in the world (I later learned he knew about 10 chords), but that was enough to play almost any folk tune so it was perfect. Being outdoors brought around a great interest in wildlife biology – for which I later went to university and got a couple and half degrees.

I decided early on that I would never have kids. It wasn’t the responsible thing to do in an overpopulated world. And since what really bugged me about lots of people was their inability to keep their word, I stuck to it, or a vowed that I would! Plus, I guess I didn’t fit in the feminine side of things enough that I didn’t really know how to accept the whole role of being womanly so of course I wouldn’t have kids!!! which I have recently been getting over.

As much as I always knew it, it took a long time (and I’m still working on it) to finally realized that I don’t have to wear makeup, be super emotional, wear dresses, and follow societal norms to be a woman. As much as I knew this superficially, it is taking many lessons and people to realize that I am feminine, I am womanly, and I am me, and I do want to have children, and I am capable, and it is all wonderful. It may sound weird, but at the same time as not caring what other people thought, I had set up an image of myself for myself that I would never be feminine because that was a waste of time and money and resources. It was stupid. However, by doing that, I had been denying an aspect of myself!

So to skip over many years of stories (I’ll probably add a bunch later)…

In many ways, pregnancy has forced me deal with the womanly side of my character, and accept it as another piece of my already complex self. It’s been great to see the resistance I’ve had with certain things (“I can’t be having a baby, I vowed I was never going to have kids!”) and deal with them and the issues that go along with them.

I look forward to learning so much more in the future.

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"rikkiac" wrote:

Sarah, I am so excited for your lodge. It makes this getting so close to edd's much more of a reality! I am excited to hear more of your story!

And I yours!!! You're lodge will be started here soon too!

And you too Connie!!

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Welcome to your lodge, Sarah! I've enjoyed reading it so far.

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This could be cool! The computer lends itself to many things, and in this case, to a closer bond with my darling daughter who lives so far away!

We were so lucky that Sarah had strong interests as a little girl, and being a tomboy would be the way she describes her youth. From a Mom's point of view, being an active kid who loves the water, singing, animals, roller blades, the arena, the mountains and so on...that is such a pleasure and relief! It wasn't hanging out at the mall. Sarah was comfortable with friends anywhere and we never worried about her social abilities. She was fantastic with her brother too, who tended to be more of a loner at first. We never doubted that she had a feminine side. She needed to find out for herself though.
Was she practicing to use a birthing ball here?

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Wow, Sarah! Congrats on your lodge! I'm so excited as the summer babies start coming. Thanks for sharing here and on our bb!

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What a cute pic! I love that your mom has all the non digital pics on the computer!

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Sarah, your journey to becoming a woman and wanting/having kids is great! I love reading you and your mom's posts on the July board, and the love you have for each other definitely comes through in your posts!

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I have a doctor’s appointment at 4pm today!!!

I moved to Edmonton in 2003 from Ontario where I had REALLY LOVED my previous doctor at the university health services. Doctors here are in such short supply that most people are lucky to have one! I found one who was taking patients for an annual checkup. She was unapproachable, and very difficult to talk to. I was happy when I went in Spring 2004 for a post m/c checkup and found that she’d sold her practice to a new doctor who was much more approachable. Last summer, however, I had issues of not having my period for several months. And as nice as that was, and I knew there was nothing obviously wrong, and I knew I wasn’t pregnant, I figured it was something that should be addressed. I went to visit the doctor and her gut reaction was to prescribe a bunch of hormones to force my body to menstruate, and to get an ultrasound. I didn’t like that idea at all (haven’t returned to her since) and decided that it was time to go visit a naturopathic doctor. I’d always wanted to, but had never had a good enough reason.

I got a glowing reference to one from my massage therapist. Dr. Rob was awesome. Though a little tardy, we discussed everything about medical history, views on life, emotional state, stresses in my life, and even zoology (we both have an MSc in Zoology). We discussed the effects of various treatments, what they did, and how they addressed my entire body. He came up with 3 things and he asked me to ‘feel’ which one felt best. One felt better than the other two, but I was infinitely more drawn to something behind his computer (I couldn’t see what). He looked around his desk and found a bottle from one of his previous patients, an item that was a liver cleanser (deals with synthesis of cholesterol, the building block of many hormones), but it was generally used for men. So he went back to his lab and found the equivalent for women. With my eyes closed again, he randomly picked a couple of the 5 bottles and gave them to me to “feel”. 4 times, I came up with the same one – the women’s liver cleanser! I was amazed. I came out of there with a $5 bottle from which I took 5-7 drops once a day for a week. I menstruated the following week! Even the hormones wouldn’t have done that!!!

Anyway, as much as I will stick with the naturopath, there is a time and place for conventional medicine and I wanted to find a doctor (covered by the medical system) for both me and the baby. I told my midwife this, and in April she was contacted by a highly sought out doctor here in Edmonton, and told that he would take 2 new patients. He is well known for being one of the doctors who supported midwife care, and got midwives privileges at certain hospitals. As much as he is part of the typical medical system, he is also well known for being non-interventionist, and supportive of alternative therapies. My MW sent me a referral letter, and I was one of the 2 that he accepted!!! I have an appointment at 4pm today, and though I know I’ll likely have to wait a long time for the appointment, I am super psyched!

Woohoo!!!!

Now all I have to do is come up with a list of questions for him. Because I’ve read so many reviews from people who’ve been to his practice, I know I can skip a bunch of the “what’s your view on midwifery and homebirths” type questions. What other info, though, should I ask? I know there is probably a list around nearby but I haven’t found one.

My current list has:
- Given that I’m planning a home birth with a midwife and post-natal care up to 6 weeks, what post-natal care do you expect, assuming good health? (appointments frequency, etc…)
- How long would it take to get an appointment in case of emergency/illness requiring doctor’s care? What are after-hour non-emergency procedures? How long to get a physical/routine examination?
- How are inquiries handled – can I call the office for advice instead of having to make an appointment? Who would I talk to – a nurse, answering machine or yourself? Or advice from the nurse through you?
- What are your recommendations regarding vaccination in babies and children?
- How do you deal with concerns outside your area of expertise?

Anyone have anything to add?

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Had a heated discussion with a friend this weekend about vaccination of children. The main stance was that those who refuse vaccination do so trusting that others WILL vaccinate. Also that polio and other such diseases are on the rise again worldwide, needlessly in their opinion. More details too. I am sympathetic, yet did not fully vaccinate you because of our pediatrician's views. So I would have to read up on a great deal of this before making a firm decision.

What I appreciated most was my pediatrician's confidence in me as a parent. His belief that I would know that something was wrong with my children well before he could detect it was confidence building. He never felt I whined or came in needlessly. A great guy.

I think often a sign of a good doctor is one who is on a university faculty and teaches others. Several times I observed student doctors under his supervision and he did extraordinarily well with them. He gave them lots of space and they asked me, the Mom, many questions. A really nice situation all around.

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"gardenbug" wrote:

Had a heated discussion with a friend this weekend about vaccination of children. The main stance was that those who refuse vaccination do so trusting that others WILL vaccinate. Also that polio and other such diseases are on the rise again worldwide, needlessly in their opinion. More details too. I am sympathetic, yet did not fully vaccinate you because of our pediatrician's views. So I would have to read up on a great deal of this before making a firm decision.

Actually, that's my argument (or one of them) about NOT getting vaccinations exactly! We studied this in one of my ecology classes as an undergrad. If most people get vaccinations, then it effectively cuts down the population size that a virus can be harbored/traveled in. If the population is small, then there is less likelihood of the virus actually getting to where you live.

Another interesting thing is that even if you decide to NOT get vaccines, we keep an eye out for the big diseases like polio and such and can always get a vaccination if it looks like it's coming through even if originally you don't get one (assuming you think they work and yada yada) and later in life rather than subjecting them all to a newborn!

I need to find out more about this vaccination question, the variation between traditional vaccination and oral, naturopathic vaccinations, and the success, difficulties, hazards of each. I plan to take my questions over to the naturopath and ask his opinion too at some point.

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Worldwide your argument is not working. There are only two sources for vaccines against smallpox these days: Russia and North America. Should they become needed again, the supply is insufficient. To create a new supply might (~?~) be possible, but certainly would take time.
Polio is a disease that is spread in places like Northern Nigeria where inoculation is prevented because of religious belief. For people like me who have lived through the widespread harm of this disease, this is extremely hard. Entire towns van be wiped out by a disease within two days....
Visiting cemeteries nearby in Ontario is a very depressing activity as you can see the deaths resulting , all during the same week. One such cemetery is children only.
I have friends whose family died in the The Great Toronto Polio Epidemic of 1937.
More thought on this is needed....

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For one of my nursing classes I had to watch a video about the history of the polio vaccine and why it became necessary. One of the things discussed in that film was how polio became an epidemic because people were no longer immune to it. It was a bug that was around all the time, and usually mothers would be exposed to it in adulthood and pass immunity on to their children via breastmilk. But various factors, including increased cleanliness (!), decreased breastfeeding, and others, reduced the amount of mothers who were exposed and babies who acquired passive immunity.

Since so many people weren't immune anymore, the virus started wreaking havoc, and it caused a lot of damage and deaths before a vaccine was developed.

The concept that someone will be protected from an illness when they are not, themselves, immune is called herd immunity. That means that the person who is not immune is depending on the immunity of those around them to protect them from being exposed to illnesses. So, unvaccinated children are not "germ machines" as some ignorant people claim, they are actually more vulnerable to illness because vaccinated children may be carrying around bugs that they themselves are immune to but that their unvaccinated friends are not.

I have not yet decided on the vaccination question for my own children, but I do think it's a very valid discussion and a risk/benefit debate that should happen in every family. Good luck as you do research and discover your position on vaccinating your child.

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aylaanne I am VERY HAPPY to have discussions like this on my lodge!

Thanks for sharing!

I'm not an epidemiologist and don't know the specifics of viral vectors, but it seems to me (and please correct me if I'm wrong) that although unvaccinated children maybe 'more vulnerable' than vaccinated children when exposed, the risk of being exposed to the virus is very low.

Also, it seems odd to think that children who are immune to a virus (say chickenpocks) are carrying around more of the contagious virus than anyone else in the community, after all, antibodies for a virus kill off the virus - isn't that what they are for? :shrug:

Maybe I missed a part of your reasoning. Could you expand?

I know that somewhere a couple weeks ago there was a HUGE discussion on this on this board so I'm going to have to go find it and read up!

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"sarahsunshine" wrote:

Also, it seems odd to think that children who are immune to a virus (say chickenpocks) are carrying around more of the contagious virus than anyone else in the community, after all, antibodies for a virus kill off the virus - isn't that what they are for? :shrug:

Maybe I missed a part of your reasoning. Could you expand?

I remember learning in a biochem class that some antibodies kill off the virus, and some keep it from reproducing, and some stop it from working in some way. I remember there was one "big one" that most of us are immunized against that we are probably crawling with, because the antibody just keeps it from doing anything to you. I wish I could remember which one it is!

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Doctor's Interview!!!

Well I just got back from my doctor’s appointment. I’m wiped (didn’t sleep well last night), but just wanted to know that he’s everything I expected and more.

I had to find the place first, and was surprised to find that his practice is in the basement of a house – Toane House (he’s Dr. Toane)! You have to take your shoes off at the top of the stairs, and it has a warning about keeping the place clean so that kids don’t have to worry about playing on the floor!

The main floor has two offices – one is called “Psychotheraplay” a place for therapeutic evaluation of children with emotional and physical difficulties, and the other is a shared office with an acupuncturist, a dietician, and another alternative type medicine place.

Before I had even figured out that I was in the right place, a middle-aged fellow with a huge smile (50s?) and very welcoming demeanor said “You must be Sarah!” and shook my hand. “What can we do for you today – are we going to do a full physical, or what would you like? Do you have any concerns? You tell me.” I was shocked! I had got there 10 minutes early and was warned that he was notoriously late, and here he was already addressing me by name! I balked, I was so unprepared for that. And then I said that really, what I wanted today was just to be able to ask him a bunch of questions. HE said “Great – then that’s what we’ll do! I’ll see you in a few minutes.” He then took the previous in.

I had to fill out a couple forms (typical doctor stuff), and pee in a cup, and weigh myself (the nurse said that this was usually done by the patients by themselves as general protocol).

Then I got in his office (HE told me to go to room 6 – not the nurse/secretary)! Then he started out by handing me a sheet that said “this is my general philosophy of healthcare”. I believe in Holistic health – using traditional and non-traditional methods. My expertise is in family practice, but I consider myself to be a consultant. I encourage my patients to become knowledgeable about their issues and make their own decisions, while I’m here to give advice and make as much sense of it as I can. I know quite a bit of natural and homeopathic remedies through experience, but if you don’t feel comfortable with them, I encourage you to consult with others. I work with the other people in this building (upstairs), and know most of the alternative doctors and midwives in the city. I am not afraid to tell you if I don’t know what the problem is, and will work to figure out what it is, and therefore the best specialist to refer you to is.

We talked for a long time (1/2 hour?) about vaccines, and the benefits/costs of taking them, not taking them, or taking homeopathic vaccines. He said he actually didn’t know much about the success of homeopathic vaccines – had not seen the literature, but that in theory it sounded like a much better way to vaccinate (viruses going through the body’s natural defenses) than traditional immunization. He has lots of patients who choose not to vaccinate their children, and many who do it homeopathically. He is personally for vaccination – but not necessarily in the time frame that the province’s health people recommend, and not necessarily with all the vaccines that they recommend either!

He has four kids – three of which his wife had at home – so there’s not much to worry about it terms of his views of midwifery and homebirths! He does not have privileges at any hospital, but has frequently gone to the home of patients with newborns if there seems to be a problem and a phone call makes him concerned.

He is trying to cut down his hours, but plans to stay around for many more years. So he’s trying to work 4 days a week instead of 5 (not Friday). He does, however, have an informal after hours policy which is to call him at home, and if it sounds super urgent he’ll refer you to emergency, or an after-hours clinic, or come himself – depending on the situation.

He says that if there is an illness (high fever) and he can’t get a time to see him within 1-2 days that he’s failed as a doctor, and that should NEVER happen.

He doesn’t share the practice, so if he’s gone on holiday (which he will be for the first week of July – my due date!!!!) then he’ll have someone else to refer people to.

In terms of newborn care, he thinks that he should be the primary caregiver, but knows that in certain situations (BFing issues and stuff) that it is also important to have constant and consistent attention from someone who may have more experience – like a midwife – especially if there is already a good relationship there, so he doesn’t like pushing that boundary. He just thinks that some midwives try getting too much into family practice. OK, I can see his point, but he readily accepts that that is not what’s going to happen a lot of the time. At that point it would turn into the more traditional community advice instead of “midwifery”, and wants patients to be involved in their own healing so he deals with that!

All in all, YAY! I think it’s a good match – I just wish he lived closer!

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36wk1d Appointment

I got an email at about 4pm from my midwife asking if tonight was OK for an appointment. Yep, it was. So at around 7:45 she showed up at our house.

Nothing unusual. Last appointment she said that baby was engaged, but it seems that baby is now floating again - but still head down. She said she wanted to do a belly painting thing before the baby was born - which could be fun - but I'd like to get my belly cast that I did about a month ago now painted first!

DH just got back from his trip to Regina (a mere 8hour drive) about an hour before she got here, so he got to hear the heartbeat. So did our friend who is staying at the house! BP was normal for me (114/63). Everything else was normal and uneventful - which I guess is good. I guess lots of people are a bit worried about labor at this point, but currently I am not in the least but worried or scared, nor is DH, so all seems to fine here too! We just need to get our stuff on the homebirth list organized so we can be somewhat ready in case junior decides to come early!

Anyway, at dinner tonight, DH was wondering what I was doing in terms of nesting. He's been nesting for a good while - but partly that's his personality, fixing things that need it. He likes doing it. I have been feeling like I should be doing SOMETHING but I really can't figure out what. We've decided that we're going to try to do the diaper free thing, so we when I ordered diapers from the cloth diaper service I got a bunch of large rectangular diapers to put baby on as opposed to wear. I did get a few that are form fitted in case someone else takes care of junior for a while and we aren't around.

I can't imagine that we need a whole lot else. Junior will probably not wear much for the first while other than maybe a blanket or some t-shirt type things, and will likely be with us - in a sling or my Mei Tai carrier. Diapers are dealt with. The change table hasn't arrived yet, but I checked and it should be here mid-June. Diapers will be delivered on June 20 for the first delivery and then they wait to hear when the baby is born before they deliver more. Some friends of ours said we could use their baby car seat because their baby was born in February and should be big enough for a larger size by the time Junior is born. I need to check on that. Oh, and yp pick up the bassinette at DH's sister's house.

Other than that, I told my mom that all I could think of is a nice, light, bathrobe and maybe some light nursing shirts, and now that I think of it, some nursing bras. But I don't want to buy any nursing bras until a couple days after the birth, otherwise they probably won't fit.

So what else is there really to do? Install the dimmer switch in the baby's room. And?

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My list!

Buy a digital camera. I'm going to need photos! In fact, I want photos of the small family NOW, before dear baby arrives.

Prepare a will with your lawyer.

Finish the front garden tidy up. There won't be lots of time for that later.

Freeze a few meals for later on.

Enjoy DH.

Enjoy your friends and alone time.

Take some walks.

Learn some lullabies, sing and play your piano.

Hold off on delivering baby until we get there!

PS: Did you know that my mother was born on her mother's birthday? It could happen to YOU! Wink

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Sarah, your father is nesting too. He doesn't realize it, but I won't scare him and tell him.
He got his cell phone all fixed up so that it will work fine in Alberta.
He's decided to take his laptop and wants me to take my "mouse" etc...
He asked if I'd thought about garden care for while we'll be away. (Like I'd forget that?)
He has arranged his many meetings for before the middle of June and after the middle of July- without my prompting.
He asks lots of baby questions. He was surprised and interested that your uncle J-D was born with a MW.
Smile

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***WARNING - RANT AHEAD!!! ***

Well, I think hormones and exhaustion caught up with me yesterday. I’ve already been feeling exhausted and a little under the weather, but when DH told me yesterday that he was told by his boss that he had to go to Winnipeg (Manitoba – 2 provinces away) for a week in June, and he chose June 18-22 because it has the least conflict with everything, I had an internal fit. I told him I didn’t like it one bit, but that’s nothing compared tohow I feel right now.

Well, I know the chances of going into labor early are small (what with mom being 2 weeks late for my brother and 1 week late for me), but you just never know. PLUS, DH has been gone so much lately (1st 2 weeks of May, back for 1 week, then gone for another week and a half and came back Wednesday night). And for the few days that he has been at home, a good friend was staying with us who he hadn’t seen in over a year – so they spent until 3am talking most nights. As well, SS (not that I have anything against SS and don’t enjoy time with him!) has been with us when DH has been around. So really, I think I can count the amount of time we’ve had, just the 2 of us, on 0 fingers since the end of April! I know, I know, once baby is here we will have 0 anyway and I have to get used to it, but I wasn’t expecting that NOW!

And yes, DH will be home this week, but we have SS – which means that we will be running around all week taking him to school and Tae Kwon Do and Soccer games. Usually I go with them, or I take SS and DH catches up with us, but in the past weeks I’ve been letting them go together and staying home and resting.

On top of that, and this is weird that it matters because usually I don’t care in the least, my birthday is the 19 of June and DH won’t be here! Why would I start caring about that now? I don’t think my dad was EVER home for my birthday when I was growing up – and I was always too busy on that day anyway doing regular stuff to even think about it. I’d just have a cake, or a family day, or go to my friend’s farm on the weekend and celebrate there – or get an ice cream cone on the way home from school.

AND, June 18-22 was going to be the first week that I took off work (which is a whole other story in itself)… which may or may not be a good thing because now all of a sudden as much as I will be by myself at home and that will take getting used to, there will be NO ONE at home with me, or to look forward to seeing in the evening – and NO, I don’t want to have a family friend “baby sit” me! It seems every other time DH has left in the past month, by some coincidence a friend “shows up” who needs a place to stay for a little while.

GRRRRR! *sniffle*

And I know that it’s better if he goes that week than AFTER – or closer to my due date, after all, given that I’m already really tired it would be insane for him to pick one of the other 2 weeks in June when we have SS – and I’d have to take SS to school and all his other activities as well as already be exhausted. AND I know that it makes no sense to be upset about it instead of enjoying the time I have with him now! But STILL!!!! *sniffle*

And then my parents come on the 25th – which as much as I’m looking forward to that, means that DH and I still won’t have time alone – though probably they will help out with SS so maybe we will!

I think the biggest thing bugging me is that DH arranged to be gone so much in May so that he wouldn’t have to be gone in June/July, and now he has to be gone anyway!

He did tell his boss that if there was any sign of being in labor that he’d be on the next plane home… but if my labor is anything like my mom’s first labor, he would miss the birth!

GRRR!!!!

I know I shouldn’t be this upset about it, but I really am. I haven’t been this upset in AGES!

It must be at least partly due to hormones and tiredness. And being behind in everything at work. And having to run all over town yesterday to try to get the details of my transfer from temporary to permanent status figured out (my boss thought that was done a month ago), and the delay probably means that I don’t get any sick leave with pay before the birth. And when I went to get my criminal record check, it seems that I have a twin with the same name and birth date who does have a criminal record (it took a while to sort that out – fortunately I still had my maiden name at the time of the offence), and then even though our friend was gone so we made supper together, DH spent most of that time on the phone with his ex-wife arranging/rearranging summer schedules, and talking with a High School ex-girlfriend who happens to be in town visiting some friends (no I’m not worried about any relationship going on, just that *I* wanted time with him!!!! And then our friend came home, and is leaving for good today, so DH *again* stayed up all night talking with him.

Anyone have a magic wand to make it all better?

END RANT

*Sniffle*

I now there are many people – even on this board – that haven’t seen their DH/SO for ages so I feel a selfish complaining. Or people, like my friend Diane who’s son had to go back to the hospital today because of complications with her son’s surgery a couple days ago. Sorry guys. I realize that you actually have WAY bigger issues to deal with than this bit of folly. I’ll try to snap out of it.

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Oh, sounds like an awful day!!! Yes, there are people who have it worse, but that doesn't mean you don't have a right to be upset about things that don't go right in your life--that's like a pathway down into accepting everything bad without fighting it, because there's -always- someone you can imagine who has it worse... Anyway, don't feel guilty about -feeling-. Smile At least when you acknowledge your feelings you can make a conscious decision about what you're going to do about them!!

My DH and I have only been apart for two nights since we met almost 10 years ago. It took me a while to get used to his need for constant closeness, but I can't even imagine now, not having him there at least at some point every single day. When he went to help crew in a sailboat race a couple of years ago (I couldn't get the time off work, and it was one of those "grab it now" chances), we were separated for three days and two nights and it seemed like forever--I couldn't wait to have him back.

Hope that you're feeling less emotional now that some hours have passed; it's no fun when the hormones hit (at least, I'm assuming that's partly what it is since you say you're being upset about things that don't normally bother you).

Update us when you have a chance!

Meghan

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congrats on your lodge Sarah!!!!

-Jodi

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Thanks all,

I feel much better about it today. Mostly I was just upset because we haven't spent that much time together lately and I was expecting he would be home. He really should go to Manitoba for a week out of every month - he's technically the acting director of the area covering Manitoba and Saskatchewan, but lives in Alberta. He managed to get out of going there in March and April - which is likely why it's even more important that he goes now - particularly since he's a Fishery Officer and back in March and April most lakes and rivers were frozen so he didn't have to worry too much a that point! Now, though, it's a different story.

He already told his boss "no" because she wanted him to go out for another week and conduct a search warrant and he said it would just have to wait. And there's a bunch of paperwork that has to be done out there so when the new person gets hired it's relatively organized - and that should happen in a couple months. So yeah, he does need to go, and he will be accessible by phone, and he will come home ASAP if I go into labor - and the midwife is great too, and we have some really good friends in town, and he doesn't work so if I need support ASAP I can always call him.

DH knew I was feeling bad, and had felt bad telling me he had to leave to begin with. Last night he took me out to eat Indian food (my favourite currently), then he and SS went for a bike ride, we played UNO for a while, and then DH and I watched a movie. He knows that I don't usually worry about him going a way here and there for a little while, and knows I haven't been sleeping well. He's been so great while I've been pregnant that I could at least give him some leniency here when he's already done all he can to make it shorter than he should leave for and to pick the best time. :-?

And today he made me stay home and rest/nap while he goes out and does some grocery shopping. That's why I'm online! :oops:

I do wonder, however, where he is because he has been gone for about 3 hours now and it doesn't take too much to get him distracted and buy a bunch of other stuff that he would like but we don't need :roll: ! Last time he came home with a router and router table... Then the next day we had to exchange the router for another because it didn't fit on the table Lol . And he mentioned something about hanging plants for the back porch - so I hope, if he gets some, that they get watered enough! They would certainly look nice.

And I am also probably starting to feel a little overwhelmed by everything going on, and what I feel I should be doing - like getting the stuff for our homebirth list organized... I have to go out and get a bunch of stuff - like some washcloths, vinyl table cloths, plastic fitted sheet (for a california king bed - have no idea where to find that!), etc...

I did find a friend who's baby just grew out of their car seat yesterday and are going to give it to us though!!!

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If you can't find a fitted sheet for your size mattress, I imagine just the plastic tableclothes/shower curtains/something wrapped around the edges will work just fine...

I'm very happy that I got moving a few weeks ago and spent a weekend collecting all those things I'll need. Then last Saturday I cleaned off an old basement shelf and put it in the birthing area, and arranged all the "Xander" stuff on it, so the midwives and DH can find everything they need without having to ask me!! ( And I STILL had to get up and walk over to show DH where the sheets were this morning, when he was getting the birthing area ready... he was staring at the top shelves and didn't even notice them on the bottom...)

Hope your weekend goes well and is productive!! And that your DH doesn't come home with something really ridiculous... LOL

Meghan

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I bought a few things yesterday...among them some baby washcloths, hooded towels, a tiny plain 'onesie'...a few things for you...but haven't found the bathrobe you'd like yet. Boy, were they all ugly and useless for your purposes! I'll look somewhere else if I have time.

Today your dad chose buttons for the knitted jacket I'm making. He's so excited...(me too!)

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Have I ever mentioned how great DH is? He spoils me rotten.

DH has totally made up for not being around much the last month and having to go away again - like he even had to!

Yesterday he dug up a whole flower bed (5'x15') that used to be covered in 6" of red rocks (previous owners). The rocks are now in a pile on the driveway, fresh dirt, manure, and peat have been mixed in with the old dirt, a soaker hose was buried in the soil, and today it was my job to plant the plants!!! I got halfway through, but bending over constantly and lack of sleep has made me so tired and dizzy that I only planted half of them before I had to go find DH and have him help me plant the rest of them!!!

Now it looks like a whole bunch of 2-8" plants have been planted there - but they'll grow soon!!!!

I can't wait! It will be a nice shade garden!

And I still have designs on splitting 2 more hostas from other areas and planting them in the same bed - but they'll just have to wait a little while!!!

On top of that, we had a bunch of friends over last night and DH made EVERYTHING!!!! Fresh salmon, rice, asparagus, spinach salad, hollandaise sauce, barbecued deer steaks. I made the easiest desert in the world (it took a full minute I think, because DH had already washed the grapes!), and cleaned up the bedroom. And then, the only other thing I think I could find to do was to put placemats on the table, and get one person some water.

SHEESH!!!

I never mentionned how he sent me out to get some fish, and while I was gone he cleaned the house as well, did I?

I SO wish I had as much energy as he does! He's amazing!

And yesterday, I also saw my ex-bf who I lived with for 6 years until last winter. I had to pick up the last thing that he has of mine (I hope). I was hit by this wall of angry, unhappy, uncomfortable energy from both him and his roommate. My ex-bf has always been like that, but I have had very little of that energy directed at me before. :? Just feeling it made me wonder how I ever dealt with it for so long, and very happy that I had the guts/intelligence to get out of that relationship!

Neither he nor his roommate looked me in the eye the entire 5 minutes I was there, his dog tried to come home with me, and ex-bf took out some of his anger at my dog who he lived with for about 4 years... What a guy! Why did I stay in that relationship for so long? What was I thinking? :roll:

And my relationship with DH is so happy, and simple, and understanding, and unselfish. My brief interaction with my ex-bf just reinforced all that big time, and made me feel so selfish for being upset that he had to leave the other day! In the grand scheme of things, it's a non-issue. But still, DH didn't toss it off as "pregnancy silliness", he considered my feelings fully and we worked through them.

I'm so lucky!

I wish everyone could experience a relationship as perfect as the one I'm in. Lol

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Sorry you had to deal with the ex, sounds like a bit of a butthead! Hindsight is certainly 20/20 isn't it? How sweet that your DH is being so wonderful to you! I wish mine would clean the house or make dinner, you are making me very jealous!

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Wow, your dh sounds like a wonderful guy...

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Your DH is a keeper!! It's so great that you are getting so much help and support, I can totally hear in your tone how much your spirit has been lifted by his attention and help the last few days.

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YAY for sweet DHs!!

Jen

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OH, I keep coming up with little stories here and there that I would like to post here. I’ll post them as I remember them.

DH’s excitement!
On Saturday night, a friend of ours was asking if I was taking off a whole year for maternity leave. I replied that our current plan was for me to take 6mo, and DH to take 6mo. And then DH broke in with how much he was looking forward to being a SAHD, and how fun he thought it would be, and just kept talking about it for about 5 minutes. He was so excited it was really cute! Smile :) Smile

Random Friend’s Comments
And another friend that DH and I hadn’t seen in a long time came over to our new house for the first time last night. The first thing he said when he saw me was “Hey – you look as if you’ve gained some weight!”

Ummm… yeah… duh… I’ve gained 36lbs (not a huge amount). I don’t think he meant it as anything derogatory just a statement of fact, but it was the kind of comment that you just don’t get very often. I simply replied with “yep, that’s what happens!”. What else was there to say? I suppose if I was completely awake I would have replied – “At least I have an excuse!” or something else mildly humorous, but being mostly asleep already…

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That's really great that he's so excited to be a SAHD. You may find though that YOU don't want to stop being a SAHM! Good luck!

How are you feeling, BTW? I know our edds are close. Maybe your body is feeling like mine (tired and uncomfortable?) Are you able to sleep at all? Are you still walking a lot? Hope you are well!

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"rikkiac" wrote:

That's really great that he's so excited to be a SAHD. You may find though that YOU don't want to stop being a SAHM! Good luck!

So I’m told!!! And DH realizes that too… But then, as I currently see it, when does anyone EVER really want to go back to work, and he hasn’t had “time off” for 12 years of work – even when SS was in the hospital for 6 months, so he really deserves it! Plus, financially it makes sense (he gets almost full pay on paternity leave), and he would be a terrific SAHD. Can I really deny him time with his own kid that he so rightly deserves? He already has plans to come to my work during lunch so that I can BF and we can visit!

"rikkiac" wrote:

How are you feeling, BTW? I know our EDDs are close. Maybe your body is feeling like mine (tired and uncomfortable?) Are you able to sleep at all? Are you still walking a lot? Hope you are well!

Well, I’ve been feeling tired but pretty good. I’m surprised that I don’t feel super uncomfortable, except 2 weekends ago when I was so exhausted from not sleeping well at all for about 4 days straight. I’ve been sleeping better since then, fortunately, but have had to try to figure out what is waking me up – other than the obvious perennially full bladder! Instead of my usual sleep cycle of sleeping like a log for 3.5-4 hours, getting up to pee, and then doing the same again, barely remembering that I actually got up in the middle of the night, now I have to get up about 3-5 times a night (every 2 hours max), and wake up to the birds singing outside at 5am and can’t get back to sleep…

But then DH and I stayed up until midnight last night talking after SS went to bed, so I know it’s really my fault that I haven’t been getting enough sleep – but who knows when we’ll have the chance to have a nice quiet evening together after baby gets here!

In other things, starting Sunday morning I’ve felt crampy, and though uncomfortable, I can’t really decide whether it’s intestinal/or uterine crampiness. I also had some bleeding on Sunday morning, but even though we went to a ‘Kids run for Cancer’ event for the morning and walked around tons, it went away by noon. I’ve hardly had any trouble with constipation this whole pregnancy – only when I’m dehydrated which is completely understandable. I’ve also had heartburn/reflux a whole bunch in the last month, and as much as it’s not pleasant, most of the time it’s bearable.

I wouldn’t say I’m walking a LOT, but I’m definitely walking quite a bit. Yesterday at lunch a co-worker and I went for a short walk, and I have to walk about 1/2km from my car to work and then back again, and the dog gets walked periodically, and when we take SS to his soccer games, DH and I kick the ball back and forth and help coach the kids. So I wouldn’t say I’m SUPER active, but I’m definitely not a couch potato! I also have been doing lunchtime yoga on average about once a week – though I didn’t go last week because I was so tired. Last weekend, I also played field/street hockey for a short while, but I find if I actually run, my pelvis gets REALLY sore, and I have to get the chiropractor to put it back in place – so that’s out for a little longer than a week or so after I overdo it until I can’t resist again!

All in all, I feel like I’m pretty lucky. I saw a poor woman yesterday who was about 5’ tall and her belly stuck out about 3x as far as mine, and she waddled with her groceries across the parking lot. I’m SO glad that I’m not HUGE like that – that would be SO annoying and uncomfortable.

Oh, and DH keeps saying that when my belly button pops, the turkey will be done baking! Considering it still covers up my entire nail, I don’t think it will. We’ll see, though!

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"sarahsunshine" wrote:

All in all, I feel like I’m pretty lucky. I saw a poor woman yesterday who was about 5’ tall and her belly stuck out about 3x as far as mine, and she waddled with her groceries across the parking lot. I’m SO glad that I’m not HUGE like that – that would be SO annoying and uncomfortable.

I think that you must have seen me! I am HUGE!!! :shock:

"sarahsunshine" wrote:

Oh, and DH keeps saying that when my belly button pops, the turkey will be done baking!

My belly button never popped with DS and it's stretched this time but I doubt it's popping! Smile

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Sarah -- great to see your lodge, our July babies will be here soon!! I'm excited for your homebirth plans. And I agree, your DH is sweet! My DH ripped apart the garden this past weekend as well... but without much finesse, I'm afraid. But at least it looks a lot better than it did. Lol

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Sarah,

My DH will be a SAHD too - mostly because I'm the big $ maker and he already works out of the house.....
I'm so happy that this is the plan because I worry about daycare centers (since I used to work for one).....

DH and I have also been doing a bit of gardening... hopefully we can get ours looking nice!

So far no belly button popping here - but maybe your baby will surprise you and one morning you will wake up with a flat belly button! Lol

-Jodi

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Well, a continuation on Ericka (Rikkiac)'s question on if I am walking a lot.

We went to SS's soccer game last night and got there 40 minutes early. What did we do? Well, we passed the ball around (the kids that were there , the coach, DH and I), then I got in net and the kids took turns taking shots for about 20 minutes. I used to play goal, and the kids are 8yo, so most of them can't shoot the ball hard, let alone hit the net, so really it wasn't that hard! Still, it was fun to plead "pregnancy" when I didn't feel like running out to get the ball too far! SS scored his first goal of the season last night Smile (and DH and I happened to be looking the other way :oops: ).

In other news, DH defected from work 2 days ago and went home and changed the water and scrubbed out the hot tub. It's now sparkly clean and ready for use as a birthing pool if needs be. Smile :) Smile Indy the dog was also happy to have some company during the day for a change. Then, he realized that he had locked his keys in his office and likely everyone else had left work.. .and he was still wearing his gun which he doesn't like having at home or after work hours...

As for the way things are progressing pregnancy-wise, I woke up at 2:30am with the weirdest feeling... a combination of desperately needing to pee, cramps (not terrible), and intense clitoral stimulation... I went to the bathroom and came back to bed. It went away. It came back, sometimes combined with some aches in my back too. This happened over a couple hours - I have no idea at what frequency, but enough that I didn't fall asleep. I figured it was contractions of some sort, but they couldn't be very serious because they weren't hugely painful or anything. It was a really neat, and enjoyable sensation, but no one ever described contractions in that way to me, but I can't figure out what else it could be!!! They seemed to me (from my sleepy brain) to be relatively regular, though. I just enjoyed the sensation instead of watching the clock! I managed to go back to sleep a couple hours later figuring that if it was anything serious it would wake me up. When I woke up at 7am (by alarm), I told Wayne about it, but they seem to have subsided. I've only felt a couple since I got up. I'm sure they could do this for weeks, and really, I totally don't expect baby to come this early - but you never know.

In any case, I'm at work today and planning to get some last stuff done and cleaning off my desk so I don't have to worry in case I have to take off at any point in the near future. I don't have anything urgent left to do (I finished that yesterday except for one piece I said I'd do for my co-worker because she's gone for the rest of this week). It would just be nice to organize stuff and then work on some small, non-urgent projects for my co-worker so she can focus on the big stuff.

We don't have everything on the birthing list yet (at least organised) - we're planning to get that tonight while SS is at Tae Kwon Do. I think mostly we just need towels and washcloths and to put it all somewhere...

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Sarah, I was having contractions last night, and except for the stimulation part, they sound very similar. (Yours may have been more fun though!)

It is great that you are still active at the soccer games for DSS. And it's tough to always be watching a game. I have missed several of my nieces goals and big plays because I get caught up in people watching. But I've never told her!!

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Hi Sarah! I am just getting caught up on your lodge... I have been away from my computer and haven't had a chance to keep up to date. I SO enjoyed reading your lodge! I loved one of your first post when your first posts when you talked about your feminine side and your views on being a woman. Thanks for sharing about yourself.

You've done very well staying working this whole time! I took my doc's suggestion and let her put me on sick leave.

Your "contractions" sound very interesting. I am staying open to the possibility of enjoying childbirth and perhaps experiencing something more on the sexual side of things. That would be really neat.

By the way, your husband sounds like an absolute dear! I am glad you are so happy together.

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"wendles" wrote:

Hi Sarah! I am just getting caught up on your lodge... I have been away from my computer and haven't had a chance to keep up to date. I SO enjoyed reading your lodge! I loved one of your first post when your first posts when you talked about your feminine side and your views on being a woman. Thanks for sharing about yourself.

Thanks! I was hoping to do some more of that type of reflection but have had too many other things to deal with lately. I hope to get into it again before baby comes along!

-s

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"I am staying open to the possibility of enjoying childbirth and perhaps experiencing something more on the sexual side of things."

Some women manage to make delivery an orgasm experience. Could it be attitude combined with understanding of the stages your body is going through? It certainly is a very emotional time. Or perhaps it is just luck!

I see your ticker has been changed. Oh! And remember baby, wait until I arrive please. Smile :) Smile

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Job update!

Well, as some of you may know, my current job was temporary and supposed to finish at the end of March. My supervisor, however, got a new job, so they kept me on (in temporary status) to cover until they hired someone for his position. I, of course, competed for that job, but found out that someone else got the position, and I came 2nd. As it turns out, that’s practically the best thing that could have happened. The person they picked is a friend of mine (who I didn’t know applied), who I have worked with before, and we work really well together. On top of that, since I came 2nd and they just got funding for a 2nd person in the same position, they decided to hire me on permanent status as well! They told me this at the end of April.

The government of Alberta (my employer), is slow, however, to get its butt moving. My new boss realized last Monday (due to a bunch of inquiries by me to select people), that the paperwork had yet to go through, and therefore I would not have benefits for sick leave – if I had been in permanent status for a month, I have 10 days of sick leave (pre-birth) off at 100% for sick leave instead of 0% in the first month. I will still (if I understand our pay and benefits people properly) get 70 days at 70%, though, so if I’m off more than 2 weeks I will go into that category… And since Canada has an okay EI (Employment Insurance) program, if I’m off at 0%, I should still get 60% of my salary to a maximum of some piddly amount per month instead of no pay – which is likely the piddly amount Lol ! But my boss is totally fighting for me to the point where even though he couldn’t get me retroactively established as permanent (so pay and benefits would kick in now, he has managed to get my salary increase retroactive to April first – which is an increase in about $500/mo! WOOHOO!

So that makes up for some of the full time benefits lost. And YEAH! I also have a job to come back to!!! And considering I’ve been employed here for 11 months, and not the magic “1 year” required to hold a person’s position, I feel pretty good about that – especially since they are hiring me when I’m about to leave on maternity!

OK, I know that was probably incomprehensible to most people here, but everything is finally worked out as much as it can be so now. At least, I can deal with the real issues as opposed to the “what ifs”.

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