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I jsut realized how far along you are!! Here's your lodge hun! KUP as you can! I can't wait to read your birth story! Smile

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Two lodges at once! Life's exciting on the birthing naturally board Biggrin

Update us soon!!

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We're hopping now! How you feeling today?

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Well, this may be the shortest lodge in the history of the Birthing Naturally board.

I'm going to the birthing center at 2 today to have my favorite midwife, who is on duty tonight and then away for 10 days, strip my membranes to try to bring labor on in the next 24 hours. If it doesn't work, then I'll just continue to wait (and hope not to go into labor for 10 days). I wouldn't try this if it would cascade to medical interventions, but my midwife assures me that it won't. (Ok, there's a risk with anything, but it's a tiny risk that, say, my water would break while her hand is up there.) I'll get an internal exam before the stripping just to make sure my body is favorable for it, and if not, then we won't do it.

Please cross your fingers for me. I'm a nervous wreck about having an intervention like this. I feel like I can handle labor and have done so in the past, but the discomfort of the membrane stripping makes me feel chicken.

I've been on bedrest since early November because of a muscle tear in my lower abdomen, so I'm eager to stop that.

I'm also one of those people who is absolutely miserable during pregnancy, so for me birth is a cure and a chance to start feeling better. I had morning sickness for 19 weeks (it subsided 3 days before I was rushed to the hospital in an ambulance for the muscle problem which at the time they thought was kidney stones). So I feel like it's been one thing after another.

I have a PUPP which isn't just itchy but also swollen and sore.

One thing I want to mention. We will have a Saining (Naming Ceremony) 7-10 days after the birth, and we will not announce baby's name until that ceremony. Before then baby will officially be known as Little Owl (if a boy) or Little Fox (if a girl).

Ok, so I'll keep y'all updated about how everything goes.

Full moon and penumbral lunar eclipse tonight! Auspicious.

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Good luck!

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Good luck, hope the stripping goes well for you! Can't wait to find out if its Little Owl or Little Fox Smile

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OK that's exciting! I totally understand your nerves, I would feel the same way. Sending lots of support and strength today, let us know how it goes - we're with you!

xo Robin

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:woohoo: Another lodge!!

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Oh, good luck today! How exciting.
I will be thinking of you today.
This feel like a good day to be born.

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Good luck today! Can't wait to hear how it all goes.

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Ok, so I went in for the stripping, and the midwife said that I'm soft but just not dilated and effaced enough for this to work. I'm glad she was honest rather than trying to force the issue. And the wuss in me is glad I didn't have to endure more than a gentle internal exam. But, dang, it was great to think that I might have gotten a full moon and eclipse baby and be done with this pregnancy. My favorite midwife, the one I saw today, will now be away for 10 days, but she said she didn't think I'd go before then anyway so we are putting it out to the universe to wait until she gets back.

Thanks for all your good wishes! Sorry for the false alarm.

I really am ok with this. Maybe most people would be upset, but it’s fine with me. I’ll just get more done before the baby arrives.

And on the way home I thought to myself that the upside is that I'm so excited to have a lodge and now I have some time to use it. Thank you so much for including me here.

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Oh boy! 10 days! I'm counting down.....lol

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False alarms are okay, and expected even, don't apologize. It would have been nice to have a full moon and eclipse baby, but I am sure that baby will come when the time is right.
Good luck and thanks for the update!

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Hi, just checking in with you... how exciting that we are all so close!

Lali

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So today I'm feeling relieved that I didn't get the membrane stripping done yesterday. I was conflicted about having any sort of intervention in the first place. I worried I'd regret it later on after the birth. And I wasn't looking forward to it being uncomfortable. So, I'm glad I didn't even have to decide.

That said, today my pelvis is really hurting. And I'm having trouble with food. Minor things. I'm close to the end.

Affirmation for today:

Try to enjoy each day and each moment rather than just get through it.

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I love your affirmation!!! And am glad that your at peace with how things are going, that is wonderful hun Smile

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Funny how things end up working out in the end (you weren't comfortable with the membrane stripping and nature ended up making it not happen).

(((((((HUGS)))))))) Glad you are feeling better about it, you're right, you are getting close to the end.

I love your affirmation too, I think I need to follow it myself.

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Your affirmation is wonderful - thanks for sharing it! The membrane stripping is no guarantee anyhow (I had it done at 40 weeks with DS#2 before I "knew better" and he still was cooking at 41-1/2 weeks).

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This board has a lot to keep up with right now!! Glad your MW was "honest" with you about stripping the membranes. I'll keep my fingers crossed that your little one makes an appearance soon!!

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ITA it's really funny how things work out just as they should, whether it's what you "intended" or not, eh? I'm glad you're at peace with it. Smile

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(((hugs))) I really like your affirmation. it works well with a cranky newborn too Biggrin

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I can empathize very much with your situation. I was absolutely miserable at the end, but everything seemed to fall into place for a reason so I'm glad we had no interventions to get things started. I promise you will not be pregnant on tax day (April 15th) so this will definitely be over soon. WinkBiggrin

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I really like your affirmation from yesterday, it is probably something that everybody needs to do, I know I do!
I hope you are feeling well today and things are moving along as they should.

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Last night I was up from 12 - 4 am with contractions. They hurt a little bit, but not too bad. I'm sort of bad with pain because I don't realize it's as bad as it is until I reach my limit and can't bear it. But they weren't regular or often enough to get worked up about. Other than losing a little sleep.

I really think I'm going to start labor in the middle of the night. I tend to labor fast, so that means I probably won't do more than call my parents, rush to the birthing center, and call everyone in the morning to say that baby was born in the middle of the night. No calling to say we're in labor and then hours of waiting and receiving calls asking if the baby arrived yet. (What do these people expect? Oh, yeah, the baby is here but we forgot to call you.....)

I treated my PUPP rash with ice packs yesterday, and that seemed to help a lot. Yes, the cold reduces the itching, but I'm doing it again today to bring down the swelling which is the real problem.

My cousin Frank called yesterday to wish me well. I asked him if he thought I'd have a boy or a girl. He said he never guesses but would let his two little girls guess because they are usually right. Well, they both guessed that I'd have a girl which, coincidentally, is also what my toddler son says. Dh is positive it's another boy. I can't tell which is strange because I had such a strong "it's a boy" feeling with my first. Who knows.

My belly is round like a medicine ball all out in front of me. So different from last pregnancy when I turned into the bride of the Stay Puft Marshmallow Man.

Goals for today:

Finish the fox onesie coming home outfit in case we have a girl.

Finish the special necklaces we'll wear for the birth.

Affirmation for today:

Be easy on yourself. Being pregnant and being a parent are both hard work.

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It sounds like you could go any day!! I can't wait to hear your story and see pictures of Little Fox or Little Owl. Biggrin

By the way, do you follow a specific religion/spirituality? I'm just curious. You probably posted that somewhere and I should know, so I apologize that I don't. Biggrin

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Just checking in on you - glad to hear that the appt worked out in your favor. I love your affirmations - remind me of them in about 10 weeks...

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Oooh, I am SO borrowing your affirmation for today! LOL ds has been SO full of beans today.

I've had the same experience with my shape - I blew up last time, this time I'm all belly out in front. And had a boy last time, this time we know it's a girl. So it's interesting that I've had the precise OPPOSITE shape that the OWTs say LOL

btw what's PUPP?

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Thanks everyone.

Raynliz, dh and I are pagan. I don't go out of my way to post it because I'm not trying to throw it in anyone's face and some people don't understand this gentle spirituality based on the cycles of the sun, moon, and earth's seasons. But I'm happy to answer any questions.

Robin, a PUPP is a rash during pregnancy. It's uncomfortable but benign to baby and mom and usually clears up after delivery. I've had it in both pregnancies - oh joy. It feels like adding insult to injury on top of the other usual pregnancy miseries.

Here's some info about it from the internet:

PUPP stands for pruritic (itch) urticarial (like ‘hives’) papules (red pimples) and plaques (irritable flakes) of pregnancy. It is an annoying but benign condition. It is the most common skin condition of pregnancy and is characterised by a typical rash, usually appearing in the later part of pregnancy. It occurs in less than one person in a hundred. The rash usually develops on the abdomen near the umbilical area and spreads to the thighs and extremities. Sometimes itching can become very severe. It can spread to the rest of the body, but never involves the face. It is more common in first pregnancies and seldom recurs in subsequent pregnancies. This condition is usually a familial one and can be traced back through the father's side of the family.

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I am just wishing you lots of luck with your delivery! I wish I had such a great attitude this far along LOL

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Oh man hon, there's an extra little "joy" for you for sure! My sympathy is totally with you, I used to get severe eczema and reactions to soaps etc. so I know how nagging a rash can be!

I would love to know more about paganism but it might be more appropriate to take it to a PM unless a bunch of the other mamas want to know too. I'm a spiritual person brought up sort-of-kind-of-not-Christian (we do the holidays but strictly as celebration of family not religion). But I've done some reading into other faiths, hoping to find a "match" I guess, with no luck so far. I was thinking ba'hai might be close except that I'm not willing to give up my wine. Wink Plus I've never been sold on male-god monotheism. Anyway. Maybe we can chat sometime! Smile

xo

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Your attitude is second to none! I can't wait to hear your birthstory!!!

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Thank you, Thicket! I can't wait to experience my birth and then write the story.

Robin, there is also a pagan families board under the spirituality section in case you're interested. If I were Christian, I'd probably be Quaker with it's strong tradition of listening to different opinions and working out matters in a non-violent way.

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Week 38, Day 5

Still on Grand Central Bedrest over here. Not getting nearly enough work done, but then again I am supposed to be on maternity leave already. Oh yeah. No wonder I keep getting flooded by work emails.

Last night I was up until 2 am. No matter how tired I am during the day, I seem to be wakeful at night. No doubt it's my body preparing for round the clock baby care. I was cleaning the bathroom, bending over, and the baby shifted positions. It felt horrible. Really painful. I thought I would throw up, so I tried to stand as upright as possible (still near the toilet just in case) and I arched my back to push my belly as far away from the rest of me as possible. (Hard to do because it seems like I'm all belly these days.) I called for my husband, who took forever to get out of bed so it was a good thing I wasn't in labor, and eventually I crawled into bed to lie down which helped a lot.

The Little Fox coming home outfit isn't quite done, but it's most of the way there. My dh, who has been sick with a bad cold I gave him, has been working on that. One of my goals for yesterday was to finish that, and we didn’t. But we could use it as is if we needed to.

We worked more on our necklaces yesterday. Dh finished his. I finished stringing mine, but I haven't put the clasps on. We only have gold-tone findings and my necklace will look much better with silver-tones, so dh is going to the arts and crafts store in the next day or two. In a pinch, he could put on the gold tone ones while I'm in labor. (For any non artsy types, findings are the loops and hooks that are used to attach the clasps.) I am really pleased with the way my necklace turned out. Maybe I'll take some photos and post them for y'all to see.

Dh got a new memory card for our digital camera, so now we can hold over 1000 photos or 2 hours of low-resolution movie on our camera. That's great! Before we'd have just over 100 which compared to 36 exposures was great, but still, considering that I take photos of everything, this is really wonderful. (Even when I went to the hospital last November, I handed the camera over and said, take a few photos. I know, I'm a crazy nut even between morphine shots.)

I know I’ve gone through labor and delivery before, but I’m still worried about it. Any time we face pain, it can get daunting. Sometimes I have Woody Allen syndrome about it: I don’t mind dying, I just don’t want to be there when it happens. Except of course I really do want to be fully conscious during labor and delivery.

Also, I went to the hospital not in labor last time, so I’m worried about knowing when I’m in labor. Everyone says “you’ll know,” but last time I went through my entire labor including transition and started to push, and I thought “ok, we’re just getting going here because contractions are even coming in a regular rhythm.” I mean, I thought I was just beginning to enter active labor when I started delivering which shocked everyone, dh, nurse, midwife. A couple of family members arrived outside my room as my baby’s head was crowning, but the nurse wouldn’t let them in. They later said, “we didn’t hear yelling so we thought nothing was happening yet.” And my labor was short, less than 4 hours from water breaking and first contraction until birth, so now I have the ‘how much faster can the 2nd time be?’ worry.

I guess it wouldn’t be a disaster if I don’t make it the 17 minutes to the birthing center anyway. I kind of regret not having a home birth this time, so if it happens by accident, it won’t bother me. And I’ve researched everything so thoroughly that I’m fairly prepared just in case. It helps that my dh is not squeamish at all. He caught our first baby, and he’s a good candidate for giving surgery to himself if he ever had to, so if we have a problem, I know I can count on him.

Affirmation for the day:

Times that challenge us, such as the difficulty of facing pain or grief, offer us chances to see our own inner strength and to grow in an unparalleled way.

(Sorry if that affirmation is a little bit heavy today. I’m thinking about labor.)

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I absolutely LOVE your affirmation today, and I agree with the prior posters . . . you have a fantastic attitude and you're quite an inspiration. As a first-timer who's scared to DEATH, it really helps to read the posts of you and the other BTDT-naturally moms. I'm looking forward to reading your birth story as well!!

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You're doing great. I love the necklace idea. DH bought me one for our birth and gave it to me for Christmas. It has an Iolite stone in it which is represtative of ones' inner knowledge. Underneath the ioloite is a spiral which I feel represents feminine power.

One of its primary functions is to stimulate us as spiritual beings, guiding us to a higher awareness, and awakening us to the inner knowledge that so patiently waits within each of us. Within you already lies the knowledge of the Universe. Iolite will help you open that door.

Iolite helps one to stay in the moment and bring harmony to the self within, which is really helpful in not getting distracted when you are trying to meditate.

Iolite also helps eliminate and release discord in relationships.

It was beautiful and dh's way of saying that he was going to be supportive of me during our birth and that he would help me through my meditation etc. It was great. I wore it through my week of "pre-labor" and during my labor and delivery.

Here's a picture of me wearing it right after delivery. (its a bit askew as I was a bit wrecked. Wink )

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Sara (That's 'Ms. Furpants' to you, Shorty....) (Just kidding)-

What a great necklace! I love that. I'm a big fan of iolite. Thanks for sharing!

I have an iolite ring and a collar necklace with amethyst, garnet, and small and centerpiece iolites. Both were made by artisans.

Part of the necklaces that we've made is that we have put our energy and intention into the necklaces as we've made them. To us, this is very important.

You are all so nice to keep encouraging me. Pregnancy sucks, and it's a big help to have you responding to my posts. A huge inspiration to me.

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I just love reading your affirmations Smile

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I love your affirmations... so inspiring and enlightening. thank you for those!

I can empathize with your PUPP... I had it too with DD. I just hope I don't get it this time. It's absolutely HORRIBLE - way worse than morning sickness, if you ask me.

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Those affermations are great for me right now too. It's funny how we do forget the pain and then the closer we get to delivery the more you remember LOL
I would love to see your necklace too!

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How is it that I have missed the lodges until now? :? I'm certainly taking notes on your affirmations!

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How are you feeling today? Hope everything is going well!

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Sunday 3/19
Tomorrow I'm 39 weeks

My belly has new stretch marks on it. I woke up in the middle of the night from them itching to put lotion on. Mostly these stretch marks are at the top of my belly, and the rash is on the bottom, so I’ve got an ice pack on the bottom and Palmer’s cocoa-butter cream on the top. Yeesh.

I forgot to schedule my 39 week appointment last week, so I've got to call the office tomorrow to get something scheduled. Not that they'll say much when I go in other than, ok, give a call when you go into labor. Still, I'm hoping to hold out for another week so that my favorite midwife will be back in town. Not that I mind the other two.

Here's the midwife rundown:

Cathy, who is the head of our birthing center, was on duty for my first birth, and the good thing about her is that we know what she is like during a birth. Sometimes during a birth a midwife goes on automatic pilot for the birthing and can be different from office visits which is what we found out about her during our last birth. Still, we like her a lot. And this time we know how to stand up for what we want more than last time.

Katy, who was new to the center during our last pregnancy. She's a displaced hippy from the midwest with 2 kids of her own. While practicing midwifery in the midwest she did homebirths and attended quite a number of Amish women who tend to be very modest and want hands-off care even during birth. So she is the only one in the practice who has previous experience with unassisted birth which is what we are hoping for. Also, she is constantly talking out loud with her thinking process, which at first confused us, but now we really like it because we always know what she's thinking.

Candace, our favorite, who is new to the center and from Michigan. She's our age. Initially, she was the one reluctant about our unassisted birth plans. We told her that she had 6 months to move her mind to the place where she could handle that. And later she admitted that her reluctance had more to do with what her practice would say. Now that all the midwives and sponsoring doctors are on board with our unassisted birth plan, she is really excited about it. She knows that we'd prefer her and has told us it's ok to call her at home when we go into labor. Right now she's on a trip, however, so calling her cell phone while she's in California is not going to help much with our birth on the East Coast.

Jen is the student midwife. She is really psyched about our birth for a few reasons. First of all, she loves that we know exactly what we want and have been so clear about it. One of the reasons she became a midwife is to help people have the birthing experiences they want to have, so this speaks to her personall. Another reason she's psyched is that we have taken the time to encourage and include her in our pre-natal care and to try to get to know her a little bit too.

Craig, my husband, helped put the clasps on my birthing necklace, so now that is done. Yesterday I strung two bracelets to give whichever midwife is on duty and the student midwife to wear if they want during our birth. All these need is clasps on them, and they’ll be set to go.

My cold is so much better, and I’m only waking up at night once or twice and not for congestion. Sleep is a great thing. Hurray.

Affirmation for the day:

Your mind should be like a parachute – it should open when you need it to. The same goes for both your mind and your body during labor and delivery.

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I hope you hang in there another week so that you are able to have Candace present at your birth. How wonderful that they are all on-board with your birthing plan. I imagine it raised a few eyebrows at first. I would think they would not be used to couples wanting essentailly no involvement from the MW or staff. It will probably be wonderful for the MW on duty because she will be able to just relax and observe the labor and birthing process. I'm sure it's been a long time since any one of them (other than the student MW) has attended a birth where they could just observe.

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Hope it works out for you so that your favorite mw can be there, although it sounds like you have a pretty good team to go with if she's not. Glad you are feeling better! Enjoy that sleep Smile

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39 weeks
3/20/06

It's the first day of Spring! Hurray! Now I will for sure have the spring baby I wanted so much.

For our first, my husband wanted an October baby because his birthday is in October. So he put in an order for a little girl with black hair and green eyes born in October. Well, I got the October part right, and I gotta say, I certainly wasn't responsible for our having a boy rather than a girl! My birthday is in April, and I'm not so set on an April baby as a spring baby. So I'm happy about a spring owl or fox.

How unusual that I would wake up to a dusting of snow on the ground. Another inch, and it would have been a light blanket.

I've been feeling funky lately. Hmmmm, how do I explain? A little nauseous. A little achy. I definitely feel like my front pubic bone is splitting in two which makes it hard to walk. My belly skin is tight, and the stretchmarks and rash are the annoyance of these past few days. Itching wakes me up in the middle of the night. The ice pack numbs the itching but hurts. Baby moves away from the cold and that too is uncomfortable. I'm also continuing to put that cortisone cream on, and it does seem to help (but not nearly enough). I know there’s nothing to be done about it as the “cure” is delivery. And I know I’m close to the end. But that doesn’t make it enjoyable.

I called the midwife's office today to schedule my appointment for 39 weeks. Cathy answered. Isn't that cool that sometimes the midwives themselves answer the phone? Sue, the receptionist, knows my voice even. Wow, I hope that doesn’t mean I'm a pain. She says it's just that I'm fun and funny when I come in. So nice of her. I hope she's not just being polite. Anyway, Cathy said she had someone at the hospital this afternoon (perhaps a birth), so I'm scheduled with Katy tomorrow at 10:30 am.

I knew Cathy had been on last weekend and that a bunch of women are getting ready to pop, so I asked if she had any births over the weekend. Nope. She said that they'd only had 2 since March 3, and they have 7 or 8 women ready to go at any time, due at the end of the month. Wow! I am one of them. So, immediately wheels in my head began to turn. There are only 2 birthing rooms in the birth center, the green room and the Pepto-Bismol pink room. (Yes, they do call it that.) Maybe both rooms will be occupied when we go into labor, and maybe we could offer to stay home..... Or maybe they'd be so busy with the woman in the other room that they'd "accidentally" leave us alone without checking us the number of times they are required to do. We'll see.

When we had our first appointment with Cathy at the beginning of pregnancy #2, she told us that she felt we hadn't gotten great midwifery care during labor and delivery the first time because I labored so fast unbeknownst to anyone and she was with someone else who was laboring slowly that she was only there for the last 10 minutes of the delivery for us. That is exactly why we thought it went well, we explained. We’d avoided all those internal progress checks and fetal heart tone checks. We were so glad to be left alone. I felt bad that she felt bad about it. But now I’m a little bit spoiled and I don’t want those checks although I don’t think I’m allowed to refuse them.

Last night we restrung the bracelets for the midwife and student midwife, and Craig put clasps on one of them. So all we have to do is put clasps on the other. I tried to take a photo of our necklaces, but it didn’t come out well, so I’m going to have to try again.

Affirmation for the day:

Keeping a sense of humor is tantamount to keeping your sense of self and easing difficult transitions. It’s not always appropriate to express humor, but it’s never wrong to think it.

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Great affirmation :thumbsup:

I'd love to see the bracelets!

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Oh, I almost forgot to add. Last night I had a dream that I'd checked myself and found no change (soft cervix but no effacement or dilation) and then gone to sleep and woken up about 6 hours later and when I went to check myself, the baby's head was like 2 inches from crowning. I called to my dh, who came to me, and we called Cathy at the birthing center to say I hadn't felt ANY contractions but the head seemed right there, and she said that we didn't have time to get to the center, so stay there. And then I felt that huge urge to push and a couple of minutes later the baby was born. And we then all went to the birthing center where baby was checked out and I hung out postpartum. At the end as we were leaving to go home I said, oh yeah, in the rush I forgot to check, what did I have? A boy, said Cathy.

This dream is perhaps significant because I had 4 nightmares this pregnancy in which I gave birth at home due to really fast labors and Cathy didn't believe me that we hadn't planned to stay at home. (The nightmare part was Cathy being angry. The birthing-at-home part was not what made the dream a nightmare.)

I guess in some subconscious way I'm visualizing this birth taking place at home in my bathroom.

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Wow, those are some dreams!! Sounds like your body is getting ready!

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Sounds like that desire for a homebirth is coming out at night! Will be interesting to see how this birth turns out for you Smile

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I too would love to see the bracelets! Prego dreams are just crazy! I am really looking foward to see how this goes for you. Maybe there might be a more comfortable place to have your baby than the bathroom though, lol. Well unless you have a big tub Wink

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I would love to see a picture of the bracelets and necklces, too. I think that is a great idea. We were trying to think of a nice gift to give to our midwife and her assistant (our doula) and I think that maybe we will borrow your idea a little bit. It would be really fun to make necklaces for us all to wear during the birth and then they can keep them afterwards. I think we will use Amber and turquiose though, they just feel right to me all through this pregnancy.
Anyhow, I love your spirit and visiting your lodge. Keep it up!

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