Welcome to your lodge! Congrats on getting this far. We're excited to share your journey with you.
I'm pasting your intro from another thread here.
I would love to join you all. Thank you so much.
Here's my journey . . .
I found out I was pregnant on May 18th and this was very unexpected but DH and I were quite happy with the news. One week later, however, I had some spotting. I called my OB as I was quite scared that I was losing the baby. My OB did an exam and everything was fine. She ordered blood work and an ultrasound. Both the blood work and ultrasound came back showing that nothing was wrong. To guarantee nothing was wrong, she ordered that the tests be repeated a week later. Everything was fine then except that the baby was so young that the heartbeat didn't come out too clearly. That was an excuse for the OB to order yet another round of tests the following week. I should have refused then and there, but alas, I went along with what she wanted.
The staff of my OB's office treated me like I was a moron. They lectured me like I was in grade school on good diet and avoiding toxins. Now I've been on a natural diet for three years and cured most of my PCOS symptoms through it; in fact I credit my diet with totally changing my life and saving me from a future of diabetes among other problems.
I liked my doctor, but for a lot of other reasons, I found her to be very invasive. I also toured the two rural hospitals she will deliver at and both were horrid. Neither had bathtubs, or pretty much any options for laboring women. The facilities were minimal and it seemd like the nurses viewed pregnant women as incapable of taking care of themselves. My OB's nurses nagged me terribly about choosing a hospital for birth and I knew I couldn't give birth at either place.
On becoming pregnant, I read up on anything and everything I could find and luckily stumbled across Aviva Jill Romm's Natural Pregnancy book at the library and was introduced to the concept of midwifery. Just a few weeks after the whole ultrasound/blood work fiasco with my doctor, I tried finding a midwife in my area. I searched and searched and found no one close by. So I continued seeing my OB until at Mothering.com I found a listing for a MW pair within 45 minutes of me.
By the time the MWs and I could meet given their schedules and that I traveled every week for work, I was about 22 weeks along and had gone through yet another ultrasound. The last straw was my doctor insisting I take a glucose tolerance test. I refused, citing that I already ate a high protein, low-carb diet, and that putting that much sugar into my system would harm me.
DH and I met with the midwives and knew that they would help us have the birth we wanted. They treated us like intelligent, reasonable beings. They love babies and are filled with such compassion and understanding.
So now I'm at 37 weeks and just waiting for my little baby to want to come out of me. I've had a wonderful pregnancy, with fatigue being the only complaint. Oh, and that my baby beats me up with her kicks and punches. I first felt fluttering movement at 12 weeks and she hasn't quit since. She's positioned well and in the past few days dropped. I've also had some contractions, so I do believe I'll be giving birth quite soon.
If all goes according to plan, I'll be giving birth at home in a pool surrounded by my DH, my midwives, my sister-in-law, and my mother if she can make it.
I'm quite excited about the birth and can't wait to see my little angel.
WELCOME!!! You have quite the story! I'm so glad you choose midwifery for your care!!!
DH Rob 7/2002 - DS Tommy 3/2006 - Twin DS William and Micah 3/2008
Welcome to the board and welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to hearing about your journey and supporting you in any way I can!
~Ayelet & Yoram
NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13
Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
facebook and twitterID: ayeletschwell
Welcome to the board. I'm glad you found us "in time" so we can share your journey. Congrats on your lodge!
Owen Michael 4/05 Grey Neil 5/07 Alice Katherine 4/6/11
Welcome and I look forward to reading about your journey!
Mommy to three gorgeous girls
at 6 weeks 22/10/09
Congrats on your lodge. I am glad you finally found care you are comfortable with and look forward to following your journey.
Welcome and enjoy letting Mother Nature take her course. I look forward to being here for you. KUP!
Wow, I can't believe I have my own lodge. This is so exciting!
I have felt so many bodily changes in the past few days. My baby (we think her name will be Eowyn) has finally stopped her spinning and has remained in the same position of head down, back out. She still manages to wallop me with punches and kicks, but I think she's run out of room to do too much. It just makes me wonder if she's uncomfortable because she seems to search for places to stick her feet. After all, she's been bouncing around like Tigger for months and months.
Yesterday I had a bunch of strong contractions. The contractions seem to start up when I'm moving around a lot. They feel so much stronger than the BH ones I've had the past few months.
I have a question for you BTDT moms and that has to do with how much your spouse contributes. My DH co-owns his company and works anywhere between ten to sixteen hour days plus most weekends due to a major computer system conversion. I know that he will not be able to help that much with the baby, because he is dead to the world when he comes home from work. I don't fault him at all for having to work this much (my heart just aches because he is under so much stress). His work is absolutely necessary for the future of his company and our livlihood. He finally admitted to me that he is weary all the time, that he never feels like he gets enough rest. I'm convinced that he has burned out adrenal glands from his chronic high-stress life-style. I make his meals and have him on vitamins to help him, but he won't heal without cutting out the stress in his life. This isn't likely to happen anytime soon. Basically, have any of you faced a similar situation where your spouse can't help you out that much with a new baby?
I'm trying to mentally prepare myself to still be as loving and supportive as I can be to DH even though he won't be able to help much. But I hear such horror stories of managing a newborn ( I know I shouldn't listen) that I'm worried I'll take things out on DH. He will need my support not antagonism.
DD Eowyn born 2/8/7
Sharon, congrats again on the lodge.
A newborn is tough work, but it is also joy. I think one thing you can do is try to give your dh time with the baby and praise your dh. He will have a completely different way of being with the baby, but try not to criticize or correct him. Studies show that the different parenting styles of moms and dads are complementary and both important. Consider offering him a "sleep in" day and ask if he could do the same for you. Consider getting some postpartum doula help.
Try to get through one day at a time and to keep in mind that the intense newborn period will pass.