Stephie's (stephiebuffie) lodge!! (prenatal)

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Stephie's (stephiebuffie) lodge!! (prenatal)

Welcome to your lodge Stephie! Congrats on making it to 36wks Smile I am looking forward to following you in your last month.

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Congrats on your lodge!

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Congrats on your lodge! I am looking forward to hearing your story!

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Hurray for your lodge!!!

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May the rest of your pregnancy be happy and uneventful.

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YEYEYE...Well I guess I should just start from the begining eh?

I met DH in Nov 2004 when I started working at a local retail store in Houston, He was my supervisor and I was the newest hire...the store was about to open...anyway... and I hated him...lol

He was sooo annoying and aggrevating and anal..lol ... he's such a perfectionist and as his employee this got annoying fast... I was actually in a relationship when I met him...a VERY VERY bad relationship filled with many tears but we wont go there...

Anyway...after a while I got to know Brandon better and we started being friends but it was just while we were at work kind of friendship...and then I started confiding in him about my relationship and finally my relationship ended for good...Brandon and I had been "talking" for a while...and he started to show me his real side...

Then we started dating...and I moved in with him...we had some terrible things happen due to him being black and me being white but we got past them (with my family)...

We didn't have a very healthy relationship because I had low self esteem and so did he so put us together and things didn't always add up... until finally we hit rock bottom...and we reached out for God ...then things started to change

We started going to church and we changed our entire relationship...and eventually we made it to the point where marriage was a topic

We made through some tough battles but it only made us stronger and better for one another and we were married Aug 27 2006

The greatest thing in the world is finding someone you can love with all your heart and who will love you back...and realizing that the whole thing was meant to be...and that every thing that happened in your life good or bad lead up to the point when you got to meet that special someone...

That's how I feel about this marriage...and even with heartache and joy...everything I can look back on in my life I can't regret because it all added up to where I am now! Anyway...

We found out about 2mths later that we were pregnant...a huge surprise and very frightening...and it put a lot of stress on our new marriage but we intended on keeping the baby...it was an eye opening experience and it actually just made us closer in the end...we did what we could but God called our little one home to heaven...such a hard battle and somehow with the grace of God we made it through that one too!

And then we were blessed to be pregnant with this one... I got my BFP December 23 2006!!! Best christmas present ever!!!!!!!!

That's all the time I have to post right now, I'll go into more details on my pregnancy later.

~Stephanie

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Aww!! You guys have a really great story!! I think that going through all those obstacles together makes your relationship stronger.

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Great story Stephanie!! I'm looking forward to following your lodge!

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Hey Stephanie! Welcome to your lodge!

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Prior Pregnancies: I have had four pregnancies before this one, I lost them all before 10 weeks, the docs never gave me a reason other than scar tissue on my uterus, scar tissue all up inside me...

I was raped at age 10 and it caused huge issues...I am telling you this so you will know what Averi means to me...each of us have special feelings for our babies for one reason or another and these are my reasons...

Loosing four babies I was sure I was going to loose Averi too, I didn't have insurance when I became pregnant with her so one day I went to the hospital and the ER doc there ran tests on my levels (which were high) but when he did an ultra sound (this was at 7 weeks) he said he could not find the heartbeat so they sent me to the big ultra sound room ... and they too said they could not see the heartbeat...

They flat out told me my baby was dead and told me to get a D & C...

My husband refused to believe our baby was dead and we prayed about it ... I did not go get the D&C ... I continued to have morning sickness and so forth... finally when the insurance kicked in (at 12 weeks) I got to go to the doctor...

They put the doppler on my stomach and found her heartbeat instantly...it was the most beautiful sound to hear....I still love hearing it!!!

Along the way Averi has tricked me by not moving or sometimes her heartbeat is hard to find with the doppler and I get frightened but then it always turned out perfect...

She is my miracle baby, a baby that docs told me I could never have!

When I was younger and first started going to OB's they told me I should never get pregnant and if I do I would never carry full term...lol... proved them wrong...Averi will be considered full term in just a few more days!!

Just wanted to share with you how much she really means to me...I can't even discribe how much I love her but I know that you all understand!

At 28 weeks I started cramping really badly, DH and I rushed to L&D...I was having contractions, I had let myself get dehydrated and my cervix started to dilate ... it was very scary, I thought we were going to have her too soon!! But they stopped the contractions and my cervix stopped dilating... I have been dilated 1cm since then...

At 34 weeks I started having contractions again! I kept to myself at work and tracked them and they got to every 11mins, I tried to contact my doc but no answer at her office, and they don't have an answering machine, and when I called her ER line they said they would have her call me but she never did, and when I called again they said they would have the on call doc call me... and he never did... someone must have over heard my convo's in the bathroom cause the next thing I knew my supervisor was at my side and then everyone was starring at me and they called the EMS ... OMG it was sooo embarressing.. and I had to leave work on an EMS when my husband works less than 5 mins away...by the time I got to the hospital my contractions were 8 mins apart and before we ended up leaving they had gotten to 6 mins apart... We thought we were having our baby... but they eventually spaced back out and my cervix never changed....sooo yeah...false alarm...

Now here I am, I went to my 36 week appointment and Averi was measuring small, I was observed today and Averi passed all the tests so it is confirmed that her lungs, heart and brain are fully formed and working great but she still has not gained any weight, so its evident that my placenta is not giving her nutrients...I go back to the doctor on Monday and I will be induced on Wed or Thursday... of this coming week...this was not the kind of birth I wanted and I am still going to do it with out the epi but at this point Averi is what is most important and I would sacrafice anything to make sure she is healthy! Right now she is not growing at all, I don't want to wait too late and starve her to death...

Boy...this is a long post but this is all the crap I've been through during this pregnancy...I know its not as bad as what others have been through but to me it has all been scary while it was happening...

Now we are at the end!!! We are finally almost done and I will have my baby girl in the next few days!! God has been watching over us the entire time and it has been a learning experience!

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Stephanie,
Congrats on your lodge and your little one that will be here shortly! You've been through so much to get her here and she will be so lucky to have you as a Mom!!!!

KUP on your upcoming appointments!!!!

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My doc told me to call or go to L and D to be observed if Averi stops moving or her movement count decreases....

It's driving me nuts... She never has moved much in the morning I guess she has always liked to sleep in ... but even though I know that...its still driving me nuts that she hasn't moved yet this morning...

When she does move most of them are huge pushes or rolls not a lot of big kicks or anything ... the movement she gave me last night was not big at all...she pushed but it was sooo weak...

So her movement has not decreased but the intensity of her movement has...

Should I go in? Or call??

I get worried now so easily.....the tests I took yesterday my doc said are good for 7 days..meaning you have 7 days to get the baby out ... and we are supposed to get her out on Wednesday or Thursday...

I think I am going to drive myself nuts until I see her and she is healthy... I'm not doing it on purpose and believe me I am trying to give myself peace but all I can think about is her...and her movement...

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I am eating oatmeal right now, I am also drinking apple juice and then I will lay on my side,... that is what I have always done in the past for reassurance and then if I get nothing...I'm calling...

When I talked to my doc yesterday she told me not to worry...HA... and she said she knew I would worry but that we are going to get her out in time...

If my placenta isn't giving her all the nutrients she needs I don't know how well eating sugary things is going to work... how much of it is actually going to get to her...

I told her that I wanted Averi to come out when it is safe...and she said wed or thursday is safe...I will be closer to 38 weeks and it will be with in the 7 day time frame...but OMG...

Its just me though...I am a worry wart! My hugest battle during this pregnancy has been fear and doubt,

I also asked my doc...when she said to call if her movement decreases... I asked her "isn't it too late by then" and she said no...no movement at all is something to really worry about but a decrease may not be an issue at all...but to call just in case...

Sorry I am whining and complaining so much lately but this whole situation is taking its toll on my emotions

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I'm such a worry wart...I ate and Averi is moving... her movements are still VERY weak but she is moving...

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Breathe, Stephanie, Breathe!!!!! I'm right there with you when it comes to being a worry wart and I probably would have called!

Only a few more days to go and your precious daughter will be here! Take it easy and KUP!!!!

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So for a couple months now I have been leaking...its always been clear fluid...and it has slowly become more and more frequent that I leak or (TMI) I have to pump myself cause my nipples start to hurt... well... Today they were hurting REALLY bad and "pumped" myself and its still mostly clear but there's a lot of white stuff too...is this my milk... I thought the milk came after the baby was born!?!

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My father...the racial issues...huge vent OT (long)

So, as some of you may remember, a while back I posted on how my grandparent were against me and DH cause he is black and I am white... and we never told them that we got married and never told them that we were pregnant...too much stress ect... and finally when I visted Houston for my brother's graduation and my baby shower they found out of course (big belly and all) and they took it actually pretty well...

WELL...

My father was the same way. He was against me dating Brandon and it caused huge issues in our relationship as daughter and father... and also caused a lot of issues in my relationship with Brandon.... finally my dad came around and said he didn't want to get into my relationship and that whatever makes me happy will make him happy... he walked me down the aisle and everything, he has not been involved with my relationship really and we don't even talk hardly anymore...

But everytime I do see him or talk to him on the phone (VERY RARE) all he wants to talk about is how we should move back to Houston, how I got married too young (at 22 :?: )... and how Brandon and I are going to fail and we shouldn't have gotten pregnant... and everytime I defend my husband and then I have to defend my dad too when DH hears about it...

After all this time of tears and battling back and forth trying to keep us a family.. my dad went over the edge

He came to Austin to pick up a broken down car (I had a car and it broke down and it has been sitting at my old apt complex for like forever and they just told us they were going to tow it) so he came to Austin for that and it was late when he called like 10pm and said he was going to just drive back to Houston which made me upset...I asked him how he was going to come all the way up here and not see me...so he came over and I stood outside to meet him just so he could find the place

The first thing he said was "How come Brandon didn't come out to meet us? Is he too good to meet us?" I said no I was on the phone with you and just came outside...wtf??

Then we all come inside and Brandon was on the computer and my dad says "Is he too good to come say hello?"...OMG... so Brandon came out and we socialized and it seemed to go well...then they decided to leave

Brandon went to lay down (it was already 12am)...and I walked them out...and then it started...he attacked me verbally...about my marriage, about the baby, about our decision to live in an expensive place (1200 a month) instead of buying a house, he attacked my religion (Christianity) and when I told him no offense but I don't want to take your advice on marriage because you are divorced and you have different women all the time, I didn't want to take his advice on life cause he is unhappy, I didn't want to take his advice on money cause he is constantly broke, he just got even more mad....maybe I should not have said those things but they have been eating away at me all this time...

He said I was brain washed because I am a submissive wife... and I told him to read 1 Timothy and 1 Corinthians and then he just attacked God again... OMG....

It went on and on... and I cried and he basically told me f off and that he didn't want to come around anymore and that I was disrespecting him...so then I blew up!!!

I WAS DISRESPECTING HIM???? He was disrespecting me and my husband, he came into my house and started an argument and said racial and terrible things about MY HUSBAND and MY BABY!!!

I went back inside and locked the door...it had appeared he left...then he came knocking on the door...I opened it ... he apologized and he wanted me to apologize, I didn't and still don't believe I owe him an apology....maybe its pride but I seriously don't think I said anything wrong especially since I stayed calm the whole time...we were talking as adults (I thought)...

Then he started insulting my husband again...this time Brandon heard every word so he came and stood by my side and told my dad to leave...my dad didn't want to leave and said he had a right to tell us what to do cause he is older...Brandon said he is my husband and we follow God and so therefore we can and will make it without his help and that we didn't want his help as long as he was going to be negative around us...

My dad pushed me I flew back against the kitchen bar (ahhh.. hello I AM PREGNANT)... My dad went after Brandon and threatened to kill him, Brandon grabbed my phone to call the cops and my dad took the phone out of his hand so Brandon went to get his phone... my dad went after him again...too late cops already on the phone...so my dad left

I know this was long and VERY off topic...I was actually debating whether to post about it or not... but I need to get it off my chest and I hope that maybe y'all can pray for strength for me and Brandon right now... and pray for my dad...despite it all I love him and the only way he is going to change is with God...

His whole life is falling apart around him and he can't see why...cause he gave up on God!

I know I said some things to my dad that maybe I should have never said even though they were true...the truth hurts and he can't handle it...but anyway....I think I am done...

I just can't believe my dad flipped out like that we have fights every time he comes around but it has never escalated to bodily harm!... here I am...I'm almost full term pregnant, my baby is going to be induced on Wednesday or thursday and I'm totally stressed about that...and now this on top of it... :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

Thanks for reading if you got this far

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:bighug: I'm sorry you're having to deal with all this now. Just do your best to relax and take care of little Averi.

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I just had my last DA today... she checked out Averi because I told her the situation with my dad and Averi is fine Biggrin

My cervix has finally dilated more...but it was only 1/2 cm... Sad

So now I am 1 1/2 cm but still thick! and Averi is still not engaged into my pelvis ...

I was negative on the GBS test ...YEYEYE

And we scheduled my induction...I go into the hospital on Tuesday night at 5pm to get the cervidal and then the pitocin starts 12 hours later ...

My baby girl is almost here!

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OMG OMG OMG...So of course with all the observations and poking around and such that has been going on I have known that Averi would be coming soon...then today my doc tells me...go to the hospital tuesday night to get cervidal and then wednesday morning we will start the pitocin...and I'm sitting there...kind of anxious and excited but I'm sitting here at work all by my self and it hits me...

HOLY CRAP I'm going to be a mom in two days!!!!!!

TWO DAYS!!

Did anyone else feel this way when they were about to be induced? It's like the weirdest feeling in the world because I have been so anxious to meet her but now I'm kind of scared lol... not really scared but nervous... wow ... I'm going to be a mommy! A little angel is going to be completely dependant upon me! It's just blowing my mind ... and I'm SOOOOO HAPPY!!!! BiggrinBiggrinBiggrinBiggrinBiggrinBiggrin

Just thought I'd share! It is hard to explain how I feel, I'm all mixed up with anxiety and nerves!!

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Now this may just be my imagination... but remember how I said that Averi usually sleeps in during the morning...she doesn't have much movement till around 11-12 in the day....but today she has been kicking, poking, rolling, and slamming her head into my pelvis...lol

She's excited!!! I think she knows she is about to see the world for the first time and she just as anxious as I am... (like I said its just my imagination...) but that's how I feel about it...

I can't believe that I could be holding her in less than 24 hours!!!

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So exciting Stephanie!! I can't wait to hear how your birth goes.

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2 hours and counting...

Gesh...I have two hours left of work... and its my last day...its driving me nuts....lol...

I can't stop posting on here and I can't stop texting people on my phone (making all last few arragements with family)...

I am useless to them really...they should just let me go home now cause my brain is already there...

Well truthfully my brain is at the hospital anticipating the arrival of Averi...lol

I'm just so excited

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Okay gals, I am heading out of work, and I won't get another chance to be by a computer till we bring little Averi home so I will see all of you then...

Wish me luck... and pray that everything goes smoothly and hopefully I get the birth I wanted!!! Instead of a C-section!!

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Good luck and I can't wait to hear all about it and see loads of piccies!

Love,

Sarah-Jean

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I hope everything went well!

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Hope everything went well at the hospital!!!! Can't wait to see pics and read your birth story!

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No doubt you're holding a sweet baby by now, but an update would be nice. Smile

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I was on the August 07 board, and there is an update with pics....

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Hey gals, I had a friend of mine update yall that I had my precious Averi...I just wanted to share real quick that we are doing GREAT! I'm getting the hang of being a mommy... I just love her so much!!

Its the craziest thing...I can't describe the kind of love I have for her! But I know I don't need to explain it to yall...you all have your own LOs that make you feel the same way Biggrin

Averi Elizabeth Mackenzie Buffington was born 08/07/07 at 9:57pm weighing 5lbs 7.7oz and 17.7 inches long!

She is perfect (I'm bias Lol )

Here's some pix

Our first family photo!

Daddy and Averi

Mommy and Averi

Averi 17 hours old (I have not uploaded the ones where she is only mins old)

K, that's all I have time to post for now! Cya later Wink

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She is absolutely beautiful and over 5 pounds, WTG! Can't wait to hear your birth story.

Cindy

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My birth story!

Well, as most of you know. I had my 36 week appointment and it did not go as I had planned. My doc said Averi was only 4lbs 11oz and that I did not have much fluid in there. So then I saw a specialist and yadda yadda yadda... long story short for those of you who don't know. They said my placenta was not feeding her enough and that she needed to come out. They scheduled an induction for Aug 7, 2007.

So Aug 6th I went out on a date with DH and saw a movie, had dinner, he bought me a slushy at the movies Smile and we had a great night. Then Aug 7th I went to work early got off at 3 and I was not allowed to eat anything after lunch Sad ... DH had scheduled a hair appointment for me. He is so sweet! So I chopped off my hair to my shoulders and got it highlighted!! I love it...anyway...then we head to the hospital where my mother had already been waiting for us...

They got me registered and situated in a room and told me I could not eat just in case I needed a c-section.... this was aggrivating since Averi's heart rate had always been great... but oh well.

They hooked me up to monitor her heart rate and contrax... i was having mild contrax that I could not even feel and when the nurse checked me I was at 2cm ...yeye...

Then a nurse came in to start an IV, she stuck me once and it was no good...ouch...she stuck me twice and it was no good...ouch again so she gave up and a second nurse came in to start an IV, she stuck me once and got it but she blew it... needless to say that was a big ouch and I have huge bruise to show for it...then the third nurse came in...she stuck me once and got...Thank God!!!

Then they left me for a while...I have no idea why the cervidil had not be inserted yet...I was feeling cramps in my back (I always feel cramps in my back when I am laying on it ever since the 2nd tri)... so I rolled over to my side...then I sneezed and a bunch of fluid came out of me...the nurse came in and told me to get off my side (she did not tell me why) but I got back onto my back and told her that when I sneezed I felt a lot of fluid come out and I don't know if it is pee or my water. So she checked me and she said the test came up negative for fluids... okay...

Then she does an ultrasound and measures my fluids...they were at 2cm...yikes, she told me the safe amt is 10cm.... and since the test came back negative that my water had broken, it meant my placenta wasn't working enough to replenish the amt of fluids...

Okay...so then they have the on call doc come in... (my doc was scheduled to be there in the morning when I was supposed to start the pitocin) The on call doc starts talking about how much stress the baby is in because her heart rate drops every time I move and he showed me the chart... it was dropping dramatically Sad , he told me that with her showing signs of stress and my fluids being so low he did not want me to have any large contrax. He said that the fluid is what helps cushion the baby during labor till it breaks and that in the current situation it would be easy for her cord to wrap round her neck or for her to pinch her cord by laying on or what not... I am probably not explaining it very well but the point is her heart rate was dropping with my movement and my fluid was low so the on call doc said the only option was c-section and I agreed...

At this point it was "get my baby out and make sure she is healthy" its all I cared about...

So then they start talking to me about drugs Sad
Do I want the epi where only one person can be in the room with me or do I want to be knocked out where no one can be in the room with me...they also described to me the dangers of being knocked out and having a complacent baby...risks I already knew about because that's why I never wanted a drugged birth .... Sad

Then they start talking to me about what they were going to do to me...and I freaked...I literally freaked out...I started crying and I was so scared, I even said and I quote "I can't do this, I can't do this, just knock me out I can't do this"
The nurse grabbed my hand and reminded me that we don't want to be knocked out for the safety of the baby...and I was still crying...then DH stepped in and I will forever love him (if not for anything else) for this one thing he did for me!

He put his forehead to mine and looked me dead in the eyes and said, Stephanie calm down, God has it all under control, you are going to be fine and Averi is going to be fine, and then we prayed... I calmed down a lot. I was still nervous and still crying but I knew I could do it and I knew it had to be done.

So then they roll me out to get my epi leaving my DH behind...WHAT??? ... I didn't want to be without him but they said he couldn't be back there while they put the epi in. My super nurse (the same one that got my IV in the first try) held me against her chest and talked to me and rubbed my back, then the epi guy said a sting... and it was over... my legs started going numb and they had to place me on the bed, they had my arms out like a T ... and they raised a blue curtain. Then DH came in and sat by my side I told him to just keep talking to me...he kept me very distracted from what was going on... I felt a lot of tugs and pulls but no pain.

DH was right there the whole time...God I love this man so much more just from this experience... then I felt them push on my stomach really hard and I heard her first cry!! She was born 08/07/07 at 9:57pm weighing 5lbs 7.7oz and 17.75 inches long! DH got to see her and he took some pix, I got to hold her for the first time, then they handed her to DH and he was told to leave as they stitched me back up. They had previously warned me that if she was as small as they thought she would have to be in the NICU...but with her birth weight...Thank God, she could go to the nursery!!!

The recovery room was a nightmare, they could not put me on morphine because I am allergic to it so I had some other drug on a push as needed thing... they brought Averi to me and she had some issues latching on but seemed to get it after a few tries. Then they said they had to take her away due to checking her sugar and all that because of her size and I didn't see her again for a few hours... it made me sad. The nurse came back and said Averi's sugar level was 37 (very low) and that they wanted to supplement with formula to get it up... and I agreed...

The rest is a bit of a blur, the drug they had me on made me loopy. I would talk to people and in mid sentence pass out then pop back awake and try to finish my convo...lol...it made everyone laugh!

I got to breast feed finally cause Averi started passing all her sugar tests! And I have to use a breast shield on my right nipple cause in mid-suckle it likes to flatten out. But other than that the breast feeding is going super smoothly. We are home now. Have been since Friday but I just have not had time to post yet.

Averi is doing great!!! She is so healthy and steadily getting bigger and stronger. She likes to push her head off my chest, and sometimes while she is laying down she tries to roll over so I know she is getting stronger and stronger each day. She is perfect! I am sooo in love and its so great to see how much DH loves her too! Her cord fell off last night... and I cleaned it up this morning and that's where we are as of today!!

Both happy, both healthy, I do feel a little sad I didn't get to birth her naturally or vaginally... but I am confident the right decision was made...

Sorry this is soooo long...

Here is a pic of her today!

and here are just a few more pix

Okay I will stop, If you want to view all the pix I have of her thus far.. (a lot) you can go to
http://s162.photobucket.com/albums/t280/stephiebuffie/?start=0

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Oh shes so cute, I'm so glad you had good support from your husband in that obviously tough time prior to surgery.
All the best with your recovery and congratulations.
Andrea

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I'm awake, its five in the morning...I'm still getting used to having spells of sleep in three hour intervals

I just surf the web while she suckles my nipple laying on the boppy in my lap...until she passes out again... then I get three more hours of sleep ...

When do they finally learn to sleep through most of the night?
Im sooo tired....
Does it ever get easier to do, is this something you get used to?

And for BTDT moms, how do you deal with hardly any sleep at night and then get up and go to work in the morning?

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"erh3d" wrote:

you get 3 hours of sleep inbetween? you are so lucky! I'm lucky to get an hour

The nurses made me put her on a schedule while we were still in the hospital. They said that because she was so small she needs to eat every three hours and do NOT let her sleep through a feeding so at first it was REALLY rough for me cause I had to wake her up and try to keep her awake to get a feeding... now she wakes up on her own for feedings every three hours and I change her diaper before I start each feeding and then I swaddle her back up and leave her alone so she sleeps.

The only thing I have not done is play with her during the day so she sleeps every three hours during the day too Sad

She is never awake just to be awake, she only wakes to be changed, feed or burped and I have not had an instance where she has cried for no reason...yet! (knock on wood)

So I guess compared to some babies I got lucky but still. I am have to get used to interrupted sleep to feed... I guess I don't really have a right to complain though since she seems to be a "good baby" (not crying a lot, doesn't have night and day mixed up and all that...)

Sorry.

My mom tells me to "Just wait, when she enters her alert phase she'll be awake more often and that's when mom's have trouble cause most babies have their alert moments at night, haha"

Sad

I have had those growth spurt moments where she wakes up to feed every hour or every 30 mins...yikes those nights were horrible (as far as sleep is concerned)

And I have realized that it takes her about 30-45 mins to get a full tummy and sometimes she will fall asleep after only 15 mins so of course, about an hour later she is crying for more... but I always try to keep her awake and nursing for a good 30 but that too is difficult...:-(

Guess I am just going to have to wait this out, times will change and I know I am doing what is best for her by breast feeding...

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"stephiebuffie" wrote:

So for a couple months now I have been leaking...its always been clear fluid...and it has slowly become more and more frequent that I leak or (TMI) I have to pump myself cause my nipples start to hurt... well... Today they were hurting REALLY bad and "pumped" myself and its still mostly clear but there's a lot of white stuff too...is this my milk... I thought the milk came after the baby was born!?!

hehehe, now that my milk HAS come in... I know the difference lol... Biggrin

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"albertini_midwife" wrote:

Oh shes so cute, I'm so glad you had good support from your husband in that obviously tough time prior to surgery.
All the best with your recovery and congratulations.
Andrea

thank you. Isn't it great what birth can bring out of our men? I love him so much and we both love our daughter sooo much!!! It's been great so far.

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Congratulations. She is absolutely beautiful!!

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BTDT c-section moms, I just had a c-section (it'll be 2 weeks ago tomorrow) and I sneezed three days ago and felt a lot of pressure down where they cut me, now its been hurting off and on for these past three days, I thought nothing of it at first but the pain is all on my right side, with stabbing sharp pains where they cut me on the right side... did I tear something on the inside? Did I pull a muscle, I have not been bleeding anymore either so I don't think I am bleeding internally (also I'm sure I would REALLY know it if I was bleeding internally)

Any help or advice? Should I just call my doc? I don't have another check up with her till Sept 12!!!!

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First things first. Your husband rocks. I can say without doubt mine would never have had that strength and resolve.

As far as your c/s, I'd call the doc. I never had any problems with mine. I joke I'm actually a posterchild for the knife-happy OBs who love c/s. I didn't even need my pain meds. It's probably nothing. Maybe a strain or something. But if it would make you feel better, go ahead and call your doc.

As for STTN: babies are capable of doing so as early as 8 weeks. DS did it about 3 months. But we were down to only one feeding around 3-4am for the last couple of weeks. Check your PM.

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Averi's DA

Well Averi of course had a follow up DA the monday after she was born 08/13/07, and she was 5lbs 5oz (she was born at 5lbs 7.7oz, she left the hospital at 5lbs 2oz) so that was an improvement, but today!!!!

Today she weighed in at 5lbs 14oz, yey!!! I'm so happy she has exceeded her birth weight! And she's also 18.25 inches long (up from 17.75) yey!! Is it crazy for me to be so happy about her weight and length lol!!

She is super healthy!!! And I love her so much...just thought I'd update Wink

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So its been four days since I sneezed, still have not called my OB, still having pains, really sharp pains, and sometimes it just feels like I am on my period, well last night I started bleeding again...it had stopped completely except for some discharge but now its enough blood to soak one pad in one day...not so bad I guess considering the flow but the pain and the sneeze thing has me worried...plus the blood is bright red (new blood??)

I think I'm going to have to just call my OB as much as I don't want to .... (I don't really like her)

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It is pretty normal for the bleeding to stop and then start up again as long as it is not a lot then usually it is not a worry.

The sharp pains sound like what I had with my c-section. I swear I felt like I was ripping in half for months, every time I would sit up.

Certainly can't hurt to call and talk to someone though if you are worried.

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Averi Is so beautiful, I am happy for your family!!

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Does your baby sneeze? How often? Her doc keeps saying she is fine but she sneezes three times in a row about 4-5 times a day... I'm not worried cause her doc says she is fine but just wondering if anyone else baby sneezes "a lot"

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"BLindinglight" wrote:

Averi Is so beautiful, I am happy for your family!!

Thank you so much!!! BiggrinBiggrinBiggrin

I love her sooo much, and I love to hear people call her cute Wink

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reflecting on my past OT

I can't believe it... if someone had told me three years ago, that I would have all that I have now I would have laughed at them...

I never had a lot of dreams before...well wait that's not true, I had dreams but I never believed dreams could come true. Three years ago I was in a relationship with a man I thought I loved...but in all reality I didn't know what love was. We had a lot of good times but because of me we had some really tough times...and because of him we had some down times... eh... it takes two to make or break it... anyway... I let myself get depressed...and co-Dependant on him... and I got content, and I stayed because (once I look back at it all now) ... I wanted to be loved, and I didn't want to be alone and I wanted stability... had a married this man, I won't say I wouldn't have been happy cause I would have been...we had a lot of happy times, but I don't think it would have lasted... I did a lot of mean things to him and I felt that he did some mean things to me too...ah we wont get into that... but the point is, I was obviously ready to leave, and end it for good, but I didn't know how to let go. How can you let go of someone you have been with for sooo long? How can you just give up? I broke it off with him off and on so many times Sad Dragging me and him through emotional mudslides... till I found an easy way out... and I am not proud of it, but I replaced him... shouldn't have done that right? That's what I thought when I did it... how messed up it was... sigh... but like I said, if someone had told me then what I was missing... I would have laughed at them... I'm not saying my ex is a terrible guy we just didn't have everything worked out together and so it failed... maybe it was all my fault, maybe I got bored, maybe I got hurt or ignored, maybe it was just meant to happen this way...

Cause now he's with a nice girl, she's all over his myspace page and he is smiling so I know he is happy, thank God. I never wanted him to be unhappy. And here I am, I'm married to a wonderful man that I wouldn't trade for anyone!! Plus I'm blessed with a daughter! And I have a relationship with God so deep that I have never had before... but the best part is...

I believe in dreams again!! I know that I can have or be anything I want as long as I do it with God by my side, I can be happy, I can have nice things, I can be loved, adored, respected, listened to, ... I can be a director.

Right now I'm the volunteer Children's Ministry Theatre Director at my church... and it feeds my ambitions. I want to be a hollywood director. I always wanted someone to say, "Oh we have to see that movie, Stephanie directed it" You know how people say "Oh we have to see that movie cause Stephen Spielberg directed it" lol

I have dreams again and I know I can achieve them... and I am happy!

Gosh and here it is, I am about to be married for one year!! This Monday Aug 27th is our one year anniversary!! I'm so excited, and Brandon got me a new wedding set, and he got a new ring too! Plus not to mention God gave us Averi just 2 weeks ago! So she's kind of like an early wedding gift from God lol!!!

Sorry this is so long but I'm just reflecting on my past, and after seeing who I was (not very nice and not very Christian) and seeing who I am... I am happy with how my life has gone and I wouldn't change one thing because it all led me here. Its not over yet though.... one day you may see a low budget film with my name on it...lol, then you'll start seeing high budget films with my name on them...lol...

It just takes time. On a long enough time line we will all be happy, we will all have everything we want and we will all be loved. It just takes time and patience. As hard as it is to wait for the blessing, it will come...

K, I'm done...I'm just in a happy and goofy mood Smile

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i went to the doc about the bleeding, she gave me antibiotics cause my uterus is infected but she said its not bad ... but still OMG... yikes is all I can say... I have to take the antibiotics for 7 days, hopefully they clear everything up. Doc said the antibiotics are safe while BFing so .... yeah...

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Oh she is soooo precious Stephanie!!! Congrats mama Smile I loved reading your 2nd to last post, how happy you sound!!! I am so glad that your in such a good spot, it's a wonderful place to be in.

Here's to a wonderful babymoon!!

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"chimmy" wrote:

Oh she is soooo precious Stephanie!!! Congrats mama Smile I loved reading your 2nd to last post, how happy you sound!!! I am so glad that your in such a good spot, it's a wonderful place to be in.

Here's to a wonderful babymoon!!

babymoon?!! Is that what its called when you are happy/goofy/at peace right after having a baby? LOL

You know I made a reply post on the Aug 07 board about BB and PPD, I was telling her I am worried I will get PPD... but after reading my post over here again... I just don't see myself getting PPD... I am having soo many more up moments than down times.... I can't believe how happy I am to be a mom Smile

Thanks for all y'alls comments about how beautiful my sweet Averi is. Thanks to everyone who is reading this lodge. I enjoy and need the support Smile

Hope everyone else is having good babymoon's too Wink

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she's browning

LOL, this may be a strange thing to be "happy" about but here goes. My little Averi was born pretty much WHITE, I am a very white woman but DH is so very dark so we expected a cream complexion between the two of us but she was born white lol.. not a problem at all. She is perfect and beautiful and loved so deeply... but I have been noticing that she is getting darker. I compared some birth pix to now pix and she is a lot darker... I was majorly confused lol. But after asking some friends, apparently mixed babies sometimes have to "brown" :?:

It's amazing how much she changes each day. Getting fatter, longer, and more brown Wink

Well anyway, its just another small milestone for us, I can't explain why this makes me happy because I do not know, guess I'm just a proud mama...

Here are the pix to compare

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oh, and another thing I noticed changing on her is her hair, it curls when its wet right after a bath Smile
She's just changing sooo much. I have a pic of her curly hair, unfortunately she is crying Sad

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But she is BEAUTIFUL... crying or not!

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