Wendy's (wendles) Birthing Lodge - prenatal

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Wendy's (wendles) Birthing Lodge - prenatal

Hi Wendy! I'm NAK and can't type too well but I wanted to make the effort to start your lodge since you were so supportive in mine. Happy 36 weeks!

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Yay Wendy has a lodge!!!!

(wow - we're going to have lots of babies soon - check out all those lodges!)

-Jodi

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Wow, time has gone by so fast! I remember you annoucing that you were pregnant! Congrats momma! I am looking forward to reading your journey!

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Thank you so much for starting my lodge Michelle! I can't believe the time is here... I saw Jodi's start and it hit me that I was going to be soon! This is such a great board and a wonderfully supportive group of ladies, I am honored to be a part of it.

I will give you my story sometime later today when I have a bit more time, right now I am doing some errands around the house. I got the lawn mowed and am trying to clean out the inside of our truck (well Pathfinder). There is a baby seat clinic tomorrow at a local ambulance place so I am planning to go and have them check out our seat and installation. (We received the seat second-hand, it is relatively new and never been in an accident, but figured it's better to be safe.)

Oh, and a quick update on baby status Smile I totally expect to go later than my due date (Aug. 1). There is nothing happening in the baby department. Baby has been head down for months and seems to be a good little stinker so far!

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Wow, time has really flown! Welcome to your lodge Wendy.

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Congrats on your lodge...I remember when you announced your pregnancy too. It's funny how time flies when your aren't the one growing the baby!

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Here is my intro... my husband Ryan and I met while attending a local college for Computer Systems Technology. He had a girlfriend, but it didn't seem like he was too happy in the relationship. After some chasing from me Smile we got together and moved in together during our first year. School was draining and busy, and I seem to recall starting to hint about marriage after our first year. Things just seemed so right. We were happy together, he had a great sense of humor, and we were so comfortable with each other.

He proposed that December giving me the engagement ring he had pointed out in a store but me insisting it cost too much (although that was the one I had chosen as well!) We planned a wedding for May because that was when we finished our 2 year course and would be starting a new phase in our lives. We graduated one weekend, got married the next, took 2 weeks to go camping, then started new jobs!

We got married in 2001 then purchased a house in 2003. We've had my brother and Ryan's sister living with us off and on (probably one or the other 90% of the time) since we have been here. In preparation for the baby, SIL moved out last month, and my brother is moving out as I type! As lovely as it was to have people around, I am really looking forward to having my own place for my growing family. Anyways... back to the baby story.

I started getting baby urges 2 years ago (I think it was). They only got stronger. We had decided that we would TTC in early/middle 2007. Last summer I went off birth control and started charting. Things were going great, I was getting in tune with my body, and then in a groggy state one morning, I transposed two numbers of my temperature. That was enough for me to think I had ovulated and "fly with the wind" Smile That September we were surprised to learn we were expecting a baby. So many emotions went through us. We had not planned the pregnancy and were "close" to being ready. Slowly we got used to the idea, we were excited yet scared to death.

Approximately 6 or 7 weeks into the pregnancy, I had some spotting. After doing some research I had convinced myself that spotting could be very normal but after the second bout I decided to see my doctor. She sent me for an ultrasound (I think it was around 8 weeks). The tech wasn't able to see anything with a regular ultrasound and had to move to vaginal. She kept saying baby was so small she was having troubles taking pictures. She didn't say anything other than that. When she was finally done, the main guy came in and told us that they weren't able to see a heartbeat and baby was the size of a 6 week baby.

We left and I was devastated. I stayed home from work for a couple days, cried and mourned. The baby wasn't planned but it really affected me emotionally. I miscarried on my own in the 9th week.

We had *just* told our parents that we were expecting, and the following week learned that the baby didn't make it. We felt kind of silly, but there was nothing we could do.

That experience made us realize we were ready to have a baby. I kept wondering if was healthy (emotionally) to try again right away but when the time came I thought I was ready. The OB I had seen had said that my body had cleaned itself out and we were given the green light to try again. She recommended waiting one cycle for dating purposes, but if a "surprise" happened (she said with a twinkle in her eye) that would be ok.

I wasn't concerned about LMP because at that point I had done tons of reading and knew how to date my ovulation. The first ovulation after our miscarriage was coming upon us, and the "marathon" began Smile

If my body was working correctly and there were no problems with Ryan's, there was no way I wouldn't be pregnant! I held out until day 18 to test. There were 2 lines, as we had suspected. We found out we were pregnant in November.

We told our parents just before Christmas and crossed our fingers that everything would go well. Christmas came and went, I still seemed to be doing fine (didn't really feel pregnant and forgot I was sometimes!). We waiting until the second trimester to tell friends and extended family.

This pregnancy has been fantastic. I didn't ever have morning sickness (unless you count nausea off and on, and dry heaves a couple of mornings) and normal pregnancy symptoms have been very minimal (except for lack of sleep, which I suspect is normal!).

The beginning of June my doctor suggested that I go on medical leave. My plan was to work right up until the due date, but when she offered I took her up on it. I had been taking up to 2 naps daily at work, and was a wet noodle the rest of the evening. By the time I got home and made/had supper, I was ready for bed. I don't suspect that was good for either baby or me.

Since being home I had got lots of baby-related projects done. I made prefold diapers, nursery curtains, baby wipes. I am also working on a baby quilt. I asked women in my life (friends, family) to build a quilt block and then I would sew them all together to make a memorable quilt for the baby. (Idea was from Birthing From Within.) So I am quite excited to see that come together. What else... oh yes I am knitting some wool soakers for the baby too. Our plan is to EC, but I want to be prepared with diapers for backup. I have no idea how things are going to go!

Ryan has designed a co-sleeper/crib and dresser/hutch for baby furniture. We have bought all the supplies for that and the plan was to start this week, but he got sidetracked fixing our fence. (It blew over in a storm a month ago).

So, looking at the scroll bar I think I have given you more than enough to read for now! If you made it all this way, congratulations!

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Thanks for sharing yourself with us. How awesome that you got pregnant again so easily after your loss. Seems as though you are meant to be a mommy! Congrats!

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I didn't read your story yet because I'm heading to bed but I wanted to comment that we also have a pathfinder! Ours is a 95. The police had a heck of a time getting our car seat installed properly. They had to twist the seat belt thingy several times to shorten it enough to work properly. Old trucks and new seats don't go together so well. Our other truck is a Nissan Hustler.. I think it's a 92. It was just as fun. Hopefully your Nissan isn't as old as ours are. DH drives my hustler now and I drive the pathfinder since it has a back seat.

I'll be back to read more tomorrow Smile

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Congratulations on your lodge, Wendy! I can't wait to see how things progress for you these next few weeks. Very exciting!!

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congrats on your lodge

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Thanks for the good wishes everybody!

"lunabelle" wrote:

The police had a heck of a time getting our car seat installed properly. They had to twist the seat belt thingy several times to shorten it enough to work properly. Old trucks and new seats don't go together so well.

How appropriate that you made this post Michelle. I had Ryan try to install the car seat last night because I wanted to take our truck to the clinic this afternoon and get them to inspect the infant seat. He couldn't get the darn thing tight enough either! Our truck is a 97 and we have one of those Evenflo PortAbouts with a base (removable baby seat). The base would just not get tight enough. We tried installing only the seat and although better, it still was loose. I was hoping the attendants would be able to help me out today. Sounds like you just gave me the solution!

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You have such a sweet story! I love how you got preggo right away after your loss and how you and DH seemed to know immediately that you were right together Biggrin

I hope your carseat gets in right! I brought mine in a couple weeks ago for a check and it went fine (but I have a convertible seat)

Are you seeing MW's for your birth? I would think so since you are planning a HB - but thought I should check....

I'm pretty sure you also said you are not planning on knowing the gender prior to the birth? How is your family about that? I get both responses from my family - most want to know - but some are fine with not knowing (although we do know.)

-Jodi

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"kidscroll" wrote:

I hope your carseat gets in right!

I went in this afternoon and they were able to help me out. Twisting the seat belt buckle seemed to help. I am now sporting an baby seat in our vehicle!!

"kidscroll" wrote:

Are you seeing MW's for your birth?

We are seeing a doctor and a midwife. Midwives are regulated in Saskatchewan yet, so I still see a doctor because midwives can't prescribe and don't have hospital rights.

Our midwife Ros is wonderful. There are a few things that we don't see eye to eye on, but she is very respecting our decisions and does very well at pointing out all sides.

"kidscroll" wrote:

I'm pretty sure you also said you are not planning on knowing the gender prior to the birth? How is your family about that?

That's right, we're having a little surprise! When we went in for the 18 week ultrasound, I was a wee bit tempted, but the important thing to us is that the baby is healthy. It has become a bit of a game with Ryan asking the baby then listening for kicks trying to determine if our little one is a boy or a girl ("Kick once if you're a boy, and twice if you're a girl" sort of thing Smile )

My Mom was quite shocked to hear that we had the option to find out and didn't! She said if she had had the choice, she definitely would have found out. Ryan's parents didn't say anything about that. Doesn't seem to be a real big deal (boy or girl that is).

Some update type of things...

I had the GBS swab a couple days ago and will the results of that hopefully next week. If I test positive I am pretty sure we will switch from home to hospital birth. I've read lots on this subject, but I don't think I am comfortable chancing this one. I know the risk is very minute of baby contracting the strep (and you can always watch baby after the birth), but I think I feel more comfortable taking this intervention. Unfortunately, as I mentioned that would mean a hospital birth, but I would still be content with the fact that we could labor at home as long as possible (as long as my waters hadn't broken). That is the last thing standing in the way.

I can't believe that in one week I'll be considered full term and can deliver at home! Hubbie is still working on projects, but I have faith that he will get them done!

We were at Sears last week and ordered a rocker/glider and ottoman. I kept putting this off because I couldn't decide what I wanted. I finally figured we had better order because baby is going to be here before the chair is!! Their estimated delivery date is Aug. 4, but I sure hope it comes a wee bit early. I've been thinking how nice it would be to be in it already Smile

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Congrats on your lodge, Wendy. So excited to follow your journey. Sounds like you have a wonderful DH and you two are really ready for parenthood;-)

Jen

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How exciting that you are able to put the finishing touches on everything. I know I felt so ready after we got our glider for DS's room and the car seat was installed. I would just look at both and dream of him! :oops:

It sounds like things are moving along well. I hope the GBS comes back neg. and you can do the homebirth. I'd love to but I am a wus! Wink

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Regarding a homebirth, if things aren't going right or I don't feel like I should be at home, we can always go to the hospital Smile That makes me feel better too. I think home would be a fantastic experience and so much better for both me and baby that that would be ideal for us however. (Keeping my fingers crossed on the GBS though!)

I am just puttering around today, not feeling anything that makes me think baby is even close to being ready to come. Our midwife came over yesterday for our 36 week appointment. All things are looking good. We got the homebirth list and it sounds like we'll get to meet the backup midwife next week.

I've been trying to practise some breathing and relaxation as well as visualizing the baby in the right position. They feel like such passive activities however, I like to be busy!

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Congrats on your lodge! I look forward to your journey.

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Glad that your appt with the mw went well. And hopefully your strep test comes back negative!

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I put together a little collage of monthly belly pics up to now:

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You look so cute!! and so happy too! That will be a great collection to put into the baby's book. I wish I had more belly pics, but I kept forgetting to take them.

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Congrats on your lodge! I love the belly pics! I can't wait to stay updated on your journey! Enjoy! (as much as possible in this stage, that is! Smile )

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Hi Wendles,
I am so glad that your time is coming soon! I have been lurking since having my dd and I just wanted to congratulate you on your lodge!

Your belly pics are fabulous!

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Thanks for the compliments ladies! The stretch marks are starting to creep up the lower part of the tummy. I hope they don't get too crazy... I've got enough of them to contend with from puberty weight gain!

So I think I may have reached the uncomfortable part of pregnancy. The last couple of days, baby has been very "snug" in my tummy. Last night it was all bum and feet up in my ribs at night. I swear, I can look down at any time and see some sort of lump Smile Any recommendations on how to get comfy at night? (I've got tons of pillows, maybe I just need to readjust them...)

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I just phoned the doctor's office to see if they had the results of my GBS test. It sounds like I might be positive (the new receptionist was going to check with a doctor... haven't had the callback yet). This is a bit of a blow as I was totally prepared to be -ve.

This test was the one thing that would cause me to change my mind about a homebirth. I don't think a hospital birth would be bad, I just think a homebirth would be better.

The consequences of a baby contracting GBS can be fatal, so it scares me to choose to stay home and not receive antibiotics, when I could go to the hospital and get them. In the same breath, the GBS could go away by the time I give birth. Baby's chances of contracting GBS are higher in preterm births and prolonged rupture of membranes, so those are things you could watch for as well. Along with fever in Mom, accelerated heartrate in baby.

I am saddened. I really was hoping to avoid this decision.

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I'm sorry to hear about the GBS. I really hope the news still might be good, but I know how hard it is not to worry.

(((HUGS))) Hopefully you still have a chance to have your homebirth.

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Just went to lay down and try to relax and of course the phone rang with seconds. GBS+ was confirmed.

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Wendy, I am sorry to hear you got a +. This is an issue I am still trying to make up my mind about. GL with your decision.

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I'm so sorry Sad Is there a way you can do the antibiotics at home? Even if you do decide to go to the hospital, you can labor at home for a long time first! They just need 45 minutes to give you one dose of antibiotics....

My cousin turned out to be GBS+ before they tested for it, and her baby ended up with problems for years after. I was young at the time it all happened but I still remember it and the possibility of having it has been a concern for me this pregnancy too!

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Wendy, your belly is so cute! I love those pictures!

I'm sorry about the + test. Can you get your OB to give you oral antibiotics for a week or so and then test again? My MW said that that is one course of treatment.

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Your belly pics are great!

Sorry about the + GBS. I think you're right not to risk it. My friend's little girl contracted GBS and was a very sick little girl. Poor thing had to be in the NICU for a week.

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I love the belly shots! Sorry about the stretch marks -- my belly progression was about like yours, and once the marks started showing, they just kept growing. Sad

I hope you can make a decision you're happy with about the GBS.

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Wendy - I love your belly pics! You can tell you really grew a lot of baby in the last month - your tummy got mcuh more round Biggrin

:bighug: Sorry about the GBS.... I chose not to be tested for the reasons you listed.... but I know here, my MW's offer 3 options for changing your GBS status: one is oral antibiotics, one is herbal remedies, and the last is hibiclens rinses for a few days, then being re-tested at 38 weeks..... (for me though I figured that if you're positive at 36, treat for 2 weeks, and are negative at 38 - what's to say you'll be negative still at 40? So I figured that I'd treat at home -under my MW instructions - closer to labor and during labor - and then have baby tested. However, if I get a fever or my water is broken over 18 hours, I'll go to the hospital for antibiotics...)

Just my plan - I know that you have time to finalize your plan that's right for you Biggrin

-Jodi

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Thanks ladies.

"kidscroll" wrote:

Sorry about the GBS.... I chose not to be tested for the reasons you listed.... but I know here, my MW's offer 3 options for changing your GBS status: one is oral antibiotics,

I have read that oral antibiotics don't actually make a difference, so I suspect my dr. won't try that.

"kidscroll" wrote:

one is herbal remedies

My midwife gave me the name of a naturopath who practises Chinese medicine. Apparently there is something he can do for GBS+ (assuming I can convince my doctor to retest me! When I asked when I was initially being tested she said she wouldn't.). I have phoned and left him a message. I'll have to see if there is enough time for treatment and the retest.

"kidscroll" wrote:

and the last is hibiclens rinses for a few days,

What does this entail?

"kidscroll" wrote:

for me though I figured that if you're positive at 36, treat for 2 weeks, and are negative at 38 - what's to say you'll be negative still at 40?

It sounds like GBS goes in a 4-5 week cycle, so if you were positive at 36, you could be at the end of the cycle. However if you flipped to negative at 38, you could figure out the 4-5 week cycle and see how long you could be safe for. Not a sure bet, but would make me feel better!

"kidscroll" wrote:

So I figured that I'd treat at home -under my MW instructions - closer to labor and during labor - and then have baby tested.

I thought GBS was something that could immediately affect babies however. 2-3 days later could be too late, couldn't it?

"kidscroll" wrote:

However, if I get a fever or my water is broken over 18 hours, I'll go to the hospital for antibiotics...)

Good rule. I'm also trying to weigh the extra cost of a homebirth over a hospital birth and see if it is worth it to force the homebirth. (Extra $750). I know it's not about the money, but that is in the back of my mind as well.

"kidscroll" wrote:

Just my plan - I know that you have time to finalize your plan that's right for you Biggrin

I appreciate your hearing what you are doing! It helps me to think it all through and decide what is best for me. My midwife is perfectly comfortable not treating but watching for prolonged rupture of membranes, fever, accelerated heartrate in baby. If those happen we would transfer. I know the chances are so slim of baby getting it, but the chances weren't very good of me being GBS+ as well. Such a toughie for me.

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Wendy, it sounds like you have done your research! It is a tough decision, but as long as you do what is best for you, you've made the right choice!

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Wendy, this is such a tough decision. I hope you are able to feel fully settled in whatever decision you do make.

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You are so cute!
Sorry about testing positive on the GBS test. I have heard about the hibacleanse too from my midwife as well. Maybe look into that as an option?

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It sounds like you have done a lot of research on GBS. I'm sure you will make the right choice for your family.

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Wendy,
I don't have the link to the directions for doing the hibiclens rinse, but you basically buy a bottle and do a thourough external wash (and a bit internal as well) you do this for the days surrounding your labor - but you can also do it daily for a few days - then repeat it in early labor.

My MW's will re-test , and I don't see why yours wouldn't if you were paying for it anyway.

Do you remember where you hear that GBS has a 4-5 week cycle? because I've never heard that, all the things that I read about it said that the amount of GBS can increase or decrease at any time.

(oh and my baby's doctor will do blood tests for GBS on the baby within a day or two, and my MW's and I will be watching the baby's temperature for the first 72 hours and if there are any fever signs we will treat as necessary. )

I'm glad you are still doing well!

-Jodi

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Currently, it is not the midwives who do such tests in Sask. We have to go to doctors for the GBS test. I just have to hope I can convince mine to retest. I was trying to remember where I read about the 4-5 week cycle. I'm not sure I read it, but both my doctor and my midwife have said that. So... I dunno. The increase/decrease is interesting.

Thanks for the info Jodi. I appreciate it!

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We meet with our midwife tonight, but I have decided to give up control of this whole hospital/home birth thing. There isn't anything I can do, so I will do what I can (try to get retested) and then go from there. Things will be as they be. (I figure this is teaching me about the whole parenting thing... trying not to be so controlling of things! Smile )

I think I am going to head out today and try to pick up a few more things. I need some sort of clothes to labour in if I am in the hospital... no idea what to do there. I don't own any frumpy nightgowns Smile I also need to get myself the plastic shower curtain for our mattress, some sanitary pads, and another baby hat. And then I suppose I should pack a hospital bag... just in case! Things are creeping up on me I think.

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Wendy, Sounds like a great plan!

you mentioned in another post you are making some breast-pads? What kind of material are you using? I've been thinking about making some myself, but can't decide what to use, or even how big they should be...

KUP on a retest!

-Jodi

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Wendy, good for you for being so relaxed about things! You know what is crazy? Whenever I see your screen name, I think you're having twins. I don't know why my mind keeps getting you mixed up with someone else...dumb pregnancy brain! ARG! LOL!

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Twins! I was hoping for twins, but I'm pretty sure there's just one in there. Wouldn't I be in for a surprise! lol

Jodi, about the breastpads, I am just using some flannelette I had leftover from making my prefolds (they were originally going to be burp cloths, but morphed to be dual purpose!). I found something online... but I ended up making 4 layers of 5" circles. They look huge to me... but I've never seen a breastpad before, so perhaps that is right? I think I read you can do more layers, but 4 seems like plenty to me.

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WOW Wendy!

I just found your lodge and it's really great to read your stories!

There are so many things that are similar in yours and mine that it's really neat!

Not to mention we are both Canadian! Eh?

How did Ryan build your co-sleeper? Reed is currently sleeping between us so he doesn't fall off the bed!

-s

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Hey Sarah! Yes, I thought the same thing when I was reading your lodge... and only a province apart Smile It's pretty cool. Ryan built (well, is building!) the co-sleeper like a crib, the only difference being that the removable side isn't "inset" into the crib, it is on the outside. The purpose being that we can take the side off and the crib mattress will be right flush with the edge of the co-sleeper so we can attach the co-sleeper directly to our bed. I don't know whether we'll have the baby right in the bed with us. We are both fine with that, but I wanted to be ready in case it doesn't work out (either baby doesn't like or we can't sleep for whatever reason). Also, my thought was that we'd be able to attach that removable side rail and be able to put baby down for a nap if we aren't laying down. We'll have to see how it goes Smile

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"wendles" wrote:

We meet with our midwife tonight, but I have decided to give up control of this whole hospital/home birth thing. There isn't anything I can do, so I will do what I can (try to get retested) and then go from there. Things will be as they be. (I figure this is teaching me about the whole parenting thing... trying not to be so controlling of things! Smile )

That's a great attitude to have. I hope you get your re-test and it's negative! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

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Thanks Ellen!

I putzed around a bit today... made a pouch for myself and am working on a ring sling right now. It is pretty warm, so I don't feel like doing much of anything however!

I don't think I mentioned, but at our last midwife appt on Friday, she said the baby's head is down and "isn't going anywhere"! Whoo hoo!

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"wendles" wrote:

I don't think I mentioned, but at our last midwife appt on Friday, she said the baby's head is down and "isn't going anywhere"! Whoo hoo!

That's great news! Ethan is head down but I'm pretty sure he could still turn....

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I hear it has been really warm there lately, so "putzing around" is a fine thing to do during these final days.

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Yes, with the humidex it was 33 today Fool (Celcius that is), so definitely pretty warm.

I finally got all the squares for the quilt I am making! I had approximately 38 friends and family make quilt squares for me and I am now putting them all together. Wish me luck with the hand quilting!

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