~*jooniper's Birthing Lodge!*~

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~*jooniper's Birthing Lodge!*~

Welcome to your lodge!!!!!!

Congrats on making it to 36 weeks!!! WhooHoo!!

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Yea!! Congrats and welcome to your lodge!!

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Congrats on the 36 wks!!!!

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Welcome to your lodge! Biggrin

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Congrats on making it this far! Welcome to your lodge!

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Yeah! A new lodge! Congratulations and welcome!

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Congrats on keeping that boy cooking till 36 weeks, welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge Jen!!

Jessica

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Oh hey, I got a lodge! How exciting. I'll be back in a little bit to introduce myself and such.

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Hi, everyone! Thanks for my lodge- I've been anxiously awaiting it.
My name is Jennifer, but my sisters somehow twisted that into Jooniper when I was little, and these days just call me Joo. My sister is Loriloo, by the way, who just had her baby this morning (woohoo!) That's grandbaby number 11 for my family, if I'm counting right, making mine number 12. I grew up in Vancouver, Washington (near Portland Oregon) and have spent the last 5 years in Utah going to BYU before moving to Texas.

I'm 23 years old and work as a Web Analytics Consultant for a Utah-based company (I help major websites figure out how people navigate their sites and stuff). I graduated in 2006 with a BA in linguistics (I studied french and arabic).

I'm married to Kenny, who is the love of my life. We had known each other freshman year of college and even went on a date, but apparently I talked about other boys the whole time and he lost interest. I was busy chasiing some idiots back then. Anyways, he went on a 2-year mission for our church (we're LDS), and we didn't write or anything... in truth I pretty much forgot about him... until a freshman reunion. I realized he was on his mission when Return of the King came out, and remembered him being a Tolkien fan like myself, and asked him if he had seen it yet. He lied and said he hadn't and came over November 3rd, 2005... we've been together ever since. We got engaged February 18th and married August 2006.

Last december we moved to Houston Texas, where we could actually afford a house, and my husband started teaching high school math (he graduates and becomes official THIS WEEK- hooray!)

I've been wanting a baby for a LONG time now. I've always loved kids and nannied on and off through high school. When I was 18 and fresh out of High School, I went to live with my sister Becky for a little while. At the time, she had an ADORABLE 10-month-old, Andrew, and was pregnant with #2. Well, Andrew and I became best friends. He was this happy, chubby little kid and my heart melted. Here we are playing in a fountain:

Ever since then I've been dying for one of my own. When Kenny and I married, I made this "budget spreadsheet of doom" to calculate the exact moment we could afford to get pregnant, and planned for a year on that date. We were lucky and got pregnant first try, exactly as I planned it, on our one year anniversary while camping.
This was a huge deal to me- I have a history of painful ovarian cysts and have been diagnosed (and then undiagnosed) with PCOS as well as some other things I know I don't have. I've always had weird hormones and weird health problems, so I was prepared for a long TTC journey. We are so blessed that we got pregnant first try. I had charted and all that and the two week wait was a killer- I'm not sure I could go through that again:)

I've had an "easy" pregnancy. Haven't thrown up once, though I did lose my appetite for the whole first trimester and ending up losing 15 or 20 pounds. I've since gained about 40 back, so in the end I'm about 20 pounds up from where I started.

At 28 weeks, I was IMing with Lori, sharing our typical pregnancy complaints, when I noted I was feeling crampy all day and my back hurt. Nothing bad, just annoying. Well, I left the convo to have a call with a client, during which time Lori got in touch with our other sister, Becky (the source of all reproductive knowledge), who said that that is exactly how she had felt when she went into preterm labor with her first. So I get back from my call and Lori is freaking out about how I have to go to L&D NOW. So we do, and sure enough- I was having back-to-back contractions (so consistant that I wasn't feeling them come and go, so I hadn't thought they were contractions) and was beginning to dilate.
For 3 days, the hospital kept me on Magnesium Sulfate to stop the progression of labor. I got the steroid shots and got all kinds of poked and prodded. We were never too worried- it didn't feel like the baby would come yet- but it was a long, hard three days. And that magnesium sulfate is AWFUL! I did throw up from it once and then lost consciousness. Scary stuff. I had just started really thinking hard about birthing naturally and was so scared that the preterm labor had thrown off my plans.

Well, they finally stopped contractions and sent me home, and I've been on strict bedrest for 8 weeks. EIGHT WEEKS. It's a long time. Fortunately, I work from home 40 hours a week and have been able to continue that. It keeps me sane (most of the time).
For most of March, I had 4-6 painless contractions every hour, but they didn't progress labor much so I stopped paying attention. They only got noticable if I got up and moved around.

My little guy has been consistantly measuring ahead and seems to be one healthy little boy. I am SO ready to meet him, at last. I know I have another week before I'm full term, but after being so convinced for so long that he would come early, I'm ready to be done. I'm hoping next week is the week.

My greatest fear is being induced with pitocin. If that becomes necessary for whatver reason, I'm sure Ill give in and get an epi. Otherwise, I want to be IV-free (though I'll get a hep lock probably) and mobile. I've read Birthing from Within, and Ina May, and a few other books... bedrest kept me from attending any classes. I'm feeling as well prepared as a FTM can be, and Kenny will support me no matter what happens. We are doing the OB/Hospital route this time around but look forward to maybe a home birth next time.

At the moment, I'm contracting a couple times an hour and dilated to 4 cm (as of last week). I have my weekly appt today and am hoping to hear we've made some progress.

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Great intro! Loved all the pics. Keep us posted on the appointment!

Jessica

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Great intro and welcome to your lodge!

Cindy

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Welcome to your lodge, and congratulations on making it to 36 weeks, Jen! You had us all worried there for a while...

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My Dh is a math teacher too!! Smile

Love your pics and intro! How neat!

Your nephew is adorable!

Oh - you got engaged the day my DS was born. February 18th, 2006. Smile

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Congratulations! I enjoyed reading your intro.

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Great intro! I'm so happy you've managed to bake that baby this long.

And now that Lori's had hers, you have permission to go ahead whenever that baby of yours feels like he's done! Wink

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Congrats on your lodge! I love the Spreadsheet of Doom. I did something like that when I was TOC as well. Smile

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Welcome to your lodge Jen. Congrats on making it to 36 weeks. I enjoyed your intro and pics too. I've followed your story on our BB all along and it's so exciting that you have your lodge now and we're getting to the good bit! Biggrin

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** taken from seperate thread*

First, may I jsut say I am ecstatic about my new beautiful niece.

Well, today was my weekly appointment and I finally had my own doctor again (which may or may not be a good thing). I had started this pregnancy with a midwife (same as my sis Lori who had such a great birthing experience this morning) but since we moved halfway through the pregnancy, my options were pretty few and we took the first doctor that was recommended to us.

First, I'm very sad because this doctor seems pretty determined to have me on an IV and EFM the whole time. I had really hoped I could be mobile through a lot of the labor. Next time around I am DEFINITELY getting a midwife. Kenny is sweet though and is willing to fight really hard for me when we get to the hospital, since I'm so likely to cave and do whatever makes it easiest for the doctor.

I was hoping there would be some progress from last week's 4 cm, since I have been kind of uncomfortable and I'm very eager to meet this guy, even if I'm still not 37 weeks.
Anyways, she checked me out and I'm dilated to a...
large 6!!!
She's surprised, too, that my water hasn't already broken- apparently it's pretty much bursting. She definitely seemed really freaked out that I could be this far without being in active labor. Like, that was one nervous, scared doctor. Hardly confidence inspiring.
She told us to head over to L&D and she'd meet us there and we'd go ahead and do this thing.
!!!
My greatest labor fear is pitocin (and the whole cycle that can start) so we said we'd go home and see if we can't get labor moving on our own. She had a hard time with that, but it's obviously my decision. She did tell us (almost begged us) to come in this weekend while she's on call, and she'll go ahead and break my water to get things going.
So, if I want, I'm having a baby this weekend for sure.

BUT, I am nervous about having her break my water. If that doesn't start active labor, then they'd have to give me pitocin. I really don't want to force my body on this one, but I also don't want this baby to come so fast that my poor husband has to deliver it at home (we are NOT equipped for that, we're lucky if DH stays conscious through the whole thing.)
At this point I've done so much reading of Ina May and the like, that I'm so scared of ANY medical intervention. But then, this has definitely not been a typical labor.

So, the current plan is to see if we can't start labor ourselves (already tried the long walk thing) tonight and tomorrow. Come Saturday morning, we'll see how I feel. We'll probably pray long and hard about it, too. I want to do whatever is healthiest for this little guy.
I do think at this point, we'll get the water broken and have the baby this weekend- I'm relatively sure that if they broke my water that things would start happening for real, but I'd love any advice and insight you ladies can offer to help me keep my goal of a Natural Birth.

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Congrats!! This may be the shortest lodge ever!!

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Hi Jen. Wow, what exciting news about your being dialated 6cm already! I hope you get things going on your own. Thanks for sharing your pics and stories. I am going to pass on the "spreadsheet of doom" idea to a friend of mine who is waiting to have a baby - it's a great idea! Good luck!

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So after finally deciding to not have them break my water, I became fully determined to start labor on my own. We took a couple long walks (first time the puppy has had a walk in months) and (forgive the TMI) got me an orgasm (though no real DTD- DH still isn't comfortable with the idea of poking around in there right now). I don't know if anything we did made a difference or if my body was already at this point, but I definitely had a long, painful night. My contractions actually hurt now, and my lower back has been really sore. But, still no real pattern or reason to believe we have to go to the hospital now... I just really hope my water breaks so I'll have a clear sign that things are happening.

In other news, with recent developments, we've decided today will be my last day of work! HOORAY!!!

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Wow, this will be one short lodge. You've done everything I can think of to get labor going naturally. However, I would be hesitant to not go to the hospital at some point and time over the weekend to have them check my progress, because sometimes, your water won't break on it's own until the head is crowning. Sounds like it won't be long now!

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So my doctor called all morning to ask me to come in just to be measured- she's very nervous about me not getting to the hospital in time. So even though my contractions had calmed back down to nothing, I had DH come home from work and we went in around 11. I'm now at 7.5 cm!!! The doctor was much coooler this time around... she had us walk around the hospital for 2 hours to see if that started anything up. It didn't, so she sent us back home. I think she finally got the picture that I don't want to force the baby to come yet so there isn't much she can do.
Obviously if ANYTHING changes we'll be going back in.

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Welcome to your lodge and um, wow! I can't believe you're walking around at 7.5 cm!! That's great that your OB is easing up a bit and giving the baby time to come when it's ready, which I'm sure is going to be soon.

Great introduction btw and beautiful pictures. Oh and ELV Smile

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7.5 cm? That's incredible!

Good for you for staying so calm with your doctor. She is stressing me out from all the way over here...

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Wow, Mama!!!!!!!!

I haven't been checked yet, but I can only hope I'm that far along when I go in. Smile

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Eep! 7.5! That is AWESOME! Your dh must be getting a tad nervous about transit time to the hospital, hmm??

If you want to try a few other things to 'stir the pot' (I won't say 'get things moving', because they obviously already are) you could try any or all of the following:

a. nipple stimulation (even a hot facecloth on and off in intervals can do this if you are tender to the touch)

b. a nice thorough foot rub with strong pressure

c. fresh pineapple

d. a spell on the swings at a kiddie playground- same principle as walking, but adds centrifugal force to the mix and is a ton of fun, to boot... plus, easier on the legs after a long hike

e. jog a flight of stairs.

f. sex (well duh, I know you knew that one) or, at the very least a couple of orgasms (I've heard of a midwife that advises ten in one night as a way to avoid an induction... 0.0 at the very least you'll be smiling in the morning lol)

g. a really, REALLY funny movie... the kind that will have you laughing until you feel like you are going to wet yourself (or actually do!)

and lastly

h. a belly rub. If you've got an irritable uterus, or crampy tummy that seems to contract at the littlest thing, a belly rub can actually speed things along... and can feel really nice at the same time.

Hopefully things stay nice and manageable and you time your arrival to the hospital perfectly Smile

Stef

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As Lori so kindly posted, Daniel Jackson arrived last night, April 26th, at 8:13 pm.


(more pics at http://picasaweb.google.com/jooniper/BabyDaniel- no real "money" shots yet, he's just not posing for us)

The basics:
-7 pounds, 11 ounces and 19 inches long
-Technically a premie because he was born before the 28th
-9 on his APGAR
-His name is Daniel Jackson. Daniel, because it's a good name:) (though perhaps a little common), and Jackson is a family name on the Kunz side (from his Grandma Laura Kunz's maiden name and also Kenny's father's middle name). I'd imagine he'll be a Danny, but not a Dan.
-He was born after 6 hours of "active" labor, after 13 hours in the hospital, and after almost exactly 2 months of prodromal labor.
-We've gotten a good hour of breastfeeding in, but the silly kid is very content to do nothing but sleep
-He's got a crazy cone-head from the delivery (should round out in just a couple days) and no birthmarks that we can tell
-He has very sparse blondeish hair and beautiful blue eyes (all 3 times I've seen them open)

So, the whole story (very long, including some perhaps gross details):
As I posted in my last post, we went to the hospital Friday and found out I was 7.5 cm dilated. We made history by being discharged while being that far dilated. I was REALLY hoping that this weekend would be it.
Friday night nothing seemed to be happening. About 5 in the morning on Saturday both Kenny and I woke up and were um, "in the mood". We decided to try DTD to get things going. It was the first time in 8 weeks. Needless to say, it was short:). In truth, VERY short and hardly invasive at all, but apparently it was still enough, as when we were done I was bleeding like crazy (like, more than a period) and it looked like it might be mixed with amniotic fluid, so I went and chilled in the empty bathtub while Kenny made some breakfast (pillsbury cinnamon rolls) and got all our final preparations out of the way. We then headed to the hospital around 7 am. I was finally having regular contractions I could feel (though they still didn't really hurt per se) and was dilated to an 8, so they admitted me. They couldn't get a good test on whether or not I was leaking Amniotic Fluid.
I had a GREAT nurse. While she herself was all for medical interventions and such, she fought hard for me to get the natural experience I wanted. My doctor had wanted me on an IV and monitors the whole time which would have kept me in bed on my back, but I wanted to be able to move around and do whatever helped me get through the pain. Apparently the nurse told my Doctor (who's still fairly young, and nice enough) that "such-and-such a doctor let's their natural patients do this all the time" and convinced her it wouldn't be the end of the world if I didn't have an IV and they only monitored the baby intermittently.
We asked them how many women went natural and they said "um, just you:)" We hard some screams of bloody murder from the room next door and I'll admit, I was surprised to learn that that woman had had an epidural and was still screaming like that. Yikes.

Just after they admitted me and got me my own room(which happened to be the same room I had in February), contractions stopped altogether for a while. It was pretty disappointing. They weren't gonna let me go home at 8 cm dilated and with a (perhaps) broken water, but I didn't want pitocin or anything like that to get labor going, though I wasn't dead set against it either, since I was already at 8 centimeters and had so little to go. Apaprently the baby's head was so tight against my bag of waters that it was essentially cutting it off.
At about noon, the doctor went ahead and broke (or finished breaking) my water to get things moving. It took a couple of hours, but by 2 pm I was having some crazy contractions.

We watched Newsies and I sang along through my contractions while bouncing on the birthing ball and eating Popsicles. That makes it sound much funner than it was:). Around 5 the contractions got to be really strong and I'd grab and squeeze/rub Kenny's hand as hard as I could. He was great. The baby was turned to the side a bit so we tried various positions and stuff to make him turn- all of which seemed to make the contractions more intense. At 6 I started pushing. It took two nurses and the doctor- the nurses held my legs up for me which really helped. To the point I freaked out any time a contraction came and they weren't both right there.
Pushing was REALLY intense. I don't know why I thought it would go faster. It was frustrating because I couldn't really tell what progress was being made. They set up a mirror so I could see, but it wasn't like I pictured- I couldn't see too much because for most of it, it's still all pretty internal. I could just see myself get more frightfully torn up and messy down there... in the future I think I'll opt for no mirror:)
Still, the pain wasn't unbearable. Really, the worst part was the relentless of it. To any woman who's labored for longer than 8 hours, KUDOS to you. I can't fathom having to keep at it for longer than I did. It wasn't the painfulness, it was the lack of an escape, even a temporary one. Because the baby was turned sidewise, there was always some pretty intense pressure in my back. I never did get too loud but I'm sure I made all sorts of funny sounds.
Towards the end the doctor said "we're going to go ahead and make this opening a little bigger for the baby" and I said "um, what?" I told the doctor I'd rather not have an episiotomy, so she backed off. Sure enough, I have a third degree tear going backwards that's going to take some serious healing. Still, I feel content having torn rather than having been cut- now I can always know that what happened was exactly what needed to happen. The tear didn't hurt too bad at the time and I never had huge problems with the "ring of fire" so many women describe- most of the pain I felt was just the pressure of having a baby right there.

Kenny was AMAZING. HE was in charge of ice cubes for me:) and did a great job. He did need to leave the room once for some fresh air and grape juice right at the end, but that's better than an uncomfortable (or worse, unconscious) Kenny. He was there for the delivery and teared up a bit. It was so sweet.
When Daniel finally came out, they immediately placed him on my chest and we snuggled. He was big and healthy and snuggly. He rested right on my breast and apparently inhaled a bit much of it and his little feet and hands turned purple (the reason he didn't score a 10 on his APGAR). He got to rest with me for a long time while the doctor stitched me up.
I've never known an exhaustion to be so deep. I shook like mad for the whole following 12 hours or so. But I've never been so happy or proud, either. He's my beautiful little boy and I wouldn't change a thing.
He's spent probably 75% of his time with us and the other 25% in the nursery being checked for various things. We'll probably be at the hospital until tomorrow at this time. Thanks everyone so much for the prayers and well-wishes!

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I am absoultely amazed at you girls getting your birth stories out before you even leave the hospital. Congratulations on a successful natural childbirth. He's a beautiful baby.

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Congratulations -your birth story sounds perfect -sorry about the tear but it heals quicker than you think.

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Congrats! He is beautiful!!!

Great job momma!!!

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CONGRATS!!!!

What a beautiful birth story, and a gorgeous little boy!!

Thank God for that nurse! She sounds great!

It's interesting how different each birth experience is though. Having a mirror was one of my favorite parts the first birth, but I could see David's head the whole time ..so that's probably the difference.

Your birth story is really amazing!! It sounds like you have a great Dh too!

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Newsies is a great movie! Woot!

Way to go mama, that was a great birth! Danny is a cutie. Biggrin

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Congratulations Jenn! He's beautiful!

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Congratulations!! I am so glad you git the birth experience that you wanted. And way to go for saying NO to the episiotomy in the throws of labor!! Way to go!!

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What an awesome birth story! Sorry for the tear. I had 3rd degree tearing myself, so I know how you're probably feeling "down there." It DOES get so much better in a week's time. If you have any questions about anything regarding that, PM me.

BTW, your LO is gorgeous! Congrats!

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Congrats! Daniel is adorable :).

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Congratulations! What a fast, easy birth and a big healthy son! I hope your postpartum goes as smooth and lovely as your birthing experience did, and post more pictures when you get the chance. YAY Jenn!

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Congratulations!!! I am so glad that you were able to have the birth you had anticipated! (also hello from another LDS).

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Congratulations again, Jen! I'm so glad everything went so well.

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Congratulations Jen. Daniel is a gorgeous little man! :jumpingbeans:

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Thanks everyone! We're doing great (currently breastfeeding so I'm typing one handed:)). Got some more pics at http://picasaweb.google.com/jooniper/BabyDanielII.

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He is simply gorgeous! Congrats mama! Welcome to the world little Daniel Smile

I loved your birth story, too. Hope the stitches heal up quickly though, ouch!

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Congrats Smile :)

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Wowsers! 8 cm and hardly any pain? Wow. I cringe at the part where you tore. Ouchie. You have such a beautiful son, and I'm glad you got that nurse, and your DH is awesome. WTG mama!!!!

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He's a beautiful little boy - congratulations to you!

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Congrats again, he is so cute, and I loved your birth story, happy to hear that your DH made it.

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Congrats Jen, Daniel is so beautiful! Please pass congrats to DH as well...Take good care, Mommy!!!!

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Congratulations! Jenn!!! Beautiful pictures!:D