Welcome to your lodge!!!
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Congratulations!! Looking forward to getting to know you better!!
I am so excited for you!!
Welcome to your lodge!
Oh wow what a lovely surprise! Thanks girls.
I feel bad that I haven't been posting on this board much lately. I didn't expect the temp job I took on almost 3 months ago would still be going. Life has been a bit hectic and having no internet for 3 weeks when we moved house was tough! I'm finishing work on Tuesday so will be able to enjoy a bit of "me" time before bub arrives.
:woohoo: I'm so happy about having a lodge - I could really do with some encouragement. This is my first pregnancy and has gone very smoothly until now. I'm not doing too badly but having GD has taken a little adjusting to. I'm feeling fine but have had a few high glucose readings. I'm expecting to be told on Monday I'll have to go on insulin. I know I'm not the only one and it's only for a short time. GD has changed a few things though. I'm going through the public health system because that gives me a much better chance of having a natural birth. The way the system works at my hospital is that you go into a ballot for different levels of care. Stream 4 means one on one care with a midwife. I was quite lucky to get into stream 3 which means being cared for by a small team of midwives, and probably not needing to have an OB present for the birth. Because I've had a "complication", I am no longer low risk and have lost my place in stream 3. Now I see a different OB every week and I won't know who will be attending the birth.
Thank goodness we (my fiance Matt and I) hired a doula! She is wonderful and is coming over on Saturday to go through a lot of things with us. I've been told by the OB's that I'm carrying an excessive amount of fluid around the baby, and am therefore at risk of PROM and cord prolapse. Our doula did say it's possible (because of GD) that we may end up with a more medicalised birth than we'd hoped for. She thinks the hospital staff are trying to frighten me though and said not to give too much thought to the idea of PROM and cord prolapse or I might just manifest it.
My Ina May's Guide finally arrived from the US last week - perfect timing. She's awesome! The postive birth stories are really helping to get me into a good frame of mind. I've just read the chapter on "sphincter law" which was very interesting. The only problem with the book is the more I read the less comfortable I feel about giving birth in a hospital. I did seriously consider home birth but it just wasn't an option for us financially this time, and I guess now the GD may have ruled that out anyway. I still don't see myself as a sick person and the idea of having strangers around when I give birth is bothering me. I'm going to have to work through these feelings.
Well that's not really an intro! I'll be back later to post that. I just needed to get some stuff off my chest first. Thanks.
Oh Maria!!! I can't believe it's time for your lodge already!!!! :woohoo: I look forwad to reading it and following your journey.
Welcome to your lodge Maria!
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge! Time sure has flown!
I'm sorry that the GD has complicated things, but try to stay positive. Just because it *could* mean a more medicalized birth doesn't mean the NCB you're hoping for is out of reach. Having a doula is going to be a great asset for you!
Welcome to your lodge! The GD thing sure is a curve ball, but you have done everything you can to continue on the path you had planned. Can't wait to follow along while you take this wonderful journey
Yay I plan to stalk this!!
Great to be able to hear your story. I will have to stalk this for updates!!
Hi Maria and welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to reading your official intro.
Ok it's intro time...
My name is Maria, I'm 36 and the "baby" of my family. I have 3 brothers who are now in their mid 50's, my Dad is 80 and my Mum is 75. I grew up in a small city called Toowoomba in Australia, it's in Queensland and about 90min/2 hrs drive from Brisbane and the Gold and Sunshine Coasts. I moved to the Sunshine Coast in my 20's to spread my wings and had a lot of fun. I've been back in Toowoomba for 12 months now but don't plan to stay here forever.
I've worked mostly in retail selling products such as clothing, footwear, homewares and mobile phones. I've been sewing since I was 10 years old and have also worked as an assistant for a fashion designer. I still do some dressmaking for people I know and can't wait to make some cute things for my baby! For the last few months I've been in my first office job and loving it. I'm a coverage advocate for a telco. They're closing an outdated network and have opened a new, improved one. My role is to assist customers with their migration by providing an information service. It's made such a nice change from what I've done before and I don't ever want to go back to retail! I'm finishing work on Tuesday, however have the opportunity to work from home for the same company later in the year - which would be great.
As for my lovelife.... I'm one of those poor girls who had kiss a few frogs before she met her prince! I had some really nice boyfriends over the years, but I just couldn't seem to meet anyone I really wanted to settle down with. I liked to think of myself as a "free spirit". For the last 9 years I've been "mum" to a beautiful black cat named Jasper. She has been a wonderful companion over the years and I don't know what I would have done without her unconditional love. I've always been crazy about cats and when I was a little girl I thought it would be cool to be the "crazy cat lady" when I grew up and have at least 10 of them! By the time I was in my early 30's and the right man hadn't turned up - I was seriously thinking being the cat lady might be a good option. Then along came a guy I thought might be "the one". He asked me to marry him and I accepted, however it became obvious with time that he really wasn't the one. He was lovely and charming for a while until he started to care more about beer, tv and fishing than he cared about me. Any woman with self respect would walk away from that. I wasn't sure I wanted children at all until my biological clock began to tick in my early 30's. I knew this guy was not going to be a good father to my children. I'd been unhappy with most aspects of my life for a while, so I called off the wedding, quit my job, packed up and moved back to my hometown. My Dad turned 80 about then and needed me (my parents are divorced). My best friends back home were having babies and I really wanted to be close to the people who do love me.
So there I was... single, 30-something, living back at home and hanging out with my married friends. I'm a firm believer that if you don't get out of your comfort zone you won't grow... so I decided to give online dating a try. It was a bit scary at first and I did encounter a couple of creepy desperadoes, but after only 2 weeks a really sweet and non-sleazy guy started chatting with me. His name was Matt, he lived in Brisbane and was just charming enough without coming on too strong. We started IMing and moved on to chatting on the phone for hours. He had the sexiest voice I'd ever heard, was very good-looking, had a great personality, was smart and was very interested in me. That seemed a bit too good to be true so I tried very hard not to get my hopes up. It felt like we were beginning to form a very strong connection, but I was afraid of getting hurt as anyone would be. After a couple of weeks of chatting he made the trip to meet me in person. I had never been so nervous/excited/beside myself in my life!!! We had arranged a meeting spot and when I saw him step out of that car and we first laid eyes on each other it seemed as though time stood still. The next thing I knew we were in each other's arms and we've stayed that way as much as possible ever since. I can't help but think of the corny old saying "when you meet the one you just know". I used to think that was a load of rubbish but now I know what people mean when they say that. Matt is the man who has made me feel the most like the real me. He makes me feel special all of the time, not just now and again. I've always dreamed of finding a man who was funny, exciting, loving and affectionate and it took me a while to accept it had actually happened!
It's been quite a whirlwind romance and we were starting to talk about marriage when we got a little surprise - I fell pregnant. We already knew we wanted to have a family together so of course were overjoyed. We weren't actually trying to conceive, but weren't "not trying" IYKWIM? I truly believed at my age it would have been a lot more difficult - so was a bit shocked at first. Matt soon moved in with me at my Dad's so we could save to get our own place before bub would be due to arrive. It appears that we're having a little girl! Matt found a great job as a business development manager for an events company and we became engaged on February 15 this year - the day after Valentine's Day.
Soon after we found the perfect house and settled in. Matt has an 8 year old son called Jayden who is just adorable. He comes to stay often and we are having lots of fun getting to know each other. Jayden's very excited about his little sister on the way and loves to feel her kicking through my belly. We gave him a copy of her 18 week u/s pic and he has it on his bedroom wall at his Mum's place. I pointed out to Matt that a "birds and bees" talk might be neccessary soon if Jayden had any questions. Well I was the one who got the question: "but how is the baby going to get out?" :eek: All I could think of to say at the time was "maybe you should ask your Dad - he was there when you were born - he knows all about it"!
So here we are excitedly awaiting the arrival of our little bundle of joy. I'd begun to accept that motherhood might never happen for me, so I'm totally thrilled that I'm not going to miss out after all!
:lurk: from The aussie board!! :woohoo:
Hey maria! :bighug:
Thanks for the link to this page!! wow! how amazing your story is. I will be sure to keep checking back on this one. til you bought up the whole "lodge" thing, i never had any idea what it was.. your whole story sounds like a fairytale. Like cinderella hehe!!
awws u and matt look so gorgeous together up there ..
I wish you all the best
And welcome to your LODGE!!!
Great story even though I already knew it.
yes me too!! maria tells it so well though
I love the pic of you and your SO! You are so pretty!
Hi Maria. Great intro and great story about how you and DH met!
I love your story of how you and SO met. And your response to Jayden..."ask your dad"...lol...that's great
Beautiful photo... you guys make a perfect couple!!! Plus you are so gorjus huni!
Love your response to Jayden
Well I'm having a lovely weekend and I hope you all are too.
It's a long weekend here - Friday was a public holiday for ANZAC day. We didn't go to any services or parades this year. I usually do go along to pay my respects to those who defended our country. My Grandfather served in the army in Darwin when it was bombed in WW2. He lived to the ripe old age of 101. One of the sad things about me having left motherhood until a bit later in life is that none of my grandparents are around to share in the joy.
Our doula Leah came over today for a couple of hours so we could could have a really good chat. Some of you may remember that she's my pre-natal yoga instuctor and that's how I got to know her. I find her to be a very relaxing person to be around and associate a lot of good feelings with her, so when I found out she's also a doula I knew she would be a wonderful person to have in my support team. Leah has attended quite a few births at the hospital we're going to and knows some of the midwives there. She's familiar with the way things are normally done there and has helped to put my mind at ease that we should be able to create to kind of birth experience I'm hoping for. If all is going well the hospital staff try to leave you as undisturbed as possible. Leah also does reflexology so I'm going to see her for a treatment next week. I've tried lots of different alternative therapies but this will be my first reflexology treatment. I'm looking forward to it. I saw my naturopath Barry for a massage and spinal adjustment this week. He's great! I suffer from scoliosis in the thoracic area and he always manages to relieve the pain of that. He also gave me some homeopathic remedies to help lower my blood sugar and encourage bub to get into a good postion.
Matt and I are going to Brisbane for the day tomorrow. His family all live there and we're going to visit a few of them. Two of his sisters have chipped in and bought us a change table which we'll be bringing home. I'm excited!
looks like everything is going along smoothly!! i still cant believe ur nearly 37 weeks already :eek: you're gonna make a perfect mumma!!! and the pics u showed on previous page with casper and jayden with matt are so cute! and the pattern for ur wedding dress is gonna look great hun!! what a great thing that you And ur mum are going to do it together. Thats something to treasure
Thats great about ur doula too!! she sounds so wonderful!
The pictures are wonderful and I'm so glad that your comfortable with a hospital birth.
Just wanted to wish you good luck with the upcoming birth Can't wait to hear of the arrival of your LO. Good luck hon i know you can do it.
I will also be a stalker of this thread.
Thanks everyone for all of your lovely words.
I'm so proud of myself and feeling strong!!! Someone tried to make me afraid of birth today and I didn't let her. It was my SIL (to be). She had her 3 children around 20 years ago and I do appreciate her advice sometimes. I wasn't asking for advice today but you know how it is.... We were talking about how I'm feeling well and I mentioned that I'm feeling quite calm about the birth. She said "I'll always remember the advice my mother gave me about birth - just think of it as the worst pain you'll ever experience in your whole life." Fortunately I've just finished reading Ina May's Guide and I'm in a very different mindset. SIL is quite a blunt person so I knew I could speak my mind without offending her. I responded with: "I'm sorry but I refuse to buy into that way of thinking. It is different for everyone and it might not neccessarily be that way. I've read a lot of encouraging birth stories and have spoken to women who wouldn't describe it that way. I don't see the point in going into it with that sort of an attitude because that will only cause fear which actually increases the perception of pain." I spoke about the difference between sick pain and healthy pain and ended the topic on a lighter note by saying I'm actually more afraid of dealing with a teenager than giving birth. She seemed a little surprised yet impressed with my attitude. I guess she was almost 20 years younger than I am when she had her first baby, and probably wasn't as well informed, so therefore would have been a lot more frightened. Of course I won't know until it's happening what the pain will actually be like. I just can't see the point in thinking "wow this is going to be pure agony!"
Matt and I went to visit his other sister next and the topic came up with her as well. I told her what SIL #1 had said and she said "oh no she tried that with me too." (SIL #2 has 3 children under 10.) She said she didn't find giving birth to be all that excruciating and actually enjoyed some parts of it. I'm feeling strong enough right now to be able to block out negativity and only listen to the positive stuff.
Bravo to you maria!!!! :udawoman: "you can do it" (in the cheesy Adam Sandler movie voice) I have every faith in you being able to have the birth you are after. I am thinking of you heaps :bigarmhug:
Go mamma!! As always you're on my mind!
it is so good to read up on u hun and hear that ure doing so well!!!!! I can't believe u will be 37weeks tomorrow! that is just crazy!!!! and it is so close to bubs coming! how exciting!!!!!! U r gonna make one fantastic mum hun!!!!!
Way to go girl, and well done on not going into labour on the highway yesterday!! (I know how rough and bumpy it is in my car!)
and it's my last day at work!
I made it after the "warnings" of pre-term labour/PROM. I thought I would.
I'm feeling just a little sad about leaving work because I've really enjoyed myself there and everyone is so nice. I've made some friends there I'm going to keep in touch with. I am excited though about being able to focus totally on preparing for birth and being a mum.
I think I'll go to pre-natal yoga tonight. It will be my turn to be the roundest girl there!
Congrats on being full term!!
Congrats on making it to full term huni!
After reading about the adjustments and other remedies you've gone through, even I feel relaxed. Yay for last days of work!
Wow. I was also moved by your story of how you met Matt. He's cute I totally see why you fell in love. I can't wait to see pictures of that dress you both make!!!
Maria, I loved reading your back story and especially how you and Matt met! I'm so glad you held out and didn't marry that other one. I know how frustrating it is to keep waiting for someone better to come along as the birthdays roll by, but when they finally do come along it makes the wait worthwhile!
He looks like such a kind man, and Jayden is proof that he makes cute kids!
I love the wedding dress material--I can't wait to see pics of the real thing down the line!
Glad you are doing so well and congrats on making it to full term and being done with work. It's good that you were able to come up with some good retorts when SIL was trying to scare you. I totally agree with you about healthy pain vs sick pain. When I think back to my labor w/DD I don't even remember it as pain in the way I can recall injuries and post-surgical pain. Instead, the word that comes to mind is "intense." Sure it hurt but the intensity of the feeling and not the "painfulness" is what sticks with me.
Hope you enjoyed your yoga class!
I'm just catching up & really enjoyed your story, it's wonderful that you are so close to Jayden and that he's so excited for his baby sister! Way to keep a positive mindset too, something everyone can benefit from.
Thanks ladies. I'll have to tell Matt about the compliments. He's sweetheart and a good gene-pool... I'm a very lucky girl!
It's my first day as a "housewife" and I'm so happy. I've been looking forward to this for many many years. I do enjoy working (well I did like most of my jobs), but I have really been longing to focus totally on creating a happy family and a warm, welcoming home. I know there will be tough times when I'm going to be sleep deprived and frazzled and the house will be a huge mess - but I'm ready for the challenge!
My last day at work was great. I'm going back on Friday afternoon for a get-together which is a combination farewell for me and celebration of the old phone network closure. I've swapped numbers with a few of the friends I've made there and look forward to keeping in touch. The big boss confirmed yesterday that there will definately be some work for me to do from home in a few month's time.
As for pregnancy news... I had an ante-natal clinic visit on Monday. I had a u/s, saw the diabetes doctor and then an OB. The GD doc was fairly happy with my condition. There is some room for improvement with my glucose levels. If I'm a bit stricter with my diet I can avoid insulin and probably won't need an IV when I arrive at the hospital to give birth. I'm happy about that. Whenever I think of putting a cookie in my mouth I'll just picture a nasty old IV! That should work.
So... the OB... he seemed ok (another one I've never met before). We went over my u/s results which again show no signs of macrosomia. Bub looks great! She's starting to move down. The level of amniotic fluid has gone down in the last 2 weeks so that I'm just inside the top of the normal range. Great! So why then did the OB say that if I still have some excess fluid it might be a good idea to induce labour at 40 weeks? Hmmm. All I said was that I'd only consider a induction if bub's health is at risk. Matt wasn't with me and I wanted to do some research before I discuss the issue any further with hospital staff. After talking with our doula and doing some homework - I don't believe an induction for the sole reason of a bit of extra fluid is at all neccessary. I think (and our doula agrees) that the hospital just like to try it on incase I was to say "yes please!" Then I would have a "nice" medically-controlled birth at a time that would suit them, with less chance (in their eyes) of something going wrong. Unless they can prove to me that an induction is absolutely neccessary because my baby is at risk - I will not be having one. I've discovered that keeping my blood glucose down will help to decrease the level of fluid. It seems that is the reason it's already decreased. If I be really disciplined with my diet and manage to reduce the fluid level to the middle of the normal range... the "too much fluid" issue goes out the window doesn't it? Just watch me...
Sounds great, welcome to being a SAHM (soon to be) Its really nice.
I'm happy to hear that you wont have the induction looming over you.
Today was a good day. I went to see my doula for a reflexology treatment, then went to a 2 hour breastfeeding class at the antenatal clinic. The class was run by a midwife and was very interesting and informative. It's all new to me so it was great to get some advice.
After finding out more about the hospital's policies I can leave a few points out of my birth plan, as they already do things the way I would like. As long as all is well, my baby will be placed directly onto my chest and all procedures will be delayed until she has breastfed successfully. They really emphasise the importance of skin to skin contact and prefer that bub stays on mum for at least the first hour before anyone else holds her. Matt thinks that sounds like a long time though and I'm sure he'll be really keen to have a cuddle asap. What do you ladies think about that?
Because I have GD I need to start expressing now so we have reserves incase bub is hypoglycaemic after the birth. The midwife gave me a lesson in what to do. Wow it really seems to take a lot of work just to get a little bit, but she assured me a little bit can go a long way.
It's past my bedtime now so I'll say nitey-nite! :sleep:
Awe, he sounds like a great daddy wanting to hold the baby as soon as possible!! My guess is, the hospital wants the baby on you to keep the baby warm ..skin to skin contact. However, after breastfeeding and all, I'm sure Matt can hold the baby. If the baby is cold, have him take off his shirt and do skin to skin. The boy temperature warms up the baby.
Your hosptial sounds really good!
I'm finding expressing a bit tricky. I can get a few drops from the right side but there's not much coming from the left. It's hard to believe that miniscule amount will be able to do any good. I had a dream that it suddenly got easier and I was filling up jars with no trouble! I'll have a hot shower soon and try again. Any advice at all would be much appreciated.
Jumping on here to say Congratulations!!! Really liked your how we met story. I'm really excited for you to be at home.:D