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~*~*Beth's (countrygirl83) Birth Lodge*~*~

Hi hun, I'm being a little bit lazy and just guessing that this is the day I am supposed to get this going. I hope I'm right:) Welcome, I'm excited to follow your story!

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welcome to your lodge! i'm excited to follow your journey!

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Thank you! I am excited and am grateful for all the support you ladies provide!
A little about me:
I come from a family of 9 siblings. My mom had them all natural without any meds. I suppose you could say she is one of the main reasons I have chosen NCB. I realized if she could have 10 children (all but one over 9 lbs) using NCB, then I could at least give it a try.
I met my wonderful DH at work. I am an RN and he is an Anesthesiologist. We had known each other for more than 2 years before we even started talking. I was chair person for a committee and I enlisted his help to teach a Code Blue refresher course. We started talking casually and we realized that we had many similar interests (horses, church, being outdoors). After another 6 months or so, we started dating. Our first date he came to my church and met my family. I knew then he must be pretty interested if he would put up with that for a "date". Smile
We were married after dating for a total of 9 months. Our son was conceived a month after we were married. I planned on going natural when giving birth and so we practiced relaxation techniques. The last few weeks of my pregnancy, my BP started to gradually climb. My OB was very conservative and had a very low induction and c-section rate. However, he started talking about induction at my 39 week appt. My swelling was terrible so he prescribed lasix for me to take and told me to go home and stay on bedrest until my 40 week appt. He told me before I took the lasix to think and pray about it as he wasn't completely comfortable giving it to me. I never filled the prescription as I felt the risks were too great.
I was completely prepared to go at least a few days over my EDD and was absolutely surprised when, at a little before midnight on the night before my EDD, I woke up to use the restroom and had a ton of bloody show. It wasn't just a little pink tinged mucus, it was like a period. I realized that the back pain I had been feeling that night was actually contractions. I had done a few natural induction methods in the few days preceding since my OB was talking medical induction, but I didn't really expect it to work! Prune juice, walking, nipple stimulation, and Eggplant Parm apparently really work or it was just a nice coincidence. Smile
To make a long story short, I was in labor, but very early labor. However, my BP was very high so I was admitted and not allowed to get up except to use the bathroom (UGH!). I tolerated the contractions well until my OB broke my water at 9 am. At this point I was only 4 cm. The contractions intensified but spaced out. After two hours I was still only 4 cm. I knew the next step was Pitocin so I consented to a non-narcotic epidural. I was so tired. They started Pitocin at around 12 pm. I was able to sleep for a few hours. At 5:15 I was ready to push. I could still feel the contractions so I knew when to push. Truman was born at 6 pm weighing 8 lbs 5 oz and he was 22" long. I had a small tear that required four stitches.
I felt like I had let myself down by getting the epidural, but I knew that had I not agreed to it, I might not have had the strength to push. Truman was VERY alert and breastfed from the start like a pro. I wish things had gone differently, but I had a very healthy baby and a quick recovery.
This pregnancy has been very different from my pregnancy with DS from the start. I never had a period, so didn't realize I was pregnant until I started having MS. The MS only lasted until I was around 18 weeks and it wasn't as severe as what I had with DS (it lasted the entire 9 months). We found out at our 19 week U/S that we are having a girl. When I was about 24 weeks, I was informed that my OB would no longer be delivering babies. He is in his 70's and has cancer, so it didn't come as a surprise. The search for a new OB began. Fortunately, DH works with all of my OB options, so we were able to pick one that seemed to fit my criteria (low c-section and low induction rates). She is very sweet and personable.
I feel more pressure and back pain during this pregnancy than I did with DS. I attribute it to chasing a toddler all day and to the fact that this baby sits really low. So far my BP has been very good and I am hoping not to have to worry about it this time. My next appt is Wednesday and they will do another U/S to guestimate size and make sure the LO is head down. I cannot believe I am 36 weeks already. We still don't have a name picked. I think we will probably be undecided until she is born.
Well, I didn't mean to write a novel, but it looks like I did! I am looking forward to sharing the next several weeks with you ladies!:D

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Neat story! I hope you get your natural birth this time, although it sounds like for Truman the epidural was completely necessary.

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Welcome to your lodge, Beth! I think that under the circumstances of your first birth, the epidural was necessary, and you have probably read my explanations about how I had a sort of similar experience last time, and I completely understand the disapointment. I hope this time you get to have a spontaneous labor and natural birth.

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Nice intro! I'm glad I didn't wait it looks like I was a day late as it is:) Hope you have a good afternoon and I'm excited to see how this works out for you!

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I had an OB appt today. I had to wait an hour, but it was worth it. The U/S measurements are right on target for my EDD. My OB is guessing that this LO will be average size- around 7 1/2 lbs. I hope she is right.
My first BP measurement was "high". I don't know how high as the MA wouldn't tell me numbers, but she took it again a few minutes later and it was 122/68. Still in the normal range for me. YAY! I had gained around 4 lbs in the past two weeks. However, I was not swollen at my last appt and this appt my feet were very puffy. I tend to fluctuate by 2-3 lbs in water weight from morning to afternoon. My total weight gain is now around 23 lbs.
She did a Strep B swab and checked my cervix. She said I am "very soft", 2 cm on the outside, 1 cm on the inside, but still fairly long. Her "guess" is that I should go right around my EDD. Again, I hope her guesses are right. It's nice to know that these silly BHs are doing something.
So a good appt with some signs of "progress". Of course, it could mean absolutely nothing, but it makes it easier to be positive these last few weeks if there are some indications that I won't be pregnant forever!

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Sounds like you had a good appointment, hope the doctor is right and you make it to your due date!

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Sounds good to me! Any fun weekend plans?

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Good appointment! I hope you get the birth you want this time.

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"graysonsmom" wrote:

Sounds good to me! Any fun weekend plans?

My family is going to Arkansas to my uncle's cabin in the middle of the Ozarks. I REALLY want to go, but it's a 4 hour drive and DH can't go, so I will just stay here and wish I was over there splashing in the creek!

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I hope you have fun at home. Maybe you couuld take Truman to the pool?

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Hey Beth! Welcome to your lodge!

I'm excited to follow your journey and I'm wishing you the birth you desire!

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Yay Beth! Welcome to your Lodge. Sorry I am a little late in welcoming you here. I haven't been to this board for a few days. Things have been busy.

Great intro story! I am sorry you didn't get the exact birth experience you wanted with Truman but it sounds like his birth turned out the best possible way for you and him under the circumstances. You did a good job. :bigarmhug:

I hope this birth is all that you desire and everything goes so wonderful for you. I look forward to following the rest of your journey. Smile

I am also glad your appointment went so well yesterday. You are getting so close! I hope you are pretty much ready for your little girl as you only have a few weeks left. Smile

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Thanks Ayelet and Kimia! I am trying really hard to remain positive and just educate myself as much as possible about NCB. I am excited and very nervous at the same time!
Vanessa, hopefully we can find some water to cool off in. Probably play in the sprinkler or something Smile

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Well, any luck finding a place to cool down? I hope all is going well for you this weekend, and I look forward to a new update!

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We had a nice relaxing day yesterday. DH had to work all night Friday night. When he got home he took us out to breakfast at a little cafe. It was so good.
We pretty much just sat around a lot, watched a movie, and I did some cleaning. I got really crampy after I started cleaning and was having BHs that were fairly regular for about 3 hours. They weren't all that painful, just irritating, so I wasn't too worried. I hope it means things are going to be good and ready when I do go into labor. Smile

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it's a good indicator! with all my stopping and starting and months of strong labor-like BH, once my body started for real, it was 3 hours until he was born! And DD was the same, only 4 hours from the real start of things! Hopefully it will be nice and quick and easy for you too.

Sounds like a lovely day!

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Oh dear, ya'll are starting to scare me a little with all the talk of BH making real labor shorter. I really don't want a freeway baby LOL.

It does sound like things are moving right along for you Beth, hopefully this little one will come right on time or early!

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Sounds like a great day! Shall be interesting to see what's instore for your labor.

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Ok, I am going to vent for a minute. And I don't mean for this post to offend anyone who has had or might need an induction. I realize that there are circumstances that necessitate inducing.
Friday night, I was talking to a good friend of mine that I went to nursing school with. She worked as a nurse for about 3 years in L&D at the hospital I will be delivering at. I love her, but she is very opinionated.
Anyway, she asked me if I was being induced soon. I said, "Um, no, I am hoping to avoid an induction if at all possible.". Her answer?
"Well, it's nice to have it planned." :eek:
I had forgotten that she had scheduled inductions at 38 weeks with her two youngest girls. I said that I would like for baby to come when she is ready. She says, "Are you AFRAID of an induction?"
Afraid? Afraid of telling my body when to do something that it should naturally know when to do? Afraid of contractions that are more intense and harder on the baby than natural labor would be? Afraid of doubling my chance of a C/S?
I just said no, that I thought it would just be best not to unless I needed it, and that I was going to do my best to give birth without pain meds.
Well, that opened another can of worms. Why would I want to hurt when it's unnecessary? Epidurals actually aid in delivery. Most women don't know how to deal with the pain...and so on.
I just told her I had researched it and felt it was better, if possible, to go without medications. Although she never said it, she basically said that I would be silly to go through all that pain for no benefit. So I told her the things I had found out in my research about epidurals. She acted like she had never heard it before :eek:
I informed her that even the Anesthesia Society admits that epidurals can sometimes slow labor and that they inhibit the urge to push. She said it was careless of them to publish something like that- why didn't they look at all the factors affecting those things and how do they know the epidurals cause those things?
Um, my husband is an Anesthesiologist. We've look at the research together. These things are very well documented.
Anyway, needless to say, I tried to steer the subject away from my method of giving birth. The thing that scares me is that it is possible that most of the nurses where I am delivering are as clueless as she is about the risks associated with inductions, epidurals, etc.
It doesn't sway my opinion on the subject, but it just one more reason that I will need to be fully prepared to take a stand on these issues. With DS, I had a great nurse who was very willing to do whatever I wanted. She never even offered an epidural or pain meds. I am going to request her again and hope that she is working that day/night!
Thanks for letting me vent. It just really made me sad and a little disappointed that an RN who spent so much time in L&D was so uneducated.

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Sorry your friend was like that. I think most people who work around birth are pretty strongly opinionated one way or the other. I would get frustrated talking to someone who sees birth all the time and didn't see it the same way I do, also. I hope the nurse you had last time is working again when you go into labor this time, and if not, I hope you can get another great one. I think I remember you saying you were considering hiring a doula...what did you end up deciding about that?

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We've decided against hiring a doula for a few reasons. I am hoping we made the right decision.
I think since DH works with the nurses on a regular basis, they will be respectful of our decisions about we decide to give birth. My hormones just make me worry about things more than I normally would. :rolleyes:

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So I'm really curious how your hubby likes his job? Does he come home everyday telling you about "this lady"? I think it would be hard for my DH to work in that kind of situation.

Your friend sure sounds uneduacted my word!! I seriously wonder some times.

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DH really likes his job most days. As you can imagine, it is very stressful. He works at a fairly large hospital, does a lot of epidurals and c-sections, and a lot of trauma. He normally doesn't give me a lot of details, but because we work at the same hospital (I only work one day a week in the OR), we do share experiences at times. It is nice that we share common ground in our jobs. When he vents about a stressful case or a really bad day, I can understand and vice versa.

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How are you today hun? Hope it's not too hot there for you these days!

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The weather has been rather mild for us lately. In the 80s today, tomorrow and Friday. It should be nice. Smile
I had an OB appt today. Pretty uneventful. BP is still good, baby's HR was strong, I had gained a pound. She checked me again and I am 50% effaced, still 1-2 cm dilated, and very soft. So the almost the same as last week. Her guess is that I have 1-2 weeks left, but I realize it's just a guess. I wouldn't mind going a little early, but don't know how likely it is.
On another note, my feet are now so swollen I can only wear flip-flops. I will be glad to wear normal shoes again. They are so funny looking, I can't help but laugh when I look at them. Even in the mornings, the top of them is so swollen they look deformed. So far my OB hasn't given me a hard time about it. When I was pregnant with DS, for some reason it was a huge deal to my OBs nurse that my feet were swollen. She would give me a long speech about how it wasn't normal, blah, blah. Well, I swell badly in the summer when I am not pregnant. Now add on 20 lbs of weight and the extra fluid volume and my feet turn into water balloons. :rolleyes:

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Yucky, I'm so sorry you have to have swelling hun that's not fun. I hope the cooler weather helps it calm down. My midwifes put people on an all turkey and plain salad diet to help with excess water, they claim it really helps....I've never had swelling so I didn't try it:)

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I'm glad your appointment went well. I think the swelling is nothing to worry about, since you don't have any other pre-e symptoms. I've heard taking a soak in a tub can help, and staying hydrated, of course.

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The turkey and plain salad diet sounds like it would probably help. I am not as bad this time as I was with DS. Drinking water, staying cool, not standing in one place or sitting down too long are the best ways I have found to keep the swelling down.
Last night we walked for about a mile and a half and it was cool out. By the time we got home, my feet looked better and this morning they look almost normal. I guess the cool air and moving really helped. However, surprising enough, after all that walking, I only had one or two BHs. Normally walking that much will get the BHs going, but not last night. So weird.

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Glad the swelling started to go down a little! Hopefully it stays away these last few days/weeks, or at least doesn't get worse!

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Anything fun going on today? I remember that I had LOTS of bh until my edd, I didn't have more than maybe a few that day then I woke up at 2 the next morning in labor. I'm guessing you still have a bit, but who knows!

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Geeze I'm so behind with lodges!!! Welcome to your lodge hun, now time for me to go get caught up Smile

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Thanks, Chimmy!
Vanessa, the only interesting happening is that have a stomach bug Sad My family all had it last week and now I have (TMI) diarrhea. Yuck. It is causing me to have random contractions, but I don't think they are anything serious as they are mild and sporadic. Last night they were very regular but mild and they seemed to have slacked off overnight. We'll see if it turns into anything else, but I doubt it will.
My mom was nice enough to come and get DS before church and will keep him until evening so I have a little break. I'll probably end up sleeping or cleaning all day, depending upon how much energy I have.

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I hope you feel better. Not feeling well on top of being this far along in pregnancy is hard. Try to take it easy!

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Beth, I've enjoyed reading your lodge thus far. I look forward to reading about your birthing experience in the next few weeks.

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Hope you feel better soon hun!

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Checking in on you!!

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Well, I was completely over the stomach bug by Monday and feeling pretty normal again. Yesterday was my last day of work. As much of a relief that it is, if I don't have the baby for a few weeks, I will probably go stir crazy being out of my "routine". With DS, I worked until 39 + weeks. I went in on the Tuesday before I had him (on Friday). It made that last bit go by really fast.
My 38+ week appt was today. My BP is still good (YAY!!!!), HR was good and strong, baby was moving around while she was listening. She checked me again (not really sure why, but I am just curious enough to let her:rolleyes:). I am 2 + cm dilated and 70% effaced. Not any major progress, but it's good to know things are getting ready. We had a good discussion about delayed cord clamping and she said she does it routinely unless there is a problem with the baby. I was so glad.
I was really swollen today (stood outside all afternoon with the horses) and instead of getting upset and speeching me like my old OB would have, she started talking about how our bodies are designed to reabsorb the extra fluid after the baby is born so that we have some reserves to replace what we loose during birth. It's really refreshing to hear an OB talk about pregnancy as if it is natural and normal.

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Yay for a good appointment! Sounds like your ready for your little one. Any big weekend plans?

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Well, nothing exciting going on. I went to a bluegrass concert Friday night and it was great. Yesterday was another lazy Saturday of just hanging around the house, got some cleaning done, picked out some crape myrtles from a local nursery to plant in the yard and on the driveway (DH planted them). It's amazing what a few bushes can add to a place.
This week will be a mite slow since I am not working. I am going to have to think of things to keep DS and I busy so that I don't just sit around waiting for a contraction :rolleyes:. It's not going to be very hot, so I'm sure we'll be outside quite a bit.
And now for a 39 week belly shot:

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Looking good! I know what you mean about waiting around, although for me it's waiting for regular contractions since I'm already having them.

Hope you get some extra rest this week while you're off work!

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Try to enjoy this last little bit with just your son, it really does change things so much with a baby. KUP on your adventures this week and enjoy your time off!

Oooops, I spaced telling you that you look GREAT! Cute little belly there:)

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your belly looks great!

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I have a Dr. appt today. I'll let you girls know how it goes.
Sunday I went to church and found out a friend of mine tested positive for the Type A flu. Around here they are saying if you test positive for the Type A flu, it is most certainly the H1N1 virus as it's the only Type A flu circulating right now. I wasn't around her, but I was around her kids and her grandkids who were with her the night she tested positive. Needless to say, I have been avoiding being around their family just in case anyone else comes down with the flu. I don't care what type of flu it is, I just don't want to catch it or have it going through our family when we bring a newborn home.
DH has been home the past few days. He watched Truman for me while I got a pedicure (probably the last one I will get for a LONG time). My poor cracked heels needed it. Now that I think about it, I should've asked the lady to message the pressure points in my ankles that are supposed to stimulate contractions....:)

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I hope you don't end up catching the flu from your friend's family. That's nice that you got to have some time to yourself and get a pedicure.

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Nothing too exciting at my appt. My BP is still good (YAY!), baby is still measuring and sounding good. I am "a good" 3 cm dilated and 75% effaced. She doesn't think I will make it to next weeks appt (her words were "I think you'll go in the next couple of days"), but I've known people who walk around 3 cm dilated for a week or two. Since DS came on his EDD, it wouldn't surprise me if she came within a few days of her EDD (early or late).
So, I'm trying not to get too excited, but there is definitely an end in sight! I probably should take advantage of any time I get to sleep over the next few days Smile
She mentioned doing an amniotomy next week if I don't go on my own and have dilated to 4. But I really think it would be better to wait until I am least 41 weeks to artificially start things. Plus, I would be on a timeline once my water was broken. With DS, I was dilated to 4 cm when the OB broke my water. My contractions spaced out, got much more painful, and I didn't dilate any more in the next several hours until Pit was started. Has anyone had labor induced by amniotomy alone? If I get to the point where I need to be induced, I would rather try it than starting Pitocin right off.
But I am praying that I won't have to worry about that Smile

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I'm guessing your very close! So exciteing for you hun:) I can't wait to hear the story and see you little one. Have some fun with your DS while it's just you and him, you'll be glad you did!

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Beth, I have been thinking the same thing, that if I end up getting far enough dialated that they don't want me to go home, but I'm not in active labor, I would much rather have them break my water than take pit. No idea whether it would work or not, but at least you'd have tried, right? Only 2 days til your due date! How are you feeling today?

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Well I guess that answers my question! This was just posted on the September BB:

I just got a text from Beth:

"Hey, I am in L&D. 6 cm, 100%. Been here since 7am and was 5 then. Getting discouraged: pray this baby comes quickly"

Yay! She is in labour two days before her due date. I asked her how she is handling the pain as she is planning to go all natural this time around.

Her response was: "So far, no epidural. Its not horrible yet. Haven't been checked since 10:30. Water hasn't broken yet."

Sending lots of ELVs your way Beth! I can't wait to hear that you are holding your precious baby girl in your arms. I am so excited for you!!!

I will update as I hear from her again.

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Thanks Jessica. You beat me to it on this board. Smile I am just so excited for her!!!

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