Yay, you've reached the home stretch! Welcome to your lodge, looking forward to following your journey.
Welcome to your lodge!!
Welcome to your lodge!
OH YAY!! I think everyone does this but I'm going to have to come back and do my intro later. I need to find some good pictures.
Welcome and cant wait to read your intro!
your 36 weeks already!!! congrats, welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge!! :party: :woohoo:
Another August Mommie!! Welcome to your lodge!!
Look at all those August-Lodges. How exciting.
Welcome to your lodge Erica. Can't wait to read your intro.
Welcome Erica! I'm so excited to be able to follow your journey!!
Welcome to your lodge, Erica!!
Ok...where to begin?
DH and I met in 2000. I was in graduate school for costume design/construction and Blair was an undergraduate in the theatre department. I was 25 and Blair was 31. He was sort of a late bloomer and started undergrad at 28 :). Anyway, we met several times just in passing and then both of us on a whim went to a party and ended up talking all night. I'm pretty sure he wanted to come home with me...I was too sober to oblidge (true confessions) and suggested he come over the next day (sunday afternoon) and hang out. Ok more true confessions...at the party a significant portion of our discussions revolved around relationships and sex and quite frankly he was so darn honest with me it was refreshing even though I wasn't sure I totally agreed at least he wasn't afraid to be like take it or leave it...up until that point ALL of my "relationships" had been so unsuccessful due to pansy a$$ boys not having the capacity to be a man and quite frankly not be afraid of a strong woman. I knew that Blair *at that point* was only interested in a casual sex relationship and *at that moment* I thought well, at least I know what he wants!! Ok cut to the next day he comes over and so much for a casual sex relationship!! hehe we spent the whole day talking....Literally noon to 9pm talking non stop and I knew at that point that I didn't want anything to be casual and I think he totally agreed. Our roadblock was time. He was literally working full time night shift at Ford Motor company and going to school full time and I was in graduate school...which had it's own outragous demands. So, the only time we could see each other was after he got off work at 6am until either one of us had to go to class at either 9 or 10am and then on weekends of course. So he would come to my apartment in the morning...we would hang out for a couple of hours mostly sleeping and on weekends where we could actually have conversations. I think it was the consistancy that got me hooked (and other stuff of course). He was so dependable he would tell me he would see me the next day and sure enough I would see him the next day. Anyway, long story short we moved in together after 6 months of dating...lived together for about fours years and then (finally) got married in 2004. Working in the arts esp. theatre our lives are so inconsistant and jobs can take us anywhere. So, it was difficult to finally settle down and feel like we can actually be adults and start a family. After we moved to Chicago in 2004 and got married and I was at the same job for more than one year the idea of children started creeping into the conversation. My job and theatre lifestyle just doesn't lend itself to kids...it just doesn't, but not having kids was NEVER an option for me. It was for Blair, though, and it really took awhile for me to *ahem* convince him that we can do this...we can raise happy healthy children and live the *free*lifestyle that we are accustomed too..:). Finally after several years of marriage Blair was like...ok i'm ready, thank goodness he did verbalize it because I was to the point of getting *oops* pregnant. (I could never follow through with tricking him but I sure was on the verge!!) I had stopped birth control for a couple of months already...the hormones just finally got to me and had been teaching myself FAM and started lurking on preg.org and learned a bunch. We officially started ttc Jan. '07. I got preggers Feb. '07 and lost our bean in March. We were devastated. I really didn't know how common miscarriage was until then and I felt like a fertility failure wondering if we had missed our chance being older an all...also not realizing how common thirty something pregnancy was. I have to stop here and just mention that because of my profession and the type of people I like to hang out with hardly any of my girlfriends or aquaintences have had children so pregnancy was sort of a lone journey for me.
So, Blair and I took a break. We started TTC again in May but then I got a potential job opportunity in NYC and that put us on TTC hold again. Until, I sorted out that the job wasn't for me...but then I discovered a possible wheat allergy and my dr. wanted to test me for a gluten allergy which could affect my fertility. All tests were negative...by this time it was September! So, finally we were emotionally and physically ready to start TTC again! and in November I got my BFP! I knew as soon as I concieved that I was pregnant. I just had to wait the 12 days to confirm...so I was not shocked to see the double lines...I think Blair and I were excited and really scared.
The first trimester was difficult for me. I didn't have overwhelming sickness but enough to wear me out! and I was scared and nervous the whole first three months of losing the little bugger. When I first heard the heart beat I was literally in tears! SO relieved.
Once we got past those initial milestones we started to relax and enjoy the idea/reality of being pregnant! As far as the rest of pregnancy goes...it's been so much easier than I had expected. I think I always thought that I would be the one to be sick throughout the whole pregnancy or have major difficulites (don't know why) and every step of the way I've been happily surprised that I've been able to function and haven't put on a lot of weight and so on...
*ok I have to post this and come back to finish with pictures and why I'm so interested in natural birth* I didn't proofread so forgive any typos please
Welcome to your lodge! Can't wait to see pictures
Congrats on your lodge. Loved reading your story.
Congratulations! and Welcome! I too want to see your pics!
I loved your intro! Can't wait to see your pics!
Congratulations on your lodge! I can't wait to see pics and follow the rest of your pregnancy journey!
Our wedding was VERY simple. We literally had a $2000 wedding. I made my wedding dress we bought Blair's suit at a JCPenney's Fathers Day Sale. We got married in my parents church, it was very nice and laid back and had the reception in the little banquet area next to the chapel...chinese food buffet :). It was so easy and fun. DH and I want to go to Vegas to renew our vows...we thought at our 5 year anniversary but that's creeping up on us so maybe 10 anyway here's the wedding dress:
Recentish closeups of Blair & I:
Baby's crib (I made the sheet & dust ruffle, the afgahn was made by a mentor of mine):
So, like I said before...I don't have a lot of women IRL around me that have given birth. Growing up Mom had mentioned my & my brothers births several times and that sort of shaped my assumptions about how things might go...
With me she had an induction out of convienence not necessity but despite the induction she never had any pain meds and gave birth vaginally (although there was a nurse that kept pushing drugs on her that she had to fight off the whole time). She was in bed on her back had the routine epsiotomy etc...With my brother things were a little different. She learned her lesson with induction and the birth was so much easier despite the fact that he was a 10 pounder. She did it without any pain meds. She always said that there was so much more information out there for my brothers birth and her hospital assumed that all women would go med free. So! I thought great just imagine how laid back and supportive things will be NOW almost 30 years later. Boy was I in for a rude awakening. I had NO idea how medicated birth had become and let me just say I was truely SHOCKED when I realized what birth had become here in the States. It's seriously funny I just assumed that every woman's goal in birth was to go med free! It's better for everyone all around... OK these boards have educated me in more ways than one! So, I had already decided that I like my OB and my hospital ...now I just needed to figure out how to get what I want regardless of the epidural & c-section rates (epidural rate 98% c-section rate 45%). I talked to my doc. and told her what I wanted and how I have zero fear of big baby and I told her about my Mom. She asked if Mom could be with me (I wasn't sure) and basically her response was if your Mom can't be there hire a doula. I knew that was my best defense and resource for birth but doula's are expensive in Chicago!!! Finally I convinced my Mother that I need a doula (she was as surprised as I was where birth has gone) and Mom & Dad decided their big gift to me was to pay for the doula. Yay!!! SO I hired Holly who is so awesome. Blair and I are so thankful to have her on our side. Blair, by the way, is so into helping me achieve my goals I've been so greatful to him as well. We are reading as much as we can. Blair's guide has been Simkin's Birth Partner.
Anyway...the OB's have been pretty hands off and I really haven't had any trouble with them...but if all goes as planned I will get to the hospital almost ready to push the baby out. I also told Holly that I'm seriously not afraid of a oops homebirth. She's into it :). Her first was a oops homebirth so she feels fairly comfortable with it...we'll see if that actually happens.
Well that's it for now! Enjoy!
ETA: We are having a boy! Which wasn't a shock. Blair and I had decided long ago that if we had kids our boy would be named August and our girl would be named Georiga. We really wanted to name our kids after role models and people we respected. August Wilson is Blair's favorite playwright. He is the preeminant African American playwright of our time. If we have a girl someday she will be named Georgia after Georgia O'Keefe. Whom, I not only love her paintings but her strength and independence are something that I would want my daughtor to aspire to :).
What great pictures, and you're so talented! That's a great gift that your mom and dad gave you, and it sounds like you are super comfortable with Holly. What a huge plus! You have set up for success, for sure!
Great intro! I'm so happy to hear about your doula! I can't wait for the birth of your baby!
I had my 36 week appt. yesterday. Did the GBS test. I'm somewhat nervous about the results. I also had to get blood drawn for a glucose test because it was the third appt in a row that I had lots of sugar in my urine. But, everytime I take a blood test results are normal. Next week I'm going to cut back majorly on sugar two days before the appointment and see what happens.
I don't know this pregnancy has been so easy and all of a sudden yesterday I feel like I was hit with a Mack truck. I'm realizing that pregnancy for many can be all about the last month. For the first time last night I really felt frustrated with having this huge belly and what comes along with it! (pressure on the bladder constantly, braxton hicks, difficulty moving around and getting in and out of bed, sore back, acid reflux, swelling.) I just started swelling two days ago!!! I'm sure I'm preaching to the choir but it's not fun, at all!
Ok I'm done. That's just what's going on with me.
:bighug: At least we get babies when it's over!! I know about all the miseries of the 9th month! We'll get through it and forget it before we decide on a second baby!
I'm going out of town tomorrow. I didn't get permission...but I'm only going to be 2.5 hours away so I'm not too worried. Last weekend I took a 5 hour train ride to visit my parents at home...Mom really wanted me to come home for a weekend before the baby came for some reason so that's what I did last weekend. It was fun...she pampered me a bit and we chose fabric for a robe she's making me for the hospital and also we chose fabric and made a pattern for relining the bassinet she found. Anyway this weekend I'm visiting "the girls". Some of my best friends from college stayed in the town that our college was in so I'm going there for the weekend. One of my girlfriends is flying in from L.A. because her fathers car (he passed several years ago) is going to be in a demolition derby. I've never been to one so this outta be interesting. So, today I'm preparing for the weekend. Laundry and making a casserole for Blair and packing. I feel like I have two lives...Laundry & casseroles one day....demolition derby & bars the next.
Blair and I kinda have a plan just in case I go into labor while out of town...I doubt I will but it's good to at least talk about it ;).
Anyway, have a good weekend everyone!!! Talk to ya on Monday!
have a great trip!!
Hey everyone! I had such an awesome weekend with my girlfriends. It was non-stop and I was surprised the whole time at how great I felt and I was able to keep up. I'm so glad I went. I was able to visit with one friend who had a baby 2months ago, went to two pool parties, demolition derby, a concert...etc... I would say I was up every night until about 2:30 with out naps during the day and managed just fine!
I went back to work today also. I only did 3 hours of work but it felt good to do some work.
I also had a interesting conversation with my mother on thursday night! I asked her how long her labors were...because I (her first child) was induced...I always wondered how long it took her to have me... She said (mind you she wasn't overdue or anything she just wanted her mother there for the birth and grandma at the time lived across the country) anyway she said she went in the day before her due date at 8am, got hooked up, labored in the bed, and 6 hours later delivered me in the lithomy position (of course). I was shocked!!! She said that she thought the drugs sped things along...and I was like "No Mom, you don't realize how lucky you are!!! If your body wasn't ready to have me it would not have progressed no matter how much drugs they pumped in you and you probably would have ended up with a c-section!" She said, "well, I guess I am lucky then". So I asked about my brother who wasn't induced and she said she went into labor at 7pm was at the hospital at 11pm and delivered at 2am (lying in a bed). She also says she doesn't remember being in pain at all (no pain meds). Freak of nature :). I can only hope to have it that easy right?
I don't have anything else to update I don't think...
Geez lets hope your deliverys are as easy as hers! lol Glad you had a good weekend.
That's not the first story I've heard about somebody not having pain with delivery. I hope you can be so lucky!!
I'm really looking forward to your birth story! And cute cute belly!
I'm late to welcome you to your lodge but welcome anyway You know my births have gone similarly to my mom's in terms of timing etc. It was a good experience for me anyway and it's great for you since your mom's experience was pretty positive! My midwife swore that it was more psychological than genetics but in the end it doesn't really matter since I think it affects you either way. Enjoyed reading your intro and look forward to following this last chunk of your pregnancy and your birth!
So lastnight DH and I discussed natural induction techniques (not that I'm trying to get the baby out yet but I am 37 weeks and think I can start softening things ) ...and I explained to him why. And, of course he was all over DTD. He scheduled it for next Tuesday. Had to chuckle.
Lol, that's funny.
I just finished catching up on your lodge. You and your DH are a beautiful couple! Congrats!
Maybe you can make a datenight out of your scheduled appt with your husband!! Too funny. I'm not sharing what DTD can do because I'm pretty sure DH would flip out if he knew.
Good news today!!
I finally talked to our accountant at work and she showed me that it's much better just to take my accrued sick and vacation days than to do the short term disability that my job offers. I guess I've accrued 11 weeks of sick and vacation days...who knew? So that's 11 weeks of 100% pay as opposed to 6 weeks of 60% pay that the "maternity leave" aka short term disability offers. Yay!! I was planning on taking 8 weeks with two weeks unpaid. Now I can take 11 totaly 100% paid! WOO HOO!!! It's still going to fly by...but seriously that's almost 3 months. I never thought I would be able to swing it.
That is such AWESOME news!! I'm so happy for you!! Enjoy that time off with your LO.
Wonderful news about the paid leave! Thats great news! That is too funny about your dh "scheduling" to dtd! Maybe I should start scheduling w/ my dh!
That's great news about the paid time off! I'm sure the extra time at home will be wonderful - that's one great accountant
Had my 37 weeker today. All's well...BP great, no weight gain, no problems with sugars except I'm GBS+. Boo!! So what really happens to people who get to the hospital without enough time for antibiotics? They just check the baby for showing signs of infection, right?
Dh came with me to my appt today because I wanted to go over my birth plan and needed moral support. Sometimes I can become shy. Anyway, my OB is awesome...she went over everything and basically approved all of it except for the no hep-lock because of GBS. She looked me squarely in the eyes and said...If I'm not on call when you go into labor don't let anyone hook you up to anything without your conscent or without explaining things to you. (Which of course I was planning). But, I just loved that she was so aware of my desires. I also asked about how long she would let me go if/when I'm overdue and she said 42weeks. I was relieved...I was worried they would have some crazy 41 or less than policy. She checked me and it hurt a bit...my bits are sensitive! and I am totally closed up tight! and baby is floating. Not surprised...I just haven't had any contraction action.
I also wanted to say...there are so many August lodges I am having a heck of a time keeping up and I feel so bad...I am going to try harder but I'm thinking of all of you!!!even if I'm not responding.
So sorry about the GBS+. I turned out GBS+ too. But I am re-testing next week (38 weeks). I am doing probiotics every day and 3 days of garlic suppositories before re-testing. If I'm still pos. I'm not obviously getting antibiotics, because I'm a home birth, but will be doing a chlorhexadine wash every 6 hours until birth. My midwife is very comfortable with this. The only reason I tested was because in case of a transfer for me.
From what I've read if you get there too late to do the IV antibiotics, they will do a lot of tests on the baby afterwards or you can get an antibiotic shot for the baby. Also there is only 1 in 770 chance that the baby will get sick if exposed to the bad bacteria of GBS. I would do some more research on what your hosp. will do to the baby, if you get there too late for the abx. Good luck!
So, I went back to work on Monday after being off contract for five weeks and having a lovely time at home. Wouldn't you know it the s*it hits the fan (at work) involving a somewhat diva actress and I'm exhausted!!! I totally didn't see it coming.
On the pregnancy side we went to our Baby Basics class tonight. Blair and I were chuckling on the way home because we realized that we knew most of what was covered already...and it seemed like most of the class was clueless. I did learn some new stuff...but maybe not enough for the cost.
My belly button is cracking me up because it has been flat this whole time and right now it looks like it's trying to pop...but can't. I don't know how to describe it.
Boy, I'm Whiped!!! One thing working behind the scenes in theatre....more drama happens there than on stage.
Ok...we installed the carseat!!! But we are unsure if it's level enough. I guess that's what inspections are for!
We've been super busy these past couple of days...going back to work after having a nice 5 weeks off is more difficult than I thought it would be. Friday was esp. stressful and when I finally worked everything out I laid down for a nap and told the baby He could come anytime...and I started having contractions. But, then they stopped because I had to get ready for my date with Blair. Which was a dinner cruise on lake Michigan! It was fun! I'll post pictures.
Then yesterday we had our Breastfeeding class all afternoon. It was invaluable. Especially for Blair but I realized I had hardly done any reading on it and was really learning some things for the very first time! So I felt really great and confident about it afterward. Blair was funny this morning reviewing what we needed to do and it was nice to know he's got my back :).
Other than that! This morning I wanted pancakes!!! So I made them and some bacon and we had a lovely Sunday morning breakfast...I put dinner in the crock pot, we took recycling to the drop off, went to Whole Foods to pick up EPO and RRL tea, and installed the carseats. I've spent the rest of the afternoon catching up on lodges!
Blair and I on the boat!
We took tons of pictures of the beautiful Chicago skyline and none of them turned out!!! Darn!!!
A dinner cruise sounds lovely! You look radiant.
You and I are having similar weekends in the "getting stuff done" categories.
I want pancakes now!! I have the same conversation with my baby every evening. I tell him he can come out anytime.
Yum, I love pancakes! The dinner cruise sounds great - I'm sure it's nice to get in some last minute dates before the baby arrives
Okay..I'm conflicted. There is a big part of me that wants to just stay as busy as I can until baby decides to come out. There is another part of me that wonders if I keep scheduling things he won't come out until I stop and allow a space for him to be here. YKWIM? These next two weeks are going to be busy...and I keep thinking that he just won't come until I'm done with whatever I schedule.
And so...along those same lines I'm thinking of just stopping work all together on my due date. Of course I'm conflicted because I want as much time as possible for LO. argh.
Ok the other thing I'm not sure what to do about is my brother is coming through Chicago the day before my due date with one of his friends and needs a place to stay. I'm sort of like...ummm...I have no idea what'll be going on on that day! I said if I'm not in labor or if I'm at the hospital you are more than welcome to stay...but really I'm not sure I want strangers (brothers friend) around when I'm trying to convince a baby to come out!? Maybe someone else can keep them...I'll have to look into that.
ETA: belly pic
Great belly!! I dont know what to tell you about your working situation. Its a tough call. It would be so nice if we KNEW when we were going to have our lo's!
Oh I wish I knew when this one was coming out. It would make it so easy wouldn't it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes...it would make it easier...:( still no decision made, giving myself some time to make it.
On another note! I slept through my Dr. appt this morning!!! Totally turned off my alarm in my sleep (don't think I've ever done that before) and slept right on through.
I had a long night last night we had a major storm come through and I had contractions throughout the whole thing. Then I kept thinking that he dropped a bit because my bladder couldn't get any relief and his hiccups were lower. I don't really know if he did...but I'm still thinking that it's very possible. Anyway once I passed out...I really passed out aparently!! Now I'm sortof playing hookie from work. Luckily not much is going on this week compared to last...I'm so ready to be done. But, I think I really need to stick it out at least until my due date. Then I'll feel justified to stop working.
Anyhoo!!! That's it for me!
I know how you feel about deciding when to stop working. I was informed today by the beautician at the nursing home that she was made to quit working 6 weeks before her due date when she was pregnant 30 years ago. It's odd how times have changed. I wouldn't want THAT long off, but if it's not forced it's hard to make the call when to stop. Good luck making the decision.
I'm struggling with the "when to stop working" question too. A girl I work with gave birth in April and her recommendation to me was to take a week before my due date if possible. Her reasoning was that going from work to labor to caring for a newborn was very intense and she wished that she had had some downtime before labor.
Good luck with whatever you decide. It's a tough decision especially if taking time off before means less time off with your little one