~*~*Holly's (LawyerHolly07) Birth Lodge*~*~

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~*~*Holly's (LawyerHolly07) Birth Lodge*~*~

Here you go! I have missed getting to know you so I look forward to finding out who you are:)

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Yay!!! Welcome to your lodge! I can't wait to read more. Smile

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I can't believe I'm close enough to giving birth to have a lodge! AAAH!

We found out we were expecting in mid-November at around 23 weeks. It's a crazy story involving me deciding to give up on TTC until I hit a healthy weight. We had been TTC since 2005, and suffered a loss in Jan. 2007. I really felt like my weight was holding me back, particularly with PCOS, so I went on a strict all-organic diet and picked up running as a hobby. I felt better than I had in my whole life.

My menses stopped, but with PCOS that wasn't unusual. I was also losing weight quickly and running upwards of 30 miles a week training for a half-marathon in October, and my OB chalked it up to that. I was offered Provera - thank God I didn't take it! We also moved in the middle of the summer, so I figured it was just stress.

My DH bought the test as a joke at Dollar Tree, since I'd been "mean" to him. Wink I took it with FMU the next morning and the 2nd line came up so darn quick I could've SPIT on the test and gotten two lines. That was November 12th. I still didn't have an OB here, my work had me in between insurance contracts, things were a MESS. We scheduled a visit and a dating ultrasound with my sister's OB the next day, since we had no idea WHEN I was due - my LMP was in March!

At the ultrasound, we were given a due date of March 6 based on his measurements. I liked the OB, but not enough to want to give birth with anyone else in her practice. I'd always known I would go natural, but midwife-assisted homebirth is illegal in Alabama. Since we live 15 minutes from the Tennessee state line, we started looking into options for midwives there. I wanted to go to The Farm, but it was just a little too far away driving for my comfort. (As a side note -If you've read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, the first birth story is a woman from my town - Huntsville, Alabama. Weirder still, the story is old enough that I realized I grew up with the kid from the birth story!) We found a GREAT midwife literally 20 minutes away - she caters to Alabama mommies and a LOT of women I've met here have used her and loved her. I love her too. Smile

We have had the most boring pregnancy ever, outside of finding out so late. I've had no morning sickness or any other symptoms at all, other than peeing so much I feel like I need to move into the bathroom. Everything is healthy and fine, thank goodness. I'm glad my diet was less reduced-calorie and more "I refuse to eat junk". I've pretty much stuck to it since finding out (although I admit I'm re-indulging in ice cream now).

At this week's appt, I measured at 38 weeks by fundal height. I'm fingertip dilated, and his head is engaged. Midwife's weight guess is 8-8.5 pounds. I'm so ready to meet this little guy - I'm taking advantage of our gorgeous weather this weekend to get lots of walks in, both to move baby along and to take advantage of quality time with our dogs before baby Ben gets here.

So there's my novel! Smile

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congratulations on your lodge...how exciting that a March mommy has a lodge (I can't believe it!)

What an amazing story...finding out so late, I'm glad all is well and healthy and I look forward to keeping up with your lodge!

Jen

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Gosh the time flys doesn't it! I can't imagaine not knowing I was pregnant until past the half way mark, that must have been a huge shock:) Do you have any pictures for us? Are you planning a home birth then? I wasn't quite sure if your crossing the state line to go to her, or if she's comeing to you?

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It was definitely a shock, but a happy shock! I'll never forget them putting the U/S wand on my belly and immediately seeing a BIG baby with a fully developed spine! I just think it's funny that for years, I watched every twinge hoping to be pregnant. I literally give up, go on an insane diet so that we'd be ready for IVF in 2-3 years, and I get pregnant 3 months later unknowingly. If I'd been looking for twinges, I would've never found them!

Here are some pics:

This is a pic from shocking ultrasound day:

The next week - the money shot & a 3D shot of his little face:

So this is what I looked like 5 months pregnant (finishing a 5K - I ran a half-marathon the next day, but you DON'T want to see those pics!) Wink

This is my most recent belly pic, from about 4 days ago, just shy of 36 weeks:

This is me and my husband at a friend's wedding:

(Usually he's behind the camera - he's sneaky like that!)

We're planning a birth in my midwife's home clinic in TN. We'd love a homebirth, but this is the next best thing.

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wow, what in intro. congrats and welcome to your lodge. I look forward to reading more of your journey.

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Welcome to your lodge! What a crazy story, not finding out until 5 months! I have PCOS with irregular cycles, too, so I kind of know how it is for it to be normal to not have AF. WTG for eating better and exercising! That's really cool that you grew up with one of the kids born in one of the birth stories in the book! I'm glad you were able to find a midwife not too far away who you like.

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Welcome to your lodge! What a story you have there. Looking forward to reading more!

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Neat story! Welcome to your lodge! Hey, by missing out on the 1st trimester, you also got to miss out on all the worries that come along with (worried about miscarriage, etc...)! That must be a bit of a relief!

Tell us more – are you planning to birth in Alabama, or at home?

Do you know if it’s a boy or girl?

Do you have any name ideas?

Are you planning to use cloth/disposable/EC? Why?

Have you chosen any support people for the birth yet? Who and why?

Are your parents supportive of a midwife/homebirth (if you are having a homebirth…)

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WOW...what a fun story to read! And you look great in your pics by the way. I am interested in hearing more about your birthing plans.

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Thanks so much for the pictures! It's fun to get to "know" the lodge owner:) You look great in all the pics and I can't believe you were running like that at 5 months along!! KUP on how things are going for you guys.

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Tell us more – are you planning to birth in Alabama, or at home?
We're having him in Tennessee - about 20 minutes from home in AL. My MW has a cabin/clinic, and it's the next best thing.

Do you know if it’s a boy or girl?
It's a boy!
And the weird thing is, we ended up springing for the 4D ultrasound just to find out his gender - he was shy at the US previous to that, hid himself in me for 6 months, and he's still quite sneaky. At last week's MW appt, he hid behind the placenta and made getting his HB on the Doppler a real pain. We mainly found out the gender as a bonding thing - finding out so far along, it was a big shock, and it "personalized" him for us and our families to know his name and be able to call him that.

Do you have any name ideas?
His name is Benjamin William Mymaidenname Husbandslastname. (Which you can probably tell from the US pics above - I go by a hyphenated name, and we decided years ago that our kids would have both names.)

Are you planning to use cloth/disposable/EC? Why?
We're using cloth, although we'll be on sposies through the meconium/umbilical cord/first few weeks phase. I've built up a pretty good stash of one-size dipes & cloth wipes that probably won't fit in the newborn phase, but should fit somewhere in the 4-6 week range. I'm still debating picking up some Kissaluvs 0s to use through then - or possibly the XS bumGenius bamboo dipes. It would be a break-even proposition financially to buy those or buy boxes of Pampers. I can't decide. Anyone have any input?

Have you chosen any support people for the birth yet? Who and why?
My husband will be there with the midwife, and possibly one or more of the MW's assistants (who I've met and love). We hope DH will be able to catch Ben when he's born.
Outside of that, I love my mom/MIL but have no desire to have them there. No medical training + not there at the conception = not there at the birth. Wink

Are your parents supportive of a midwife/homebirth (if you are having a homebirth…)
My mom wanted a homebirth with my sister almost 20 years ago, after having the hospital experience she had with me. Unfortunately, there weren't as many MWs in practice nearby and her options were really limited. My dad thinks I am very hardcore punk for attempting a natural birth - his words, not mine. Wink
My ILs think I'm crazy, but that's OK - I think they're bonkers, too. My MIL forced my SIL into a natural birth with her 2nd baby "so she wouldn't want any more" - as if NCB is a punishment. SIL had another baby after that, so I don't think it worked.

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I had the weirdest dream last night - the latest in a string of crazy dreams. In the dream I was bleeding - and oddly enough, I woke up bleeding, not really badly but with a big fat chunk of mucus plug coming out. Which could mean anything or everything or nothing - LOL.

I'm having contractions pretty regularly, but they aren't awful at all. We're going to time them for the next little bit, then head to the MW for a check either way.

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I hope everything is okay. KUP!

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You aren't allowed to have a lodge for like 4 days and then have your baby! No fair! Biggrin Send some of those vibes this way!

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YAY! Congrats on your lodge! So happy to see another March mom here!

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You mentioned Provera .... my daughter-in-law is due May 15th. She has not had a period since August 2007:eek: She gave birth (naturally) on May 13th 2008 and never got a period after him. She and my son started talking about "the next baby" last August but because of no period she went to the doctor in September. They did do a pregnancy test and it was negative. They put her on Provera! Still no period and by now she is having wierd cravings so she takes another test. Her bfp was around October 14th. She went in for an ultrasound November 18th to figure out how far along and she was about 16 weeks and found out it was a girl. She had another detailed ultrasound at 20 weeks and everything checked out great. My question is, what are the dangers of Provera while pregnant? Signed .... a very concerned gramma!

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Well... from the looks of your birthing board posts, you are currently in labor!!! Hope all goes smoothely!

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hope all is going well today and you are holding your LO! Can't wait to see the picts!

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Here's hoping that the "stall" picks back up-- though you are still early, maybe it is better to let LO bake a while longer....KUP!

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Thinking about you! Hang in there!!!!:D

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Hope you're holding your LO now! Can't wait for an update!

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Wow-- congrats momma! I can't wait to hear the full story!

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Congrats, Holly! I'm glad you had a good birth experience and got your NCB! WTTW baby Ben!

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Congratulations :):)

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Wow, congratulations! I just discovered your birth lodge, and now you've already had the baby! Glad to hear (from the other thread) that the labor went well and DH was able to catch the baby as planned!

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He's here!! And our due date (which came from a 2nd tri ultrasound, so could've been off by 2 weeks anyway) was way wrong. Baby Ben is definitely a full-term baby at 7lb, 14oz and 22 inches long. If he'd waited til his EDD of March 6th, he would've come out begging for a driver's license. Wink I think it's really cool that his birthday is a palindrome (2/12), considering my sister and I "share" palindrome birthdays with each other (1/16 and 6/11 - the times were also palindromes, 2:09 and 9:02).

I will type up his birth story later, but I labored for just over 2 days with a stall in the middle. I'm so grateful to have been with a midwife who let nature take its course - baby and I were monitored often, and everything was fine. In a hospital, I would've definitely been on pit & probably been c-sec'd for no good reason. Ben was born 100% naturally, and honestly there were only about 15 minutes in transition where I thought "I can't do this" - which is the hallmark of transition, anyway. Wink

He was born into his daddy's hands and all three of us are so in love with each other - it's really amazing. Giving birth to him was the most loving, spiritual, beautiful event of my life. I can't imagine going through such a thing all numbed up. Not to mention, recovery so far has been a breeze. I was led to believe I'd be bedbound - not at all! Not even a little bit. I'm still working on getting a good latch from the small fry - sometimes he's just not that into me. Wink

I posted some pics on the March board: http://www.pregnancy.org/bulletinboards/showthread.php?t=479095.

I had a birth lodge for less than a week, and baby was born three months to the day after we found out we were pregnant. The only downside to this is that if we decide to have more children, goodness gracious, 9 months of pregnancy will REALLY feel like it takes forever!

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Congrats hun! What a crazy story:) 9 months will seem like FOREVER next time....I can't imagaine. Hope you continue to do well and enjoy your time with the tiny guy, they grow up too fast!

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Thats so awesome that you got the birth you wanted! You've rejuvinated my spirit for my own NCB... Its nice to hear that you had such a spiritual, wonderful birth... Its what I hope to have! And how awesome that your DH got to catch the baby! I bet that will be a moment in his life he never forgets!

9 months probably will seem like forever with the next one! 10 will probably seem like even longer Wink

Congrats again on your little guy!

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Hey! Just thinking about you...haven't heard from you in a while and hoping all is going well with you!

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I am late catching up- so CONGRATULATIONS!!!! He is beautiful!