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Hi Hun, I know I'm early but I'm going through lodge starting withdrawl:) I had to get yours going I just could stop my self!

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Welcome to your lodge!!! Looking forward to your experience and birth! Smile

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I'll be dropping by to catch up on your progress too. I'm so excited about your switch from your OB.

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I am excited for you lodge and to hear how things are going with a mw.

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Yay! Welcome to your lodge, Kristen!

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Whoo hoo new lodge!!! Congrats Biggrin
LODGE PARTY :party: :party:

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Welcome to your lodge!!!! :stpatricks:

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Eek! My lodge!! Woohoo.

Seriously I am so excited; you just made my day :mrgreen:. I've really been looking forward to having a lodge this time around since I mostly lurked during my pregnancy with dd.

I'll try to get around to writing an intro tonight. I took a nice long nap with dd since I was having quite a few BH and was crampy this morning so maybe I can actually stay up past her bedtime Lol

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Welcome to your lodge! Yahoo

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Welcome!!! YAY Kristen!!!!!!

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Something new to stalk! Yay for your lodge!

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Okay, here's a little bit about me! Warning -- I love to write so this got a lot longer than I thought Lol

I'm Kristen, 30, married to DH, 34, and Mama to Alexa, 2 1/2 (born June 27, 2007). DH and I met in Spring 1998 at work. We both worked the graveyard shift at a grocery store; he was my boss :oops:. It definitely wasn't love at first sight; in fact, we pretty much hated each other for the first few months we knew each other. I was young & the group I worked with was pretty tight-knit and clicquey. DH was an "outsider" and had his own ideas about how everyone should do things. He wasn't all too keen, or really interested at all, in becoming friends with the rest of us. I acknowledged right away that he was "really good looking" but a jerk (well, not the exact word I used ;)). There was a lot of stupid drama with my co-workers from past incidences and, over time, DH and I started hanging out more. I remember he came over one morning to help me get some pants untangled from my washing machine. How dorky, right?? We were both looking for some furniture for our houses so we ended up going shopping together and hanging out. Turns out we both liked each other a lot more than we thought ;). I learned never to automatically go on first impressions! We started dating in late October 1998. In August of 2001, DH and I took our second trip to SoCal. We had gone in 1999 as well and this time we stayed in Huntington Beach. On our first night there we planned to go walk out on the beach after dinner. DH complained that his stomach was sick and I told him we could walk later, but we went anyways. We walked for quite aways & I was totally shocked when, at sunset, he proposed on the beach. Like, we had always talked about getting married and our future and etc, but I was totally floored that it happened the way it did. We got married in September of 2002.

I had graduated college the spring before we got married and I worked full-time while DH went to finish his degree. He graduated in 2006 and we considered opening our own business -- a kung fu studio. We had both trained for a long time and were very excited about the prospect of partnering with the owner and mentor. Due to a whole mess of circumstances that never worked out and, sadly, neither of us have trained kung fu since then either. After this opportunity fell through, DH took some time and really thought about what he wanted. He wanted to start a family. We had always known that we wanted a family, but I wasn't sure we were ready. I mean, it would be nice to have a bigger house, more money, better jobs, etc etc. After a lot of talking we decided there could always be "more" and we should just go ahead and try. I went off the pill at the end of September 2006. I'd been on the pill for about 10 years so we decided just to go with it and see what happened. We figured it would take awhile for my cycles to get regular and for us to actually get pregnant. We were very low stress with TTC and I wasn't too surprised when I got a BFN when I tested (either on Halloween or Nov 1st..can't remember). I wasn't upset at all, I really didn't plan on getting pregnant that first cycle. On November 18, I was working and I was feeling really sick. I had went out to dinner with a friend the night before and just figured I ate something bad. I munched on Saltines and drank 7up all day at work. When I got home DH suggested maybe I should take another pregnancy test. I was like, eh whatever...I really thought I was just sick, I don't think I really thought at all I could be pregnant. I took the 2nd test from our 2pack and nothing showed up...NO LINES AT ALL! DH went out to the store to buy some more and I took the test as soon as he got home. Almost instantly there were two blaring lines. I was pretty much in shock. I was nervous. I hadn't planned on it happening right away. I was excited, but that first night the nervousness was the top thing on my mind. I took another test first thing the next morning, I don't know why, just for reassurance I guess or in case the last one was wrong ;). Sure enough....the lines were still there.

My first pregnancy

On Monday morning I called the OB's office (I had been seeing the same OBGYN for all my gyno care for the last 10 or so years so it was an easy decision to go there) and said, "I think I'm pregnant." (See, I still wasn't convinced ;)). They asked if I took a pg test and I replied that yes, I had. In fact, two of them. She replied, "Well, then you're pregnant." I had had a lot of cramping and gastrointestinal problems and was a bit concerned about those. I can't remember if I called again later or if the nurse just called that afternoon, but I ended up in the ER that night becuase they wanted to rule out an ectopic pregnancy. We waited....and waited....and waited. God, waiting in the ER wondering if there was something wrong with the baby was insane. It really sucked. Finally, after a few hours or more of waiting we were seen. It was crazy seeing the ultrasound. He/she was just a little bubble, but there was our baby. The u/s estimated we were 6w 1d pregnant. Apparently my gastrointestinal problems were just horrible constipation and I was sent off to take some colace and follow up with my OB as soon as possible.

The pregnancy was pretty uneventful. I really liked my OB. I felt like she took the time to listen to our questions and really talk things over with us. On March 1st we found out we were having a little girl. Four weeks later I took my GD test and barely failed. I took the 3hr and failed by 1 point. I was a gold-star patient and went on the diet faithfully. On the diet my numbers plummeted to almost fasting levels, so I was instructed to add carbs back into my diet. I could pretty much eat anything I wanted & not have my numbers spike. If I balanced a blueberry pancake breakfast with ham & eggs, my numbers were fine. To this day, I am convinced that I had a false positive on the test. On the upside, I did feel really good eating a higher protein lower carb diet and it helped curb my weight gain for sure. At 33 weeks pregnant I had a bit of spotting and ended up at the Maternity Center on the monitors. Turns out I was having contrax every 3 minutes or so, but I didn't even really feel them. I ended up getting a shot of terbutaline & went home to take it easy. I took a few days off work and then went back trying to take things a bit easier.

I always wanted a NCB, but sort of had the let's-wait-and-see mindset. I didn't do a ton of research. My OB had given me a copy of Penny Simkin's Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn when I got pregnant and I read most of that. I lurked on this board and posted a little. We went to the hospital classes and actually they were pretty informative. DH and I landed on the "anti-epidural" team for a discussion session we had and it was after that class that I was more dead set on avoiding any and all drugs if possible. DH was on board too. He wasn't too interested in information gathering on his own, but would listen as I told him things (sometimes over and over!) and, after that same class, he was really not wanting us to get drugs either. All my friends told me to "just wait and see," "you will be begging for the epidural when your contractions start," "this is your first one," and this and that. Even approaching my due date I was still open to the possiblity of getting an epidural if it was really a lot worse than I thought, I think a lot of it had to do with everyone telling me I couldn't and the fact that I didn't want to set myself up with too high of expectations. So, basically I tried to go into it with no expectations. Maybe not the best game plan, but it ended up working out.

Alexa's Birth Story

On Tuesday June 26, DH & I went to the store to get some stuff for dinner & say hi to my coworkers. We BBQ’d some Kalbi chicken, ate, & DH headed out to look at some big screen TVs that we had been wanting to get. He called from Circuit City & was looking at one to buy; basically playing good cop-bad cop trying to get a deal by telling the salesman that his wife didn’t want to spend so much money. As we were talking on the phone he asked if I was okay because I didn’t sound very good. I replied that I was “feeling funny.”

I started having contractions, but at first just thought it was weird stomach pain. After awhile, I felt them not only in my abdomen but they radiated all throughout my back. Between 9:30 and 9:45 that night I started timing my contractions. They were about 9-10 minutes apart and I was able to relax or doze off in between them. At 10pm I switched the channel to start watching the news, but quickly realized I was falling asleep and ended up turning off the TV. The contractions kept up until about 1am & were about 7 minutes apart at this time. When I got up to go to the bathroom. There was a lot of blood so I woke up DH and decided it was time to call the Maternity Center. They said it sounded like it might be labor, but to wait to come in since the contractions were still so far apart. I expressed concern that I hadn’t been feeling Alexa move as much so they instructed me to drink some water and juice and do a fetal kick count. I was supposed to call back if she didn’t move like she should. I laid down and drank 2 small glasses of cranberry juice and Alexa was moving around just fine.

After doing the kick count, the contractions kept up at about 6 or 7 minutes apart but then slowed to 10-12 minutes apart, and then around 20 minutes apart. Somehow I was able to fall asleep between 2 and 4am. I woke up at 4 and the contractions were still going. I woke up DH and we laid in bed for awhile.

At 6am, I called the Maternity Center again. My contractions were still about 6-7 minutes apart on average, but weren’t even really regular. I told the labor nurse I didn’t know if I should come in now or wait. She encouraged me to wait it out at home as long as I could because I would be much more comfortable. She said most first time moms coming in having contractions ever 3-4 minutes were only about 3cm dilated. I said “I just don’t know” and she replied that when I couldn’t take it at home anymore I would know. She said they would leave my file out and just to call and tell them when I was heading in.

We turned on the news and DH fried up some eggs and made me toast and sausage. We started getting our things ready & I took a shower. I later learned that DH said he remembered from class that I needed to eat. How sweet!

My contractions got stronger after I got out of the shower. They were hurting very bad in my back. I laid on the bed but my contractions, although stonger, never really got regular. Sometimes there would be one after only 3 minutes, then 6, then 9. They were all over the place. Finally at 8 I called the Maternity Center to tell them I was coming in. They were still wary because my contractions were, on average, still pretty far apart. I then realized it was 8am so my doctors office was open. I said maybe I would call there. The labor nurse said “do whatever you want, just call back if you’re coming in.” I called the office and they had me come in because they were going to hook me up to the NST and check everything out.

As soon as we got into the car, my contractions quickened to 3-4 minutes apart all the way there. Luckily, it was only about a 15 minute drive because they were also getting a lot more intense. Dr. C checked my cervix and said I was 5-6cm. She said “You’re having the baby today.” As we walked to the maternity center I was elated. Already 5-6cm. That’s over halfway there. I became more confident in my ability to do this delivery naturally. The doctor’s office called as we were waiting to be checked in & the receptionist asked me if I was being induced. Apparently I must’ve looked pretty darn good. Then we met Cindy, who I soon would find out if the best labor nurse ever! I told her about all the pain in my back and she encouraged me to lean on the railing each time I had a contraction as we walked to our room. We got settled into room 2172.

I was hooked up to the monitor for about 20-30 minutes. Cindy encouraged me to try different positions every 30 minutes as it would help with trying to deliver naturally. So after the monitor we walked the halls for 30 minutes, got in rocking chair (I did not like that at all and only stuck with it for 3-4 contractions), and sat on birthing ball. Cindy said maybe the tub would be next step because it helps a lot of people with the pain. She told me she would have to check my cervix first because they don’t want you in the tub if you’re at 10cm. Cindy went to her lunch break and we got a new nurse for a bit. She checked me in the tub and said I was at 10cm but my water bag was still intact. She let me stay in the tub for a bit while she called Dr. C to see if she wanted to break my water.

About noon the doctor came and broke my water. She asked Cindy, who was fresh back from lunch, if I had been having any back labor to which she replied that was all I had been having. Dr. C said the baby was traverse and I immediately panicked. Traverse?!!?! I looked at Cindy and said “She’s traverse?” She must’ve been able to sense my concern because she reassures me & the doctor explains that Alexa has moved so she is facing my hips/pelvis and not my back anymore. So Alexa is halfway to where she needs to be. Doctor explains she has to do a quick surgery & encourages me to hold off pushing as long as I can since it can be very tiring and take a long time for first time moms and to give Alexa time to turn around more.

Cindy has me get on my knees leaning my arms over the back of the hospital bed which was semi-upright. I keep breathing and DH gets me a popsicle. We do this for about a half hour until Alexa’s heart rate dropped suddenly. Cindy had me move positions since Alexa didn’t like that position anymore. She had me lay on my left side and immediately Alexa’s heart rate went back up. She had my try a test push and then said it was time to call Dr. C and have the baby. She takes a picture of DH and I and says “Ready to push and smiling—don’t show this to people, they’ll be mad.”

The doctor comes in and asks if I’m about to have a contraction because she says she can’t tell by my face. Said she never would’ve guessed I was 5-6cm this morning by looking at me that morning.
Time to push! After a few pushes, I say “It feels like her head is still out of me” and Cindy has me reach down and touch Alexa’s head. After only 5 or 6 pushes (about ten minutes worth) Alexa Jadyn is here! Born June 27, 2007 at 2:13pm. 6lb 8oz, 19 3/4 inches long.

Our first family pic Smile

Okay! This is getting entirely too long for an introduction post, so I'll stop now and post up about this pregnancy later tonight or tomorrow....

Thanks if you read all of it Smile

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WOOT!!! Welcome to your lodge!!! I can't wait to follow along on your road to Mr. Preston's arrival! Smile

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(Hi Shauna! Long time no see. Kostas's photo is adorable. Biggrin )

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Okay, I'll continue my intro later, but just wanted to post up that I have my birth plan appt with the MW today (no worries there -- everything I want is standard care for them) and I'll have my GBS swab. Really hoping not to have to worry about that; I was negative with Alexa so hoping for the same this time around. The MW did say that was the only reason I'd have to have an IV which I *really* don't want unless necessary.

I'll try to see if I can write up about this pregnancy while Alexa naps this afternoon.

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I am enjoying your intros! Can't wait for more! I am soooo impressed with how you did with Alexa's birth. Wonderful!

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Ditto! No need to worry about writing at length...it's great! Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge! Great intro:-) Mine were long too;-)

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:eek: OH wow! It's time for your lodge already????? That means mine is around the corner....

I'm SO excited and I loved reading your intro too. You are SOOOO close!

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Welcome to your lodge, so excited to see your story unfold. You have a beautiful family

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Okie, here's part 2 of my intro Smile

After having such an amazing birth experience with Alexa I was sold on NCB. Recovery was easy and, for the most part, Alexa took to breastfeeding like a champ. The only hard part was that DH only got one night off work because he had just started a new job. Nighttimes were hard -- DH would get up and help when needed but because of his work schedule I was pretty much flying solo on nighttime parenting duty. It was difficult as I was home with Alexa from about midnight on by myself & she was definitely one of those babes who had her days and nights ALL mixed up.

We knew we wanted more children eventually. Almost immediately I wondered if I had just been "lucky" or if I could ever have such a great birth experience again. I knew I definitely wanted to try, but someday later on for sure. We had originally thought that we would have children about 2 years apart, but when the time came that we would've needed to TTC we both knew that it was not the right time. I think it was more me than DH -- Alexa was still breastfeeding quite a lot, we coslept, and she was super attached to Mommy. I just couldn't imagine being pregnant again already. That along with some remodeling on our condo and wanting to sell & get a bigger house in the near future played a part in our decision to wait to TTC. We decided a three - year gap might suit us better.

In March of 2009 we sold our condo and in May we purchased our new home. We wanted to try for a spring or summer baby again so we decided to wait until after Alexa's 2nd birthday to TTC.

At the end of June we stopped using protection. I had gone off the mini-pill in January after AF came back (I really enjoyed not getting AF back until Alexa was almost 19months old!!!) and we had been using condoms. My cycles still weren't regular, although they were getting shorter. My first pp cycle was almost 60 days, the second 35, the third 34, and the fourth about 32 or 33 days I think. I figured things were getting back to normal so we might as well try. I also figured that, since my cycles weren't quite regulated, it might take awhile to get pregnant again. I'd heard many stories from people who got pregnant so easily their first time and then had difficulties conceiving their second. I was hoping that wouldn't happen, but definitely knew we couldn't bank on getting pregnant right out of the gate again.

In the middle of July we flew to Georgia for my MIL's surprise 60th birthday party. Everyone in the family went. My BIL's gf was pregnant (her LO was born in December) and so was my SIL (her LO was born end of January). We hadn't told anyone we were TTC and wanted to keep it that way. To my surprise, we weren't bombarded with questions of when we would have another. I thought that would come up for sure with all the other preggos around. While we were there I was super constipated. That was my first clue. When that happened I sort of *knew* I was pregnant, but I didn't want to really think so because I didn't want to be disappointed. My SIL was having a terrible time with her 18mth old son and I found myself tearing up and feeling bad for her. So, constipated and hormonal. On the flight home I was nauseous, but I attributed it to the turbulence. Also, I would only have been about 3 1/2 weeks along and my m/s with dd didn't kick in until 6 weeks along. When we got home I told DH that I was either getting the flu or I was pregnant. I held off on testing. I really didn't want to test too early again because of the early BFN I got with Alexa so I vowed that I wouldn't test until cd28. First thing in the morning of July 24 I took a HPT.

This is what I saw:

A faint positive, but a line for sure. I texted DH the pic and then asked him to pic of a digi test on the way home from work.

I was shocked that we got pregnant again on the first cycle trying. We got lucky again. This time around I was ecstatic we got pg right away. I didn't want to deal with the wondering if something was wrong, etc etc. I was still surprised though and a little "down" because DH and I had been getting along really well for the last month or so (I would say our relationship was probably the best it had been in a long time) and I knew that pregnancy seemed to throw a kink into our relationship because of stress, hormones, etc etc.

This pregnancy

Like my earlier pregnancy this one has been pretty uneventful pregnancy-wise. We've had a lot of other stresses -- DH's work, having a toddler to parent while being tired and pregnant, financial woes, etc etc. I've been a lot sorer this pregnany. Like I said earlier I got m/s pretty much right away. I never got to the whole puking my guts out stage (in fact, haven't puked at all this pregnancy) but I sure felt like I wanted to about 101% of the time. Very early on in my pregnancy I had a lot of pubic pain. I mentioned something about it to my OB at my 12 or 16 week appointment and she said it was "normal, especially for 2nd pregnancies." By 24 weeks it was excruciating and the back of my hips were hurting quite bad as well. The NP referred me to a physical therapist and after just one session and a few stretches my pubic pain was gone. Turns out the right half of my pelvic bone had shifted downward quite dramatically sometime early on in my pregnancy and it had just been getting worse and worse. The stretches did the trick though and I have felt pretty good (minus normal pregnancy hip pain) since.

I passed my GD test with flying colors. I was careful to follow a good higher protein lower carb diet in my 1st and 2nd trimesters. I ate a good low carb lunch and passed my GD test with an 83. Since then I've been a bit (okay, a lot ;)) more lax with my diet. I really try to be more careful and eat higher protein, but lately carbs have been my best friend.

The biggest stresses have probably been in the last few weeks. During my 34th week the OB's office called to say that my OB had a family emergency and would be out of the office until after my EDD. I asked if I could switch to another provider, but they told me I had to see whomever was on call the days I already had my appts scheduled. I felt extremely put off. There had been a lot of dissatisfaction with my OB's office this pregnancy. I had felt rushed, assembly-lined through, and not listened to. I was surprised that the same OB who I had felt so great about with my last pregnancy had seemingly changed so much. She stressed that she preferred me to have an IV or Hep-Lock which really surprised me because with dd it had never been mentioned. After going over my birth plan with her (and her signing off on it without the Hep-Lock or IV) I was feeling better about things, but the call that she would be gone was a huge blow. I was very upset. DH didn't seem to understand at first, stating that wouldn't we just be with whomever was on-call unless we were delivering during office hours anyways? True, but besides the point. I told him that I felt like it was a sign that we were supposed to go with our gut and look into other care. We had thought about it numerous times during the course of the pregnancy and I just felt like we at least needed to explore other options. He agreed and that afternoon I called the MW's office. I set up a meet and greet with the MW for the next afternoon. I kept my OB appt for later that week and we decided we'd make a decision after both appointments.

The meet and greet with the MW was so different than my OB appts! I immediately felt more at ease. The MW started by saying that they all shared a common philosophy -- that birth was a natural process. I found out that pretty much everything I wanted in my birth plan was standard practice for them. I left the office feeling good and, I think, deep down my decision had already been made but I waited to go to the OB appt the next day.

Friday was a whirlwind. I ended up having to take Alexa to the dr in the morning and then we ate a quick lunch and headed to my OB appt. The OB came in and immediately asked if I'd had any complications in my previous pregnancy. I replied that I had been diagnosed with GD and she said "Well, THAT'S a complication!!!" and began harping me with questions about how big Alexa was, if I "felt" bigger this time around, and on and on. She didn't listen at all when I tried to tell her that my OB and I had both concluded by the end of the pregnancy that it was likely a false positive because my numbers were so low on the diet. We talked a little more and then I asked if all the OB's were on the same page bc mine had already signed off on my birth plan. She said, "Oh yea. I'd really like you to consider having an IV or Hep-Lock because when you're bleeding to death is a really bad time to place an IV." At that moment I knew I would never come back to that office. I just wasn't down with the whole "bleeding to death" comment.

We had to surrender our cat to the Humane Society later that afternoon. We'd had him for 11 years and it was very tough. He was being aggressive and pooping on the floor and keeping everyone up all night. I know it was the right decision for all of us, including the cat, but it was SO hard. A lot harder afterwards than I thought it would be. Basically I was in tears for about 2 days straight.

On the way back from the Humane Society we stopped by the MW office and I filled out the form to transfer my care and all medical records. I made all my appts. I walked the form over to the OB's office and said I needed it taken care of immediately. I called on Monday to make sure it was being taken care of. I called on Tuesday to check up on it again. I was almost 35 weeks pregnant and really didn't want my medical records in limbo. I wanted it taken care of pronto. Later Tuesday afternoon the office mgr of my OB's office called and asked what had happened. I told her everything. She apologized profusely that they hadn't scheduled me with one doc for my remaining 5 appts. She didn't seem to blink an eye at the bleeding to death comment. Really, the scheduling issue was the least on my mind then.

I'm so glad that we switched. My only regret is not doing it sooner. There were many times during the pregnancy that I felt something was "off" or I wasn't happy with how we were being treated. I should've taken the leap earlier. I really think the fact that I *did* have such a great experience with this OB earlier made me hang on and hope things would go back to that way. I've had 2 appts with the MWs so I've met with 3 of the 5 in the practice. I've really liked all of them.

I'll be 36 weeks tomorrow and have been having a ton of BH and been quite crampy and tired. I'd really like baby boy (oh yea, it's a boy -- Preston) to hang tight a couple more weeks at least. For one, DH doesn't have any vacation pay until the 19th. My house is a catastrophe -- between all the craziness of switching care, the cat, all 3 of us getting sick, and now being so crampy I have to take a break after just about anything the house has really suffered. I'd like to get it cleaned up before the baby comes. I need to pack my hospital bag and install the car seat (hoping to do both of those this weekend). And I'd really like to meet the other 2 MWs in case they are on call when I go into labor.

We'll see if he goes along with my plan ;). Alexa was born at 38+1 and I always sort of felt this little guy would be earlier, but I'm not banking on that otherwise he'll be nice and comfy and fashionably late. On the one hand with how sore and achey I have been this whole pregnancy I am SO ready. On the other hand, I'm not really ready at all! I feel a bit overwhelmed thinking about how we'll transform into a family of four. Alexa is VERY excited about being a big sister and talks to Preston all the time; I really hope she is as excited when he's actually here.

Hmmm...I think that's about it. Do you think I can close my eyes, snap my fingers and my house will be clean?? ROFL

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36 week appt

Figured I'd post up in a little more detail about my appointment yesterday. They called early in the morning and asked if I could come in at noon instead of 3pm. I was able to bring dd (before you couldn't bc of cold/flu season) so I said yes. Then I remembered it was my birth plan appt and I would be having the GBS swab -- not so fun with a 2 1/2 year old in the room! Luckily, DH had a relatively easy day at work and was able to meet us there. He ended up taking Alexa home because she was pretty antsy and it was close to her naptime too (not that she ended up taking a nap until we were in the car later, but that's another story!).

Met with another one of the MWs -- she was older and really nice. She said she'd do the quick GBS swab and said she could check me if I wanted. I declined. I've already been horribly crampy & I was a day shy of 36 weeks so didn't want one. What a difference to ask if I wanted her to check me -- at least a difference from the OB's office. I asked about the antibiotics I would get if I was positive bc I am penicillin allergic. I'm really hoping to be negative because she did say the other antibiotics need a higher volume in your body so it would take a little longer on the IV. She did say they could just administer a Hep-Lock, hook up the antibiotics and then unhook. I'm really hoping it's nothing to have to worry about! I'll find out the results at my appt next Wednesday.

My BP was 122/70, a bit higher than usual but still good. I think at that point I was a bit nervous if DH would get there in time for the appt which probably contributed to a bit higher of a reading.

She palpated and baby boy is head down and "right on top of my bladder." As if she needed to tell me that :lol:. She did mention that she thought he was bigger than dd who was 6lb 8oz. I don't know if she meant already, or would be, or what. I don't place too much emphasis on that; I've always thought he'd probably be bigger than she was. I don't want him to be TOO big though! She said "that won't be a problem though" and I agree.

I'm up about 33 or 34lbs so far this pregnancy. Only about 5 more than I gained with dd and that was on the GD diet, so :woohoo:

When I mentioned to the MW that I had been feeling crampy and having quite a few BH she did say that maybe I should think about getting checked at my next appt. I am curious I guess, but also know that knowing how far dilated I am (or am not) isn't really going to do any good. It's totally up to me, they really like to avoid internal checks as much as they can, so I just have to figure out what I want to do. I'm leaning towards waiting till 38 weeks to get checked. I don't know. I know I could be no dilated at all and have a baby the next day or walk around at 4cm for the next 4 weeks. I think if I did find out that I was dilated a few cm it might cause me more anxiety wondering if DH would get home from work in time or if my sis would get here to watch Alexa. I just don't think I need that anxiety. In reality, we live about 10min tops from the hospital so it isn't too much of a worry.

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The biggest stresses have probably been in the last few weeks. During my 34th week the OB's office called to say that my OB had a family emergency and would be out of the office until after my EDD. I asked if I could switch to another provider, but they told me I had to see whomever was on call the days I already had my appts scheduled. I felt extremely put off.

Yeah, I had the same kind of experience with my OB with Daniel, but not quite as bad. That and the "bleeding to death comment" would seriously piss me off, I'm so glad you did something about it.

KUP on the GBS- I hadn't ever thought of how a drug allergy would affect that.

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TFS all this! I'm so happy for you that you're in such a better, more supportive environment for this birth now. Better late than never, right?

I hear you about the cervical checks. I think I'm going to avoid them as much as possible.

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It sounds like your MW office is pretty low-key and everything sounds really good!
The last time I accepted cervical checks prior to labor was with my third, and it definitely DID increase my anxiety, because I was a 3 and 4 cm for about 4 weeks before she was born. I ended up scurrying into L&D a couple of times thinking I would have a baby and was sent home after several hours of walking the hallways. She wasn't actually born until a few days after the EDD. It also made me falsely think that the labor with her would be very quick since I was already dilated so much, but it turned out to be about the same length as the rest of them. I decided it's not worth the stress for me, personally. I have heard a few of the ladies here talk about checking their own cervix. I haven't tried this, but I guess it's possible if you wanted to.
The cramping probably tells you that your body is getting ready...After all, you are 36 weeks. Smile
I hope all is negative with the GBS!

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Well I hope you get a negative GBS! I am so glad that you are seeing the MW's. From my experiences - I'd never go back.

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So excited because my sister is going to come over for a few hours tomorrow and help me around the house. It will REALLY help. I really appreciate it too because the girl works like 6 days a week and almost never has any time for herself so it is really nice for her to take the time to help us out. I'm going to try to make a long list of all the cleaning stuff I want to get done -- that way I figure I can work on the easier stuff and she can vacuum and do the floors or stuff like that. Everytime I try to bend or anything I get super crampy. I'll have to stop by Starbucks in the morning and get her a gift card or something.

And I swapped clothes with a friend today. She's having a girl in June and has a son a little younger than Alexa. Holy moly she had a TON of boy's clothes. Her son was born in October so some of it is off-season but I am so thankful to have a pile of clothes now. I know people will be bringing clothes later, but we didn't have a shower and I was kinda freaking that the babe would have like 3 outfits.

Also my sis picked up a wooden letter T for Preston's room. I'd gotten all the other letters for his name, but the craft store was always out of the T. I was starting to worry his wall would be decorated with PRESON instead of his name :lol:. I joked with DH that we could just change it to say PERSON...heehee.

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Hi, Kristen!!! I'm so glad I can follow you on your lodge. I can't wait to read all about Preston's arrival. I loved your long intros -- I never get tired of hearing about Alexa's birth! Smile I hope you have just as good (or an even better!) experience this time.

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GLad your sister is going to come help you! It's great that she's close enough to help out.

I hope your GBS winds up negative (I am also allergic to a lot of antibiotics, including penicillin, so I am hoping I don't need the IV also)!

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:woohoo: you're getting so close! I loved your intros and glad you found a nice MW to assist you in this delivery!

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Things are going pretty well today. My sis and I got a lot of chores done yesterday & DH hung some drapes and a cool chandelier thingy yesterday. It was a gorgeous day out so Alexa got to play outside a lot and we ended up BBQing hamburgers and roasting hot dogs and marshmallows over the fire pit for dinner. The nice weather is gone though and now they say there might be snow mixed with rain Mon night - Tues morning. Crazy!!

I think today was my last day of work before maternity leave. I only work one day a week on Sundays. I might go in next week depending on how I feel, but it was rough working today. My knees really ache being on my feet so much. My bosses are really cool though and I pretty much just get to take it easy, but I was still feeling pretty crappy by the time my little 4hr shift was over.

I'm sort of sad because on the way home from the store (Trader Joes -- yummy!) Alexa was so upset and didn't want me to sit by her. We haven't installed the infant seat yet and she keeps wanting either DH or I to sit by her. I don't know, I guess my feelings were just hurt. I already worry about the impact having the baby will have on my and Alexa's very close relationship. I'm so glad she's attached to Daddy too, but it hurts when she says she "doesn't want [me] anymore." I'm sure the pregnancy hormones don't help. She's been having a super rough afternoon ever since she woke up from her nap though -- so upset at the drop of a hat! I'm sure I'll be her best friend again soon, I think it just hit right where my anxieties already are.

We've been telling her that pretty soon she'll always have someone to ride in the back with her and she seems to be pretty excited that Preston will be hanging out with her in the back of the car :).

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Well, it sounds like she is growing up - which is hard, but when baby #2 comes, you'll probably be glad in some ways that she isn't literally attached to your leg.
I'm jealous of your weather! I want roasted marshmallows!!!!

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"Barefoot~Mama" wrote:

Well, it sounds like she is growing up - which is hard, but when baby #2 comes, you'll probably be glad in some ways that she isn't literally attached to your leg.

You are right. I am very glad that DH can lay her down for bed (she nursed to sleep until just after I found out I was pregnant when we gently weaned) and I'm glad that she turns to DH for things now too. There was quite a long period of time where she wanted Mama for everything & I know sometimes it was hard on DH. I do think it is good she's becoming more independent and the timing is nice too. It's still hard, but I know it's part of her becoming her own little independent person which is so neat to see too!

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"klmj" wrote:

You are right. I am very glad that DH can lay her down for bed (she nursed to sleep until just after I found out I was pregnant when we gently weaned) and I'm glad that she turns to DH for things now too. There was quite a long period of time where she wanted Mama for everything & I know sometimes it was hard on DH. I do think it is good she's becoming more independent and the timing is nice too. It's still hard, but I know it's part of her becoming her own little independent person which is so neat to see too!

My mom told me when I had Matthew, that the best thing for Dads can be baby #2 because their older sibling learns that Dad can do things too. And while I was sad for a while when Joseph wanted DH instead of me, I've really enjoyed seeing their relationship grow too.

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Just finished reading everything so far. Wow, what a beautiful & wonderful first birth! I hope the second is even better! Fingers crossed on the GBS being negative, but if it is positive, there are things you can do. I think we even had a thread about it recently, should still be within the first few pages.

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Hawkes has also been in Daddy mode since I got pg. It can be hard, but I know it is for the best since then it will be easier for him when Libby comes. And yes the hormones do not help.

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Like you guys said, I am kinda glad she is in Daddy mode in a way because I know it will make things a little easier once the babe is here. For that I am glad! I hope our transition to a family of four goes smoothly. Many friends who have had 2nd kiddos recently have had a rough time. She is VERY excited about her new baby brother. I think it helped my niece was born in December so she's been around a little baby a bit (although I know it will be different when the baby is here 24/7) but at least she got a better idea of what a little baby is like. She is completely in LOVE with her cousin which is so cute -- talks about her ALL the time. I hope she takes to Preston just as well.

I'll have to look for that GBS thread Stacey, thanks. I do hope I'm negative and it's nothing I have to worry about, but better to be armed with information beforehand just in case!

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Oh, and just because I forgot to mention it yesterday I am SO OVER people telling me how huge I am and how huge my baby is going to be. I'll have to get DH to take a belly pic soon -- we were so busy over the weekend I forgot!

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Oh, Kristen! I can't believe people are telling you you look huge. Don't people know they should NEVER say that to a pregnant lady? What, as if she doesn't know that she's big? LOL. Besides, I've seen recent pics of you, and I think you look beautiful, not "huge" at all.

I hope your transition to a family of four goes smoothly, as well! I think there will be a learning curve at first, just as you and DH learn to juggle the demands of two kids, but I'm sure you'll have it down pat in no time. For us, I never had to worry about how Jack took to Derek -- he seemed to be delighted in Derek from day 1, and dotes on his little brother (and Derek thinks Jack walks on water). I personally felt very overwhelmed, though (as you know), like I was torn in a million different directions and not being a great mom to either child. I felt like I was just meeting the physical needs of each child and not doing much else beyond that. These days things are MUCH better!

I think your relationship with Alexa will get even better, in the long term, because of Preston's arrival. Yes, in the short term, she will have to lean to share you, BUT, alone time with you will be so much more precious (for both of you!) when you do have it. Also, she'll learn even more about caring for others through seeing how you take care of Preston. Plus she can be your big girl helper. DH and I have noticed that Jack is much more considerate, and just more mature, since Derek has been born. And, there are still some things that Jack only wants Mommy to do! Smile

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Watching your baby grow up is always hard. I had a good cry about it after #2 and #3 were born. I love the relationships they have now, but it's it feels like your takeing something special away from them at the same time as your adding to the family. You'll do a great job with the baby, for me adding #3 was easier then #2 I won't lie:)

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Well, I think we may finish up the baby's room today and tomorrow. We ordered a twin bed for his room and hopefully it'll be ready to pick up today. I also am almost done painting the letters for his name so hopefully we can hang those tomorrow. The twin bed turned out to be a lifesaver with dd. It was a purchase I almost thought we didn't need to make, but because of DH's work schedule & lots of nighttime nursing it was one of the best purchases we made! Baby boy will probably be in our room for the first month or so, but after that I imagine I will end up sleeping on the bed in his room part of the night or we will cosleep part of the night. I do hope he's a little more independent of a sleeper than dd, but I do imagine there will be some form of cosleeping going on.

Hoping to have the carseat installed & my hospital bag packed today too. I'd just feel better having those two things done.

The BH and crampiness seem to have died down a bit which I am thankful for. I definitely still have both of them off and on, but the constant BH from dinner to bedtime seem to have stopped. I'm glad because, for a multitude of reasons, I'd like baby boy to sit tight until at least 38 weeks. I wonder if he's on to my plan Wink

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"klmj" wrote:

The twin bed turned out to be a lifesaver with dd. It was a purchase I almost thought we didn't need to make, but because of DH's work schedule & lots of nighttime nursing it was one of the best purchases we made! Baby boy will probably be in our room for the first month or so, but after that I imagine I will end up sleeping on the bed in his room part of the night or we will cosleep part of the night. I do hope he's a little more independent of a sleeper than dd, but I do imagine there will be some form of cosleeping going on.

You know, when I finally figured out how to nurse laying down (I wish someone had showed me before my 5th!!) it was a lifesaver for me. This time around we purchased a king bed and a firmer mattress so I am hoping that will help and DH won't have to find another place to sleep! The only problem is when his alarm goes off. Well, I don't usually hear it unless I am already awake, so hopefully baby will get used to it, too.

You are getting so much accomplished!! I am glad you are feeling better, as far as the crampiness and BH.

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"rainymama" wrote:

You know, when I finally figured out how to nurse laying down (I wish someone had showed me before my 5th!!) it was a lifesaver for me. This time around we purchased a king bed and a firmer mattress so I am hoping that will help and DH won't have to find another place to sleep! The only problem is when his alarm goes off. Well, I don't usually hear it unless I am already awake, so hopefully baby will get used to it, too.

You are getting so much accomplished!! I am glad you are feeling better, as far as the crampiness and BH.

When dd was sleeping with us in the master she never really woke up to his alarm -- I hope your LO doesn't either. It was nice. It always woke me up though! When she was little we were in our condo and a lot of time she would wake up when he was out in the kitchen getting ready for work; now that we're in a bigger space I'm hoping that won't happen as often. DH can't seem to sleep at all with a baby in the bed. I was hoping we'd be able to get a bigger bed, but our bedroom in the new house is still pretty small so we're sticking with our queen. That and he goes to be about 6pm usually.

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"klmj" wrote:

That and he goes to be about 6pm usually.

Are you going to have to do bedtime for your DD by yourself every night?

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"rainymama" wrote:

Are you going to have to do bedtime for your DD by yourself every night?

Yes :(. It is actually one of my biggest worries how the new baby will affect her daily routine. Hopefully DH will be taking 2-3 weeks off work, but after that I'll be pretty much on my own for bedtime for both the kiddos. Right now we lay down and read stories and I lay with her until she falls asleep. I'm not sure what we'll do when the baby is here, I guess just go with the flow??? I'm hoping I can lay down with her after the baby falls asleep and then she can go down. It'd be some nice one-on-one time with her; we might have to fudge our bedtime schedule for a bit, but I'm hoping not by much.

Speaking of sleep, last night was rough! The baby was kicking and moving around like crazy ALL NIGHT. DD woke up 3 times. DH got up with her the last time at 5:30 or so because she wouldn't go back to sleep. I woke up around 6 and the baby was kicking around again so I just got up. Hopefully dd will take an earlier nap and I might be able to squeeze one in too before my MW appt today.

Have my 37wk appt this afternoon. Will get the GBS results so send me lots of negative vibes!!! Really hoping not to have to deal with that!

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"klmj" wrote:

Have my 37wk appt this afternoon. Will get the GBS results so send me lots of negative vibes!!! Really hoping not to have to deal with that!

Definitely sending vibes your way, good luck!

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Hope she takes a nap for you. Yeah bedtime routine here is going to be interseting as well since DS still only wants me to put him to sleep. Luckily I just sit in his room with, so I figure I can sit their with the new baby if need be. have you tried moving to sitting rather than lying down so if you need to hold the baby you can?

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Hope your appt went well!

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Oh bummer! I had a long post typed out and somehow I backed out of it :(.

The long and short of it was:

I'm GBS negative :woohoo:

Liked the MW today okay, although didn't click with her as much as I have with the others.

Starting packing my hospital bag.

And, Drake, thanks for the idea about sitting. I do sometimes and, while Alexa doesn't like it as much as when I lie down with her, she does do fine. I should try that for the next bit of time and see how it goes.

Okay, I'll elaborate more tomorrow....

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yay on the GBS-!!
That is a huge relief, I bet.
That's a good idea about sitting.
I have been in the same boat for years (the bedtime alone deal) and I have to say I have had my ups and downs with it. I usually am sitting in the room with our toddler(s) when a new baby is born, and so I try to feed the baby in there to help keep them quiet.
I have tried to stop sitting with the toddler but that has had limited success, what with adjusting to a baby in the house, and them getting out of bed constantly to come to me, etc.
I have found the most calm bedtimes are when I am not trying to be on too tight of a schedule, like you mentioned, and do a lot of book-reading and snuggling as much as I can right before bed with the toddler, so that they are ok with me just sitting in there till they fall asleep.
You and your little ones will find your groove, just by trying things out.

I hope the rest of your day went ok. I know it's hard to sleep at your point. That's why it's always funny when people say "Get your sleep now, while you still can!" haha. That's just one of the classic examples of how your baby is ALREADY "here" and you have been living with the child for a long time now!

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"rainymama" wrote:

That's why it's always funny when people say "Get your sleep now, while you still can!" haha. That's just one of the classic examples of how your baby is ALREADY "here" and you have been living with the child for a long time now!

Ugh, agreed! The sleeping-while-you-can ship sailed right around my BFP Wink

Congrats on the negative GBS!!!

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