~*~*Mandy's Birth Lodge (MandyMommy)~*~*

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~*~*Mandy's Birth Lodge (MandyMommy)~*~*

Welcome to your lodge! I hope I didn't miss one for you started already? I'm just taking a wild guess that your name is Mandy:) I look forward to your story!

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Congrats and welcome to your lodge.

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Congrats and welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to reading about your journey.

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welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome!!!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Oh yay! I was wondering when I'd get my lodge - I don't post super often so I wasn't sure if anyone would catch it. Thanks!
So my story...beware it's quite long, I got carried away LOL! One of my pics ended up really big too...
DH and I met on an online dating site. I didn't do a ton of dating around, but I hate the whole first date thing and I just wanted to make a list and find someone who satisfied my requirements LOL! I guess it worked out okay! We had a 13 hour first date and have been together since. It's somewhat challenging because he does field work and has been out of town for varying amounts of time since we started dating, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel...he should be all done his field work requirements for his SLS designation in spring, so no more field time woohoo!!
We got married in September 2007, so we've been married just over a year now, together a little more than 3. The wedding was very informal, in a local city park, with a marriage commissioner, and all 18 of our guests just stood around us and watched. The whole thing took no more than 10 minutes, it started raining just toward the end of the ceremony so we were trying to hurry it up! Here's two of our pics:

I wanted to start TTC in the spring of 2008 so that the birth would correspond with my one year of employment anniversary with the company I was working for so I would be eligible for mat leave. Things did not work out that way in the end. DH started a new job where he was out of town in the field a lot, for a month at a time, so between December (when I went off the pill) and March, he was not in town during any of my fertile times. Then he came home in the middle of March, and we made the decision to move to Saskatchewan for his new position, so we were going to continue to chart and avoid DTD during my fertile times until after the move was over. Around this time, I felt like I had a UTI and was going to the doctor to get some antibiotics, so I decided to take a preg test just to make sure I wasn't preggo so the antibiotics would be okay. Lo and behold,

BFP! I was in total shock and disbelief for the whole day, because I'd actually been so careful to time things to not get pregnant! I guess I won't be using charting as birth control in the future LOL! I told DH later that day, after I took another test just to make extra sure. I think we were both really in shock but tentatively excited at the same time.
DH moved to Saskatoon at the beginning of May to start his new position, and I stayed in Calgary to keep working as long as possible and pack up the house in preparation for the move. So here I am, 9-ish weeks pregnant, in the full "fun" of m/s, by myself doing all the packing. Boy was that fun.
DH and my parents came up to Calgary one weekend to pack up the house in the UHaul, and off we went! So since then I've not been working. It's been nice in a way because I've had a somewhat difficult pregnancy, but at the same time, I've been incredibly bored! I've just been trying to keep busy doing crafty things and taking care of my two furbabies. They've been extra cuddly during my pregnancy, it's kinda funny. Here they are - Zeus and Tigger:

My issues with this pregnancy have been with food Smile My m/s wasn't too bad, I didn't have very much vomitting, but I just couldn't eat at all! I lost a bit of weight during the first trimester, and it took a while to bounce back from that. Since about the 17th week, I've felt much better, but I am hypoglycaemic normally, so pregnancy has just aggravated that. I also have very low blood pressure, so I've literally had to carry snacks with me in my purse throughout the pregnancy, and eat every 2 hours or so or risk fainting constantly. So that's been tough. Also I've joked that this baby is going to be a kick boxer because it kicks so hard and so much that it's painful! I cannot wait for it to be over honestly. At my last ultrasound baby was measuring right on target, but I'm measuring small, so babe is just crammed in there in such a tight space and it's quite uncomfortable.
I've so far been feeling a little more tired than normal for the last week or so, and I've had a bit more cramping and stronger BH ctx, but other than that I've had no signs that babe is coming anytime soon Sad I really wish it would make it's appearance sooner than my due date. Here's my evolution from 18 to 24 to 28 to 33 weeks:

I'm going to take another pic soon to see if there's been any "dropping" in the last couple weeks.

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Welcome to your lodge and what a great introduction! Wow, your pictures are beautiful!

I can't wait to follow your final stretch.

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You're gorgeous! And welcome to your lodge. Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! Your pictures are beautiful!!!

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Welcome to your lodge! You look great!

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Welcome to your lodge! Your wedding picture is amazing!

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You look great!! I'm sorry this pregnancy has been hard on you, but it's about to pay off in a great big way:) Do you get really sick of people telling you how tiny you are? It's annoying to hear all the comments and I'm guessing get lot's of them?

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nice intro and what a cute belly

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great intro! thanks for sharing the pics you look great. i'm sorry your preg. has not been great. i hope your next few weeks move right along for you. looking forward to hearing more about your journey!

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Yes, people commenting "oh you're so small!" when I tell them how far along I am is getting really irritating. Also people see the belly and think it gives them carte blanche to start talking to me and asking personal questions! I'm like "who are you and why are you talking to me?" LOL. Oh, well, it's not too much longer now.

I've had a fairly calm weekend, getting a little more crampy, and the skin at the top of my belly is really sore, I think because I've dropped a lot and now it's being pulled within an inch of its life! My belly button feels like it's on fire too - if I even bump it a little, it hurts like crazy, which is hard to avoid since I now have an outie!

I would really like to go into labour early, but at this point, I'm not feeling like its going to happen anytime soon Sad
I'm excited today because I'm going to get a haircut and pedicure - yippee! Having pretty toes and someone to rub your feet and calves really makes you feel human again Smile

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Hurrah for your lodge - great intro. Love your pictures.

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Welcome to your lodge! Great intro and pics! I can't wait to read your birth story.

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Oh a pedicure would be heavenly! enjoy!

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Welcome!!! Smile

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I hope you enjoy your chance to relax and pamper your self! Labor won't be that far off, try not to stress about it yet:)

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Congrats on your lodge Mandy. I love the pics from your ceremony - looks like you're on vacation. Great intro by the way.

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Still feeling much the same as yesterday...except with pretty toes! Pedi was awesome :)!
I didn't sleep at all last night. Ugh. I was up, down, up, down. I had a lot of cramping and babe must be in a growth spurt because I had to get up twice to eat a snack! I haven't had to do that for a while. So I'm pretty tired today, but I guess I'd better get used to that right? Wink

I have my weekly checkup in 2 hours, so I'm off to shower and get ready to go to the doc. I'll update later! Ciao!

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Have a great appt!

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My appointment went well, I had to get the GBS swab (fun!), my bp was down just a touch, and I've actually lost 2.5lbs which I thought was kinda wierd. Baby is sooo active, I get confused if I'm feeling BH or just movement because it's quite violent in there!
I'm getting anxious. Not scared, just impatient, and it seems silly but I'm kinda worried that I won't know when my contrax start. Is that silly? I don't know if I've had many practice contrax thusfar, so I'm not sure what to expect.

I just realized that I didn't cover why I want ncb in my intro. I'm a fairly "crunchy" person, I don't like taking any kind of drugs, even Tylenol. I don't eat any processed food, and in general try to live a very holistic type of life. I am not afraid of needles normally, but I honestly don't know who wouldn't be freaked out by the thought of a huge needle in their spine! So I want to avoid the epidural at all costs, and I also do not want to go through major abdominal surgery to do something that should come naturally. I figure my mother did it twice, my grandmother did it 5 times, why can't I? All the reading I've done on ncb also convinced me further, that there were fewer complications to the baby, and that labour should progress better without interventions. Of course, if it becomes necessary in the moment to have some kind of intervention I won't say no, but I think my first go-to method should be to do it on my own, then turn to intervention if necessary, not the other way around, you know?

I'm also starting to worry just a bit that I won't be strong enough to take it without the drugs. I'm trying really hard to stay positive, but I can't help but have those moments of doubt.

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Sounds like your in the right mindset! I hope you get some rest soon what a drag. Looseing weight can be a sign of impending labor:) I think you'll know when labor starts for most people it's a very intense experience!

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I'm late with this, but welcome to your lodge! Your wedding pics were beautiful! I got a lot of comments about looking small when I was pg and I found them annoying. You are probably more likely to think you're in labor when you're not than think you're not in labor when you are.

Is your doctor and hospital supportive of NCB?

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So here I am, up at 4:30am Sad I actually slept pretty well for most of the night, but after my last pee break baby just wouldn't settle down and it hurts to lay horizontal. So I'm sitting on the couch, with nothing to do.
I don't know if I'm jinxing myself here or not, but I kinda feel like something might be happening. I have noticably (to myself anyway) dropped more in the last 48-72 hours, the pressure on my bladder and sometimes my cervix is quite powerful. I'm also feeling some rectal pressure, like I have to go to the bathroom a lot. I haven't gotten any of the pre-labour diarrhea or bloody show yet though.
On one hand, I'd be ecstatic to go into labour now, and on the other hand, I wish it would wait until at least next Saturday (my birthday) because the movie Twilight is opening on Friday and I really want to go!! Silly I know.
Originally I wanted to have a hospital birth with a midwife, but in the province I live, midwifery is just getting introduced into the healthcare system, and there are no practicing midwives yet available. I was chatting with one lady throughout my pregnancy because she thought she might be available by October or so, but as it turns out they won't be ready for me in time. For the next baby I'll have a midwife. So for this time around, I have to have a hospital birth with my OB. (There aren't even enough doulas to go around here, so I don't have one of those either) I discussed ncb with my OB though, and she is on board, and said that the hospital here is quite ncb friendly - they allow me to move around freely, will discuss any interventions they feel are necessary with me first, and the baby rooms in with me as a rule unless there are complications. So I'm not that worried. I'll have my DH and sister with me and they both know my wishes, so I'm hoping at least one of them with be able to be an advocate on my behalf if I need it. I'm not expecting a lot of birth support from either of them though, DH is very squeamish about blood and my sister is quite squeamish about the pregnancy/birth process. So I'm expecting this to be quite a head game for myself. I'm hoping that my confidence doesn't wane too much in the moment.
At this point, I'm just trying to rack my brain and think if there's anything else I need to do to be ready....

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Do you have a friend or family member that has experienced and enjoyed natural childbirth themselves? Someone like that has the potential to make a great doula, and they'd likely do it for free too. Wink Sorry if I missed this, but have you made a birth plan yet? I felt like my plan was so important last time, and it was nice that my support people were familar with it. You'll have to do less advocating for yourself if everyone is directed toward your birth plan.

And it's common in first pregnancies for the baby to drop weeks before they actually arrive. With my DD, she dropped around 36 weeks with a lot of the symptoms you described and she didn't arrive until 41 weeks 3 days. Smile Obviously I don't know if this will be the case with your little one, but it's possible!

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Unfortunately I don't know anyone who would make a good doula. I just moved to this city a few months ago, and so literally don't know anyone except my immediate family. None of them would make a good doula, we're just not that kind of family. I also haven't gotten that much ncb support from them either, they're kind of in the "we'll see what happens" camp - they accept that I want ncb, but don't really believe I'll be able to. I've gotten a lot of flack for my plans to exclusively breastfeed and cloth diaper too. They seem to imply that they think it's a good idea, but are all "you know you're putting all your hopes on doing such and such, but chances are you won't be able to." I hate the negativity, and I don't particularly want that in the birthing room.
I haven't done up a birth plan yet, but I think I'll work on that this week.

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Too bad you do not have more IRL support, but at least you have us to talk to. can you request a nurse at your hospital who has experience with ncb?

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i'm really sorry for the lack of support, that would be frustrating. i think it's normal to question yourself, as far as being able to get through it w/o, i would guess we've all had moments of doubt. know that we are here for you and supportive of you and your decisions. you can do this!

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I lot of people think wanting a NCB is a "phase" FTMs go through, and that they only want to go natural because they don't yet know "how bad it is." I think there are a few things that make "it" worse--women who expect labor to be "bad" are going to interpret it as "bad," also I found that being about to move was very important for me in getting through contractions, and in a lot of hospitals, women are encouraged to stay in bed to not disturb the readings on the monitor. I couldn't do it laying down the whole time, that's for sure! Interventions that are common (pit induction/augmentation, AROM) can also make labor more difficult to manage.

It's good that your hospital is supportive of moving around and that it doesn't sound like they do a lot of routine intervention, and that you and your OB are on the same page.

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I actually found that the dout of people around me made me want to do all the things I wanted to do even more! I'm the kind of person that get's something in my head and doesn't stop until I feel like I've done what I set out to do. For me I was able to use the "negative" spin around me as a push to stand up for what I wanted, maybe you will be able to use it the same way. I hope you have a good weekend and get a full night of sleep tonight.

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"MandyMommy" wrote:

Unfortunately I don't know anyone who would make a good doula. I just moved to this city a few months ago, and so literally don't know anyone except my immediate family. None of them would make a good doula, we're just not that kind of family. I also haven't gotten that much ncb support from them either, they're kind of in the "we'll see what happens" camp - they accept that I want ncb, but don't really believe I'll be able to. I've gotten a lot of flack for my plans to exclusively breastfeed and cloth diaper too. They seem to imply that they think it's a good idea, but are all "you know you're putting all your hopes on doing such and such, but chances are you won't be able to." I hate the negativity, and I don't particularly want that in the birthing room.
I haven't done up a birth plan yet, but I think I'll work on that this week.

I also kept my family out of my labor. It was a good call!

I think you will know just what to do and hopefully there will be nothing too exciting about it (no emergencies)! Your body was made to birth the baby. Remember to practice relaxation (whether hypno or not) and have DH look for signs of tension during labor. It really does help! And it gives him something concrete to focus on if he is nervous or unsure about what to do.

You are on the home stretch. I hope it goes wonderfully and you can enjoy this time.

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I think you will do well in labour and get the birth you want, even if you don't have the 'idea' you know what you want and are informed about the decisions you may need to make.

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Last night the baby was moving around like crazy! She's very active in the evening, I'm hoping that doesn't continue after birth! I also had a ton of really sharp stabbing pains in my cervix (I think) - what is that about?!
Though after all that, I actually slept pretty well finally, yay! That seems to be the pattern, no sleep for a few days, and then utter exhaustion knocks me out for one good sleep and then it starts all over again. Sheesh!
I feel much better this morning after that night of sleep though, I think I might actually have the energy to get some stuff done today!
My ticker says I have 20 days left...exciting but yikes!

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That is great that you had such a good sleep! Rest is important - take it easy today.

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"MandyMommy" wrote:

Last night the baby was moving around like crazy! She's very active in the evening, I'm hoping that doesn't continue after birth! I also had a ton of really sharp stabbing pains in my cervix (I think) - what is that about?!

Babies tend to get more active when you are resting because the movement you do during the day rocks them to sleep. Most babies sleep a lot as newborns, both during the day and at night, but sometimes it takes a while for them to figure out that night is for sleeping, but they figure it out eventually.

I had the stabbing pains like you're describing. It's probably your cervix starting to efface, which is exciting!

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My baby is a crazy mover at night too! Sounds like you are doing well....are you going to get internal checks when you go to your OB too see what is going on in there?

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The doc hasn't mentioned internal checks yet, and if they offer it I'll likely turn it down. I don't see the point - most people are a little dilated at this point, but that doesn't indicate when my labour will happen. I'd rather not play the "am I progressing?" game. Once labour starts in earnest, I'm sure I'll know.

I've started experiencing really bad tailbone pain and sciatic pain in the last few days. It's excruciating! I can't imagine contractions being any more painful that that. Hopefully anyway Smile My sciatic pain seems to be the worst when I'm on the toilet (sorry TMI). Maybe my intestines are pressing on the nerve? 'Cause I swear, when I'm sitting there, I have to try and stretch out my left leg a little to make it tolerable and even then it hurts so bad I want to cry! Has anyone else experienced this?

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I haven't had that problem - but I laughed when you said "I can't imagine contractions being any more painful that that." - because any time I've been feeling pain (like that pain you get when you twist from side to side too quickly?) I think - DAMN! I hope labor doesn't hurt this much! Lol

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Still feeling much the same. I'm sleeping a bit better this week, so that's nice. Baby is still kicking the sh*t out of me constantly, and it increases in the evening. That seems to be baby's busiest time of day. I'm getting quite a few of the sharp pains in my cervix every evening, and the odd ctrx, but nothing major.
I've read that you're supposed to start getting soft stools when you get close, but I'm having the opposite problem! Grrr.
I've also been getting some really sharp cramping - not like menstrual cramps mind you, more like the cramps you get in your side when you go for a hard run or something. It kinda feels like round ligament pain, but that's not supposed to still be happening is it?

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I though the ligament pain could continue the whole pregnancy? I hope your little one lets you get some rest and that your not in too much pain. In my experience the loose bm does happen close to labor, try drinking lots of water it should help!

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i am glad you are sleeping better, it makes a world of difference. i've had stabbing pains kinda like what you described as well as pains in my cervix, very uncomfy! i would assume that ligament pain would/could continue throughout b/c your body is 'always' adjusting things and making room for your uterus and babies movements

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Glad you are sleeping better! I am 32 weeks and still have horrible liagment pain, but mostly after I have been sitting a while then stand up fast. I get stabbing pains in my stomach by my ovary area. I hope you feel better.

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I'm still having the ligament pain too - I think it's normal!

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I had another checkup today, and everything is supposedly fine, but I've gained 5 pounds in the last week, and my bp shot up! It's still within normal ranges, but it's wierd! My bp has been holding steady at 98/56 for the whole pregnancy, then all of a sudden this week it's 124/78 - what could cause that?

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higher bp can happen for all sorts of reasons and most of them are just temporary. mine has been steady and then up and then back again next time. our bodies are pretty weird.

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Did you have the check up a a different time of day than normal? I usually go in the morning - but had one appointment later in the afternoon, and pretty much everything was different! I'm sure it's no big deal. The doc would have said some if they were worried!

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I find if I have coffee that it can effect my bp. I wouldn't worry because if it was something serious, I think you would have felt or had some inclination that you were not doing as well.

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