~*~*Mindie's (TyrantOfTheWeek) Birth Lodge*~*~

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So sorry it's late hun, I hope you had a wonderful holiday and a relaxing weekend!

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Woohoo Mindie!! Welcome to your lodge!!

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I think you said you'd be out of town here for a few more days, but I'm looking forward to hearing how you're doing! Smile

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge, Mindie!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome, Mindie!

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Congrats on making it this far and welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome! I look forward to hearing your story.

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Back to Atlanta from Thanksgiving. I will write up a story for you guys in a little while. I am so excited to be going through this journey and getting the chance to share it with you all Smile

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Welcome to your lodge, Mindie!! Smile

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My Super Uber Long Story About How I Got Here.

DS 1:
My pregnancy with Dylan was quite eventful. I was so hyper emetic that I lost about 50 pounds during the duration of the pregnancy. I am so glad he was my first because I could take my Phenergan and sleep alllll day. About 2 weeks leading up to his delivery and because I was a FTM, I was in L&D pretty much every other day with contractions thinking that it was the real deal...yeah, right.
The early morning hours of his birth, I got the most intense pain I had ever felt in my life up to that point. By 5 am, I was getting admitted FINALLY! He was born at 10:58 am on April 22, 2004 after 2 long hours of pushing (He was posterior). He almost died due to two true umbilical knots. His first APGAR was a 3. They called a code blue and rushed him to the special care nursery. The first time I saw my baby was in a Polaroid pic of him under an oxygen hood. After the midwife stitched me up, everyone left the room and I was completely alone. It was the worst most helpless feeling ever. I had to lay there for like 2 hours for the epidural to wear off so I could go see him. My ex husband was a complete non-supportive as$hat. I had the most severe PPD I could ever imagine because of his constant mental abuse (and the rape 7 days after the birth didn't help much..). I wanted to give him the best start possible and really wanted to breast feed him. I guess Ex was jealous of this and sabotaged my entire efforts. I ended up moving Dylan and me to a women's shelter when he was 4 months old. I had to sneak out and I never looked back.
Dylan was 6lbs, 3 ounces and 19.5 inches long
DS2:
Exactly 2 years, 2 months, and 2 days later, I was in labor with my second baby. During his pregnancy, I wanted something more out of the whole process. I called the only "birth center" in Cincinnati only to learn that they quit delivering there back in 95! So, I decided that I could just go natural at the hospital. Sounded good in theory anyway. My SIL and DH were both encouraging me to "just get the drugs" and "Go ahead and get the epidural!" In my moment of weakness and vulnerability, I went ahead and did it. I automatically felt like a failure and I still have some resentment to a degree that I had absolutely NO support whatsoever from ANYONE. After getting the drugs I quickly progressed to 10 cm. I felt this unstoppable urge to push. I had to wait for the midwife to show up. Like 20 minutes after feeling the need to push, I was able to. Devon was born in like 5 pushes. I had no breastfeeding support this time either. He was super jaundice and had to stay in the hospital an extra night. Even though I felt so defeated, it was an ok experience overall.
Devon was 6lbs, 10oz and was 19 inches long
DD1:
Dorothy's pregnancy was so easy compared to the other 2! I was finally accepting that her birth would be like the other two -- Epidural, drugs, and the whole 9 yards. I was ok with that. DH, the boys, and I went to the zoo the day before she was born. I guess the walking was worth it because my water broke that night. When I got to the hospital, all hell broke loose. I learned that I would not be getting an epidural (They didn't think it was a good idea due to my Chiari Malformation)and that since my water had been broken for "too long" (like 5 hours :rolleyes:) that I would be started on PIT. I asked for narcotics since I was completely panicked at this point. The meds stopped any progress that I had made up to that point, and the pit was inevitably started. Most. Horrible. Experience. EVER! I was able to snooze for about 45 minutes when BAM! the pit contractions woke me up from the inside out. It was intense and horrible. There was nothing anyone could do to give me any kind of relief. Being that pit was used I was confined to the bed on continuous INTERNAL monitors. After an agonizing day of pit contrax, I was FINALLY told I could push (laying on my back, of course). Not only did the pit contractions cause Dorothy's entire head to be purple and bruised, it caused a partial placental abruption. She came out covered in blood and some of the after birth had to be "fished" out. Oh, and I ripped. Ended up with like 7-8 stitches.
Dorothy was 5 pounds 12 ounces and was 18 inches long.

DH and I were pretty convinced that 3 kiddos was enough to finish our family. 6 weeks later I had brain surgery and about 2 months after that, I started my career. I finally had everything I could possibly want or need. That was all ripped away from me on March 2, 2008. I woke up next to his dead body. Dorothy was 6 months old. I ended up moving back to the part of town where my parents lived so they could help me. I ended up losing my job due to being hospitalized for 2 days for my nervous breakdown that I was totally entitled to at that moment.

One day, on a whim, I Googled "widow support groups" and found an awesome message board full of crazy grieving widows like myself. About 4 months later (September 9, '08 to be exact..LOL) I got a PM from this dude. It is still setting in my PM inbox. His story was pretty similar to mine. His DW and my DH had the same. exact. birthday...9/14/74. And they died 5 months apart....and they died from accidental narcotic overdoses in their sleep in bed next to us. Coincidence? Fate? Destiny? I really can't call it anything else but a genuine blessing from above. Long story short, we met January this year, I moved down to Georgia to be with him in March, Found out about the baby in April (Easter Sunday!) and Got married May 16, '09.
This little person is a complete blessing to both of us since his DW was chronically ill with Lupus and was never in remission long enough to even consider pregnancy. They were all set to adopt 4 kids from Columbia but she died before that could happen. 4 was always his magic number for kids, so how awesome is it that I was able to accommodate that request?
Anyway, I really decided on a homebirth this time and found one close by to here. I am so excited to be able to do this MY way.
If you made it this far, thanks!

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Wow, Mindie, you have been through a lot. I really respect you for getting out of your first marriage. I hear so many stories about how hard it is to leave those kinds of relationships. I'm so sorry all your your birth experiences have been so terrible and you didn't get the support you needed with them. With your third, it really sucks didn't tell you they wouldn't give you an epidural until you were in labor and then they put you on pit on top of that. That's just mean. I'm sorry for the loss of your second husband, and I'm glad you found your current DH and you have been able to help each other heal.

I hope you have a great experience with your homebirth!

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37 Week update.
Yesterday was kinda rough. I had the unmistakable nesting urge. I did all of Derek's laundry, un packed from our Thanksgiving trip, put together my new vacuum and used it, unloaded/reloaded the dishwasher...Which was all fine and dandy. I was actually having some "ouch" contractions in my back and all. (still not having any show, bloody or otherwise :shrug: wonder what my cervix is doing at the moment) Made the kids dinner, Mark got home, got everyone in bed, and then just chilled on the couch contracting all evening. It was kinda starting to make me mad. We figured DTD might help matters move along but nope. It was slightly painful, but didn't result in anything major. Ugh, I feel like my body has been tricking me for 2 weeks now. I know babies come on their birthday and not their due date, but still. I am physically starting to wear down a little.

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Goodness hun! I didn't know your history, WOW you have been through a lot. I wish you all the best with this birth, may it be everything your dreaming of. You and your DH are/will be amazeing parents to your 4 blessings:)

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(((HUGS))) for today, hope your feeling better tonight.

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Sorry to hear you're having uncomfortable contractions but they're not turning into the really thing yet!

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I just read your intro, and I just want to hug you. You have lived through my worst fear and several others that are right up there. You are so strong. Congrats on your new life and baby!
Carolyn

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I just read your intro. Thanks for sharing. I give you so much credit for leaving your first husband and being able to find someone after your second passed. I'm sorry you didn't have the best birth experiences, but it's great that you have another chance with this baby. I hope you have a wonderful home birth experience. I can't wait to hear all about it!

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Hang in there, Mindie! ***hugs***

I didn't know about your other births, either. I hope this one is everything the two of you could ever want.

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Whoo Hoo, I can suddenly breathe!! I am guessing he has gotten the hint that it's been long enough. Now my bottom half hurts a lot. I had some EWCM yesterday, but not much to write home about.
Had an ultrasound Thursday and the guess he is in the 8 pound range. And he is ROA! My biggest baby so far as only been 6lb, 10oz. :eek: I know late ultrasounds can be off by a pound or so, but still..His head alone was measuring 40weeks and 1 day!! The only part that was measuring at 37 weeks was his thigh bone.
The perinatologist was cool as hell when I "came clean" about the homebirth. He said there is no medical reason or anything wrong with the baby to give me a reason why I can't and he was happy that I have really done my "homework". I have never had a baby doctor tell me that!
The midwife is coming today for my home visit and to make sure everything is ready and in order.
I am in such bliss right now!

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It sounds like he has dropped! Yay!

That is cool that the peri was supportive of your homebirth plans! Don't worry about him measuring big, your body knows how big of a baby you can birth!

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oops, double post, sorry!

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So glad he's dropped!!

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"TyrantOfTheWeek" wrote:

Had an ultrasound Thursday and the guess he is in the 8 pound range. And he is ROA! My biggest baby so far as only been 6lb, 10oz. :eek: I know late ultrasounds can be off by a pound or so, but still..His head alone was measuring 40weeks and 1 day!! The only part that was measuring at 37 weeks was his thigh bone.

I feel you - this one was measuring 39w4d at my 37 wk scan. But we can do it!! Yay for ROA, baby dropping out of your lungs, and a cool peri! Not too much longer now!
Carolyn

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That's really neat of the doc! How did the MW visit go?

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Home visit went great. She doesn't do internals so I have no idea if I am cervically changed or not...Hmm, She said she can feel his head NOT engaged in my pelvis when I am laying down, but when I stand I can most definitely feel and see the difference.
I was kinda disappointed to wake up this morning still pregnant. I have been handling this whole thing great (worked with a physical trainer up until Oct 30th) but now, I feel emotionally and physically drained. DH has to work tomorrow and the thought of being here alone with my 2 toddlers scares me to death. I have made it this far without b*tching too much about the discomfort, but now it is all out painful at times.

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Taking care of two toddlers are the end of pregnancy is my idea of torture, so I understand completely.

Hope baby comes soon!

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Hang in there hun, I hope you do ok these last few day. KUP on how your feeling. (((HUGS)))

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Glad you had good appointments. Hope you are doing well! It's almost time!! Smile

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Checking in on you hun, update us when you can:)

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Uber bloody show Monday and Tuesday. Today...Nothing...nadda...a few random contractions. DH stayed home so we could rearrange the bedroom to make room for Derek's crib and other house stuff we have been putting off. I decided to hit up Walmart for those wooden letters you hand on the wall to dress his corner of the room a little bit, and whatta know, they are ALL OUT of the letter D. What to do? Hit up another Walmart, duh! They didn't even have a stupid craft department. FML...One more Walmart...sure. No wooden letters there either. Target? Nope. Art supply store? nope.

Ugh. I am so ticked off. The one little project I wanted to do all by myself and I can't even do it. Unless we decided to name him EREK instead. grr.

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"EREK" lol! Sorry you couldn't find the letter D. How frustrating!

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Ok, so my earliest of the 6 due dates I was given is Wednesday. We have been contracting lots. And I didn't sleep for crap last night because of the pain in my pelvis. Ugh. Please give me all the labor vibes you can muster up. I have been having BH contrax for a MONTH now.

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Sending real labor vibes your way, Mindie!

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Lots and lots of labour vibes heading your way!

"Erek". Lol That's too bad, though. So frustrating when something like that happens.

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Add me to the list, hope you have a nice quick easy labor very soon!

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Still Pregnant :/ Not feeling any kind of "this is it" vibes either.

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Right there with you. Sad I'm sorry. Hope labour begins for you soon!

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Hope things pick up for you soon!

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Yahoo
WATER IS BROKEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
About 20 minutes ago, I was trying to fall asleep after a very disheartening day of contrax that stopped around 11 pm...

But, yippieee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Exciting!!!

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Exciting! Update when you can! Smile

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Yay, Mindie! I'm so excited it is finally happening! Hope you're holding baby Derek by now!

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Derek Andrew arrived at 6:37 this morning. 8lb, 1oz. 21 inches. 6ish hours of labor, 20 minutes of pushing. Pics and story later after I kinda rest a lil.

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Congratulations, Mindie, and WTTW baby Derek! He is very cute!

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Oh he's just adorable!!

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YAY!! How exciteing:) He shares my birthday! I hope your resting up and enjoying that sweet boy.

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Wow, this baby is go good! Only thing is that he has his days and nights completely "bass ackwards" and Mark and I sleep on rotation at night. like 6 hours each. He goes back to work on Wednesday and Thursday. I have Dylan home for Christmas break and I am completely TERRIFIED of doing this all by myself. :eek:

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Goodness he is sweet.

I think the anticipation of doing it on your own w/ a newborn is always worse than the actual event. You'll do great!

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