Welcome! Excited to hear your intro:)
Welcome to your lodge!! So many September lodges now, I can't believe how close we are!
Welcome to your lodge, Rachel!
Yay!!! I can't believe I'm at 36 weeks already, even though it feels like I've been pregnant forever--of course, all three of my pregnancies being this close together doesn't help with that, lol! Monday is my busy day of the week...and little girl got me up at 5 this morning (we're all getting over a cold and she coughed herself awake) so I'm pretty sleepy...will have to do a proper intro in the morning. Can't wait to get to know all of you better through this process! Good night!
OK--kids are down for a nap and I'm semi-awake (won't be fully awake anytime today I don't think since I wound up being awake with DD for most of the night last night, poor thing)...so...it's Intro Time!
I'm Rachel, I'm 29 and DH Brian is 30. We just celebrated our 5th anniversary last month. Our first 4 years of marriage we lived in the Los Angeles area, but moved to the Idaho panhandle last September. We are in the process of getting ready to do missionary work in Central Africa (sooner rather than later, Lord willing), and we moved up here to save money while we do that. We are actually living in a small guest house on my parent's property right now. DH is working from home and I'm a SAHM to our two wonderful kids, DS Micah who will be 3 on Saturday :shock: and DD Janae who is 18 months.
My previous births:
My NCB experience has been a long journey and I'm still learning new things all the time. I was on the pill for the first part of my marriage, and then learned about NFP/FAM. Went off the pill but DH and I went to "not trying, not preventing" pretty quickly and fell preggers within 2 months. With Micah, DH and I were both working for a large HMO in Cali and of course we had all our medical coverage through them. I liked my OB but she went on vacation for the three weeks around my due date (darn August due date) so for my last few weeks I saw various CNMs in her office. The one I saw at my 40 week appointment was very pushy and automatically scheduled me an induction date for 41 weeks. I knew very little about my options at the time, but the only reason I went along with it is that my mom was in from out of town and would be leaving within a couple days of the proposed induction date--and I REALLY wanted her to be at the birth and be my doula, plus get to see her first grandbaby. 41 weeks rolled around and no baby, so I went through with the induction--8 hours of Cervadil and then 12 hours of pitocin (and IV pain meds) later, DS was born. Since he was my first baby, I feel lucky to have gotten a vaginal birth out of the experience, KWIM? Other than preferring not to be induced in the future, I don't feel like this was a traumatic birth for me or anything, but I definitely didn't feel as well supported by the staff etc during the birth as I could have been. It could definitely have been better in a lot of ways.
With DD, I had been learning a lot more about childbirth options, and I wanted a completely natural birth. It had to be in the hospital since I was still with the same HMO but I chose the midwife who attended DS's birth as my practitioner this time since I liked and trusted her, and felt a lot more informed about my options and what I was allowed to decline as a patient. I had tons of prodromal labor with both kids, to the point of going and getting checked (both times) because the contractions were 2-3 minutes apart, 60 seconds long, but fairly weak and not doing anything noticeable to my cervix. When we got home from being checked in L&D triage (shortly after midnight), I could tell something was changing in the contractions; I tried to go to sleep but after about half an hour I got up and started working through them instead. Around 1:30 I woke up my mom (who had 5 kids, 4 vaginally, so she knew what to watch for in labor) and had her watch me through a contraction; we left for the hospital again shortly after and got there around 3. They had me walk the halls for a while before admitting me at 5 am dilated to around 5 cm. I labored in my room some and in the hallway some more, at some point the rounding midwife came and decided to break my water (at 7 cm) and then they put an internal fetal monitor due to light meconium staining. Transition was pretty intense (although looking back, it was nowhere near as bad as pitocin contrax) and I felt helpless and wanted to be almost on my back on the bed for most of it (not sure why that felt safer, I'm sure it didn't help things progress any faster). Pushing took about 8 minutes and Janae was born just after noon. Even though there were a few minor interventions (AROM etc) I feel very proud of Janae's birth and am looking forward to an even better birth experience with Seth.
This time around, we've moved, don't have insurance, and are paying out of pocket for care from a wonderful CPM who has a freestanding birthing center about 45 minutes away from our house. Although I would love a homebirth, I am choosing to give birth at the birthing center for various reasons, mostly having to do with our house NOT being set up well for birthing and not having hot water in our house. (My dad did the all the work of turning their 23x23 foot shed into our guest house himself--yes, it's smallish but we fit fairly well--and we didn't have running water all winter, he got the cold water put in once the last of the snow melted in May. We're close enough to my parents' mobile home that we were getting our water from their house. There are lots of other interesting quirks about our house, too.) I'm comfortable with the birthing center, and the drive is the same as it was from my apartment to the hospital in California.
Well, that's probably enough intro for now. I really appreciate all of the ladies on this board, and the wisdom and support that you bring. I am honored to be a part of this group. :giveflower:
Fun intro! I can't imagaine what life must be like for you, it sounds fun though! Your kids are cute, and I'm sure the third is going to be just as perfect for you. How you did you guys decide to go to Africa? Do you know where, and are you going with an organization? Sorry if I'm asking too much, just curious!
Wow, neat intro! How exciting to be going to Africa, when I was younger I really wanted to go on a mission trip there, but my family had some money issues so it never happened. My DH's aunt and uncle are missionaries in Japan, it's so neat to hear about all the different types of work missionaries do.
Sounds like you had 2 really nice births, despite a few interventions, and I hope this one goes just as well or better!
Such a great intro. It sounds like you did a great job with your other two births. I hope you get the birth you want this time as well
My DH went in Feb. to Côte d'Ivoire (Ivory Coast) on a missions trip. Such an eye-opening experience for him. I hope things go well for you in that respect as well!
Thanks ladies! Gosh, rereading my intro, I MUST have preggo brain because I sure rambled a lot! LOL! Sorry if anything was confusing or left out.
Africa: we are going to be doing literacy and language study type work with an organization called Wycliffe Bible Translators. Central Africa, but not sure that I'm allowed to mention the country on a public forum... Right now we're coming up on our deadline for getting our financial support together, so the next 6 months may change how our plans look somewhat...trusting God to show us the next steps, but a little stressful not really knowing where we'll be in the very near future. This has been a huge dream of both DH and me for over 10 years now and we are so close and yet so far...
We decided on Africa through a long series of events. A couple of the factors include: DH and I both have a background in French and there is a real need there for French-speaking workers. Not to mention we took a mission trip there in 2002 and fell in love with the people and the area.
What life is like for me currently...sort of a blend of backwoods and modern. I do in fact have electricity, satellite internet, a working sink and oven and fridge in my little guest house. But our only heat source is a small woodstove (which gets fun when it's 5 feet of snow and 15 below outside), certain annoying things about our house aren't completely finished, I have very VERY limited closet and cupboard space, there is no toilet (we use the bathrooms in my parents' trailer, which has been interesting for potty training DS), and I have no real idea where we'll be living or what we'll be doing in the next 6-12 months. And obviously, we will have three children 3 and under at that point. It's been a challenging year in a lot of ways, and this next one promises to be even more interesting.
You aren't kidding! WOW, is all I can come up with hehehe. The kids will look back on this time as if it were all one big adventure....and I'm sure you will too. I've heard of Wycliffe before and we know a couple in South Africa right now, it sounds like a neat opportunity for you:)
That's cool that y'all are heading to Africa with Wycliffe. We have very dear friends who moved to Papau New Guinea a year ago with WBT. This summer, they chose the people group they'll be working with, which, as you know, is super exciting. So, we know -- through them -- a little about what you'll be going through. I also have a college friend who does language work with SIL in Asia. It's cool stuff.
Anyway, I'm excited to share these next several weeks of your journey with you!
I enjoyed reading your intro. Your birth stories were really interesting. I had a pit induction with my first birth as well, though it wasn't really necessary. It's encouraging to read that you thought that transition was not as bad as pitocin contractions. I hope you have a great experience with your birth center birth this time! I wish a birth center was an option for me.
Had an appointment yesterday, everything looked pretty good except my bp was up (like 130/90) but when I checked it at walmart later it was 121/72, so who knows what was going on there. It was supposed to be the appointment where the midwife and I talk more in depth about my birth plan and instructions for when to come to the birthing center and all of that, but I wound up having their clinic RN do my appointment because the midwife was upstairs doing a delivery! That's a first! So I guess we do the birth prep talk next week.
Afterwards, DH and I went shopping for stuff for DS's 3rd birthday party tomorrow. Should be fun--hopefully someone actually comes. I have a terrible time getting people to actually come to parties I do, for some reason. *shrug* He's excited and even if it's just our family playing at the park and eating cupcakes, he'll have a good time. And that's all that matters, right?
Sorry your BP was up, maybe having the RN instead of your midwife made you nervous? Hope the birthday party goes well!
Family fun and cupcakes at the park, how can you go wrong! I hope someone comes to play with him. I hope you don't have any other bp problems, what a drag. Have a great time at the party and enjoy you last big of being prego:)
I'm late but welcome to your lodge!! :wavehello:
I hope your DS's bday party goes well and he has fun!
how was the party? did your son have a good time? i agree that you can't go wrong with cupcakes and the park. sounds fun to me!
Thanks for the party wishes everyone! We had a good time. Not a whole lot of the kids who were invited showed up, but in all (including my two) we had 5 littles and then a couple teenagers and several adults (mostly aunts and uncles and grandparents). They made party hats (note to self: not a good outdoor activity if there's any wind at all, lol) and played on the playground and threw mini frisbees and ate cake & ice cream and got thoroughly worn out, so in all it was a good party. DS had a great time--even with falling off the ladder and winding up with a shiner right next to his eye. He especially likes his new Thomas train, and his new shoes that have Thomas on them and blink. Now we're all on a sugar crash--DH is asleep in the recliner. I need to go wake up DD so she'll actually sleep tonight...
I am enjoying reading your lodge! I think Wycliffe came to our church once to do a presentation and they sounded like a really sound organization. Are you going to be there indefinitely or is it just a temporary thing? That's really awesome!
Wow, props to you for living so simply right now! I would be busting at the seams to want more space and our own bathrooms! I understand though that you gotta do what you gotta do!
I'm glad you are able to go with a birthing center this time and I hope the birth goes well!
I enjoyed reading your intro, Rachel. I look forward to keeping up with your lodge.
Oh, and you're making me love our creaky old 95-year-old house. Kudos to you for going without a toilet and hot water - pretty much awesomeness.
See, this is the annoying part about having such uneventful pregnancies, my lodge goes to page 2 by the time I have anything to write in it! LOL!
I had an appointment yesterday, everything is still just great (even the bp was better than last time). The midwife and I discussed when to call/come in to the birthing center, various other details of labor and delivery, etc. I think she shocked DH--"would you like to catch the baby?" He said yes, he'd love to...but at the other two births he was lucky to get to cut the cord, lol! I think he's really looking forward to an out of hospital birth and being able to be more directly involved in everything.
So now *I* have to figure out what clothes I want to wear in the birthing tub (I appreciate that thread chimmy! lol), what candles and music I want, etc. My mom thinks I'm going to go earlier with this one than I did with the other two, and with the contractions I was having the other night I'm starting to think I might, too! Mom thinks Sept 5 or so. Which is right after the full moon, so who knows. I'm still not going to get antsy until at least 41 weeks.
So I'm still relatively comfortable, baby looks good, stats look good, I'm past 37 weeks and all systems are "ready whenever you are, baby!"
Welcome to your lodge! :wavehello:
It's so interesting to hear how other people live. Our last apartment was 20 x 20 feet, so your transformed shed house sounds rather spacious in comparison. Although we did have hot water and a toilet, with the rents here those are two things I will NOT live without, LOL. Good luck with your Africa plans!
I'm a little late here, but welcome to your lodge! I can't wait to follow the rest of your journey
How was your weekend? I'm sure there must be something you have to tell us:)
This weekend was busy! Saturday we went to town (a little over an hour away) for a picnic. My brother in law is opening a martial arts studio and this was sort of their kickoff event. Lots of people there--we even got a family pic that included my mom and dad, all 5 of us siblings (plus DH and BIL, my sister and are I the only ones married), and both grandkids (my kids). We haven't all been together at once in probably 4 or 5 years. The kids had a great time (and both had poopy blowouts, even DS who is supposedly potty trained :roll:) and came home very tired out. Sunday we had church, and then the annual church baptism service and potluck at a local park, so the kids got yet another park day--plus swimming.
I hope the kids get over their colds soon. DD especially, I haven't been liking the sound of her cough today (and no, I didn't let her go swimming yesterday, only DS--because of the cough ). The weather around here needs to decide what it's doing. It's been 40s at night and 90s during the day, so hard on their little bodies.
Pregnancy: I've been moody and tired and hot today, my lower back hurts, and I'm trying not to complain too much about everything. Nothing seems quite right. And yet we have so many blessings, I want to be thankful and not whining, you know? *sigh* Next midwife appointment isn't until the 8th, it seemed like a good idea at the time to schedule it a bit further out, but now I have nothing happening this week and it feels like it's dragging already. Gotta get some things done around the house...making zucchini bread is first on the list.
Mmmmm Zucchini bread is a good thing! I hope you have a good week, despite it being slow. I hope your girly is feeling better soon sick kids are no fun. I know DS caught a cold (the first one in at least 6 months) the week that I had Isaac.....talk about timeing:) Your weather sounds crazy, at least it's cold here all night and all day! Enjoy your down time and KUP on anything exciteing. I think you deserve to have some unsettled feeling about your situation, some times it's hard to remember all the good things and I think your right that it's important to do.
What kind of martial arts does your BIL train? DH and I did kung fu for a long time and are thinking of going back. We were going to open our own studio but (long story) it never happened.
He does Tae Kwon Do. They actually already opened the studio in their home but they're moving to a storefront now, we're really excited for them. I have no clue what all the differences are between all the different martial arts though! Kung Fu always sounds so "tough" to me... That's cool that you used to be into that! You should go back!
Just checking on you!
Wow, that's really neat!! My husband did Tae Kwon Do for years n' years while growing up.
Is everything going ok for you hun? It's been a while since you updated, just thinking of you.
Vanessa, you're really good at keeping us on track! Thanks for thinking of me.
Honestly, though, there's not much to tell. Crampy BH's here and there, which I'm sure are doing something but aren't putting me into full-blown labor yet. I'm sure I'll probably have this baby sooner than 40w5d (which is when I had DD), yesterday I did feel like there might be some progress with the way the BH's were being, but I don't know if it means tomorrow or two weeks. I've just been busy chasing two littles and trying to help DH with the work he's been doing (mostly keeping the kids out of the way so he can focus).
Oh, and I've been cooking...DH says I don't nest, I cook. The other day I made--from scratch--a banana cream pie, banana bread, and a lasagna for dinner (froze half).
Wednesday I was helping out at the church kitchen, they've been remodeling and putting a new roof on and they provide lunch for all the workers. I was called in at the last minute because they needed someone who knew what was going on as the lead for the day. So I wound up being on my feet just about all day long, I was at the church about 6 hours...and my pelvic bones were SO sore after that, I couldn't walk that evening and could barely sleep that night because of the pain. So I think I might have overdone it a bit.
Friday and Saturday I was watching for signs of labor starting since my mom was predicting somewhere around the 5th, but I didn't get much. Some cramping, some loose stools, some BHs that didn't go anywhere. I've always said that I wasn't going to get antsy this pregnancy until at least Sept 20 (6 days after my due date) and I'm still holding to that. If it happens before that, great.
Church this morning was really nice, we'd been meeting at a movie theater the last two months during the remodel and re-roofing of our building, and today was the first week back in the regular building. There were a lot of people there to celebrate! A friend of mine from church had her baby this last week, too (her due date was the 2nd) so she was there with her new baby daughter. It was fun being able to show DS a newborn, I've been pointing out babies to him and talking about what Baby Seth will be like, but all the babies have been older (6 months or more). I think he's pretty much getting the idea. Not too concerned...although he's been having more potty accidents and last night he said he wanted to "be a baby" :roll: all this before Seth even arrives, he's trying to revert to being his sister I think. He gets lots of attention but he has kind of a jealous personality and it's been hard for him to learn to share.
So anyway, yes, I'm still alive and still here, just haven't updated because I didn't figure I had much to say! I guess I had more than I thought. I'll try to update more often from here on out!
Good to hear from you:) SOMEONE has to keep you gals on track...hehehe! I feel like a mother hen or something, but I just can't resist! Of course you only have to update when you feel like it, this is YOUR lodge. My DS#1 is very concered that nobody loves him....and he obvioulsy knows better, I guess it's just the way it goes when you add more people to your family.
It was great to read an update from you Rachel I can relate to being so sore after standing for 6hrs, I crashed pretty good after putting together my 30 freezer meals. Hope your feeling better now! It sure sounds like your body is preping for labor, that's so exciting!
So I have a midwife appt today, it's been almost 2 weeks so we'll see if anything seems to be happening. Although I'm not sure if I'm going to bother with an internal so it might be same old same old.
We also have company coming in tonight (which DH did mention but for some reason I completely forgot that it was THIS Tuesday until last night) and I'm in mild panic mode because my house is NOT ready for guests at the moment and I'll be gone most of the afternoon because of the appt. So much to clean...I don't have any idea what I'll make for dinner...yikes! At least they'll only be here the one night!
Hope your guests went ok! I'm excited to hear if there was any action at your appointment:)
Well, we had a good time with our guests. The house got clean enough and we had turkey pot pie and apple crisp (yes, I made both from scratch) so I didn't stress too bad last night. They do have a 7 month old who has been waking up some at night (teething, we think) but no worse than DD has been lately, so I'm not too sleep deprived.
The appointment yesterday was very much same old same old. No action, no problems, very much like a 5th month or so appointment, really. No sugar or protein in the urine, no swelling, blood pressure is fine, baby is fine, yada yada yada. And I didn't have her do an internal because I don't think they mean much before labor starts. So...the suspense continues.
Ok, so I've told Seth that 9-11 is out, and I want to take the kids to the fair on Saturday 9-12, and the 13th would be ...but really, does he want to have some of his birthdays be on Friday the 13th? I'd just rather he wait until Monday and he can be very punctual and come on his due date, 9-14. We'll see if he listens.
Oooh Seth the suspense is building little man, mom has you on a tight little time frame:)
LOL! I didn't mean he can't come AFTER his due date, I just don't want him to come before then at this point.
Come on, Seth! Tomorrow is your day!
Looks like we've made it so far...just over 7 hours left on the 13th and nothing seems to be happening. We had lots of fun at the fair yesterday (and stayed within our budget), and I'm not even too sore from all the walking/pushing the stroller/carrying DD (mostly DH carried her or she walked, I didn't carry her a ton or anything). Right now my meal schedule has failed me and I'm trying to decide what to make for dinner, lol. I'd ask for suggestions but this board always seems to be a bit slow on the weekend...
We shall see what tomorrow brings! 40 weeks baby!
I am glad you had fun at the fair. Good job with all of that walking only 2 days before your due date.
I am going to our state fair tomorrow with the kids. Luckily DH hasn't started working yet, so he will be there also...which will help. I am kind of dreading all of that walking, but hopefully it will help me progress toward getting the baby here sooner rather than later. I just hope they have lots of benches for me to sit on and rest every hour or so.
I'm impressed! The state fair is going on here and I can't even imagine going with the kids lol I'm so glad you guys had such a good time!
Happy 40 weeks! Hope something happens for you soon!
Sounds like a fun weekend. I am so ready to go to our State Fair in a few weeks.
Ow. We just got back from taking the kids for a very short walk, but at one point I had to full-on run after 19 month old DD to catch her before she fell headlong into a ditch. The child has no fear. I only had to run a few feet, but it was enough...my pelvic bones are complaining.
No news yet, I had a long bout of contractions last night that I thought sure were going to turn into something--strongest I've had yet. They lasted most of the night (mild enough to sleep through, for the most part) and went away around 6 am. Grrr.
My last labor started in earnest shortly after midnight so for some reason that seems like the only time labor can start, in my head... Just watch, this time it'll start around lunch or something.
Thanks for the comments, ladies! Oh, and Chimmy, I don't think I'd take all your kids to the fair at this point either. Just my two was enough.
The fair sounds so fun, although I'm not even sure I could go just with DH at this point, let alone with kids! Happy due date!