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Welcome to your lodge!!! Sorry its a little late in starting it...

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Congrats on your lodge!!! Welcome!!!

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Yay, Shella!!!!!! Welcome to your lodge!!!!

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Welcome to your lodge!!

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Thanks ladies Biggrin I'm very excited to be in the homestretch! YAY, my own lodge!! I'll get to work on a proper introduction. Although you may regret giving me a lodge, it's like a licence to talk about myself ad nauseam, which may turn into my own little novella LOL!

But before we get to that, having my own lodge definately calls for a little party!! Everyone is welcome to join in:
:party: :party: :party:

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Welcome to your lodge!!

I love a good party!! :party: :party: :party:

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How fun, a lodge party!!!

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Rock on! a party! Where's the drinks?? Oh wait most of us are prego, I guess make mine an Odouls... LOL

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:party::party::party::party::party::party::party:

I love a party! I'll bring along the sparkilng grape juice.
Looks like champagne at least. Smile

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LOL sorry girls, I think the beverages being served will be RRL tea Lol

Although we had supper with my parents last night & they had a bottle of white wine, I was soooooo jealous! So maybe, since this is just a virtual party, I'd be okay having a glass of virtual white wine, right?
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My introduction... (long)

[FONT=Verdana]I am at work right now, although doing any actual work is the farthest thing from my mind, I’ve been so distracted lately LOL can’t wait to start mat leave. I think typing up my introduction is a welcome distraction! Although I will have to wait until I get home tonight to post pictures.[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana]:wavehello: My name is Shella. I’m 30 years old and I live in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. I married my everything, Patrick, 5 years ago. After 2 years of marriage, we decided we would stop using birth control, so while we were not specifically “trying” we were not preventing either. I went off the BCP and 4 months later we were very excited to get a BFP! As my cycles were not totally regular yet, I was not sure exactly how far along I was, but somewhere 9-11 weeks I started bleeding heavily and cramping. I had a miscarriage, was totally heartbroken, and very much wanted to get pregnant again. A few months later, we got another BFP and we were blessed with the most beautiful son, Nolan. Nolan is now 27 months old, a typical 2 year old lol, but the absolute centre of my world. I know he’ll be a great big brother. This past January, after some New Year’s celebrating lol, dh & I decided we didn’t really need to use a condom and 2 weeks later I got my BFP! Slightly unplanned, but very welcome. I’m so excited to be adding to our family! I had constant morning sickness for the first half of my pregnancy, I would throw up multiple times a day. (I joked that I should just skip the middle man and put my lunch directly into the toilet because that’s where it ended up every day.) But I’m happy to report the m/s has subsided, although maybe once a week I will still have some nausea. We still have a few things to do to get ready for baby (including picking a name!), but I’m expecting I still have a few weeks before baby’s arrival. No signs of impending labour to report. My last day of work before I start mat leave is September 9. I’ve probably gained more than the ideal amount of weight (somewhere between 55-60lbs: EEK!), which is likely not helping my achy back and hips, but I did the same when I was pregnant with DS too. I have a regular appointment with my obgyn this afternoon, and today I am getting the GBS test done so everyone think GBS NEGATIVE thoughts for me!

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[FONT=Verdana]Here is my DS’s birth story, although it was 2+ years ago, so I hope I’m remembering accurately (I had previously written out his birth story but for some reason can’t find it now. Pregnancy brain LOL). My pregnancy with DS was “normal”, I’d had a UTI and constant m/s throughout, and I was ginormous, but nothing too out of the ordinary. At 41 weeks, I had an u/s to check on how baby was doing since my [/FONT]
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[FONT=Verdana]At 2 pm the phone rang and woke me up from my nap. It was my friend Angie on her way over for a visit. I got up, but had sorta forgot that I hadn’t eaten lunch yet. Angie arrived and as we visited I noticed that my contrax were different than they had been for the last few weeks. I was feeling them very much in my back, and would have to take deep breaths when I felt them, but they did not seem to be coming at regular intervals, so I did not think much of them. To pass the time, we baked a cake! This is funny for anyone that knows me, the idea of me actually baking a cake is laughable, but it was an idea suggested to me by my dad. His theory: [/FONT][COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]You know how they say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach? Well, there's a bit of truth in this, men, even newborn baby boys, do respond to food. And EVERYBODY deserves to have a birthday cake. That baby is just waiting until you have baked a birthday cake for him, so all you have to do is bake a cake. As soon as you have a cake ready, he'll know that's supposed to be his birth day, and he'll make his appearance. When he told me this I thought it was just stupidest thing I had ever heard. But I was getting desperate, I had already tried pretty much every other labor inducing trick, and I figured there wasnt any harm in trying this. I also rationalized that it'd be good to have cake all ready to serve to guests that stopped by to see the new baby. (Also could have been that final nesting instinct kicking in). So we thought it was worth a try. [/COLOR][/FONT][FONT=Verdana]Angie was concerned about my contrax, which continued to come and I was really feeling them in my back. She insisted we started timing them. Sure enough, when we actually started keeping track of them, they were now 5 min apart, lasting about 45-60 sec. As the timer on the oven went off for the cake at 4:00pm, I stood up and felt a gush. My waters had broke! (Dad’s “cake=labour” trick actually worked LOL!!) It was a bit of chaos for the next half hour. There was a plethora of phone calls, I called dh to come home from work, called my family to let them know we were going to go to L&D. I suddenly realized this was it, I was in labour, but I still hadn’t eaten lunch, so I quickly made a bowl of soup. I didn’t get a chance to eat it though, I got so busy I forgot, the doorbell rang (someone from the power company), it started to rain so I had to bring our dog inside, and the phone was ringing, and I was still contracting and now they were really getting intense I would have to stop what I was doing. Dh arrived, and we headed off to L&D. Even though it was a short car ride, and I had a “bad” contraction in the vehicle, I think it felt worse because I was sitting with my seatbelt on which was not a comfortable position. When we got to the hospital at 5:00 I was wisked up to the L&D dept, where they confirmed yes I was leaking (clear) amniotic fluid, and I was 3 cm dialated, so I was admitted.

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[FONT=Verdana]My contractions were intense and I was feeling a lot of pain in my back. Dh would massage my lower back for me and apply counter pressure, as well, I tried a variety of position, but that was not giving me much relief. The pain in my back was intense: an all consuming, burning, stabbing pain. About this time I “had to go” and I went to the bathroom and completely emptied by bladder and bowels. The nurse asked me what my plan was for pain management, and I said epidural, and she said, “That’s good.” The [/FONT][FONT=Verdana]anesthesiologist was busy with another patient and would be a while, so in the interim I hoped in the shower and dh left to go get himself some supper. I labored in the shower for about an hour, and while the hot water did help provide some relief, I was still really feeling the pain of my contractions. At 7:30 pm, 3 hours after my water broke, I got out of the shower as the anesthesiologist was on his way to give me the epi. I was checked for progress and was at 4 cm. They gave me an IV line and a catheder, and then I got the epi. From that point on I did not get out of bed. I did not feel the needle going into my back, but shortly after felt relaxed (ah, sweet relief!) I was not feeling any more contractions (I actually thought they might have stopped). I was hooked up to a monitor and assured the contractions were continuing, but given some pitocin to “keep things moving”. As a side effect of the epi, my neck and chest were very very itchy which was kinda annoying. I was checked periodically throughout the evening, and by 1 am I was 10 cm. The doctor told me I could start pushing if I felt the urge. I was still a little numb from the epidural, and being a ftm I wasn’t really sure what the urge to push felt like, but I was so excited to be so close to having my baby that I wanted to start pushing. So I tried pushing. And no baby. Hmm, I must have to push harder. So I did. (At least I thought I did, I was still somewhat numb from the epi, I’m not sure maybe I wasn’t pushing any harder?). And no baby. Hmmm. After an hour of pushing and not making a lot of progress, I was starting to get tired. But by then I realized NOW I am feeling the urge to push, and I couldn’t stop for a break! After another hour of pushing, we still didn’t have a baby, although he was engaged, he seemed stuck. He was turned OP (the likely cause of all my back labor/pain). I was vomiting in between pushes (possibly as a side effect of the epi?) and was vomiting sometimes during the pushes –yuck- which resulted in vomit coming out my nose since I was holding my breath. After another hour, I was starting to tucker out. My doctor was concerned because baby’s heartrate was irratic, and wanted to explore other options to help baby be born as soon as possible. The doctor recommend we use forceps, however said that they routinely do an episiotomy when they use forceps. I was sad that after 2 and a half hours of pushing, I had not been able to birth my baby, and I was afraid of them wanting to do an emergency c/s, so I agreed to the forceps. 4 pushes later, assisted by forceps, at 3:45 am, June 6 2006, my precious son Nolan Patrick was born (my brother pointed out the sequential time & birthdate: 3-4-5-6-6-6) . He weighed 9 lbs (pretty close to the estimated 8lb 6oz from my u/s earlier that day), and his scores were 5 and 7. The doctor was concerned about his breathing and heart rate so I only got to see him for a moment before they took him to NICU. Dh went with him, and I was left alone to birth the placenta and then get stitched up (in addition to the episiotomy, I also had a 3rd degree tear). Also, my temp was a little high, they were concerned about risk of infection, so I was started on antibiotics.

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[FONT=Verdana]An hour later, I was all stitched up, ready to be moved to a recovery room, and got news that Nolan was much improved and being released from the NICU! I was so happy to finally be able to hold my baby! He had a horrible conehead, it was purple and misshapen, but I was assured that was normal given the amount of time he was engaged in the birth canal. He took to breastfeeding like a champ, and seemed to be perfectly healthy. My recovery went alright, my temps came down, no infection, although my bladder muscles were mush. (Sidebar: I continued to have bladder and incontinence issues for several months, although I’m not sure how much of those issues could be attributed to having a catheder/forceps vs. what kind of issues I might have had without those interventions). We went home from the hospital the next day, overjoyed with our new baby.

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[FONT=Verdana]The swelling of ds’s head began to go down, it was pretty much a “normal” shape, although he still had a pretty good bruise on the top of his head. Three days later, I noticed DS twitching. It wasn’t the same as hiccups, only his right side was twiching, his tongue would click and his eyes sort roll back in his head. I was a ftm, I did not know what I was seeing. He was breathing fine, he was not upset, did not seem to be in distress, when I picked him up and started to feed him, he stopped the twitching, ate well, and went to sleep. However, he had another episode later that day. Again it only lasted a few minutes, and I wasn’t sure what to make of it, but I was scared. I was all alone with him, and I wasn’t sure what I should do. I didn’t want to be one of those crazy overprotective moms that freaks out at every little hiccup, but at the same time I was really concerned, so I decided to take him to the ER. They confirmed, my baby was having seizures. I was so frightened! They wanted to put an IV into DS so they could give him medication to stop the seizures but they were having difficulty getting the line put into his tiny arms so they put the IV into his head (Watching this quite upset me, they had only told me they were putting an IV line in, and the next thing I know there’s a needle going into my baby’s head!) He had a CT scan, and he had another seizure while he was having the scan done, which actually helped them see what was going on in his brain. The seizures were coming more frequently now and lasting longer. It was the most horrible thing holding him as his tiny body convulsed. I’m actually starting to get quite upset just remembering so I’m just going to cut ahead a bit. He’d had bleeding on his brain, LIKELY caused by the tramatic delivery (read:forceps) and when the swelling went down it caused him to have the seizures. With the medication they gave him he stopped having seizures later that night, luckily, his brain just absorbed the excess blood. He spent a week in the NICU recovering, and there has been no long term damages caused.

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[FONT=Verdana]I have often wondered if I had not had the epidural how his birth would have been different. I know at the time, I felt the contractions were so intense that at the time I did not think I would be able to last, I would have been a puddle on the floor from the pain/exhaustion long before it was time to push, and might have ended up having a c/s as a result. However, I wonder if I had not had the epidural, maybe my labour would have progressed pretty fast on its own, and maybe if I’d [/FONT][FONT=Verdana]have been moving around instead of confined to bed he would have turned so he wasn’t OP, maybe I wouldn’t have tried pushing before I really felt the urge, and maybe my pushes would have been more effective, maybe we wouldn’t have needed forceps, maybe he wouldn’t have had those seizures, maybe he wouldn’t have been wisked away to NICU right after he was born (I’ve since learned that some babies simply do not tolerate pitocin-induced contractions, the result being abnormal fetal heart rate).…. it’s only a guessing game though with a lot of “maybe’s”, there’s no way to know[/FONT][FONT=Verdana].

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[FONT=Verdana]It has made me reevaluate my birth plan for this baby. Last time I got the epidural because I just assumed that was how it was done, that modern medicine knew best and that NCB was only for granola-crunchie-hippie types. I never even knew this board existed until about 2 months ago, when I was stalking Kelly/klebanik’s lodge, whom I knew from the June 2006 board. That was the first time the thought even entered my mind that I should at least look into NCB and what it was all about. I’ve learned soo much!! While I’m not specifically opposed to medicating for pain management, at the same time I now understand the risk associated, and how one “intervention” can lead to another, so I want to avoid intervention if at all possible. I have the same [/FONT]
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[FONT=Verdana]I am afraid of whether I will be able to handle the pain, seeing as I “couldn’t” handle it last time without an epidural, but I think I am MORE afraid of ending up with a csection. I really like hearing everyone’s different mantras, even just short & sweet “Trust your body” and “Pain with purpose” etc, I think is really empowering. I would really welcome everyone to share some of your own empowering statements. I’m going to make some cue cards for myself. Actually, I have just decided that that will be my assignment for the next few weeks: I’m going to start a list and everytime I read a birth story I have to write down at least one sentence in the story that I find inspirational, and I’ll use that list to base my cue cards off of. I just try to keep reassuring myself that this is a natural process, done by millions of women for thousands of years the world over, and I too am a woman, capable of NCB Biggrin

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Yay for being in the homestretch! Nothing like a good party. Good food, good drinks....I'll bring the heartburn meds, lol!

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loved the intro and yes I made it through all of it! lol! The forcepts and vacumme scared the crap out of DH and I in our birthing class! Those things are HUGE and arn't made to go where they put them! I'm glad though that you made it through and your baby is happy and healthy now!

Can I virtualy spike my RRL tea? lol!

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Congratulations Shella on your lodge!!!

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Sorry I didn't get any pictures posted last night, I put DS to bed and completely crashed myself. I had my obgyn appointment yesterday afternoon, and she did an internal check (I'm 1 cm) and ever since I've been feeling crampy and having (gentle) contractions. Nothing regular or too intense. Just enough to make me feel kinda uggy. But I slept pretty good last night, was only up once to pee.

Name talk:

Last night dh & I were talking baby names again, and I think we've narrowed down our leading contenders. Of course, these are far from finalized, we want to meet our baby and make sure the name feels right before we put it on the birth certificate, but right now our favorite names are for a boy Reid Lorne, and for a girl Mallory Beth. While we are pretty solid on the first names, both of the middle names are subject to change. We really want a family name for middle name, right now Lorne is after my dad and Beth is after my aunt. However, if a baby boy is born on Uncle Owen's birthday (Sep 30) then mn will probably be Owen. If baby boy is born on Uncle Ian's birthday (Oct 2) then mn will probably be Ian. If baby girl is born on mom's birthday (Sep 20) then mn will probably be Faye after my mom. If baby girl is born on the first day of autumn then mn will probably be Autumn.

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I enjoyed your intro (the whole thing:)) I really hope your able to get a better delivery this time. I had my first much like you, while no forceps where used I did have drugs and an episeotomy. I decided I wanted to do things different the second time as well and was lucky to have a great intervention free labor and delivery (aside from pit after her birth). You can do it! I can't wait to see how it goes for you.

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Welcome to your lodge! I read your intro and I hope that you get the birth that you want this time!

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thank you for sharing your intro with us. i just cannot imagine the emotions you went through when ds was having seizures, i'm so glad he has no long term effects. Have you read Ina May's birthing guide? i am reading it right now and the second half where she discusses pain with a purpose etc. has been really helpful for my mindset. I'm looking forward to sharing this journey with you!

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Shella- I love both names you have chosen! Do you have a feeling you are having one gender over the other? Your b-day schuedual sounds like mine! I have my bros DF Sept 16th, my SILs Sept 21, MIL's Sept 24th, and October 3rd next year my bro is getting married. Could it get anymore crammed?lol!

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I love the name Reid!!! We actually talked about it for Xander but since Lee isnt the one that actually pickd it out it was a no go...

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How are things today? Hope your having a great day.

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I loved reading your intro! Can't wait to follow the rest of your lodge!

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My days at work are winding down, and today my coworkers took me for lunch (Chinese food YUM) and gave me a little baby package that had some diapers, wipes, baby laundry detergent, and 3 little outfits. It's kinda exciting, it's the first gifts I've gotten for this baby :).

I'm feeling pretty good today, a couple (3) contractions, but again nothing regular/unbearable. I don't expect to be meeting baby for at least another 2 weeks. My pregnancy brain moment of the day though is I forgot my RRL tea at home, so I'm just drinking water this afternoon. Oops.

Nicole: I think this baby is a boy, my pregnancy has been identical to my pregnacy with DS, there's lots of boys in DH's family (he only has brothers, his dad only has brothers, etc), and it's just a hunch that this one will be a boy too. But I guess the only way to be sure is wait til Baby is born and then check for a penis Lol

Kristen: I haven't read Ina May yet, although from all the good reviews I've gotten here, it's on my list to go check it out of the library. Thanks for reminding me!

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Hey, I have been wanting to reply to your big post but had not had the time until now.

Firstly, I love the "cake story" and the fact it was your dad's idea. So cute! And it worked too! Smile

I loved reading your birth story. It is very interesting how your story plus Nolan's seizures (I am so glad he is ok!!!) contributed to your desire to look into NCB this time. There are so many maybes - I am sure it is so hard not to wonder about it all...

I too always thought I would have an epi as "that is what is done" and it is a very recent development that I realized I actually don't want one - mainly because I don't want to be tied down and also because the whole thing, as you say, about how one medication leads to another leads to something else really worries me. It is good to know we have a choice and don't have to do what is always done if we are not comfortable with it. As I too have come in late to this, I am doing exactly as you are - reading everything I can get my hands on (though no time for a formal course). I love your idea of writing down what inspires you from birth stories and also using cue cards, etc.

You have given up on the name Andrea???? Oh bummer. I'd love to use it but as I think I have mentioned it would be too weird as that is the name of literally one of my best friends who I see all the time. But I love Reid and Mallory is pretty too. Good luck with middle names!!!

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Andrea WAS our top name pick for a long time, and is still on our short list, but DH is really set on Mallory. There is still a chance if she just doesn't seem like a Mallory that we may name her Andrea Smile

Ooooohhhh!! Baby's got the hiccups right now!! LOL

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Are you secretly hoping for a girl??? Lol, its your lodge we wont tell anyone and I know a healthy baby is most important, but you can spill the beans!! LOL!

Thanks for the reminder on the RRL tea, I'm needing to get mine in today! Off to fix my tea! O and Mr. Cupcake (nick name for my baby) has the hiccups also!

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I know I'm late but just wanted to welcome to your lodge! I loved reading your intro and love the cake story for Nolan! Bet you are enjoying the cooler weather we've been having lately! When are you done work? Is this week your last week?

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Conni: 3 more days of work left Smile I'm looking forward to mat leave starting, and actually hope that baby doesn't arrive too early so that I have a chance to enjoy a few days of "rest" and get some last minutes stuff done.

Nicole: actually I think I am sorta hoping for a boy, since I already have a boy I feel like I'm more prepared to have another boy. But it really doesn't matter, either way.

Hope you guys don't mind if I use this lodge sorta like my own little journal/blog. I often like to just write out all the random thoughts swirling around in my head, I find it therapeutic and it helps me feel a little more in control. There may not be a definitive moral to each of my little rants, more like just random thoughts, but I'm going to share anyway, comments (or questions) are still definately welcome - maybe my crazy ramblings make sense to other people too!? Lol

The other morning about 5 am I woke up with a painful charlie-horse cramp in my calf. It hurt like a mother f***er!! It probably only lasted about 30 seconds or so before the pain started to ease, but during those 30 seconds my entire body was all tensed up, I was biting my pillow and wimpering, hands clenched tightly around my headboard, my whole body curled up into a little ball of tension. Afterwards, I got to thinking about my reaction. It was just instinct to become so tense, maybe like a defense mechanism, but I know I was using a lot of energy to deal with the pain I was feeling. I realized that I would be wise to prepare a better way to handle pain once labour starts, otherwise a couple of hours worth of contractions is going to leave me completely exhausted and vulnerable to the epidural (again). Ideally, I would have time to complete some pain management technique class, but realistically I don't, so instead I need to use what I already know, skills I already have. It's kinda hard to ask yourself, "what am I good at, and how can I use that to help in labour?" I consider myself to be somewhat of a natural athlete: I've always been quite active in all sports, and I would often utilize visualization and breathing to help my game, and I think I need to apply that same method to prepare for labour: Close my eyes and visualize that I'm having a contraction, and visualize my reaction to it. I guess it helps that I'm not a FTM so I know what a contraction will feel like. When it first hits I know my instinct will be to tense my whole body, but even as I type this I find I'm breathing differently, deep full breaths to try to relax my body. The pain will be intense though, and will build, and I think breathing is only going to get me so far, I think I will also need to also keep moving (swaying?) to keep my muscles loose and not clench up. And I need to have something to focus on beside the pain. Here is where I need to have my cue cards ready with those affirmations. (BTW: I'm really glad those quotes and affirmations threads were started and that info is going to be added to the Resources Sticky!! I'll say it again: What a great resource this board is Biggrin )

I think I mentioned that I've been reading lots of birth stories. I'm reading a book right now called "Adventures in Natural Childbirth" which is essentially a collection of birth stories. Some of the stories I find though that I am doubtful of, questioning if that will be applicable to me. They are from the women who had mostly had mild crampy type contractions, and only 1 hour of hard/active labour before the baby was born. Maybe it has just been so ingrained in me that labour is supposed to be long and hard, but I'm not sure I find these "quick and easy" birth stories realistic. I know my previous labour was approx 12 (intense) hours long from the time my water broke and I started active labour until DS was born, and part of me thinks I should be preparing myself for approximately the same length of labour again. But sometimes I wonder if your attitude doesn't determine your reality, meaning if I think I'm going to have a long and hard labour then I probably will, but if I believe I'm capable of a "short" easy labour then that is entirely possible. Should I be visualizing myself with a long intense labour to make sure that's what I'm prepared for, or will picturing myself having this type of labour become a self fulfilling prophecy and jeopardize my ability to have a "short and sweet" labour ?

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I have had a few tense Charlie Horses also. My first reaction was to rub them and try to make them go away. But then I started thinking of them like contractions, and started to breath through them. They went away in no time and then i felt better!!! Biggrin Ramble away my dear!

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YAY!!! Congrats on your lodge!

I am hoping the visualizing a short labor will help in that. I have heard that it works...I guess we will see.

I hope for your sake your labor is short and sweet! hehe.

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I hate darn Charlie horses!!! I am not sure which one to visualize, maybe do both so that it you are prepared... I personally had to quit reading birth stories because it seems like the ones I pick to read are always scary and not at all uplifting...

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I love your cake theory story!! I'll have to try that with my next one (my dd was two weeks overdue to the day she was born!)

Charlie horses are awful-I always have to find the coldest floor in the house and walk on it, it eases them almost instantly.

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As a FTM, I really don't have any advice as far as labor goes.... But for the charlie horses, I used to get them literally every single night until I started eating a banana a day and now no more charlie horses! Biggrin The potassium in the banana helps keep your muscles from cramping up....

Oh, and thanks for sharing your birth story!! I was a forceps baby myself, and that was the first time I've heard of a reaction like your LO's.... I am so glad he is fine now though! Smile

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Charlie horses are the WORSE!!! especially those mid-sleep ones that make you jump out of bed...

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Hey girl! Sorry I am so late to see your lodge!!! I've been a bit busy here at the house, but I am so happy for you sweetie. I'm off to catch up on how you've been!

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Hey... replying to your post from the other day.... I think it is a great idea to use this as a blog/journal. I think it always helps to write things out...

So are you on maternity now?? Excellent!!!

I like to think/hope that part of the issue with your charley horse (and yowch!!! I had one or two of those myself) is that they are sudden and unexpected and make you tense up immediately... when you are extra tense, your body feels and reacts the pain more. The good thing that I keep telling myself (and as a first time mom never having gone through labor who is just guessing here) is that in labor you know that the contractions are coming... they are not out of nowhere... there is no surprise there. You can rest up and try to keep your body a little relaxed to get through them. At least that is what I am hoping. Biggrin

The book that really helped me was Hypnobirthing. When I first was toying with the idea of NCB a few months ago I started reading this book which a friend of DH gave us (though I too came into this late and never had time for any formal breating/pain management course) and it was the first thing I read that made sense to me. They talk about how when women are in fear, the body's natural reaction is "fight, flight or freeze" and in the case of labor, "freeze" is what happens and this state is not good for having your muscles (i.e.the ones in your uterous) working properly. It is up to using your mind or using your relaxation techniques to be prepared for them. Again, that is what I am hoping. Smile

I know you are (understandably!) worried about another painful 12 hour labor... but, not remembering your exact birth story off the top of my head and not remembering when you had your epidural, do you think maybe part of the reason your labor was long was because of the epidural? I have read a lot about epis slowing things down then trying to counter it out with pitocin, etc and how that does not always work (combined with the fact you were no doubt in the epidural position which they say is not conducive to labor). Henci Goer's Thinking Womens Guide to a Better Birth is great - really goes through what all the different medications can affect your body/labor. Maybe these circumstances played a part in why your labor was so long... plus they say it is possible for two pregnancies/labors in the same woman to be completely different. So, there are plenty of reasons why your next labor could be completely different - in a good way!

But your question is a great one... for a FT NCB delivery is it best to hope for the best or prepare for the worst? Or both? Smile

I don't have any real answers for you, never having gone through it myself, but these are my impressions thus far....

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I got cramps in my calves when I was pregnant with Ella. For what it's worth, they were worse than any contraction I remember... lol! And a little tip (but maybe you already know), when one strikes, use your hand or opposite foot to stretch your toes/foot up in the direction of your head (or put your foot flat on the floor). It stretches out the cramp and it goes away much faster.

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Loved the cake story. I'd be willing to try that should I go over. I really liked reading your birth story. It really goes to show how one intervention can lead to another and another. Glad to see that you're going to try for NCB!

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37w+2: nursery pics

We've had a pretty productive weekend, got quite a bit of the last minute stuff accomplished, including baby's room all ready.

Here is the before. It used to be our spare bedroom, and the bed & dresser are already removed, but this is the color that used to be on the walls. Was supposed to be a soft "peach", often looked orange. It was fine when it was just our spare room, but I insisted to dh it needed to be painted for baby.

So we painted, I picked a neutral beige, it matches the carpet, and the fabric on my rocker, and it's gender neutral. The white crib & change table we had from when Nolan was a baby. The dresser is an old dresser of ours that we painted white (it used to be a hideous mustard yellow, took 5 coats to cover it and I still see some yellow patches, but I don't have a before picture) and we replaced the pulls on it. I also bought some new curtains.

The picture hanging over the crib was made by a family friend in 1978 (when I was a newborn) it hung in my nursery. From the colors in it, it gives itself away as being a product of the 70's LOL but I still wanted to hang it in baby's room for sentimental reasons.

Now all we need is a baby to put in the room. Biggrin

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Wow, it looks great! What a difference!

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The room looks excellent! I really like the beige color. Even though it is neutral, it is a really nice warm tone and good for either gender. Ha, I am glad you finally got the mustard yellow covered! I am sure that was quite a task if it required so many coats!!

And I love the story behind the wall hanging... if it was yours and made by a family friend, it totally belongs there. Just call it "vintage"... Wink

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I love it! Looks great! I have that whoozit toy (that blew scary looking thing face thing) DD loved it as a baby!

We call it the whoza whatzit!:D

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I love the neutral colors of your nursery! I really like the poem too. Good job on having a productive weekend!

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I love the room!!! Looks like you are ready for baby!! That is so exciting!

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What a difference the paint made - great color! The poem is wonderful as is the picture that goes with it.

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I love the nursery and that prayer on the wall is so amazing!!!

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Great job on the baby's room! What's on the crib set? I can't tell in the picture.

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I will have to look at your picts when i get home (photobucket blocked at work). I had a barney purple to cover up in our nursary! It was so pretty, lol, not!

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Really beautiful nursery! and the wall hanging is priceless!:D

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37w+4

It's my last day of work!! If it was physically possible I'd be clicking my heels in the air Biggrin I have lots of stuff I need to get cleared off my desk before I leave though. Then, tonight we have our hospital tour, and tomorrow morning I have a doctor's appointment.

I had a horrible sleep last night. Actually, "sleep" is kinda a strong word to describe my night, there were bouts of dozing, punctuated with lots of tossing and turning, getting up to pee, or stretch my sore back, or have some tylenol or some tums, etc. I don't remember having heartburn that bad last time I was pregnant. Sigh. So I'm looking forward to tomorrow when I get to sleep in a bit and maybe even have an afternoon nap!

Rebecca: the crib set has little teddy bears on it. I have a bumper that matches the blanket, but I do not want to put it on the crib, I'm still trying to decide if maybe I should make it into a valance to put over the curtains, or maybe try and make it into some pillows. But I'm not really a crafty sort, so that might never happen LOL!

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Lucky you!! I am so looking forward to my last day at work!!! Take a nap for me it you can!!!

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