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Welcome to your lodge, Vicki! Yay! How exciting!
Yay, was just coming on here to see if I had a lodge yet. I guess I can post at least some of my story too.
I grew up an only child in Southern NJ and moved to East TN when I was 12. It was never "home" to me though, but my parents still live there. Right after I graduated high school in 2002, I did a summer long mission based in South Jersey, one that I had grown up attending the programs of. Basically, the mission consisted of performing programs every night at a chapel on the boardwalk (hence the name "Boardwalk Chapel") and afterwards going on on the boardwalk and witnessing to people. While there, I really grew in my relationship with God and also met some wonderful people, including my future husband. Tim and I both worked at a fudge shop during the day - he was a fudge cutter and I was a cashier. Although I didn't really enjoy my job, I did enjoy getting to know him and spending more time than I needed to in the cutting area where he worked.
(This was the following summer, but you get the point. This is the "Blind Date" skit.)
Tim finally declared his feelings for me a few weeks before the end of the summer. It was pretty funny looking back, it was such an awkward conversation and I was clueless as to where he was going with it! I told him that the feelings were mutual BUT later I had to confess that I had feelings for another guy on staff that were stronger. The night I told him that, we talked into the wee hours of the morning on the front porch and told very personal things about our lives to each other.
After the summer ended, we continued to email back and forth, while the other guy I liked wasn't interested in a long distance relationship. I realized I really did miss Tim (who lived and went to college in PA) and we started dating on March of 2003. It was rough being away from each other, but we were able to talk a lot on the phone and we saw each other probably every 3 months or so. We spent a second summer at the Boardwalk Chapel and in the fall of 2004 when Tim had graduated college with a Geography degree, he moved down to TN to be closer to me. He actually lived with my parents for a little while which is not something he wants to ever do again (he gets along with them fine now, but it was difficult to live under their rules) and bounced around doing odd jobs like factory work and telemarketing. Eventually he was able to afford a small apartment very close to my college (my parents lived an hour away) and he found a job in his field. After I graduated from East TN State with a degree in Business Management, we got married on June 17, 2006, and moved to an apartment in the area and I got a job at a bank.
Here are some pictures of when we dated and got married:
Christmas 2002. We weren't officially dating here, but I got to meet his parents and sisters.
Niagara Falls the week we officially started dating
My college years
Our engagement - he planned a skating get together with my friends and had the DJ call me to the middle in front of the whole place! It was actually perfect - just what I wanted.
College graduation (2nd is with my parents)
After we got married, we planned to stay in TN for a year and move to SC where Tim planned to go to seminary to be a pastor. A little less than a year before our first anniversary, we unexpectedly found out we were pregnant! I had been on birth control but I felt like it messed up my hormones so I went off that and had been charting for three months. Apparently we caught that egg and the sperm survived for 5 days before ovulation! Whoops! :doh: We were a little worried since we had planned on moving that summer and starting a new life with new jobs. This wasn't the best timing for a baby, but it was God's timing so we learned to be at peace with it and look forward to it.
I knew I wanted a midwife and a natural childbirth before I got pregnant. I'm not sure how I came to that conclusion, but my aunt had a midwife with all eight of her children and my mom gave birth w/o drugs in a hospital with me, so I was surrounded by that influence. I also knew I didn't want to be in a hospital. I hated the sterile, medical environment and didn't feel that pregnancy was an illness and therefore I didn't need to be in a hospital to have my baby.
Thankfully, there was a freestanding birthing center in the town we moved to that was recommended by some mutual friends of ours and we toured it and loved it. We did some Bradley-based birthing classes and felt that we were prepared for a natural waterbirth. My pregnancy went smoothly and there were no problems. At my last appointment I learned that my baby was posterior and my midwife stripped my membranes at 40w 3d, putting me in mild labor that evening. I labored the whole next day without much change and after experiencing some strong pressure pain in my stomach, finally went in to the birthing center at around 9pm that night. I was about a 5 when I got there, still posterior so I walked in a loop inside the center and during contractions leaned against the wall and swiveled my hips around to see if he would turn. Finally I just laid down in the bed and Tim applied counter pressure to my hips for each contraction. Sometime in the middle of the night, I kicked Tim and he turned to me and realized I was having a seizure! Immediately Amy rushed in and hooked me up to oxygen, took my blood pressure, and told Tim to call an ambulance. I was taken to the hospital minutes down the road where I had a second seizure. They started me on pitocin, they broke my water, and we consented to an epidural b/c I had been in labor so long and with the possibility of a c/s, I would have had to be put to sleep otherwise. After the baby's blood pressure dropped and I started losing a lot of blood, they decided to do a c/s. My midwife was impressed with the amount of things they did to try to have me deliver vaginally. She was telling them to do a c/s when I got there! She thinks it was because they knew me being transferred from a birthing center, that a c/s was the last thing I wanted.
Anyway, Micaiah Philip was born at 9:56am on Feb 14, 2008 at 7lbs 15oz and 20 3/4in. I ended up being diagnosed with eclampsia that quickly developed into HELLP syndrome and almost needed a transfusion but my numbers went up enough that I was back to normal within a few days. The only signs I had had before labor were trace protein in my urine and swollen ankles off and on during the last part of my pregnancy. It really only appeared RIGHT at the end.
Unfortunately Micaiah lost a lot of weight after his birth (down to 7lbs) and I had problems getting him to latch on. He also had a blue spell in the nursery so he was put in NICU. He had another spell while there and had to be in an incubator. I had to go home without him. The doctor in NICU took pity on us, however, and after 24 hours out of the incubator instead of the procedural 48, he was able to go home.
Although he eventually learned to latch on properly, I had a lot of pain from the beginning and was never able to exclusively bf. We lasted for 10 months when it finally wasn't worth it anymore. Whew!
Here are some more pictures:
39 weeks with Micaiah
Just born, around 6 months
One year and now
Off to eat lunch, be back with the third installment!
So this time around, we planned the pregnancy. Tim decided to at least take a break from seminary for now and found a really good job in his field that he's been at for about 1 1/2 years. I found a job working at a gym childcare a couple days a week and took on a second job babysitting a little girl 9 months younger than Micaiah two days a week. Currently I am only babysitting and I plan to continue after this baby is born, until their second child in born in July. I am going to the same birthing center I used with Micaiah, however this time I have to see Amy's nurse midwife on staff because Amy is a LPM and can't legally deliver VBACS. She does plan to attend the birth though. Again, I have had an uneventful pregnancy but this time I am more closely monitored b/c of what happened with Micaiah. I have a BP monitor and urine test strips I can use at home to keep closer tabs on things. Best of all, Amy and Dara are both Christians and will be praying for a safe and uneventful delivery! I am eating lots of protein this pregnancy and taking my calcium tablets religiously in hopes of avoiding pre-e. At my last appointment, Amy encouraged me and said she thinks I seem a lot more healthy this time around and isn't worried about it happening again, however everyone is on alert if it does. I have had no swelling this time around (well, except, err, down there :/) and trace protein a couple times but nothing serious. My BP has been low the entire pregnancy.
This baby, however is again posterior so I am doing weekly chiro visits and trying to do pelvic rocks regularly to get her to turn!
Pics at 35 weeks:
TFS your story. It will be fun for me to follow your lodge since we were both pregnant with our first babies on Feb 08 together. Good luck getting your little girl to turn anterior.
What a great intro! You DS looks like a little ham:) I'll be praying your next delivery is much smoother, it sounds like your doing all you can to make sure it is!
Loved reading your intro! Hope the birth of your little girl goes much better and you can have her at the birth center. How awesome that both the midwives are Christian and will be praying along side you! I will also be praying for you
I hope you get the perfect birth this time!
Thanks for the prayers and comments everyone! I have an appointment on Monday so we'll see if she has turned yet! I doubt it though, she seems like she's in the same place although I am SO bad at knowing how she is positioned.
I loved reading your story, hun. I'm sorry you had such complications with your last pregnancy, and certainly hope they can be avoided this time around. *hugs* Your son is so beautiful, and the pictures of your relationship/marriage are so telling. The way you two felt/feel about each other really shows.
I can't wait until its your time, babe - crossing everything for you that it goes smooth!
Had my 36 week plus appointment today. BP was 100/65, gained 5lbs since the last appointment two weeks ago :eek: (but didn't gain any two weeks before that). HB was 155 and she's still posterior. She's not totally posterior, just like she was two weeks ago though with her back on the left side of me. I guess it could be worse but she really needs to turn! So I will be doing more pelvic rocks and continuing weekly chiro visits.
Unless I go late, this was my last appointment with Dara my nurse midwife. Next time I see her will be baby time! Now all my appointments will be with Amy which is great!
It's interesting how all of this will play out though b/c although Amy will be attending the birth (unless she has another one at the same time), she can't do anything to help deliver the baby. Since I'm a VBAC and Dara is a Nurse Midwife she HAS to do it. If she can't make it in time (she lives about 2 hours away), I can labor at home as long as I want and if it comes down to it, DH can deliver my baby at the birthing center w/ Amy verbally guiding (that happened just recently, she was 12 minutes late for the birth!). Which IMO is much more preferable than checking into the hospital.
SO. Hopefully that doesn't happen; I'm not known to have short labors anyway.
Sounds like your hangin in there. The thought of your hubby delivering your baby is special!
Guess I should bump this up huh?
Had my 37+ week appointment today and baby has turned! She still favors my left side, but Amy said she's in a good position now for birth. Yay! I guess the chiro is working!
Talked to her more about the birth/delivery. I guess I'm getting antsy or something. I wasn't checked but she said next week she can check me and strip my membranes if I'm dialated/soft.
Gonna start taking EPO vaginally. I asked how many I should insert and Amy said "Put half a dozen up there if you really want to have this baby!" Hehe.
Had a shower today thrown by the ladies from my Bible study. They were so generous. Now I can finally buy all the last minute stuff I need. I am in total nesting mode! DS's birthday party is Saturday so I need to focus on that and focus on getting through a few more weeks of babysitting!
I'm glad to hear she's moved out of the posterior position. I think I've read that being on the left is a really good position to be in. Most babies lie to one side or the other, very few start labor completely anterior, but it is supposedly easier for them to rotate clockwise than counterclockwise, so being on the left is better than being on the right (where my baby prefers to be).
Yay for your baby shower! How fun! My friend was saying the other day that she wants to throw me a shower, but she is going to wait until after the baby is born now because I'm getting too close to set one up before he's born now.
I loved reading your intro! Your little guy is just a month older than my littlest guy. Aren't they so fun?!!! I will be reading your lodge. I hope the Pre-e stays away, and it sounds like you have been doing all within your power. Enjoy your last little while being pg!
What a story! TFS!
Glad to hear bubs has turned- hope she stays well positioned for you!
Really, I always thought the right side was better from looking on spinningbabies.com. But then again, maybe I had it backwards since I was looking right at the mama instead. Anyway, cool!
It's confusing. The belly maping page explains but I had to really think about it it understand it. They suggest using a doll to understand it in 3D: http://www.spinningbabies.com/baby-positions/belly-mapping
Everything is named using the mother's left and right, not your left and right if you are looking at her. If you read Section 3: Naming the position, it exlains that LOA, left occiput anterior, (the ideal position) means that "O," the occiput, or the back of the baby's head, faces "L," left, the mother's left side, in "A," anterior, the mother's front.
Ok I understand now! Thanks for explaining it to me.
So I sliced my stomach open today. Okay well I cut a pretty good gash in it. I was trying to open a package with a toy in it for DS and it was that really hard plastic that things like batteries and usb drives come in. I was using a pretty sharp pocket knife-type thing and I slipped and sliced my stomach! I don't think it would have been so bad if it were anywhere else but b/c my skin is so stretched there, it put a good hole there. So I had to go to the clinic and get four stitches. :doh: They said this was a very unique situation and to be more careful with my protruding stomach in the way. I feel like such a dweeb! DH was like "From now on, leave the cutting things to me!"
I *think* I may have been having some contractions last night, but I can't tell if they were in my dreams or not. They felt like contractions similar to those I had in the beginning of labor with DS!
Ouch! Sorry about the cutting yourself thing. That totally sounds like something I would do and then I would feel the same way you do! Accidents happen, though, so don't beat yourself up about it.
I'm glad my explanation of the spinning babies thing helped. I've been thinking someone should make videos explaining it. I just looked on youtube and didn't see any.
Isn't all that packaging on toys sooo frustrating!! They are so over packaged! I was the same way being klutzy with my big belly, always bumping it into things. Glad it wasn't a major injury though.
Yay for having a dream about contractions, whether they were real or not, even if it's simply your subconscience preparing your body for the birth, it may be an indicator you time is soon!
I hate that packaging! I'm glad it wasn't more serious!
Yuck, I hate that packaging too! Very glad it wasn't more serious...hope the stitches don't bother you too much and/or you can heal before your baby comes!
Had my 39 week appt today, everything was good, weight was maybe up a bit but not much (I'm really not keeping much track at this point.), BP was low - 85/60 or something! Baby is now on my right side instead of my left but still anterior. (So much for being in the "better" anterior position Brittany!)
Midwife checked me and stretched me to a 2 and about 60% effaced, baby's head is low. She also stripped my membranes which w/ Micaiah started my contractions that night and they continued off and on until I had full blown labor. So we'll see! The mom I babysit for really wanted a solid answer on whether I thought I would go into labor to see if I could still babysit tomorrow. I don't have an answer for her, but I'm still babysitting! If it's the same time frame as w/ M, I wouldn't go into active labor until tomorrow evening anyway.
So I will keep you all posted if anything happens!
Very exciteing hun!! I'm so sorry you cut your tummy, I bet they hadn't delt with that very often:) How is it healing? I'm sending good position baby vibes your way. I can't believe your still babysitting you crazy lady!
Midwife called me today and said the nurse midwife is off work until Tuesday so she wants to get things rolling now to make sure she makes it to the delivery.
I'm taking black and blue cohosh every 20 min and I just started pumping and am supposed to for three hours :eek:, then walk and call her back for an update. I hope this helps baby come!
Two things I have learned: black cohosh tastes AWFUL and my breasts are definitely NOT prepared for bfing, this pump is on the lowest setting and it was very painful when I started!
Hope it works for you! Good luck! Keep us updated.
Good luck!! Can't wait to hear the outcome...
Good luck, I hope it works!
Hope things start moving along for you! Good luck!!
Ok, so nothing happened. I repeated the same process this morning and nothing. Called the m/w about doing castor oil and she said to just let the baby have a break. I really think she just has a mind of her own and is not ready to come!
Anyways, trying to focus on enjoying the rest of this pregnancy and not just getting through it until this new phase of life comes. It's so tough though. I just get tired a lot easier and don't feel like doing much (I think my nesting instinct died - doesn't that mean the baby should be here now?). And I have to take care of a toddler who can be demanding sometimes. At least when I have the baby I'll have more urgent excuses to not do things for him so DH will be more inclined to help. Now it's just that I don't feel like it, not that there's any major reason not to do it. Anyway, that's me right now! I guess I should just forget about going into labor and it will come when I least expect it!
I think you're right about the baby just not being ready yet, and not thinking about labor for a while is definitely a good plan. I know how you feel about keeping up with a toddler's demands while pregnant. I hope you are able to find some ways to enjoy this last bit of time with him where he won't be fighting for your attention with the baby.
Thanks Brittany. I got a little choked up on Friday I think when I really thought those herbs would do something. I cuddled him just a little more before his nap!
Well I lost my mucus plug today but it wasn't bloody or anything, but I'm pretty sure most of it came out! Lost a big lot this morning and some smaller pieces throughout the day. So maybe that means something or is just another sign that my body is preparing for labor. Either way, at least it means that I'll probably go into labor on my own since I can't be medically induced anyway.
yay for mucus plug! it's a sign that your body is doing something, at least!
Yay for the mucus plug!!! From what i've heard you can't loose that until you start dilating and effacing. So maybe something is finally going on!
I lost mine the day before my 3rd birth, you never know!!
Losing your plug is definately promising! I really do understand how frustrating it is to be so ready and just have to wait and wait until baby is ready too, but it WILL happen! I personally predict baby is waiting for EDD+2, that is this Saturday will be baby day!
Just found out my cousin-in-law is in labor... and she was due three days after me. Starting to get depressed now. But she DID have a lot of pain from a tendon or something, plus she has chronic back pain so I'm sure it's best for her to have this baby soon. She's doing a home birth too so I hope it all goes well.
Man, this is just getting tougher for me. I think b/c a lot of people (family, church friends) have been having babies before me and I'm just really impatient b/c of it. I don't remember being so anxious w/ Micaiah, and I wasn't as ready either b/c I was telling DH what to pack in the bag while I was in labor! I need something to keep me busy but now that my babysitting job is over, days are a lot more free. Plus, going out just exhausts me b/c I'm constantly pulling DS in and out of the car and having to deal with him. Sorry for the rant, just feeling down all of a sudden.
I'm sorry you're feeling down. I think it's pretty common to feel this way toward the end...but one thing is for certain, that baby WILL come! Hang in there...
Hang in there, Vicki! I hope your cousin-in-law's birth goes well--let us know when you hear.
It's quite common to be emotional at this stage, and I totally understand. :bigarmhug: With DS2 I was 42 weeks, and every day past 40 weeks felt like a month, it seemed like everywhere I looked women who were less pregnant were having their babies before me, and I was jealous and sad! I also had a friend pregnant at the same time, she delivered her baby a week before me and her EDD was 3 weeks after mine. I was the same way, mat leave started so filled time by watching tv , but then got mad watching Baby Story (not just for the usual reasons) because the episode would start with a women far less pregnant than me, and within 25 minutes she would have delivered her baby, and there I was still just as pregnant!
Stay positive! You are doing a great job as incubator to your baby, and she's so happy where she is she just wants to hang out there for just a bit longer! But pretty soon she'll come meet you Have you tried any home induction methods? DTD, then DTD again. I have a lot of other "tricks" that I tried in desperation if you need some ideas!
Well got adjusted today and got my membranes stripped again. I had some mild cramping afterwards but it has pretty much tapered off. If baby doesn't come by Friday morning I will be trying blue/black cohosh, pumping, and walking again. And then cod liver oil if that doesn't work. I *really* want to go into labor before that b/c I hate taking that nasty black cohosh, they're both pretty expensive to buy, and I hate pumping plus it hurts! So anyway, REALLY hoping contractions start soon on their own!!
Oh, and when she checked me, there wasn't really a change from last week (still at a 2, 60% effaced) but it hurt a lot more when she swept my membranes so I think she was trying a bit harder this time!
Oh, and my cousin-in-law's contractions stopped so it was just false labor.
Thanks for the comfort, I wasn't at all like this with DS, at least probably not until this point did I start to want him out.
Belle, that's funny about watching A Baby Story. I've been watching Bringing Home Baby on Youtube, possibly hoping it will scare me into thinking baby should stay in longer! I tried to watch A Baby Story but it just annoyed me now that I know so much more about labor and birth naturally.
Hugs. I know how hard it can be to wait... Maybe do something to pamper yourself?
Any update today? I hope you don't have to resort to castor oil (Yuck!) and while I have no experience with black cohosh it doesn't seem very appealing either. I think you should try baking a cake, it worked for me!
I took two doses of castor oil today - 2 oz at 8:30 and 10 and nothing except some gas. I really don't want to do the cohosh/pumping/walking again. I really don't think my body is ready to go into labor. I dread calling my m/w and telling her it didn't work b/c she will want me to do the other stuff. I just hate pumping and you can't go anywhere when you do it and honestly, black cohosh tastes much worse than castor oil! I know we want the baby to come when my doctor is available but I think the fact that I'm trying all of these things and expecting them to work is just stressing me out more b/c they're not working.
Okay, since it sounds like you're teetering on the verge of desperate (IMO even considering castor oil qualifies you as desperate) here are some sure fire (just for fun, but can't hurt) ways to induce labour:
(1)You know the Murphy's Law rule about how AF will show up if you go out in public wearing white pants and without any supplies, well, similarly you must think of what would be the most inconvenient time/place for baby to come, and then put yourself in that situation. So start by unpacking your hospital bag. Then make sure there are no groceries in your house, I'm not sure I'd go so far as to dump milk down the sink, but you can determine your own level of committment to this idea. Then go out, spend money on a movie and popcorn, with the idea being once you've spent the money baby will not let you actually sit and enjoy the movie and treats, rather that will be the time baby will choose to arrive.
(2)Bake a cake. This is actually my dad's idea, his theory: You know how they say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach? Well, there's a bit of truth in this, men, even newborn baby boys, do respond to food. And EVERYBODY deserves to have a birthday cake. That baby is just waiting until you have baked a birthday cake for him, so all you have to do is bake a cake. As soon as you have a cake ready, he'll know that's supposed to be his birth day, and he'll make his appearance. When dad told me this I thought it was just stupidest thing I had ever heard. But when I was 41 weeks with DS1 I was getting desperate, I had already tried pretty much every other labor inducing trick, and I figured there wasnt any harm in trying this. I also rationalized that it'd be good to have cake all ready to serve to guests that stopped by to see the new baby. (Also could have been that final nesting instinct kicking in). So I thought it was worth a try. As the timer on the oven went off for the cake, I stood up and felt a gush. My waters had broke! (Dad’s “cake” trick actually worked LOL!!) Nolan was born 12 hours later. (*this works for a BOY, hopefully it will work on a baby girl too )
(3)DTD. DTD. DTD. DTD.