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Welcome to your lodge Mia!! I am excited to hear how your birth story goes. You have already beaten the odds by keeping baby baking this long!! You are almost there Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge! I know things have been difficult for you! I hope you are able to have a great birth experience, in spite of the complictions you've been having.

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Welcome to your lodge Mama! We're all eager to follow along. :grouphug:

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Welcome to your lodge! It has been a tough road for you, but you've made it so far. Wishing you the best birth experience possible!

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Welcome!!! You've held on this long! Wow!

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Welcome to your Lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome! Can't wait to follow you more closely. Not much longer now.

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Welcome to your lodge!!

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Welcome to your lodge, Mia!

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Welcome!! I am so excited for you!

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Ahh thank you all so much ladies! I am so pumped to have my lodge! I'll update in a later tonight or tomorrow with some stuff about DH and I and our preggo road thus far.

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Oh, wow! Another familiar face! Welcome to your lodge. I'm looking forward to learning more about you and your journey to this point!

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Congrats!!!!! Way to go, and welcome to the world Emma!

I'm glad she got to pick her own birthdate!

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Sounds like you and Emma did an amazing job!! I can't wait to read your story! Six hours of labor?!?! That is awesome. I hope it was everything you desired.

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We probably should have started your lodge earlier! Congrats on your natural birth and WTTW baby Emma!

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I can't believe you went so quickly, congratulations and I want to hear lots of details Smile

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Wow, sounds like a fast birth! I can't wait to hear your story. I'm so glad she picked her own date. WTTW Emma!

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Congratulations! I've heard through the grapevine that Emma is doing well. Wow! 6 hours! I can't wait to hear her birth story!

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Thanks everyone!

I'll warn you, my birth story is SO long for being such a short process. Enjoy!

Emma Lyn
Born on Sept 14th, 2010
5 lbs 5 oz, 19” long
born at 10:03 am (36 weeks 4 days)

Saturday, August 14th, 2010

I woke up at 3:45 am to our alarm clock going off. My husband works out of state and had a “half day” this day, so he had to be on the road a little after four. I went to the bathroom and felt like my underwear was really wet. I didn’t think much of it, as my cm had been more “liquidy” for a few days which I knew was common in the late third trimester. I get up and step to the sink to wash my hands and feel a small gush and trickle. I hadn’t had any issues with my bladder leaking, so it made me wonder what was going on. Something told me that my water had broken, but I didn’t want to believe it. With all the false alarms in the last month, I didn’t want to go to l&d again only to be sent home when I knew I had the amnio and induction coming up in a few days.

I told my husband what had happened, but that he should go to work (2 hours away) and that I’d let him know if anything changed. I was having contractions that were crampy and annoying, but I wasn’t timing them. I just didn’t want to believe what was happening. The pain of these contractions was similar to my other ones, but I had some back ache with it too. He left and I went online to look up stuff about your water breaking as I know the experience can be different for everyone. One site was saying how even with a trickling, if you sit down for a while and get up, you may get some kind of gush to let you know what’s going on. I stood up a couple minutes after being on my computer and was soaked. I put towels on the floor and two pairs of pajama pants later, called my husband and told him to turn around. This was around 4:30 in the morning.

I waited until he got home to call l&d and let them know what was happening. One of the nurses I had been taken care of before answered and asked if I was going to shower before I came in or not. I said I’d like to if it wasn’t a problem. I took a quick shower which felt good. I have always responded well to heat therapy, so I was glad that I took the time to soothe myself at home before going in.

My husband and I quickly grabbed some last minute things (we’d had basic hospital bags for us and Emma packed for a couple of weeks) and headed out the door. We arrived at the hospital around 6 or so. I went into the triage room and the nurse I spoke to on the phone tested my pad to see if the fluid I was leaking was amniotic fluid., which I was. I brought the pee jug with me as instructed incase they still wanted to pursue the 24 hour urine sample. It was annoying but at this point, I didn’t mind peeing in a little hat and pouring it into a container. I was admitted into a l&d room and went over the standard admittance paperwork. At this point I had to take breaks when answering some questions to breathe through the contractions. At 7:34 the phlebotomist came up from the lab to take my blood for standard blood work (I only know the time thanks to the time stamp on the bracelet). The contractions were bad enough that I had to have him wait until I wasn’t having one to take my blood.

Shortly after, the nurse that would be my nurse for her shift came in. She asked the pain scale question, I answered a 7 out of ten. These were now a bit worse then the contractions I had been experiencing in previous weeks. I kept feeling like I needed to have a bm but just couldn’t. My nurse asked if I wanted to get into the shower to help with the contractions. I said yes and in I went. The shower had a regular head and a wand that you could alternate between. This shower was one of the most blissful experiences I have had in a long time. I held onto the safety bar and just let the hot water center on my lower back while breathing and chanting (om) through the contractions. When I got out, I went to the bathroom to pee and try to have a bm as I figured the shower would have relaxed me enough to do so. I told the nurse that I kept feeling like I needed to make a bm but couldn’t. She said she wondered if I was transitioning, and that based on what she’d seen, she’d guess I was at 8 cm. This floored me. 8 cm? I tried not to get my hopes up as she called the OB on call (who happened to be the one that diagnosed and had been the primary provider in the office in regards to my cholestasis). He came in and checked me. I knew I had to have some progress as he didn’t need to go far to check. I was 9 cm, 100% effaced and +2 station! I was floored but so excited. He was also excited that the baby was ROA as he doesn’t see that much especially in a FTM.

My OB went to get ready and the nurse asked if I wanted some nubaine (sp?) for the pain. I said no and that I wanted to do everything natural. (I wasn’t going to fault her for not having time to read my birth plan yet as it was on file in a folder somewhere). When everyone was prepped, we got to business. I started pushing at 9:00 am. I always wondered how I’d feel about my modesty (I know of my OB outside the office as I went to high school with his son) but I didn’t care. I know this is TMI but I did poo on the bed while pushing but I didn’t care. They must have realized I knew I did it as they said it was good and that I was pushing the right way. There was another nurse in the room who was there to take Emma to the warmer and help get her cleaned up after. Another nurse or LNA maybe was watching too which I allowed. Each push I made progress and they kept complimenting me as being so in control. I would just breathe through the contraction (or chant Om as I knew the low guttural noise would help “open” me) and focused. When I wasn’t breathing through the initial pain, DH would feed me ice chips which were heaven. It was a little annoying when she was getting under and over my pelvic bone, but knowing each push made progress helped. At one point my OB said that there were plenty of ways he could “make the baby come now” but that it wasn’t necessary. I was doing fine and she was too so there was no reason for him to “step in”. I really appreciated that he wasn’t going to force it.

When she was crowing, I felt her head and was so excited. I could feel all her hair and it just made me even more motivated to meet her. I was scared for the “ring of fire” but honestly it was not that bad. She came out and cried right away. They put her on my belly and I just about died. I wasn’t crying but it was such an unreal experience. The placenta came easily and although i could feel it, I didn’t mind too much. Her apgar scores were 8 and 9. They only took off because her skin got a little blotchy (blusih and white) when she was laying on me, but the second they put her under the warmer, she was pink again.

She weighed in at 5 lbs 5 oz and was 19” long. I felt great after birth and our immediate families came in to visit. In hindsight, I sort of wish we had waited to let people come in, but it was fine. I was having some pressure and noticed a few big gushes when getting out of bed 3 hours after birth. Turns out I was hemoraging and so my OB and my nurse had to clean everything out. I had some huge clots and I felt bad my DH was holding Emma in a rocking chair front row center. I screamed (the pain was far worse then l&d) only because with how they were pushing, I couldn’t breath through anything in a soothing way. They then gave me miso (which I made notes that I would not take for intervention purposes) rectally to cause contractions and get me where I needed to be. I was then on watch for a few hours to make sure I wouldn’t need a d&c in the OR. Thankfully, they got everything and I just had to have an IV of fluids (something ringers?) some antibiotics for a while.

Our hospital stay is another story, but here are some pics:

Us just after birth

Emma on the scale

In the hospital on one of her first days:

Hospital going home pic:

Me today (four days pp and WICKED engorged):

Thanks for reading! Seriously. This is way longer then I meant it to be.

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You did a wonderful job, Mia!!! What a fantastic story...thank you for sharing.

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Thanks so much for sharing your wonderful birth story! You truly deserved what sounds like a pretty easy birth after all that you've been through. Emma is gorgeous and you look mah-velous!

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Congratulations, Mia!! I'm so glad you got your natural birth, even being a high-risk mama! Emma is gorgeous - what a sweet little baby!

How are you settling in at home?

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THanks for sharing your story! You did an awesome job and Emma is adorable!

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Thanks for sharing your bith story! I'm so glad that all went well for you guys! Emma is too cute! How are you feeling?

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Thanks everyone! I'm feeling pretty good. We had a new mom and baby visit today with an a 20 year pediatric nurse as part of the child-birthing class package we did. They just do basic vitals on her and check her weight (up to 5 lbs 2 oz, only 3 away from her birth weight!!!) and go over tons of new baby stuff. We were thrilled with her weight gain.

I was a bit of a mess in the hospital. The nurses were great but the hemorrhage was a little traumatizing. I thought I'd feel more emotional when we came home, but I got 5 hours of sleep the first night which was great.

Nursing is going better and better every day. We still finger feed (finger in her mouth to suck on with a syringe to give her the milk when she sucks to simulate nursing) when we need to, but she's getting better at the breast (only does one side per feeding and uses the shield but I don't need to entice her as much with the syringe under the shield anymore).

My milk came in tuesday night and yesterday was tough. The girls are huge and even with massage, compresses and pumping a little pre-feeds to soften them, they're annoying. It's a little better today though. So far, the toughest thing is all the pumping. I pump whatever side she doesn't feed off (or both if she doesn't feed for long) to keep the stimulation up. Washing everything after each feed really cuts into my sleep but DH has been a huge help.

I know the nursing will only get better. I haven't had much pain myself or anything post hemorrhage to worry about which is nice. I just am so in love with her. I can't get enough of it.

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Thanks for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear about the hemorrage, but I am glad everyone is ok now. Best of luck on bfing. Nursing does get easier. Just take it one day at a time.

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CONGRATS!!! I'm glad everything went so well considering:-)

I started with syringe feeding both my boys. They were full term but had tiny mouths so had problems latching. Just keep with the nursing! After you pump, put the parts in a Ziploc bag and stick it in the fridge for next time. Just make sure you're washing them once or twice a day!

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What a great story Mia!! I really appreciate the detail you included... all the little things I always wonder about with other people's experiences. TMI: I poo'd with DD too, but it's amazing how you don't even care lol. And miso for hemorrhage is a totally different reason... I would have done the exact same thing... just not for cervical ripening/induction. I am so proud of you for sticking with your plan!! You really make it sound like such a breeze Biggrin Definitely a very inspiring story!!

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What a fantastic birth, congrats! I love the long birth stories and you'll appreciate it down the road.

She's adorable Smile

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"cmljll" wrote:

CONGRATS!!! I'm glad everything went so well considering:-)

I started with syringe feeding both my boys. They were full term but had tiny mouths so had problems latching. Just keep with the nursing! After you pump, put the parts in a Ziploc bag and stick it in the fridge for next time. Just make sure you're washing them once or twice a day!

That's so encouraging! She's getting better with nursing each day and luckly has an amazing sucking reflex. I know the finger feeding won't detour the nursing as I'm always offering her the breast first and she will take it well at least a couple of times a day, I just am a little anxious to get to that point so I can just pump for reserves. I wash the pump stuff after every use and sterilize it once a day. My DH is so great at reminding me she's little and that she's doing great.

Ariel - Thanks! While the hemo was scary, I knew I could trust my OB in his decision and it really did help. My bleeding has been so minimal since I left the hospital (but of course it picks up a little after nursing/pumping) so in a way the hemo was a bit of a blessing. They think it happened just because the l&d was so quick, that it was probably a piece near the top of my uterus.

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Yeah, it really sounds like you were able to trust your doctors a lot... I am so glad for you Biggrin It seems like they really went above and beyond to honor your wishes. If I had doctors like that I would have readily trusted their guidance as well. I don't think it is abnormal to bleed a little heavier after nursing or being a little active. I'm sure they gave you all the warning signs to watch out for. I am so, so happy for you and your little family Blum 3

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I'm so glad that things are going well and that nursing is getting better each day. We had to finger feed in the beginning as well because our son was badly tongue tied. We ended up attaching the syringe and tubing to the side of my brest so that he would draw milk from there as well as stimulate my milk production, then I would pump after. I remember it seemed like never ending cleaning with that pump stuff. Hang in there, you'll get where you are heading before you know it. I'm so glad you are enjoying your sweet LO!

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Thanks for sharing your story. It's so wonderful that you were able to have a quick and natural birth despite all of the problems with the PG. It's especially inspiring because you're a FTM and it just goes to show that you CAN have the birth you want, even in the hospital, if you just trust in yourself and stand up for what you want. Emma is beautiful. I'm glad to hear that BF is going well. You'll be a pro in no time! Congratulations again!

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Long lost intro Biggrin

Obviously I didn't have time to do this before our little lady arrived, so I figured I'd do it now (while she's in a milk coma ;)).

In June 2008, I went to a birthday barbecue for one of my best friend's. I knew almost everyone there and was happy to get out for a night. I was in a long, drawn out relationship that had deteriorated a long time ago that I just didn't have the heart to break off. I was just enjoying my time at the party and then I saw Greg. There is this song called I Remember by Damien Rice. The first line goes "I remember it well, the first time that I saw, your head round the door, cause mine stopped working." That was exactly how I felt when I saw him. I wouldn't call it love at first sight, just this gut feeling that I needed to know him (and somehow already did?). He was just sitting by the fire drinking New Castle and having a cigar. Despite being so taken by him, I was still with my ex and figured that even if I was single, he wouldn't be interested in little old me. We talked a little that night and saw one another occasionally at our same friend's holiday parties. In October of that same year, I finally ended my five year relationship with my ex and started just working on getting myself where I wanted to be. I took the next four months or so to clear my head and focus on myself for once in my life. It was the best thing I had done in a long time.

In March, I decided to tell my best friend about my crush on Greg. We still had only talked on occasion, and he'd given me a ride to my car a couple of times when friends I had car pooled with bailed early or were too drunk to leave the party. She was so excited and said she felt silly for never having thought to set us up before as she thought we'd be perfect together. I talked to him online a little bit and we made plans to go out to dinner at an awesome irish style pub in town. I hadn't been on a real date with someone since before I could drink so I was a nervous wreck. We ended up staying at the pub for four hours just nursing some Guinness and getting to know one another. A month later we decided that we really liked what we had going for us and became a couple. Things happened pretty quickly after that. We spent nearly all our free time together and by June I was staying at his place. My friends warned me that it was going way too fast, but we knew we had something different. In the months to follow, we were just enjoying life as it came.

This is a picture of us at another pub while visiting family (can you tell we like beer?):

I was on the pill, which I'd been on for years. I was religious about taking it on time at the same time of day as I knew a few people who got pregnant unexpectedly on the pill. Christmas week, I kept feeling crampy and out of it like I should be getting my period but it wouldn't come. On the 30th, I was four days late and told myself if AF wasn't there in the morning, I'd buy a test. Sure enough, no AF so I went to the store and got a test. I didn't tell Greg anything at this point because I didn't want to worry him for a false alarm. I waited until I was getting ready to go to our best friends house that night to celebrate new years eve (the same ones who introduced us). Sure enough, it was positive. I was so nervous to tell him because I wasn't sure how he'd react. We knew we wanted kids some day but we hadn't talked about it much as we figured that would be a few years down the road. When I told him we were pregnant, his first response was that he hadn't even had a chance to propose to me yet. I really didn't know what to make of that, but we just sat there and held each other and cried for a while. We were excited, but nervous about how we were going to afford things and how our families would react.

We kept everyone in the dark about the pregnancy for a while. I wanted to go to our first appointment to have things confirmed before we said anything, but the appointment wasn't until 11 weeks along and at 8 I had had enough of hiding it. Our families and friends took the news really well. This would be the 6th grandchild on his side (he's the youngest of 3) and the first on mine.

Mid April would mark our one year anniversary. The weekend before, we went up north to build cabins at a campground we frequent. The day we got up there, it was snowing (this is in North Country NH not too terribly far from Mt. Washington). I didn't have a real jacket with me and was really hormonal. I ended up having a meltdown at the campground because I for some reason felt really useless being pregnant and not being able to work on the cabins. Greg felt terrible that I was such a mess even though I was really just upset that I got emotional in the first place. I eventually calmed down and was able to enjoy the rest of our time there. On Sunday, the weather cleared up and Greg said he wanted to go down the walking trail to see the river before we left. The water rising caused a lot of damage to stuff, so they had to rebuild a bunch of things that Greg hadn't had a chance to see yet. I go with him and we just stood there for a while taking in the view of the mountains and enjoying the rare warmth of the day. He then proceeds to tell me how much he loves me and out of no where gets on one knee and asks me to marry him. I don't know how I held it together, but I did. As we were walking back, I realized that everyone at the campground must have known. The guy in our best friend couple works for his family's jewelry store (his parents are friends of ours as well and everyone was up building cabins). So, when we got back to the campground everyone was waiting for us with some champagne for him and sparkling grape juice for me.

We were thinking of doing a big wedding in March, but I started to get nervous about the idea of planning everything and adjusting to life with a newborn. As much as part of me wanted the big typical wedding, both Greg and I are more reserved and quiet people, so the whole spotlight on us thing was not much of our style. We decided to have a smaller wedding before our daughter was born. We would have loved to elope, but we knew our families would be hurt so we just had a small wedding with our families and our best friends that got us together in the first place.
Us at our little luncheon/reception:

That's all the fun stuff about us before our little lady joined the party. Sorry it turned into such a novel!

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How nice of you to give us this update! You don't seem to ever do things in the typical order! Wink And that's part of your charm.:D

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What a great intro. I hadn't realized that you two hadn't been together that long before getting PG. Not that it matters. When you know it's right, it's right. DF and I were together less than 3 months when we moved in together. Luckily, the pill works very well for me 'cause DF has got some potent seed! :eek:

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A little Emma update:

At her one month appointment:
She had grown 1 1/2" bringing her up to 20 1/2"
She had gained exactly 3 lbs (up to 8lbs5oz)
Her head circumference was up 3 cms to 37 from her one week appointment. i don't think I asked what it was at her birth.

As of today (a week after her appointment) she's up 14 oz and weighs 9 lbs 3 oz! I can't believe she's been gaining the better part of a pound each week! I'm so proud of her.