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Welcome back, and welcome to your lodge!

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Woot!!! Welcome to your lodge!!

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Hey Ya'll! I want to write a formal introduction, but I just got back from the clinic *YUCK* and I am going to start another post about that. I will write during nap time today.

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Welcome to your lodge!!! Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome!

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Welcome to your lodge!!

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Welcome to your lodge! I can't wait to read about you.

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Welcome!!

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Hi Everyone - this is when I can find time to post. It is 2am and I cannot sleep! So here is a little into on me. DH and I met online in 1993 (he was 19 and I was 17 - we were talking about 90210). We dated on and off because we were both so young and lived in different states, but we also became best friends. Over the course of our friendship, I went to college - graduated - moved to NYC and started working. After going on a couple of dates in NYC, and during the whole date thinking I could not wait to get home to talk to my BF (now DH). I knew that was it - he had to marry me. So he came to visit me and I told him that. I told him to call my dad and get me a ring!! We got married in 2000 and finally moved to the same state!! I fell even more in love with him and we both kept putting off kids. We were both very scared. We got into rock climbing and so I was always planning our next great adventure. I was always outside doing something - climbing, mountain biking, adventure racing, just something. At the end of Oct in 05 we went climbing and camping in Red Rocks, NV. The whole time we were there I had the worst gas. Like just constant bubbles in my stomach. When I got home Nov 1 I was on the internet looking for what could be causing it and the first thing google came back with was pregnancy - I looked at a calendar and was like "Oh Crap - DH we gotta go to walmart and get a pregnancy test" He would not believe me and was so mad when I made him go with me to walmart at 11pm to buy a pregnancy test. Well it was positive and that was the beginning! We were so surprised and excited. I did some research while pregnant and decided with a lot of support from church friends that I wanted to have a natural birth. My doctor was also very supportive. She just asked that I take a natural childbirthing class to be prepared. She suggested the bradley method classes. We took them and loved it. The pregnancy with DS was very uneventful. I was made to carry babies - for a quite a long time. At 10 days late I finally went into labor the day before I was scheduled to be induced. I went to the hospital but my contractions were slowing down and so I agreed to a pitocin, but no epidural. The pitocin was not so bad. But in the end my labor was 27 hours. I had not slept for 3 days and so I was so worn out I was hallucinating a little (from fatigue) so finally I cried threw in my towel and asked for the epidural. I felt so defeated, I was so sad about it I lost sight of the most important thing in birth. I had a healthy baby boy and I was also very healthy. So really it was not such a loss. He was born at 12:45 am. I had the epidural for on 45 minutes so I was actually about to walk about an hour after birth. He was 22 inches and 9lbs 14oz. I want to try for natural again. My doctor has been very encouraging and reassuring that second labors. I sure hope she is right!! This pregnancy has also been very uneventful. I feel like I am going to be late again and I am a little disappointed about that, but agaun. I just want the healthy baby part! This baby is also measuring big, but I had no problem with my last delivery and a big baby so I think I will be ok again. Thanks for listening this long. I will post some pics tomorrow. This computer does not have any recent photos loaded.

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Hrmm - I am not sure why that is showing up as one big paragraph. I am so lame with the computer sometimes.

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No biggie with the one paragraph.

What a wonderful story!!

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That was a great story! You sure baked a big first baby!

I hope you have a shorter labor this time around, too. Smile

How are you feeling?

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I love your story! And I really like that you're not afraid of big babies. It's not often when you meet someone who realizes that it's nothing to be freaking out over. It reassures me having big babies run in the family, and this being my first. I'll definitely be stalking you!! Biggrin

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I enjoyed reading your BS. Looking forward to following the next birth

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Great intro, and welcome to your lodge.

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Congrats on your lodge!

What a great birth story.

Where are you giving birth? I ask because a good friend of mine is one of the midwives at the Austin Area Birth Center.

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The birthing center in Austin has a great reputation and I think it would be awesome to deliver there. Unfortunately my insurance does not cover enough of the expenses for me to deliver there.

I do love my doctor and she is behind me having natural childbirth 100%. I am so thankful that I have her at least. I don't think the hospital I am delivering at this time is very natural childbirth friendly.

I went on the hospital tour on a Sunday and there was only one lady in the whole labor and delivery area. The nurse giving the tour said "we like to schedule our babies Monday thru Friday 9-5" WTH??? :eek::eek:

My doctor and her practice just transferred to the hospital and she said the vibe I got was correct, but it was physician driven and some of the nurses were having to readjust their way fo doing things. She also said "I hate to say this but most of the doctor's are older men that don't like to work on weekends and evenings so they schedule inductions and if the lady has not had the baby by 5 they do a c-section so they can go home" Crazy huh?

OK enough about that non sense. I told DH I was staying home as long as I can stand it this time.

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Wow. I'm so sorry that's the attitude people have in your area. I'm with you. Stay home as long as possible. At least your doctor doesn't see it that way!!

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2 really cool things happened this week. My co-workers all took me out to lunch on Wednesday and they gave me a gift - a gift card to Banana Republic so mom could buy some non-maternity clothes!!!

Then today ladies from my church threw me a shower - I told them I did not need anything so instead of gifts they brought me diapers and homemade frozen meals!!

Anyway that was my excitement for this week. I am getting very eager for this little one to come.
I am anxiously waiting - knowing I will probably be late again

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That is so nice of your friends! Freezer meals are so wonderful.

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Sorry ladies - I never update my own lodge because I have so much fun reading everyone else's.

The past 4 days have been a roller coaster for me. It started Thursday - A friend of mine designs and makes jewelry. She was having a wine and jewelry party so I went to help her set up. I had some really painful cramping so went to the ladies room and lost my plug - the whole thing and start to have some "show." Show and cramping continued until Friday morning and then it all stopped. Saturday I had a little more "show" and cramping so I thought ok here we go. I went walking - but then again nothing. Today I have had menstral cramps and A LOT of BMs and a pretty steady back ache. So I cooked food all day and cleaned my house. And it has all stopped again.

I feel like my body is playing tricks on me. Knowing that last time I was 12 days late. I feel like I am going to go insane if this on off stuff goes on for 16 more days. The only encouragement is that I know this was not happening until the very end in my last pregnancy. I think this is why I like reading everyone elses posts. So I can not think about mysefl Smile

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I'm glad you updated here! I read your post earlier on April and was curious what was going on.

Sorry to hear that it seems to be faking you out--for now, at least. Does it feel like how you went into labor last time?

I hope that things start kicking into high gear really soon, it really does sound like a lot is going on. Hang in there & good luck!

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I'm really late so welcome to your lodge! Focus on the fact that your body is doing things to prepare and get you ready, hopefully it will all happen sooner rather than later too.

Cindy

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"helivt" wrote:

I'm glad you updated here! I read your post earlier on April and was curious what was going on.

Sorry to hear that it seems to be faking you out--for now, at least. Does it feel like how you went into labor last time?

I hope that things start kicking into high gear really soon, it really does sound like a lot is going on. Hang in there & good luck!

Last time I had a lot of fake starts too. I can say from family history that no one had ever gone into labor early. My grandmother was late with twins - and they were not her first!!

I know it will be soon in the grand scheme of things. Patience is something I need more of!

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Sounds like your body is getting ready and you only have a few more days till you become "overdue". Good luck, and KUP Biggrin

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So my body is for sure doing something - but it is keeping right in step with my mom and grandmother.

I went to my doctor today. I am now a good 4cm dialated 70% effaced and not in labor. My mom claims to have gone 2 weeks at 5cm with my younger sister.

My doctor is still ok with waiting 2 weeks past my due date until we talk induction. She is very supportive of waiting until the time is right. Then staying home for most of the birthing and coming to the hospital at the end. I am still hoping to have the baby in the next week. I am ready to meet this guy.

And I think DH and I have finally agreed on a name.

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Sounds like overall things are going well for you. It is hard when it seems like things are gearing up and then nothing really happens. I have been about 4-5 cm dialated for almost 3 weeks now, but clearly baby is not ready to come out yet. However, it really doesn't matter what's going on down there because when baby decides to come, baby will come! It does sound REALLY promising that you lost your plug and had all that show though!!

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Tomorrow is my due date - I feel fairly certain I will not have this little (or big) guy on his due date. Such a small % of ladies actually go into labor on their due date. I am ok with that. I have been able to relax more the past few days and I hope this guy will come in the next couple of weeks on his own. My doctor has been very encouraging to me about waiting. Next week we can do a non stress test just to be sure all is ok. I feel certain it is going well. I have some questions I am going to post on a different thread.

I am really enjoying my time with DH and DS over the past few days. Also I am resting as much as I can to save up energy for those first 6 weeks.

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Happy due date! Based on your last appt it sounds like your body is well on its way to birth this little one!

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Happy EDD!!

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Thanks ladies. Today I feel good - kinda weird like gravity is pulling on my belly. Such an odd sensation. I think it because we have a different weather front coming thru tonight.

So I am very excited because I have something to distract me for the next week... A film is being produced in Bastrop Texas called the Tree of Life starring Brad Pitt and Sean Penn. Anyway there is a casting call on Saturday for pregnant ladies due in April/early May. So I am going to go see what it is about. I emailed the casting person and he said I could either email in a face shot and a belly shot. They want to see the complexion of my belly?! How odd. I am assuming they will just be shooting pics of pregnant ladies bellies.

So that would be fun - but going into labor would be even better!

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interesting about the movie bit- that'd be awesome to meet brad and sean! maybe they'd pat your belly! Smile

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I think the tree of life has something to do with fertility - I guess that is why they are wanting some pregnant bellies.

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NAK -Hi there - sounds like your body is doing things the way it's supposed to. The movie thing sounds cool - KUP on that too unless you go into labour then I want to hear all about that instead.

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The movie thing sounds like fun!! Let us know how it goes.

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Ooh, that movie thing definitely sounds cool! I'd totally do it.

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Went to the casting call. It was very short and sweet. Not sure if they will call or not. They did not tell me very much. They asked when I was due - I told em this past Thursday. Then they asked what I was having and what color hair me and my husband had. They are looking specifically for newborns.

Anyway at least it passed the time yesterday. The last night I went to Supper Club with 3 other couples from church. There were 5 1-4 year olds running around. They had a great time and it was another good way to pass the time.

Nothing much going on today other than my other post - about feeling my babies head. That is just odd. I wonder how long he can just hang out like that. Is his face getting smooshed all in there?

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Just checking in on your lodge, but I have to say I admire your sense of calm about making it to 40 weeks and beyond. I'm sure it helps to have a HCP who isn't pushing the induction!

The casting call sounds cool. Hopefully your baby gets a part in the movie! Biggrin

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Laura, how long did your first labor last?

The casting call sounds fun. What a great story to tell your little one when older.

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about 28 stinkin hours!

I did not get the birth I exactly wanted, but under the circumstances it was ok.

Hey I will looks for my DS birth story and post it!

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Found it - this was written right after DS was born:

Wednesday July 12:
12:00 pm- I got a call from doctor wanting to induce on Thursday because I was 10 days past due date. So Bill and I of course call Bridgett and get her opinion.
3:30 pm- We agree to go to doc office and get a bio-physical/non-stress test to see how baby is doing. If all is ok we are going to wait until at least after Monday july 17 to think about induction (2 weeks past due date). At doc office they give ultrasound and they say not much amniotic fluid and baby is big so they doc will let us do what we want but she feels it is safer to induce.
4:00 pm- We call bridgett and get more feedback. I am really upset at this point because I really don't want to induce.
5:00 pm We pray that God would allow us to go into labor on our own. If not we decide to induce.
10:00 pm- A contraction wakes me up and curls my toes.... I am in LABOR!!!!!!!!!!!! Bloody show and all. I am so excited, but try to calm down so it does not stop. It continues all night. YESSSSSSSSSSS Contractions 6 mins apart 60 secs

Thursday July 13:
4:30 am call hospital because we are scheduled to induce at 6 am. They ask us to come on in, since I am far past my due date.
6:30 am Checked in hospital. Labor still going... Contractions have slowed to 8 mins apart 45 sec. The are concerned and still want to give me pitocin. We talk for a long time. Agree to much smaller amount than normal of pitocin. Nothing else. (it took us about an hour to decide)
7:30 am pitocin starts. Labor progresses very gradually. Bradley relaxation techniques work! I work thru labor and it builds all day. It is definitely work, but managable. Bill helps me all day. We laugh between contractions in the morning. Late afternoon I can no longer laugh during contractions. I tell bill to quit making me laugh because it hurts! Bridget was right... I cannot laugh the whole way thru labor!
7:00pm I am at 9 cm. Things are strong. I am slowly groaning thru contractions. I am starting to get tired. I am thinking it is almost time to push. The doctor breaks my water, she did ask but I was kinda out of it because I was so tired so I agreed. The baby dropped down to 9.5cm and transition began. Transition was hard... not just hard work bad pain. I could not catch my breath, but I knew it was the shortest part of labor. So I figure I can deal with 45 minutes of this. 10pm...Still in Transition and 9.5 cm. At this point I am hysterical. I was hyperventalating (sp?) and kinda out of touch with reality. Something just felt WRONG. Like I said ti might have all been in my head, but it just felt like the baby was not going to fit... so I got really scared and I just couldn't get that last .5cm. Poor bill is really having to help me keep me calm and it was not working. I tried walking, all fours, squatting, you name it. I could not get a hold of the contraction and I would lose my breath and gag. I thought I was going to kill the baby because I could not breathe... this was not fun. At 10pm I begged them to help me ( until this time the doctor and crew have been great and have not offered any pain medication). I begged for something so I could finish labor (I have been in labor 24 hours). They say they can give me an epidural, but it is not use because it might not take effect for 30 minutes and the baby could be here already. So I agree to wait it out
10:30 pm 9.5 cm still crying and screaming so loud. I beg for something again. The agree that I can have epidural. I cry that I have caved in the pain. I was really upset then a contraction hit and I told them to hurry up.
Sometime around 11:15pm I got the epidural. It is really odd. Because you go from being a hysterical woman to laughing about how I must have sounded from outside the room. Poor bill seems pretty shell shocked. Maybe he needed and epidural too.
Baby was born at 12:41pm. (almost 27 hours of labor)

He was a whopping 9lbs 14.4oz That big boy did not want to fit thru me... but he did with only one stitch!

In the end bill and I were very happy. I was sad for a bit that I could not handle the pain, but really in the whole scheme of things I was terrified that I was going to hurt the baby or worse end up in an emergency c-section. So I think everything worked out for the best.

Since I only had the epidural for a little over and hour, I was able to get up and move around within several hours. We were able to bond with baby and it was a very special time, the doctors left and gave us sometime alone with the baby. Then Bill went to the nursery. I never knew how much I would love this little baby.

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What an intense birth story! The fear/anxiety you describe is something I can see happening to me. I can also relate to the long labor & the sweet relief of that epidural if/when you truly need and want it.

Hope this time it's a lot different for you! Smile

I just saw your other post--whoa! Sounds like you are close!

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My last birth was very very fear centered. My mom came from SC to be here for the birth. She really hurt me a lot emotionally during the 3 weeks before the baby was born. She cried because I would not get induced, she kept reinforcing that I would not go into labor on my own, and she kept telling me I was risking my baby's life by trying to do things my way. I think I let those comments get to me in the end.

I do want to say in her defense that she was a great help *AFTER* DS was born. And she might be right that I will not go into labor with out some sort of help - because no female on her side of the family has gone into labor on their own. But what she failed to mention is that the doc/MW only needs to break my water to get things going. As I have said before even my grandma with twins went late and finally went to the hospital and they just broke her water since she was already 10 cm.

I feel more calm and educated about this pregnancy. If for some reason I do not go into labor the doc is just going to break my water and allow things to happen from there since I am already dilated so much and my cervix is so soft.

I am feeling contractions right now that I really hope are the start of things on my own.

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Laura what hospital are you delivering at? Austin is home to us, so I am curious what hospital you are referring to. My SIL delivered at Brackenridge and they were surprisingly NB friendly. My other SIL delivered at Seton Southwest and they were, well....not.

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This time I am at St David's down south. They are not NCB friendly... but my doctor for sure is and she has delivered some friends naturally. She just switch hospitals last time when I delivered with her she was at Seton central and they were very NCB friendly.

My doc has signed my birth plan and sent it over. Also my and DH are prepared to stick up for what we want - knowing they cannot force a proceedure on us.

Are you still in Austin or now in Elpaso?

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duh - I just saw the SIL part!

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Hopefully those contractions will get things moving for you!

About your Mom's side of the family not going into labor on their own -- try not to think too much about that. My Mom's side all went overdue by two weeks or more, but I had my son at 36 weeks. All pregnancies are so different.

You're doing great!

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I keep stalking your lodge today, Laura! I know it's going to be very soon!

And ITA w/ Julya. My mom went early with my brother and I - weeks early - and I was 4 days "late" with DD and seem to be heading to at least week 40 this time. :shrug:

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I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties w/your mom last time. I had a similar situation--my mom arrived for my EDD but then had 2wks of sitting around stressing me out, fighting, crying, her playing the victim, etc. We had screaming matches, it was absolutely awful. This time she lives on our property and will be home taking care of DD while I'm in the hospital--it will be much better! Wink

I'm glad you're feeling much better going into it this time! You really sound so close, when is your next appt?

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Sounds like you are getting really close, and I can relate to the mom thing. I know that me mom will be bugging me a ton to be induced if I go late. My due date is not till may 9th and she is calling me every day saying that I'm close.

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