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~*~Jenn~jooniper's~lodge~*~

I know this is way early but you have a history of going early and you are already starting to efface and dilate I figured I should start this now so we have a chance to get to know you before baby arrives.

Welcome to your lodge!

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good thinking, Krista. Welcome to your lodge, Jenn!

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Yippee!!! Welcome to your lodge!!

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Yahoo Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome! I look forward to reading!

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I mostly lurk here and haven't participated much in lodges, but since you're a fellow December mommy I can't resist!

Welcome to your lodge!! How exciting is this??? Biggrin

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Congrats on your lodge! Can't wait to read your journey!

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Welcome to your lodge!!

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welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Aw, thanks, what a fun surprise! Good thinking too- I think last time my lodge only lasted 4 or 5 days before Daniel was here:). Then again, for all I know, I may have 5 weeks left:)
I'll come back on later to post introduction stuff, but figured I'd share- just got my maternity pictures back! A lady in the area (http://www.zaffiroimages.com/) is trying to break into maternity (She usually does seniors and portraits and stuff) so she gave me a free session. I'm really happy how some of them turned out:





The rest are up at http://jooniper.smugmug.com/Births/2010-zaffiro-images-maternity/14589426_xoVET#1084819911_v2cvi

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In other news: I'm pretty sure the inevitible has begun, and my contractions (which have been happening since week 24 this time) have finally started me dilating again. I'd put myself at about a 3, 80% effaced. Baby most definitely dropped lower yesterday and I'm getting those pelvic pains that make your eyes pop out of your head in surprise- not really painful or intense, just random and surprising.
Next midwife appt is saturday. I MUST MUST MUST make it until next thursday (9 more days- I hit 36 weeks) if I want my homebirth (plus, I DO want a well-baked baby)

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I hope the contractions calm down and baby stays put for a while longer!
I love the photos, especially the first. beautiful.

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you got some really cute pics!

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When I saw your name I thought thats the one with the cute belly from your labor outfit post. Now the maternity pics! I'm so jealous you are so darn cute pregnant!! Looking forward to following this and hoping that baby stays in a bit longer!!

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Yay! More lodges!

LOVE the pics! Especially the first one. Definitely frame that one! And I hope baby stays put for another little bit!

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Great pics!! Hoping baby decides to cooperate and bake a little longer for you.

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welcome to your Lodge! Sending you MANY MANY keep baking vibes!!!! I will be praying that the little babe stays in till next Thursday so you get your HB!! 8 more days!! Your mat pics are so so so beautiful!!!! You are a GORGEOUS pregnant momma!!

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Welcome to your lodge!

And like I said yesterday on the December board, your maternity pics are beautiful.

Lots of keeping baking vibes coming your way. I hope you get your homebirth!

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Thanks everyone so much for the warm welcome!
Alrighty, an intro:
Born and raised in Vancouver, WA (essentially Portland, Oregon). Youngest of 5. After high school, I moved to Provo, Utah to go to school at Brigham Young University. Started as an English Major, switched to Humanities (which I adored), then landed and stayed in Linguistics, studying Arabic and minoring in French. And all of that somehow (heaven knows how) got me a job as a Web Analytics Consultant (kind of a cross between javascript programmer and online marketer). Whew, all the boring stuff out of the way.

Freshman year, there was a guy in my dorms, Kenny, from California, that hung out a lot with my next door neighbors, who I ended up also hanging out with a lot. He had curly hair, but had none of my other prerequisites: didn't play guitar/sing, not into literature, couldn't name a single Bob Dylan song. He apparently liked me, though, and we went on one date to a jazz concert, but apparently I talked about other boys the whole time (oops). So we were just friends, not particularly close, and he watched me chase around the curly-haired guitar-playing boys (who, in retrospect were idiots).

Anyways, he went on a mission for my church to Montana for two years, I went through a few boyfriends (and a few heartbreaks), kind of forgot about him, lived in France for a summer, and continued on with life as usual. Then my senior year I saw him around, and remembered he was kind of nerdy and into Tolkien, like me, and that he was on his mission when Return of the King came out. I wanted someone to watch it with so I asked if he had seen it, he said no (LIAR!), and he came over a few weeks later. I wasn't interested romantically when I invited him over, but when we said goodnight after the movie, he asked me out in this really gentlemanly way if he could have the pleasure of taking me out to dinner the next night. I drove home all giddy and excited. From then on we were inseparable.

That was 5 years ago, almost to the day. By February 2006 we knew we wanted to get married so we flew to my home so he could have "the talk" with my dad.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE fountains, and one in particular in Portland, so Kenny took me there and was planning on dragging me into the middle of it and proposing. Unfortunately, it was winter and too cold and the fountain was turned off, but it's a cool structure anyways, so he proposed in the middle of it even without the water:

After a rough engagement because of my in-laws disapproval (all for stupid reasons, nothing I take personally), we were married August 19th, 2006, at the mormon temple in Portland, Oregon:

No, he didn't learn to play guitar or sing and still doesn't like shakespeare, but I can't think of a better husband. Seriously, the most selfless, hard-working and sweet husband ever, and a great dad. We're coming up on 5 years and he's still the center of my universe.

We stayed in Utah til he graduated then moved down to Houston where he did his student teaching and eventually got a job as a 9th grade algebra teacher in an inner-city school. We've been here for 3 years now and while the folks are nice, I REALLY miss the northwest. We're saving up to move up there someday.
I currently work 5-10 hours a week from home, and I hate it, but the money is good and I know I'm lucky I can be a WAHM.

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Love the pics. You guys are so cute and your maternity ones are wonderful.

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Love the pics! So pretty! That's adorable that DH wound up being everything you never knew you wanted! Love is funny. Hope baby stays put for a bit longer! I walked around 3 cm+ for almost 3 weeks with DS, so hopefully you will make it to next week with no problem!!

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I *love* that fountain too!! I used to go to the operas and ballets at the Keller (aka Civic) when I was younger with my friends and we'd hang out at those fountains for hours after the shows just blabbing and enjoying the scenery! What a romantic spot for him to propose in!

If you move back to Portland, we'd have to hang out! Smile

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I love your background story! Isn't it amazing how sometimes it's one of the least likely seeming guys who ends up being perfect?

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"Melissa1223" wrote:

I walked around 3 cm+ for almost 3 weeks with DS, so hopefully you will make it to next week with no problem!!

Yeah, I was actually sent home from the hospital at 7.5 cm dilated last time because I still wasn't in active labor. Might as well tell that story now (and I'm sorry, I'm way too verbose, I'll try to at least include pics to keep it interesting):

Even though I was only 22 when we got married, I was really ready to be a mommy. We decided to wait a full year before TTC- to the point I planned it out to the very day we could conceive, which happened to be the week of our first anniversary. I had been (foolishly) diagnosed with PCOS in high school and had a lot of problems with cysts, so I was worried we'd have trouble, but we got pregnant first try (I like to pretend it was on our first anniversary, camping in Zion's Park, but.... I know I ovulated way too soon for that).
I think God knew I was so obsessive about it, either Kenny or I would go crazy if we had to go through more than the bare minimum to get pregnant that first time.
My pregnancy was easy. No throwing up, though I did lose my appetite for the first 3 months. We started with the Timp Midwives in utah, then moved halfway through the pregnancy to Houston and I settled for the first OB I found. Ugh, how I regret it.

My sister becky (aka redmom) had had 3 natural hospital births (And was pregnant with her 4th) and helped inspire me and inform me. There was a never a doubt in my mind about having a natural birth. I read all the literature and prepared myself as best I could.

I got a few early ultrasounds because I had some spotting and kept passing out and hitting my head on things (I like to do that, low blood pressure). At a 12 week ultrasound, the tech said "well, it's obviously too soon to tell, but... see these three little white lines? I'm 80% sure this is a girl!" This followed my own feelings that it was a girl (though we knew better than to go buy pink stuff)
My sister Lori (aka Loriloo), who I'm very close to, was pregnant with her first at the same time, due 3 weeks before me (yes all three girls in my family were pg at once). When she called me up after her big ultrasound to let me know she was having a girl, I instantly changed my mind. Mother nature wouldn't be that mean, to have us both have girls. I've lived in my sister's shadow and dealt with enough comparisons. This MUST be a boy. Sure enough, a few weeks later at my big U/S we saw that my child was indeed a boy.

Around week 27, I had some back ache and cramps. I told Lori, who told me "um, that's exactly how Becky (other sister) started her preterm labor with her first. You should get to L&D" (becky had had prodromal labor with all of her pregnancies- we've since seen that that's just the way women in my family have babies. none of hers had made it past 37 weeks, but had all been healthy and a good weight, jaundice aside). I thought that would be an overreaction, so we waited, but the cramps got worse. Finally, we said a prayer that we would know what to do, if we needed to go into the hospital. At that moment, I had the worst pain yet, so figured we should head in
Turns out the cramps were back-to-back contractions. I was effacing and, they said, dilated to a 1. I stayed in the hospital for steroid shots and 3 days on Mag Sulfate (worst experience of my life, I threw up and at one point, told them I was about to lose consciousness, they said "no, your levels look fine"... then I promptly lost consciousness for a while. Thanks, doc.) until they finally sent me home on full bedrest with an Rx for Terbutaline (which the doc aptly described as "will make you feel like a crackfiend looking for your next hit"). When they sent me home, they said I was dilated "only a fingertip"... don't know if I regressed or if they overstated the initial danger.

I worked from home 40 hrs a week, and didn't have any kids running around yet (aside from a beagle), so bedrest wasn't a big deal- I kept busy enough and laying in bed suited my lazy temperament. Just moved my laptop from my desk to my bed:

I stayed in bed for 8 weeks, with contractions still coming as often as every 6 minutes. They still didn't hurt- I could only tell they were happening by poking my belly and seeing if it was hard. By week 34, I still hadn't progressed any further, though baby was very low. Week 35, I was dilated to 4 cm and my OB flipped out- she wanted me to go to the hospital right then so she could break my water.
I never did understand how inducing labor would solve the problem of me going into labor early, but.... whatever.
With the help of my sisters (both very wise, and natural-labor-minded) and the help of this board, I fended off the anxious OB for a bit longer.
Meanwhile, sister Lori also had prodomal labor, with painful contractions starting at about 34 weeks. I really didn't want to have my baby before her- she is older, she was due first, she was in more pain from the contractions... but she lasted all the way up to 39 weeks.


(last belly pics taken, I think at around 35 weeks)

Week 36 for me, I was dilated to a 6 and STILL couldn't feel any contractions. We had many false start trips to the hospital (if you're having a contraction every 5 minutes, how do you know when you're REALLY in labor?) but babers held in there.

Sister Lori had her baby, Adelaide, on April 24th. It was a wonderful midwife-assisted natural hospital birth. Her water broke on its own and within 4 hours she had Addie in her arms.

This was one of the big things I had been waiting for- the last big obstacle before I was ready. It was MY turn now. The following day (36w4d) I was at 7.5 and STILL not in "real" labor. I was sick of having no idea what was going on, sick of my clueless and panicky OB, and ready to meet my baby who was "measuring ahead", so we started trying every trick int he book to get baby to come even though I wasn't full term yet. They sent me home from the hospital (because I still wouldn't let them induce labor with chemical means), and to keep ourselves entertained, DH and I went and bought a lego set from toys r us, so that's how I spent my last night before becoming a mother:

The next day (36w5d), we DTD for the first time in over 8 weeks. Not the most glorious experience, but it did the trick. I was bleeding like crazy and contractions started up. The blood even looked like it had something clear in it, like my water might be broken (in retrospect, it may have been semen).
"This is it" we thought. We headed into the hospital, ready to NOT come home empty handed this time. Unfortunately, though I was now dilated past an 8, the contractions fizzled out while we waited at the hospital. The swab to see if my water was broken came back inconclusive (though I wouldn't be surprised if they lied about it, they weren't about to send me home, and I won't pretend I wasn't happy to believe the lie). We were in the hospital to stay this time.

next post: Daniel's birth

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welcome to your lodge. love the pics and background stories! can't wait to read more Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! I have loved all your stories so far...and your pictures (fantastic!). Can't wait to read the next installment! Smile

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Beautiful pictures!!

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Great pictures! You look amazing in your maternity shots!

Can't wait to read the next part.

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YAY, Jenn, even though I talk to you every day anyway, WELCOME TO YOUR LODGE! hehe

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Woohoo! 35 weeks today- only one week to go til I'm ok for a homebirth! And I really think I'll make it without much difficulty. Things are so much calmer this time.

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Yay! Welcome to your lodge!

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That is great Jenn. I hope you can make it another week at least!

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Yay to 35 weeks! I know you can make it 1 more fot your HB.
Love the mat. pics, so pretty! Also love all the pics of you and your DH and the story about how you met and got engaged. So sweet. TFS!

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"jooniper" wrote:

Rx for Terbutaline which the doc aptly described as "will make you feel like a crackfiend looking for your next hit"

That cracked me up! Because that is exactly how it made me feel when I was on it.

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Yay Jenn! Welcome to your lodge! Love the photos with your story. The part about the legos made me laugh! I was thinking it was either legos or the entire tolkien series in one night! LOL

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Ummm, so the weirdest thing just happened. This may be TMI, but, that's kind of the nature of this board, right?
DH and I took Daniel to the mall to buy some shoes, we walked around a bit. I'm not feeling particularly contractiony and nothing down there seems to have changed. I'm feeling good, like I'm gonna be around for a while.
Anyways, afterwords we go out to dinner, and I go to use the restroom... and there's a spot of blood in my undies, about a centimeter squared. Not even bloody discharge, but full on blood. The weird part is that it's very far forward- not where you'd expect vaginal blood to be, maybe two inches further forward than that. My vaginal discharge is as unbloody (and copious) as ever, and I still don't seem any further dilated or anything.

Took a mirror down there when we got home, can't see anything that seems off.

Called the midwife, she is as surprised as I am. She says to keep an eye on it, let her know if there's any more, but for now it doesn't sound like something to worry about. Just very very strange.

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Your mat pictures turned out beautifully! I love reading your stories and cracked up at the Terb. comment Smile Can't wait to read Daniel's birth story.

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GL! I hope the blood doesn't mean anything.

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That is strange. I hope it isn't anything serious. hmm. weird.

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That's odd. Keep us posted if anything exciting starts up!

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Well, nothing further with the blood. I'm pretty sure I had some external owy or something I just didn't know about.

Had a midwife appt yesterday and got my birth tub! She doesn't do internals unless I ask, but my own observations still put me at about 3 still. Heartrate was 128, which seemed a bit low, but nothing to worry about. I'm 176 pounds, putting me at exactly what I weighed when Daniel was born.

We scheduled the home visit for next Saturday, woohoo!
I actually don't really love my midwife. Oh, she seems very competent and is nice enough, I just don't feel a real connection (she was also the cheapest in the area). Whereas I adore her apprentice, we get along really well.

I've had a few contractions that were bad enough to make me whimper a bit, but nothing consistent. I'm betting I've got a long while yet (which is as it should be).

My last day of work is Friday, woohoo (though I can easily see myself working through next week anyways, there's definitely enough to do). This last week was very slow but it looks like this next week will be very busy- which is good, we need the money, and I need something to keep me busy and distracted. The anticipation at this point is killer!:)

No real pregnancy complaints other than having to pee every 4 minutes.

kvo
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I'm sure you've discussed this before, but I haven't been keeping up with my reading as much lately.....are you going back to work after having LO?

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"kvo" wrote:

I'm sure you've discussed this before, but I haven't been keeping up with my reading as much lately.....are you going back to work after having LO?

Alas, yes, I am. The plan is to keep working until I just can't stand it anymore. I'm an independent contractor so I have a lot of freedom about when and how much to work (but I also suck at saying "no"). I'll be back at work by the beginning of february.

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Welcome to your lodge!

Did I miss the post about Daniel's birth?

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"SandiCarr" wrote:

Welcome to your lodge!

Did I miss the post about Daniel's birth?

Nope, haven't gotten to it yet. I have a free moment, so maybe I should just do that now:

So we headed into the hospital about 7 am on a Saturday morning. As previously mentioned, we had had sex which started some bleeding and gave me the first "real" contractions of the pregnancy.When we arrived I was dilated to an 8, and I don't think any of us expected me to go back home. They tried to test if my water was broken but with all the blood they said they couldn't get a good reading. That may or may not have been true- but I think they would have said anything to keep me there at that point.
Sadly, as we sat there waiting for the party to get started, contractions died back down. Around noon, I agreed to let them more fully break my water to hopefully get things going again. I so wish I hadn't- I'll never known how it may have been if I let my body progress on it's own- but I was so eager to be in labor.

By 2 pm, contractions were back in full swing. I remember clearly, eating popsicles (the only thing they let you eat), bouncing on a birthing ball, singing along with Newsies. I felt like an 8 year old:).

I had a GREAT nurse. While she herself was all for medical interventions and such, she fought hard for me to get the natural experience I wanted. My doctor had wanted me on an IV and monitors the whole time which would have kept me in bed on my back, but I wanted to be able to move around and do whatever helped me get through the pain. Apparently the nurse told my Doctor (who is obviously fairly new to the job) that "such-and-such a doctor let's their natural patients do this all the time" and convinced her it wouldn't be the end of the world if I didn't have an IV and they only monitored the baby intermittently.
We asked them how many women went natural and they said "um, just you:)" We heard some screams of bloody murder from the room next door and I'll admit, I was surprised to learn that that woman had had an epidural and was still screaming like that. Yikes.

Around 5 the contractions got to be really strong and I'd grab and squeeze/rub Kenny's hand as hard as I could. He was great. The baby was turned to the side a bit so we tried various positions and stuff to make him turn- all of which seemed to make the contractions more intense. I wish I had tried a bit more for the different positions, but they were so intense I gave up really quickly and went back to my reclined position. I'm betting the intensity was Daniel trying to get turned the right way. I had back labor, so even when I wasn't contracting, I felt intense pressure. This wasn't what I expected. After my sister L's story of "getting to regroup and relax between contractions", I had a definite set of expectations. It was just so relentless.
Still, the pain was never out of control. I never once thought I wanted drugs. I do remember asking Kenny at one point "can we be done with this now?" I never yelled or screamed, but I do remember some unearthly growls I couldn't reproduce if I tried. I remember complimenting the nurses on what a good job they were doing, which got a good chuckle out of everyone- not what you expect from a laboring mother.

I was propped up a bit lying on my back for pretty much all of it. Moving brought on much more intense contractions.

At 6 I was dilated to a 10 and was told I could start pushing. I don't remember feeling pushy, though. I just remember wanting to be done, so I pushed. Doc would count to ten and I purple pushed. This is my major regret- first, not waiting til I felt pushy, and second, letting the Doc lead my pushing. Especially as a FTM, I exhausted myself pushing unnecessarily. 6 hours is hardly a long labor, so I don't know what the hurry was.

It took two nurses and the doctor- the nurses held my legs up for me which really helped. To the point I freaked out any time a contraction came and they weren't both right there.
Pushing was REALLY intense. I didn't expect it to last so long. Daniel's head was stuck against my pelvic bone, to the point he had a friction owy on his head when he came out.
It was frustrating because I couldn't really tell what progress was being made. They set up a mirror so I could see, but it wasn't like I pictured- I couldn't see too much because for most of it, it's still all pretty internal. I could just see myself get more frightfully torn up and messy down there... in the future I think I'll opt for no mirror:)

Towards the end the doctor said "we're going to go ahead and make this opening a little bigger for the baby" and I said "um, what?" I told the doctor I'd rather not have an episiotomy, so she backed off. Of course, had I had a doctor or midwife who knew what she was doing, we might have slowed down and let me stretch out a bit more.
But no, instead my doctor gave me a local anesthetic shot down there right at the end so the pain wouldn't stop me from pushing. This is my biggest regret. If I had been more patient, if I didn't think I was going to have my sisters' birth, I might have done things differently. As it is I ended up with an awful 3rd degree tear. Healing from that tear was worse than labor itself. I'm not exactly petite and the baby wasn't huge... there is no reason I should have torn so badly except for sheer impatience and an OB who didn't know any method to help a mother than numb her up and/or cut her wide open.

My husband was amazing. He doesn't handle medical things well- passes out pretty easily- so his job was to merely stay conscious through the whole thing. He helped with holding my hand and giving me ice chips, but he generally stayed in the corner trying not to look towards the lower half of me.

Finally, after 2 hours of pushing and 6 hours of real contractions, Daniel came. They immediately put him on my chest- I will say that for my hospital, they were WONDERFUL about keeping the baby with me and encouraging skin-to-skin contact and immediate breastfeeding. I don't even remember the after birth, or the stitches- she lost count of how many (though Kenny did have to leave the room a bit for some fresh air at that point). Daniel was 7 pounds and 11 ounces- not bad for a baby who was technically premature by two days.
I'll admit, the very first thing I thought when he was out was "thank heavens I'm not pregnant anymore!". But he was beautiful. My husband teared up a bit, but I was all smiles. The quickness of the transformation from pain and exhaustion to joy, peace and love is amazing!

He had this crazy sideways conehead from being pushed out sideways. His head had a nasty scratch from dragging against my pelvic bones. But he nursed like a champ and got a 9 on his APGAR (would have been ten but we snuggled a bit too much and he wasn't trying to breathe through my boob, turning him slightly purple).

Because I didn't have an epidural, I was immediately able to get up and move. I could shower, use the restroom. Neither Daniel nor I were groggy.

We stayed in the hospital for 2 days. D spent probably 80% of his time with us and 20% in the nursery. I'll admit to being glad of some baby-free sleeping time. I'd never known such a pure exhaustion. I shook violently for 12 hours or so after the birth.
K was a great daddy from the beginning. Completely out of his element, but so full of love:

D had some bad jaundice- another reason I wish I had been more patient and let him bake a bit longer- and we had to keep him on a biliruben tanning bed at home for the first week, so I couldn't hold him except to nurse:(.

He was a a super mellow baby- really, a FTM's dream. I worry that I lucked out with the first and maybe this one won't be so easy:)

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Awww, he's adorable! Yee-ouch on the tear.

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Thanks for sharing and ouchy on that tear.

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Thanks for sharing. Your FTM story sounds familiar, wanting to go natural bu not having the confidence to stand up against the minial interventions the hospital is so ready to "provide." Go you for declining the episiotomy though! I'm sure the tear was rough, but this time will be better. Whenever I talk to my MW about my tear the first time she says, "Pfffffft." and rolls her eyes at OBs not taking the time to guide the head out at the end.

So do you have your birth kit all set for your home visit next week?

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"Melissa1223" wrote:

Thanks for sharing. Your FTM story sounds familiar, wanting to go natural bu not having the confidence to stand up against the minial interventions the hospital is so ready to "provide." Go you for declining the episiotomy though! I'm sure the tear was rough, but this time will be better. Whenever I talk to my MW about my tear the first time she says, "Pfffffft." and rolls her eyes at OBs not taking the time to guide the head out at the end.

So do you have your birth kit all set for your home visit next week?

Yeah, I really feel that the tear was from a bunch of things, all that wouldn't have happened if I had a midwife who knew what to do. Still, a 6 hour labor where the only bad was a tear... can't complain too much.

I have most of the birth kit together. Midwife provides most of the stuff (http://myhealthfreedom.com/index.php?id=178), I still need to get some olive/almond oil (anyone know if coconut oil is alright for that purpose? olive oil would make me feel like a turkey being basted), and a shower curtain or something like that to squat on.
I have the tub but the pumps and hoses for it are with another patient who will hopefully deliver before me (she actually has two sets, both are loaned out right now). I'm buying the liner from her next time I see her.

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