You will get to a point where you are in control again. As far as what to do now, I think you'll just have to see how you feel when the little one comes. I'd for sure ask him to bring home something for you all to eat each night for a while. I know it's a big help for me (even if it's just mental) when I don't have to worry about cooking or dishes for a while. If people are going to be bringing you stuff buy some paper plates! It's great that your mom is going to be around she should be an exellent help during this transition. Don't make yourself think you can't do it, I always enjoy the adjustment time and seeing just how capable I really am Don't push your self either, do what people say and sleep when she sleeps when ever you can. You'll be more productive and happier when your getting some sleep (you'll feel better then you do now)! I hope you have a good day, and get some more rest. 2 days baby that's all Mama can take!!
I did my daily 1 hour walk in the pool, and came home and got 2 1/2 hrs of sleep! A miracle!
I had a hard time walking up the flight of stairs from the pool afterward and have not been able to lift my legs more than about 8 inches without help since yesterday. Thank heavens we live in a one story place. My doula says that's the ligaments getting ready. I have the feeling she will be born on the 3rd.....
Anyhow, I have been spending too much of my sleep deprived time worrying about the fallout of shifted family obligations. The illnesses throughout this pg left a gaping hole for DH to step up and take care of things. For 8 months, things pretty much went to hell, including a spell where my insurance lapsed, I begged him for help (was throwing up every 5 minutes for weeks and should have gone to the hospital) and he didn't. A month ago I threatened to leave. Then he got a new job, which was critical. Everyday needs of our home and family, however, have been a huge struggle. I am distressed to consider how things will go when the baby comes.
It's always something with me, eh? But I have to think it can't be abnormal to worry about division of responsibilities between partners when a baby comes along. I know I won't be as incapacitated, but I also know I do all our finances, I have constantly had to prompt DH about his part of what the boys and I need, social obligations, appointments, all of it...and it often doesn't get done. Before I was sick I usually did the shopping and most of the cleaning...my mom does it now while she is here. She leaves Nov 1.
Also, I will need to spend some time developing my position as a WAHM. I have a promising prospect in that area.
I know single moms manage and DH works 10hr days. I have no intention of being a single parent, I just want to know what's reasonable in dividing tasks among partners. Any advice/perspective would be appreciated.
I'm sorry you are struggling with all of this. I do the majority of the household things as well "time planning, finances, keeping up with what needs to be done like cleaning, trash, replacing light bulbs, etc. Its so frustrating to feel like all that weight is on your shoulders and especially when you are pg and too tired or sick to take care of everything. I hope you guys find a balance soon.
I hate that you had that scare but I'm glad you got to hear your LO for so long at L&D. I had to go to L&D a few weeks ago and although it was scary it was so nice to hear my little guy for 3 and a half hours.
Oh goodness! I am sorry to hear about your scare but am so glad that the birthing centre were able to put you at ease and reassure you. The calm environment sounds amazing. I hope your baby stops being such a pickle and decided to come and meet the world and soon.