~*lotuspixie's Birthing Lodge!!*~

lotuspixie · 04-24-2008, 10:55 PM

Ok it's intro time...

My name is Maria, I'm 36 and the "baby" of my family. I have 3 brothers who are now in their mid 50's, my Dad is 80 and my Mum is 75. I grew up in a small city called Toowoomba in Australia, it's in Queensland and about 90min/2 hrs drive from Brisbane and the Gold and Sunshine Coasts. I moved to the Sunshine Coast in my 20's to spread my wings and had a lot of fun. I've been back in Toowoomba for 12 months now but don't plan to stay here forever.

I've worked mostly in retail selling products such as clothing, footwear, homewares and mobile phones. I've been sewing since I was 10 years old and have also worked as an assistant for a fashion designer. I still do some dressmaking for people I know and can't wait to make some cute things for my baby! For the last few months I've been in my first office job and loving it. I'm a coverage advocate for a telco. They're closing an outdated network and have opened a new, improved one. My role is to assist customers with their migration by providing an information service. It's made such a nice change from what I've done before and I don't ever want to go back to retail! I'm finishing work on Tuesday, however have the opportunity to work from home for the same company later in the year - which would be great.

As for my lovelife.... I'm one of those poor girls who had kiss a few frogs before she met her prince! I had some really nice boyfriends over the years, but I just couldn't seem to meet anyone I really wanted to settle down with. I liked to think of myself as a "free spirit". For the last 9 years I've been "mum" to a beautiful black cat named Jasper. She has been a wonderful companion over the years and I don't know what I would have done without her unconditional love. I've always been crazy about cats and when I was a little girl I thought it would be cool to be the "crazy cat lady" when I grew up and have at least 10 of them! By the time I was in my early 30's and the right man hadn't turned up - I was seriously thinking being the cat lady might be a good option. Then along came a guy I thought might be "the one". He asked me to marry him and I accepted, however it became obvious with time that he really wasn't the one. He was lovely and charming for a while until he started to care more about beer, tv and fishing than he cared about me. Any woman with self respect would walk away from that. I wasn't sure I wanted children at all until my biological clock began to tick in my early 30's. I knew this guy was not going to be a good father to my children. I'd been unhappy with most aspects of my life for a while, so I called off the wedding, quit my job, packed up and moved back to my hometown. My Dad turned 80 about then and needed me (my parents are divorced). My best friends back home were having babies and I really wanted to be close to the people who do love me.

So there I was... single, 30-something, living back at home and hanging out with my married friends. I'm a firm believer that if you don't get out of your comfort zone you won't grow... so I decided to give online dating a try. It was a bit scary at first and I did encounter a couple of creepy desperadoes, but after only 2 weeks a really sweet and non-sleazy guy started chatting with me. His name was Matt, he lived in Brisbane and was just charming enough without coming on too strong. We started IMing and moved on to chatting on the phone for hours. He had the sexiest voice I'd ever heard, was very good-looking, had a great personality, was smart and was very interested in me. That seemed a bit too good to be true so I tried very hard not to get my hopes up. It felt like we were beginning to form a very strong connection, but I was afraid of getting hurt as anyone would be. After a couple of weeks of chatting he made the trip to meet me in person. I had never been so nervous/excited/beside myself in my life!!! We had arranged a meeting spot and when I saw him step out of that car and we first laid eyes on each other it seemed as though time stood still. The next thing I knew we were in each other's arms and we've stayed that way as much as possible ever since. I can't help but think of the corny old saying "when you meet the one you just know". I used to think that was a load of rubbish but now I know what people mean when they say that. Matt is the man who has made me feel the most like the real me. He makes me feel special all of the time, not just now and again. I've always dreamed of finding a man who was funny, exciting, loving and affectionate and it took me a while to accept it had actually happened!

It's been quite a whirlwind romance and we were starting to talk about marriage when we got a little surprise - I fell pregnant. We already knew we wanted to have a family together so of course were overjoyed. We weren't actually trying to conceive, but weren't "not trying" IYKWIM? I truly believed at my age it would have been a lot more difficult - so was a bit shocked at first. Matt soon moved in with me at my Dad's so we could save to get our own place before bub would be due to arrive. It appears that we're having a little girl! Matt found a great job as a business development manager for an events company and we became engaged on February 15 this year - the day after Valentine's Day.

Soon after we found the perfect house and settled in. Matt has an 8 year old son called Jayden who is just adorable. He comes to stay often and we are having lots of fun getting to know each other. Jayden's very excited about his little sister on the way and loves to feel her kicking through my belly. We gave him a copy of her 18 week u/s pic and he has it on his bedroom wall at his Mum's place. I pointed out to Matt that a "birds and bees" talk might be neccessary soon if Jayden had any questions. Well I was the one who got the question: "but how is the baby going to get out?"

All I could think of to say at the time was "maybe you should ask your Dad - he was there when you were born - he knows all about it"!

So here we are excitedly awaiting the arrival of our little bundle of joy. I'd begun to accept that motherhood might never happen for me, so I'm totally thrilled that I'm not going to miss out after all!

**kelz_07** · 04-25-2008, 01:14 AM

from The aussie board!!

Hey maria!

Thanks for the link to this page!! wow! how amazing your story is. I will be sure to keep checking back on this one. til you bought up the whole "lodge" thing, i never had any idea what it was.. your whole story sounds like a fairytale. Like cinderella hehe!!
awws u and matt look so gorgeous together up there ..
I wish you all the best

And welcome to your LODGE!!!