~*~* Janae's (mommy.nae) Birth Lodge ~*~*

**connorsmum** · 10-09-2008, 05:56 PM

I can totally see you with 6 kids Janae! I think it's great when women have big families, even if it isn't for me (does having Jamie count, he's like 3 kids rolled into 1, lol!)

**Mommas159** · 10-09-2008, 06:53 PM

What great birth stories! I can't wait to read your upcoming story!

**MrsMangoBabe** · 10-09-2008, 09:01 PM

I loved reading your birth stories. I hope you're able to find a good dr. in your new location, but I agree that it probably won't matter since you've done so well with previous natural births. Moving during a pregnancy would be stressful. Good luck getting everything ready for your new little one!

**ourfirstblessing** · 10-09-2008, 10:18 PM

Originally Posted by mommy.nae

Actually, we would like to have one more (DH says possibly two). We both came from large families (6 kids in both families) and really enjoy being part of a big family. From the time we first got married we said that we wanted 6 kids. Life can be kind of crazy at times but honestly I wouldn't trade it for anything!

that's awesome!

**MeesterMama** · 10-10-2008, 12:10 AM

Originally Posted by mommy.nae

Actually, we would like to have one more (DH says possibly two). We both came from large families (6 kids in both families) and really enjoy being part of a big family. From the time we first got married we said that we wanted 6 kids. Life can be kind of crazy at times but honestly I wouldn't trade it for anything!

Great intro I loved reading it and can you please talk to my DH!?!?? I have always wanted a BIG family and he says NO MORE THAN 4. I would love 5 or 6, but I suppose we will see how things go when we get there!

I am thinking if we have a bigger gap between 3 and 4, I might get 5 out of the deal so number 4 isn't all by him/herself. Plus we would really like a bigger house before having a 4th.

PS Your boys are darling, I love that you have ALL boys!!! I have all sisters (4 of us) and its so much fun to have an all same gender family.
I hope your doctor works with you nicely!

**mommy.nae** · 10-10-2008, 02:38 PM

Ugh....I just went to my 36 week appt. It was my first appt with the DR here. I left feeling very frustrated. This DR is very conservative and I got the vibe that he isn't very NCB-minded. He said that they do IVs, but that I "might" be able to get away with a saline-lock. He also said that they manage the 3rd stage (delivering placenta) with pit. I asked if I could deny this and he was taken aback by my question. It is like he hasn't had any NCB mamas in there.

I called Dh and expressed my frustration and he told me to call the next town over (45 minutes away) and see if there is a MW there. What would you ladies do?

**connorsmum** · 10-10-2008, 04:05 PM

Hmmm, Your labours seem to be long enough to make the drive to the next town over. I would probably ring around to see who there is and what is offered and then make a decision. I can't say I have ever heard of the 3rd stage being managed by pit. We get some kind of injection in the thigh here (if not going for a physiological 3rd stage), but for the life of me, I can't remember what it is.

**MrsMangoBabe** · 10-10-2008, 04:18 PM

When I had my childbirth class at the local teaching hosptial, before I decided to switch to a group of midwives and a smaller more ncb-friendly hospital, the nurse who taught the class said that they give everybody pitocin during the 3rd stage so that they won't hemorrhage. I asked it you can refuse it and she seemed surprised by the question, like "why would you want to risk hemorrhaging?"

ANYWAY, I think 45 min away is not too bad if you can find a good midwife the next town over.

**ourfirstblessing** · 10-10-2008, 05:42 PM

i think 45 min would be very managable. Why would they give everyone pit. not everyone needs it, seems kinda weird. A phone call wouldn't hurt just to see what they have!

**MrsMangoBabe** · 10-10-2008, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by ourfirstblessing

Why would they give everyone pit. not everyone needs it, seems kinda weird.

They would rather prevent than treat--a word I learned recently is prophylactic (used for prevention) so this type of management of the 3rd stage uses pitocin prophylactically. They see hemorrhage as more common than it really is--one reason is that women used to hemorrhage a lot back when they didn't breastfeed immediately because they thought colostrum was gross or because hospital staff would take the baby away, another reason is that epidural anesthesia makes hemorrhage more common because it messes with your oxytocin levels, and when they have really high epidural rates, that's mostly what they see, so some hospitals have just made things easier for themselves by giving it to everyone, whether they need it or not.