I have been lucky enough to have some great *mentors* as far as the childbirth process goes.
1) my mom...a L&D nurse from before I was born to when I moved away for college. now, I know that alot of people feel discomfort with the medical arena...but I think that growing up around those people, and even L&D I might add....I grew up with a comfort with drs nurses, and hospitals.
Maybe its because we were in Hawaii....and the hospital my mom worked at does not offer epis...but my mom has a very laid back - straigh forward approach to the matter: its what your body is supposed to be doing, quite your whining and get over it...you wanted a baby, well, how did you think it was going to get here???
And don't be stupid and get induced just because your bored and anxious, let your baby cook for however long it needs to cook. When Dday arrives...you cant just sit there and cry, get up and get moving.
Seriously...my mom is not so cuddly when it comes to these things.
So, all throughout my pregnancy, my mom would tell me to quite complaining and surrender yourself...its what you wanted.
2) Pregnancy.org - seriously...on my March 07 board I have had the pleasure of being motivated and encouraged by some great ladies, whom you might recognize....
Audra - Boilermaker
Karly - KarlysKbug
Tarly - SaucyVidel
I was able to "listen" to audras view on CB and it really makes alot of sense...KNOWLEDGE....I wouldnt buy a car with out doing my research, why would I bring a baby into the world from my OWN BODY and not go in informed?
Karly and Taryl - they were so nice to get pregnant before me so I could stalk their lodges and be inspired. Taryl had such a courageous V-bac....Karly, who had an almost identical 1st labor as me (I think we are pelvic twins ;)) had a beautiful home birth to a big healthy boy.
Anyways...so I have had some great mentors, and after my morning sickness passed....I decided to jump in with both feet. I came here to suck up as much knowledge I can so that when d-day is here....I can make my own decisions on my labor experience and have no regrets.
My plan, is to have a NCB in a hospital. I personally define NCB as allowing your body to do what it wants to do, and its gonna freakin hurt, but its part of the process....I want to avoid any unneeded interventions (Pit, AROM, Pain meds, obviously episiotomy (which my hospital does not do))
I want to let gravity to the work, I plan to walk, change positions, dance, sit in the shower (no tubs :() I have a whole bag of tricks up my sleeve.
I know there will be times I will be over the pain...I will doubt myself and my body. Its natural. But I need to let go of the fear because I know my body can do it.
Anyways....I think I have talked your head off! I am sure my lodge will get pretty boring until I get closer, but thank you for letting me share it with you...I hope that I can inspire someone the way that I have been inspired. :D
Great intro Kristin! We are so much alike!
That's exactly how I feel!!! Thanks for putting it into words!Quote:
most of the time I felt out of control of my body. Something that scared me alot. I think the fear of feeling out of control was worse than the pain. KWIM?
This time I am hoping that I wont be in so much fear of what my body is doing, that I will know that it is doing what it is supposed to and I need to surrender myself.
Awww, my pelvic twin! I am honored! My mom is a RN too and has a similar attitude about birth. She was at both my births and anytime I would freak out and say I didn't think I could do it, she would just tell me I can do it and basically to suck it up, LOL. I think our moms would get along. ;)
Do you feel like Audrey is bigger than Brynn or about the same? Hopefully your LO will come right around 38 weeks for you again. I think Lucas took a little longer than Kailey (who came at 37w5d) because he was bigger and I am 5'3"...he needed a little more time to get positioned. I think I read that Aubrey is nice and low for you? Both my kids were very low as well (could feel their heads internally, TMI!) and maybe that makes for the fast labors?
Anyway, I am wishing you another fast labor. I know you felt out of control the first time (me too), but the second time really is better in that respect. It still is a crazy and furious, but you *know* you can do it and that makes a lot of difference. And it's amazing how much easier the second baby is, delivery and recovery-wise...taking care of two is a whole different story!
Loved your introduction, Kristen! Your wedding photo is just beautiful!:D
My NP said she is floating....but said she could feel her head down during the internal. Can you feel the head internally if they have NOt dropped???? :dontknow:
but I have felt her internaly a number of times if ya know what I mean;) So I think she is just bouncing around from inside the pelis and then pops back out. I hope she just gets on in there and stays in there soon....
I am trying to "learn" from your experience that an early arrival the first time does not promise you an early arrive the 2nd time. But I cant help but feel like she will come a little early...especially since everyone around me is telling me there is no way I will make it:rolleyes:
Heres hoping I have a safe, healthy, speedy, and slightly early arrival this time.
Well, I won't lie. I am hoping your little one comes a little early for you...those days past your EDD are hard! Especially after going early the first time and everyone expecting you to do the same the next time. Lots of labor thoughts for you.
I don't really know about being engaged, but both my kids were very far into my pelvis for several weeks. Lucas was +1 and could still move his head around and put his hands up by his face. I could poke them in the head, internally with my finger. ;)
I can't wait to read your birth story. I loved your intro!
I am so glad that you have a lodge, it is so nice getting to know you better and to follow your birth journey.
ack!!! I've been so wrapped up in my own lodge that I didn't even notice this until now!!!! WOW I can't believe you have your lodge already, I am so excited for you! I hope your baby comes out healthy and easily and doesn't make mommy miserable the last few weeks!