Yayyyy welcome to your lodge!!
Yayyyy welcome to your lodge!!
Welcome Sarah! I'm looking forward to following your journey. I read Ivy's birth story and I really loved it. I hope your birth goes smoothly this time and that DSS is able to attend more fully this time.
Welcome to your lodge!!
Lodge #1 is #40 page 4
Lodge #2 is #76 page 8
Lodge #3...right here!
DSIL and DGS have a bet going on: DGS says it is a boy, DSIL says a girl. $5 is at stake!
Not so very brief backgrounder:
DH (Wayne) and I met in October 2005, after I finally took a job that a friend of mine had been trying to get me to apply for for over a year. At the time, DH had just moved out of his ex-wife’s house, (he’d been living in the basement suite for about a year), and was working through a divorce. I was in a cruddy relationship for years. Neither of us, however, were looking for anything relationship-wise.
That first day at work (my first working for a government agency), a happy guy named Wayne who I had never seen before appeared in my office door at lunch time and basically hauled me over to the lunch room. It turned out that there was a daily lunchtime euchre game, and today they were needing a fourth player. I’d never played before, but was happily surprised to find out that this new place of employment was a close-knit group, and supported actually taking a lunch break instead of working through it (as I was used to from being a graduate student and working in consulting). From that day on, I played cards at lunch. It was a great break, and Wayne and I just completely clicked.
I had moved out to Edmonton two years previously, and didn’t have very many friends. DH started hanging out after work and talk about various things that interested us. I helped him work through various things he was dealing with with his ex. We talked about everything under the sun. I always biked to work, but it turned into a tradition that he would give me a ride home with my bike, because we were usually in the middle of a conversation, and he had to pick up his son at daycare after school.
On our last day of work before Christmas, my friend who had got me the job, Wayne and I had planned to go out and do some field work. I was all set to spend the last day of work outside instead of in a room with no windows. My friend cancelled at the last minute. Neither Wayne nor I were in no frame of mind to spend the day inside. Wayne decided that he was going to go install a garage door at his mom’s house (her Christmas present). He’d already ordered it, and as it turns out, another co-worker of ours used to work installing garage doors. We decided that we’d all skip work that day and install the garage door instead. I was just thrilled to be able to help out some friends, and have always enjoyed working on projects. We had a great day, and his mom got a brand new garage door, with remote!
My BF at the time was only around for ½ the year (he was doing research in the Yukon all summer), and expected me to stay home and work. He was jealous of my BFF, because I could talk to her about things I couldn’t talk to him about (I found this out later). He was most offended and angry when I found some friends who he had not met and didn’t “approve” of (we talked about things like feelings and philosophized about the meaning of life, Truth). He didn’t like that I had a government job, because that wasn’t “real science”. I was supposed to be a BIOLOGIST.
When I got home that night, I was all excited about my day, and having friends to hang out with. My BF and I went over to our friend’s house for dinner (the one who got me the job), and I was chatting about how nice it was to be able to hang out with different people, and funny thing that happened while we were putting the door together (the old door landed on my head at one point), and how they had a different model that the store sold to people to install themselves, as opposed to the ones that they installed…
My BF was getting more and more angry. I couldn’t figure out why – until he exploded “Wayne, Wayne, Wayne… all you ever talk about is Wayne… If you like him so much, why don’t you go be with him?”
I was stunned. It hadn’t occurred to me. Wayne was a great friend that I could talk to about anything, but be with him??? Seriously?
And then the gears started turning…
Over the next couple months, I realized what a rotten relationship I had got into, and despite trying to work things out for a little while, I realized that my BF was right. I didn’t want to be in a relationship with him, and Wayne and I were much better matched to each other.
At the same time, Wayne was going through similar thoughts. He had been holding out hopes with his ex, hoping that they could work through and resolve various things, but decided that he was actually much happier and better off without her.
Wayne and I spent several months helping each other work through our various relationship issues – not stepping over the bounds of good friends, but knowing that if we did, there would likely be no going back. Come the end of March, my BF and I split up for good – he was supposed to move out and go back to the Yukon (that’s another story not worth talking about), and I was going to take care of his dog for the summer. Come mid-April, Wayne finally got the paperwork back from finalizing his divorce. And at the end of April, we got together…
By mid May, we knew that there was no point in denying that we were perfect for each other. We were already joking about “wouldn’t it be funny if we were married before my BF returned from the Yukon”. DH proposed to me on my birthday (June 19), when we went for a walk after the music festival that he works security for. We jumped into a peat bog (naked) to celebrate, and got a couple leeches. It then decided to hail on us – which we decided was nature’s confetti! We decided to get married on Labour Day weekend.
I would include a wedding picture, but I don’t have access to any from here. Maybe Gardenbug can post one?
Here’s a picture of our brief honeymoon (with DSS). We spent 4 days paddling down the river that goes through our city. We started upstream, paddled through town, and then were picked up by friends at a city just downstream.
What a lovely story! Thanks for sharing! I love the "when you know you just know" aspects of how couples met/got together.
Gardenbug! Post pictures! :)
What a beautiful story! I haven't been a member here all that long so I haven't gotten to know you or your journeys but I am very much looking forward to being here for this one!!!
Welcome to your lodge!
The wedding...a perfect warm fall day!
Later, cake before the barn dancing began.
The honeymoon with the little guy. (then age 7)
Oooooo I LOVE the pictures!!! And the story ;) Waiting patiently for more :D
I just got back from a chiropractor appointment. She says that my pelvis is all out of whack making 1 leg about 1.5 inches longer than the other. I was asked 3 times by different people how many kids I had and their ages, and all three times started crying (stupid hormones). (For those who don’t know, DS died at 14months). One lady responded with “I’m sorry. We lost one of our children as well. I don’t wish that anyone would have to go through that.” - which was actually some consolation.
Anyway, it seems I’m a much more balanced person now (hehe…), and that should probably help baby get in a better position as well. I will try for another appointment early next week to try and maintain some of my balance…
I also have a MW appointment on Wednesday at 5pm. I’m guessing that the following one will be a home visit, because our MW wants to make sure that the student MW knows where I live – especially since she went to the wrong house the first time she tried to find it!