Ok, I am going to vent for a minute. And I don't mean for this post to offend anyone who has had or might need an induction. I realize that there are circumstances that necessitate inducing.
Friday night, I was talking to a good friend of mine that I went to nursing school with. She worked as a nurse for about 3 years in L&D at the hospital I will be delivering at. I love her, but she is very opinionated.
Anyway, she asked me if I was being induced soon. I said, "Um, no, I am hoping to avoid an induction if at all possible.". Her answer?
"Well, it's nice to have it planned."
I had forgotten that she had scheduled inductions at 38 weeks with her two youngest girls. I said that I would like for baby to come when she is ready. She says, "Are you AFRAID of an induction?"
Afraid? Afraid of telling my body when to do something that it should naturally know when to do? Afraid of contractions that are more intense and harder on the baby than natural labor would be? Afraid of doubling my chance of a C/S?
I just said no, that I thought it would just be best not to unless I needed it, and that I was going to do my best to give birth without pain meds.
Well, that opened another can of worms. Why would I want to hurt when it's unnecessary? Epidurals actually aid in delivery. Most women don't know how to deal with the pain...and so on.
I just told her I had researched it and felt it was better, if possible, to go without medications. Although she never said it, she basically said that I would be silly to go through all that pain for no benefit. So I told her the things I had found out in my research about epidurals. She acted like she had never heard it before
I informed her that even the Anesthesia Society admits that epidurals can sometimes slow labor and that they inhibit the urge to push. She said it was careless of them to publish something like that- why didn't they look at all the factors affecting those things and how do they know the epidurals cause those things?
Um, my husband is an Anesthesiologist. We've look at the research together. These things are very well documented.
Anyway, needless to say, I tried to steer the subject away from my method of giving birth. The thing that scares me is that it is possible that most of the nurses where I am delivering are as clueless as she is about the risks associated with inductions, epidurals, etc.
It doesn't sway my opinion on the subject, but it just one more reason that I will need to be fully prepared to take a stand on these issues. With DS, I had a great nurse who was very willing to do whatever I wanted. She never even offered an epidural or pain meds. I am going to request her again and hope that she is working that day/night!
Thanks for letting me vent. It just really made me sad and a little disappointed that an RN who spent so much time in L&D was so uneducated.
Sorry your friend was like that. I think most people who work around birth are pretty strongly opinionated one way or the other. I would get frustrated talking to someone who sees birth all the time and didn't see it the same way I do, also. I hope the nurse you had last time is working again when you go into labor this time, and if not, I hope you can get another great one. I think I remember you saying you were considering hiring a doula...what did you end up deciding about that?
We've decided against hiring a doula for a few reasons. I am hoping we made the right decision.
I think since DH works with the nurses on a regular basis, they will be respectful of our decisions about we decide to give birth. My hormones just make me worry about things more than I normally would.
So I'm really curious how your hubby likes his job? Does he come home everyday telling you about "this lady"? I think it would be hard for my DH to work in that kind of situation.
Your friend sure sounds uneduacted my word!! I seriously wonder some times.
DH really likes his job most days. As you can imagine, it is very stressful. He works at a fairly large hospital, does a lot of epidurals and c-sections, and a lot of trauma. He normally doesn't give me a lot of details, but because we work at the same hospital (I only work one day a week in the OR), we do share experiences at times. It is nice that we share common ground in our jobs. When he vents about a stressful case or a really bad day, I can understand and vice versa.
How are you today hun? Hope it's not too hot there for you these days!
The weather has been rather mild for us lately. In the 80s today, tomorrow and Friday. It should be nice.
I had an OB appt today. Pretty uneventful. BP is still good, baby's HR was strong, I had gained a pound. She checked me again and I am 50% effaced, still 1-2 cm dilated, and very soft. So the almost the same as last week. Her guess is that I have 1-2 weeks left, but I realize it's just a guess. I wouldn't mind going a little early, but don't know how likely it is.
On another note, my feet are now so swollen I can only wear flip-flops. I will be glad to wear normal shoes again. They are so funny looking, I can't help but laugh when I look at them. Even in the mornings, the top of them is so swollen they look deformed. So far my OB hasn't given me a hard time about it. When I was pregnant with DS, for some reason it was a huge deal to my OBs nurse that my feet were swollen. She would give me a long speech about how it wasn't normal, blah, blah. Well, I swell badly in the summer when I am not pregnant. Now add on 20 lbs of weight and the extra fluid volume and my feet turn into water balloons.
Yucky, I'm so sorry you have to have swelling hun that's not fun. I hope the cooler weather helps it calm down. My midwifes put people on an all turkey and plain salad diet to help with excess water, they claim it really helps....I've never had swelling so I didn't try it
I'm glad your appointment went well. I think the swelling is nothing to worry about, since you don't have any other pre-e symptoms. I've heard taking a soak in a tub can help, and staying hydrated, of course.
The turkey and plain salad diet sounds like it would probably help. I am not as bad this time as I was with DS. Drinking water, staying cool, not standing in one place or sitting down too long are the best ways I have found to keep the swelling down.
Last night we walked for about a mile and a half and it was cool out. By the time we got home, my feet looked better and this morning they look almost normal. I guess the cool air and moving really helped. However, surprising enough, after all that walking, I only had one or two BHs. Normally walking that much will get the BHs going, but not last night. So weird.