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    Connie - thanks for bumping! I've been such a slacker! While I was working, those 12 hour nights on my feet sucked all my energy, so all I did was sleep when I was off, and then I quit work a week ago Saturday, and promptly came down with a head cold/sinus infection that has had me feeling like crap for over a week. I'm starting to feel human again, and I'm finally getting around to loading and editing belly pics onto photobucket so I can post them, so I have a few minutes while they load.

    Who we are -
    - me (Carolyn), 30 yrs, NICU nurse, Libertarian adult-convert Catholic (kind of strange, I know), generally laid back, go with the flow type of gal
    - DH (Charlie), 37 yrs, jack of all trades/musician, slightly more conservative cradle Catholic, slightly more high strung than me but still laid back

    How we met -
    - set up (unknowingly) by two mutual friends (who were dating at the time) at a pool hall. I yelled at him the first time I met him because I was in a bad mood and didn't care who he was, and he made me laugh and got me out of my funk.

    Our engagement/wedding -
    - he "told" me we were getting married one night at a Waffle House at four in the morning. He wanted to go to the Justice of the Peace the next day but I told him no way! I wanted to wait six weeks until I turned 21 so we could get married in Las Vegas. And we did. My mother made me a beautiful white dress, we flew out the day after my birthday and got married the next day. At the Graceland Wedding Chapel. It was fantastic. Just the two of us, and his cousin and her boyfriend who lived in Vegas (as our witnesses and tour guides). But we only got to stay three days. When we came back, we had a big barbecue party Texas style at his parents' house. After we were married a few years, he decided he wanted to rejoin the Church which he had abandoned as a young adult. While they recognized our marriage as a legal/civil one, it was not a sacramental marriage so he could not take communion. I agreed to get married in the Church because I didn't have to convert to do it. (I wasn't ready for that yet.) We had to meet with an older married couple (married over 50 years) six times where we discussed relationship issues. We had been married nearly five years at that point, and I learned so much about him, myself, and our relationship. Premarital counseling is one thing I think the Church definitely has right. It was very enlightening. On our fifth anniversary we held a small ceremony in the Church. (It was about a year and a half after that that I decided -on my own- to convert, and DH was my sponsor.) We've been married nine and a half years, and although there are times I think about choking him in his sleep (j/j), I wouldn't trade him or us for anything.

    Getting the baby story (warning: may have some TMI, m/c and IF ment) -
    - we didn't use any form of protection after we got married. It was just a see what happens approach. Obviously nothing did, and we quickly realized the problem - there was no ejaculate. DH has been a Type 1 diabetic since he was 16, and it has taken a toll on his baby-making parts (the internal ones, anyway). The semen he produced (which was less than normal) went into his bladder instead of out the other way. Good if you don't want a baby, not so good if you do. We saw a couple of urologists who both told him the same thing - Sudafed an hour and a half before sex. Okay, great. We tried that a few times and nothing. We kind of tried hit and miss for the first few years and then decided in Oct 2004 to start really going for it. On November 1, my little sister told me she was expecting. While I was happy for her, that was a gut-wrenching moment, the first of many to come. We went for an IVF consult, and she referred us to a new urologist. He asked if we had tried the Sudafed, we said yes, and he ran a bunch of tests (ultrasounds, cystoscopy, hormone levels, etc.). Based on those results, he said he couldn't help us and referred us to a new urologist, the King of MFI. When we went to this urologist and he asked about the Sudafed, he asked HOW we had tried it. We told him and found out we had been told to do it wrong. DH had to take it four times a day for two weeks. That was in April of 2006. We tried that with an unmedicated IUI in May (failed), and again in June (BFP!). I found out that one of my best friends was pg the week before I found out I was, and we were so excited to be pg together. She was due about six weeks before me. At a seven week ultrasound, we saw a heart beat, but it was on the slow side and baby was measuring a week behind. I didn't know enough then to worry. I had a repeat u/s at 9w2d, and the baby hadn't grown and the heart had stopped beating. DH and I were understandably devastated. I had a D/C the next day. Several weeks later, I gave the baby a name (Morgan Kinsley). S/he was due on St Patrick's Day 2007. My friend's baby (and my second goddaughter) was born in February. After that, we were empty and exhausted. DH blamed himself for a long time. Sometimes I think he still does. I m/c'd in August, and the next March, we tried another IUI. Another BFN. I think in total we tried six, but I lost count. We never did more than two in a row because we had to time them around my school and because the pills were hard on DH. Each time, DH's samples were a little worse. Last November, we moved to electroejaculation which is what is used for paraplegics. We got three vials, and a week later we used two of them in an IUI. It was unsuccesful, so I made an appointment with an RE (a different one than the first). We had our first meeting in the middle of January, I started meds on February 1st, had the ER March 13th, ET March 18th, BFP on HPT March 25th, and BFP beta on April 1st. It went so fast after going nowhere for so many years. Part of me still doesn't believe I'm about to have a baby. Since my sister told me about her first pg way back in 2004, my friends and family have had 13 babies, the most recent being my best friend's son, born at the end of October. (She found out she was pg right before I started my stim shots, and I was so afraid the IVF wouldn't work, and that if it did, history would repeat itself with another m/c. So far, so good.) I finally get to join their club and I'm so very freaking excited!

    Okay, I think that's probably enough for one post! Thanks for reading if you made it this far. You probably know waaay more about me than you ever wanted to! I'll try to come back tomorrow to finish the story. I'm so glad this board exists!

    Carolyn
    Faith is the realization of what is hoped for and evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1
    Me-31 DH-38 - Living with MFI since 10/2004 - Not preventing since 6/2000
    BFP after 2nd IUI -> Angel Baby-> Morgan Kinsley-08/15/06 at 9w3d-EDD 03/17/07
    BFP after 1st IVF . . . . gave us our earth-angel . . . .
    Cecelia Elaine - 12/08/09 9lb 9.1oz 21in 6:50pm

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    Thanks for sharing. I can't imagine having to go through that. Look forward to hearing about this pregnancy, birth and LO.
    Megan / SO Mike / Jack - Feb 9, 2010 / LO expected late March 2013

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    I'm glad to see you again, Carolyn! Wow, you had quite a journey TTC. I'm sorry it has been such a struggle for you. I'm so excited for you to finally be welcoming your baby into your family!
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    Sorry, computer's being stupid.
    Last edited by monkeycat; 12-04-2009 at 12:58 AM.
    Faith is the realization of what is hoped for and evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1
    Me-31 DH-38 - Living with MFI since 10/2004 - Not preventing since 6/2000
    BFP after 2nd IUI -> Angel Baby-> Morgan Kinsley-08/15/06 at 9w3d-EDD 03/17/07
    BFP after 1st IVF . . . . gave us our earth-angel . . . .
    Cecelia Elaine - 12/08/09 9lb 9.1oz 21in 6:50pm

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    I guess since I've posted the back story, I should post the pregnancy story.

    I've been blessed with a relatively uneventful pg. Because this is an IVF baby, I was spoiled with several early ultrasounds, which helped with my I-had-a-m/c-first nerves. I had an u/s a 5w3d, 6w6d, 7w3d (after a very scary, very red bleeding episode - had a small hemorrhage which resolved within a month), 8w6d, and 10w6d. Then I had the NT scan, and a very short scan when I went to my OB for the first time at 13 weeks. Once I was released to my OB, I only had appointments based on the standard schedule (every four weeks, then two, now one), and I had the level II u/s at 19 weeks, and growth scans at 30 and 37 weeks. After all those early appointments I went into withdrawal once I was treated like a normal pg person! I had two unscheduled appointments, around 16 weeks and again around 21 weeks, when I thought something was wrong. I was feeling a lot of pressure and sharp pain, and it felt like all my insides were going to fall out. Everything was fine, and the bay was sitting very low. I figure s/he had growth spurts. At 30 and 32 weeks, I went to L&D for labor checks because I was having cx every 3-15 minutes, irregular, but not stopping. Of course as soon as I got hooked up to monitors, they would stop. At 31 weeks, my BP shot up one night while I was working and I started seeing spots, so I got sent home from work, but everything else was fine and has been ever since.

    The baby is measuring large (4lb 1oz at 30 weeks - 92nd percentile and 7lb 13oz at 37 weeks - 90th percentile), but I passed my GD screen, and I periodically check my sugar with DH's meter and it's always okay, so we figure it just must be genetics. I was over nine pounds, and my mother had three babies over ten, all vaginally and without being diabetic. My OB said there's no good evidence to induce for macrosomia (yay), but he doesn't want me going past 41 weeks (that's his standard practice for all moms). I don't really want an induction, but I'm okay with it at 41 weeks. My OB was also good with my birth plan, which is pretty basic and has things like no IV, wearing my own clothes, intermittent monitoring, etc. I really like my OB. I would love a homebirth, but my paranoid side needs the comfort of the availability of medical intervention if, and only if, it's really needed.

    I felt the baby first move at 18w2d, from the outside at 20w4d, and DH got to feel at 24 weeks. (DH was working in California from 16w-23w. He didn't recognize me when he first got back!) I have an anterior placenta, so movement has always been sporadic. It seems like s/he'll move 24 hrs/day for a couple of days, and then hardly move at all for a couple. And all the standard things they tell you to do, eat, drink something cold, etc., just seems to put him/her to sleep! Stubborn baby! I broke down and bought an at home doppler at 33 weeks after one night at work when I took a walk over to L&D for a heartbeat check because I hadn't felt any movement in a few hours, even when I was using my belly as a prop when feeding babies (and that usually got a big response). It's come in handy several times, when I needed extra reassurance. I should know better because at every ultrasound I could see tons of movement that I couldn't feel at all, but it's nice to have that extra bit of comfort.

    Tomorrow is my 40 week appointment (and my EDD), and as of last week, I had zero cervical activity. DR said they call that a green banana because it's not ripe. My friends and family got a great kick out of that. I have a few contractions each day, but they feel the same now as they did when they started at 27 weeks, so I figure they're just BH. I hope that there's some progress tomorrow. I really enjoy being pg, but I'm ready to be able to see my feet again.

    DH is really ready to meet this little person. I think his road has been tougher than mine in a lot of ways. After the m/c, he really took care of me so I could heal, emotionally and physically, so I was able to deal with everything fairly quickly, but he suppressed everything for a long time and then had kind of a breakdown. He also blames himself because our IF is male factor. And then he had to be gone for 7 weeks during the middle of this pg, and he was so afraid something bad was going to happen to me or the baby while he was gone. He's still very afraid that something bad is going to happen to one of us. I love him so much. He really came around to the whole NCB thing, after being skeptical and somewhat resistant at first. I hope he sticks to it during the real thing. I think he'll do a great job and be a great dad.

    I've been so very lucky. I haven't had a lot of aches and pains. I have back pain but that's preexisting, and for the past several weeks if I sit in the same position for too long, my pelvis/groin hurts. And the past few days, I've had a lot of rectal pressure (sorry if TMI). But all in all, I feel really good. But now I'm starting to wonder if the baby is even more comfortable than me and wants to stay inside forever!

    Okay, I guess that's all I have for now. I'll post an update after my appointment tomorrow!

    Carolyn
    Faith is the realization of what is hoped for and evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1
    Me-31 DH-38 - Living with MFI since 10/2004 - Not preventing since 6/2000
    BFP after 2nd IUI -> Angel Baby-> Morgan Kinsley-08/15/06 at 9w3d-EDD 03/17/07
    BFP after 1st IVF . . . . gave us our earth-angel . . . .
    Cecelia Elaine - 12/08/09 9lb 9.1oz 21in 6:50pm

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    Hope things start happening soon for you! It's been a long journey for y'all and I know you're excited for it to be complete!
    Connie
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    You must not be too far from me - we're expecting that crazy Gulf coast snow too!
    Connie
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    Mommy to Ethan (July '07) & Gabriel (December '09)

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    I can definitely see why you care calling your little one "Our Miracle." That was a powerful story and I'm so happy that you are finally going to have your baby.

    Congratulations on making it to your EDD. I'm sure it won't be long now!
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    It's a BOY!!!

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    Connie - the snow is crazy! We're just a little north of Galveston, and my DR is in the NASA area, and it's not snowing at my house yet, but it's coming down pretty heavy at the DRs office. Not sticking to anything except cars in the parking lot, but it's so strange to see the national news talking about the Houston area weather! It really is beautiful.
    Kim - thank you for your kind words.

    I just got home from my DRs appointment. He said my cervix is a "little softer and a little thinner" than last week, and I'm barely a fingertip, but nothing really happening still. He said he can finally touch the baby's head and it's low but not engaged. I scheduled another appointment for next week, and set an induction date for the 14th, which will be 41w3d. I'm REALLY hoping I go before then. But he's going out of town this weekend, so now I have to make it till Monday. The other DRs in his practice are very good, but I've only gone over my birth plan with my DR, and he was very receptive, and I don't know how the others would be. Any advice on getting things rolling? Is it too late to try EPO? And where do I get it and how do I take it? I don't think I could get to my cervix if you paid me real money! TIA
    Carolyn
    Faith is the realization of what is hoped for and evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1
    Me-31 DH-38 - Living with MFI since 10/2004 - Not preventing since 6/2000
    BFP after 2nd IUI -> Angel Baby-> Morgan Kinsley-08/15/06 at 9w3d-EDD 03/17/07
    BFP after 1st IVF . . . . gave us our earth-angel . . . .
    Cecelia Elaine - 12/08/09 9lb 9.1oz 21in 6:50pm

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    Glad your body's making some progress at least! Hopefully you won't need the induction... I've heard that lots and lots of sex can help things along. I'll be trying that route as soon as I get rid of this infection. Well, as much as possible with a cosleeping 2-year-old LOL
    Connie
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    Mommy to Ethan (July '07) & Gabriel (December '09)

    Follow my journey to a healthier me! http://cmlhealth.blogspot.com/

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