Thanks girls!! I'm not exactly sure how this works, but I'm excited about it so if I leave anything out of my intro or you want to know anything specific, just ask!!
My journey to becoming pregnant and having a baby began several years ago before I was even ready for children! I am married to a WONDERFUL man, Matt. We got married in July '05 after dating for a few years and our wedding night was our first night together.
Six months into our marriage, January 4, 2006, Matt went to the doctor with a very bad cough, which we thought was walking pneumonia. He had been coughing off and on since Thanksgiving and I finally was able to convince him to go see a doctor!! (men!!) Anyway, the doctor took an xray thinking it was pneumonia also and didn't like the way it looked so he sent Matt to the hospital for a CT scan. I was working late that night and since we only had one car, I had to wait until Matt got done at the hospital to come pick me up from work. I remember it so clearly, that it is scary!! Matt walked into my work around 7pm and I turned to him (thinking it was pneumonia) and said, "so, are you dying?" He just stared at me and said, "well, yeah, I have a tumor." I kept waiting for him to say, "just kidding!! ha ha ha!!" (because we joke around a lot together) but he just kept staring at me. If finally hit me that he was serious!!!!!!
So, after several weeks of biopsies and tests and the doctors saying that they couldn't determine what type of cancer it was and that Matt should get his affairs in order, we were both a big mess. We are very faithful to God and I knew that God had a plan. We prayed and prayed and prayed. That Wednesday evening, our entire church got into small groups during our midweek service to pray about several situations and one of the situations was Matt's health. The very next morning, our doctor called us telling us that the local hospital had messed up the biopsy results and after they had sent the backup biopsy to Emory University, it came back right away as Lymphoma! (which is very common and has a high cure-rate). They wanted to start chemo treatment right away and told us that the type of chemo that they were going to use has a high incidence of infertility, we would most likely never have children naturally, and that we needed to look into saving sperm......well, after looking into it, we knew we couldn't afford the thousands of dollars in costs to do that. I told Matt that if we never would be able to have children of our own but he was still here on this earth, that is all that mattered and to go ahead and start treatment. To put treatment off until we could afford to save sperm might have endangered his life. I think that was by far, the hardest decision I have ever made but I'd do it again in a heartbeat!!
So, fast forward through almost a year of chemo and radiation treatments and Matt was declared officially in remission in October '06!! In December '06 we had stopped using any type of birth control since we figured that the chances of us getting pregnant were small and we didn't want to miss an opportunity. In July '07, I was ready to seriously try to conceive. Matt had agreed (rather reluctantly) and we tried for a month. When it didn't happen, I think it freaked Matt out at the possibility that he was infertile and he told me that he wanted to wait another year before we really started trying and going to see doctors and all of that. I (reluctantly ) agreed and we decided to wait until July '08 to try and get pregnant.
Well, God had other plans!! In December, my period didn't come and I am always exactly 30 days! We had been using condoms as birth control and because we had both been sick that month, we only had sex twice and I thought that it was not around the time that I ovulated!! I took several tests and still did not believe the results!! I am just amazed that we are having a baby! It is truly a miracle that I am carrying this child and that we are able to have a child of our own! I feel so blessed.
We do plan to have a natural birth and we are following the "Birthing in Awareness" approach. I am very excited, nervous, anxious, etc about what labor and delivery are going to be like. But I know that if God allowed me to get through cancer with my husband and so many other situations previously, that he can get me through a natural birth!
So, that is my story up to this point!!
I had a little scare on Sunday night and went to L&D to get checked out....the baby was fine and my cervix was nice and closed. At my appointment this past Tuesday, I was 50% effaced and dilated to 1 cm. It was nice to have a little bit of progress in two days and I'm hoping that I will have had more progress by my next appointment, which is next Tuesday.
Oh! We are having a girl- Ariel Elizabeth and I am due on 8/28/08. I have a baby blog that I keep (mostly for long distance family and friends). It is in my signature and you are welcome to visit it and see details about the pregancy thus far, the nursery, all of those details!! I'm very excited about being able to share all of this with you (even though I don't post here very often) and I hope you enjoy my journey!!
I'm not familiar with Birthing in Awareness (but I goggled it!) did you take a class on it? Are you having a doula?
We wanted to take the class but we don't have any money (literally) and couldn't afford the classes. We have the book that they read in the class though, and we've been going through it as if we were in the class. A few of my good friends have all used this method so I am fortunate enough that if I have any major questions, I can ask them but the book is pretty straightforward.
My sister-in-law is my doula!! (which is great b/c we can't afford to pay anyone!!! but I am going to get her a manicure and pedicure gift certificate as a thank you!!)