Welcome!!! You are so close!
Welcome!!! You are so close!
Welcome! I love your girls names, and can't wait to hear your story behind wanting an unassisted birth!
Here is my intro:
I'm Helen (27, 28 on the 21st) and I'm married to Rudolph (32). We met online in July '02 in a msn chatroom. We started talking just about every night and even called each other on occasion. We were just friends, until in October '02, Rudi decided to drive 500 miles to my home town to have a holiday. I was meant to be his tour guide of the town, but we ended up becoming more than friends ;)
We started doing the long distance thing, but after 4 months we decided that it wasn't working, and that one of us would move. Since he owned his own store (selling DJ equipment) and I worked in an industry where I could find work anywhere, we decided it should be me that moves. So in May '03 I packed up all my worldly possessions into my crappy old car, and drove 500 miles to start my new life. It was the best thing I ever did!
On February 29th 2004, sick of waiting for Rudi to pop the question (we'd been talking about it for a good 6 months beforehand), I came home from work and got down on one knee and proposed to him. Ok, it wasn't that romantic. I got home at about 11:30pm (I worked 4pm-11pm shifts) and tried to work up the courage to ask him. Finally he asked what I wanted for dinner and I blurted out “YOU!”. He looked at me puzzled and then I got down on bended knee, told him that he made my life complete and asked if he'd marry me. He left me hanging for a good 10 minutes, but finally said that ofcourse he'd marry me.
We got married on October 30th 2004, in a lovely civil ceremony in one of our local parks (I promise I'll find some photos and put them in here soon).
In November I needed to have my implanon implant (birth control implant) removed and replaced, so it started our discussions on TTC. We decided that we were happy to have a bub at any stage, so off birth control I went.
It took 6 months to conceive Astrid. I had a completely uneventful pregnancy, and had a relatively easy birth. Labor lasted 12 hours, 30 minutes pushing, and out popped my 9lb9oz baby girl. I was in hospital, and even though I had decided to try for a natural birth, I ended up having gas (nitros oxide) and pethadine (demerol). I felt totally out of control just before the pushing stage, so I decided that with my next birth I wouldn't have anything.
3 months after Astrid's birth we decided to TTC again, thinking in part, that it would take atleast another 6 months for it to happen. Nope. First try. Again an uneventful pregnancy and easy birth. Water broke 5pm 22nd of April, went to bed, woken at 2am by contractions, woke Rudi at 3am, got to the hospital at 3:45am, Bea, all 10lb10oz of her, was born at 6:10am, after only 6 minutes of pushing. Once again I had wanted to have a natural birth, but being in the hospital, I caved when the nurse asked if I wanted gas and pethadine. This time though, the pethadine was administered just 30 minutes before Bea was born, so she was really groggy for the rest of the day.
I felt like a total failure. I had planned, and researched and done everything I could think of to have a natural birth, but I caved under pressure.
It took me awhile, but I finally figured out what the problem I had was. I felt compelled to conform in the hospital. I didn't want to make the nurses job harder, and I didn't want to be seen as the bad patient. I felt like I couldn't vocalise, I couldn't move around, I couldn't do any of the relaxation techniques I had learnt, because I didn't want to upset the apple cart. This is where I started to think about birthing outside of the hospital environment, and in my own comfortable space.
I started looking into homebirth about this time last year. I read lots of stuff about it, found out as much information about how it happens in Australia as I could, and started on my campaign to convince Rudi that it was a good idea. I also stumbled across a few websites about unassisted birth and became intrigued. But I thought that Rudi would flip at the idea of an unassisted birth, so started my homebirth campaign. Not surprisingly, he was not all too keen on the idea, not only because of the price factor (it costs about $5000 here in Aus, unless you are lucky enough to live in one of the only 2 states that have public funded homebirth programs) but he didn't like the idea of a technical stranger being in our home for such an intimate thing. I jokingly mentioned freebirth to him, and to my surprise, he became quite excited in the idea. So before we even concieved this baby, we had decided that unassisted birth was how this little one would be brought into the world. Just mum, dad and her 2 sisters to welcome her.
So January rolled around this year, and I was meant to go back to the doctor to get another script for the mini pill, but Rudi and I agreed to start TTC again. I took my last pill on January 20th, and on February 11th, I got my BFP. Talk about fertile.
So that pretty much brings us to now. I have been seeing my GP regularly, been having all the tests and ultrasounds (20 week one said this is another girl), because we see that as our way to make sure that there should be no undue complications with our freebirth.
I'm going to go to bed now (since it's 10pm and I've been up since 6am) so I'll put my current feelings in a post tomorrow.
If you managed to read through all that, you deserve a medal :p
Welcome to your lodge...What a great intro! I can't wait to hear about your unassisted HB. How did you and your DH prepare for it?
Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed reading your intro and can't wait to hear more about your freebirth!
thank you for the intro. i'm looking forward to hearing more of your story. what gestation did your first 2 come, you are so close!
Great intro.! Does your GP know that you're planning a home birth?
What a wonderful intro.
Great intro. I hope your freebirth goes well.
Wonderful intro! I am so excited to read about your freebirth!