Alright - so I just got a phone call - my GBS was negative which means they won't "require" me to get antibiotics during labor - which also means I don't have to have a hep-lock!
So here's a bit more to my story.
After my DD was born, DH went into a bout of depression that lasted almost 6 months. He even went to the doctor to get help, but they ignored him. At the time we lived out in the boonies and he does not drive, so he felt very isolated. He said that we would NEVER have another child. I was so heartbroken because I badly wanted another child, and I wanted them close in age. He insisted there would be no more because it was too hard on him. Mind you, I was home w/ DD the entire time and even took her to work with me when I went back part time.
SO I spent the next 2 years trying to get over NOT ever having another child. We had since moved and bought a new house and I was just about over it. I really thought that I maybe could just move on. Well in the early spring, my grandmother died and so I took DD with me to MI for the funeral and to stay with my dad for a week. DH did not come. When I got home DH told me that he thought we should have another child. I literally laughed in his face. I told him that it wasn't even funny and those kind of jokes are the worst kind because he knows that it was something that was really important to me. He then got this super serious look on his face and said that he missed us very much and felt like his life role had changed and that his identity was of a father now and that he liked it and felt ready. I then told him that he BETTER not be joking, and that I still didn't believe him. That night he wanted to TTC, but I had to remind him that it would mean a winter baby and that it would be much better if we waited a few months to TTC so that baby would be born at the end of the school year in the spring - which is better for my job etc. So we waited. During much of that time he was very sweet and mentioning baby names etc. When those 3 months were up - I reminded him that next cycle was the one - and then he got very quiet and refused to come near me. I was beyond pissed. I took DD and we literally moved out to a hotel for 2 days. When I came back we had a long talk. He told me he thought he could be ready, but he was scared. I told him to suck it up. And after much much more talking - he finally said he was ready. So we TTC, but didn't get pregnant that cycle. THe next month we had a family vacation planned at my mom's cottage - with DH, me, DD, my mom, and my sister, all staying in a 2 bedroom place. We would have absolutely no privacy -so the whole TTC thing was going to be tricky. Plus the only beds in the whole place are crappy ancient things - all dusty w/ popped springs. DH decided that he was sleeping on an air mattress in a tent in the back yard. DD and I slept in the house on the crappy beds in the same room as my sister, but I did go out on a couple nights to try to TTC - and evidently it worked because here I am w/ a lodge
Holy crap Jodi, I knew that DH got "cold feet" when it was time to TTC again, but I didn't know you actually left the house. I don't blame you though. You are actually a LOT more patient and understanding than I am.
We also rent a small 2 BR beach house with the ILs and ended up DTD in the bathroom standing up...lol. The ILs came to stay with us for 3 weeks the summer we TTC Zoe and we ended up on the floor next to the dog's bed. It was quite comical.
Thanks for sharing your birth story! Hopefully you won't have the painful tailbone this time around, that sounds quite bad!
That must have been tough dealing with a newborn and a depressed dh. You are a strong mama! I am glad that you worked things out with your dh and now have a new baby coming soon. How is he doing with the impending arrival?
Mommy to three gorgeous girls
at 6 weeks 22/10/09
He's starting to worry that it will happen again w/ the depression, but I really don't think so. We had basically no support system last time, and hardly any friends (other than those that lived really far away) - and we felt very isolated.
This time our neighbor has said they are inviting us to dinner once a week, we have a great playgroup, and a very walkable and friendly city, so DH feels very much at ease here. He actually calls this place "home" - which is saying a LOT since he moved every year or so during most of his life because of his parents constantly moving (divorces, remarriages, new jobs etc.)
I'm hoping that he avoids it this time - and I think it's very possible.
**** SO question for you all - I had a planned homebirth last time, so never really packed a hospital bag. I mean, I had a change of clothes in a bag by the door and a spare toothbrush in there - but other than that, not much. When we did end up leaving for the hospital, I grabbed a couple of baby outfits out of the drawer and my hairbrush/meds....
I kind of feel awkward packing a bag w/ a bunch of stuff since things went alright last time. I have some basic stuff set aside (like sample size soaps etc.) -but I feel like I "should" pull together some clothes in a bag, and some stuff for DH - though we only live a mile from the hospital - so he can easily come home whenever he wants. That also makes it easy in case I decide I need something...... So what do you think? Do I really need to pack? I'm hoping for an early release - and my MIL will be in town to watch DD (hopefully - she lives 3 hours away). So she could bring stuff too if there is some reason we have to stay longer in the hospital.
And I decided that even though I'm due the 19th, I'm going to have a Tax Day baby on the 15th because the new moon is the 14th and I just have this feeling that it will determine when I go in to labor
I packed waaaay more than I needed. We live about 10-15 mins from the hospital and DH was able to go home several times to feed the cats (we boarded the dog) shower, change etc. I don't think you will need to pack him anything given how close you live.
If I end up going to the hospital, I will take:
going home clothes for me
1 pair of underwear that can get icky
going home outfit for Liam
blanket for Liam (it's likely to still be a little cool here in June)
shampoo, conditioner, face wash, toothbrush and toothpaste
copies of birth plan
a couple Luna bars for me to eat during labor if I feel the need
phone & charger
If I go to the birthing center, which means a short stay, I will take:
outfit for Liam
nightgown for me
snacks to eat while in labor and for DH
So I've got a whole lot of nothing going on as far as impending labor. But my next appt. w/ the MW is Monday.
My job (K/1 teacher) is going to be the same next year probably. It's fine, but it's hard to teach 2 grade levels well simultaneously. Our district is short about 2million and so they are transferring and firing teachers. Thankfully I'm not in that group - but there is a straight 1st spot at my school now due to a RIF notice, and I asked my principal to have it. She said no. I'm kinda peeved.
We had an egg hunt yesterday in my yard w/ friends from the neighborhood and playgroup and everyone had a great time. It was awesome weather. Now I have only 10 days left of work - assuming baby agrees.
Next weekend is the semi-annual baby consignment sale. I've already put %99 of my maternity clothes on hangers to be sold. DH went in for his vasectomy consultation yesterday. I'm ready for this all .
Next I need to go through the bag of old stuff from DD to decide what is spring/summer and is sellable. I've got to type it all in by Monday.
Sounds like things are moving along. I hear you on the depressed DH, mine has off and on depression for the last two years. I think having a support system will help though. Funny about the conception. This one was also concieved while staying with family when it was not so convient.
I'm sorry about the job disappointment. At least you didn't get RIFed. I had a similar experience a few years ago where a position came open to take over 8th grade HR instead of 7th and I really wanted the change. I had a lot of good reasons for why it was better for me to take the HR than to give the responsiblity to a brand new teacher, but my boss said no. I was really hurt and angry, but honestly, it turned out to be a good thing for me not to have all the extra responsiblities that come along with 8th grade HR that year. For example, they went on a big trip to the east coast for a week in May when I was 30 weeks pg with Zoe.
I know how hard it is to do split classes though. One year I had 6th and 7th grade language arts during the same period. Lots of juggling.
Well I went to my 38 week MW appt. and things are measuring perfectly on all the things - so totally uneventful. She did say that baby feels chubby- and this might end up being the first reported case of butt dystocia
I'm feeling like this baby is going to be chubby compared to DD. She was born fairly skinny - this one though I'm sure will be bigger. DD was born at 7lb 4.5oz and 22 inches at 39 weeks. I'm guessing that this one is already that size.
Now I only have 9 more days of work and things are going well. I've set aside about $290 worth of baby/maternity/kid stuff for the local 2x a year sale. Hopefully it sells well and I can pay off some stuff.