Welcome to your lodge! I can't wait to read your intro!!
I hope you get to labor and birth in water, as you want.
Due on 12/10/09
It's a BOY!!!
Welcome to your lodge!!!!
Kristina, (formerly known as ~Kristina~)
doula and apprentice midwife
Wife to Jesse 8.18.01
Mom to Ayden 12.18.01, Kailey 7.1.03,
Ashlyn 6.11.05, Dylan 9.29.07 & Riley 12.8.09
Wishing you a wonderful birth! Hang on little man
I'm back!! It just so happens to be a busy week for us with lots going on and dh was off work this weekend so we weren't around the house much. Thanks for the warm welcome
I guess I'll go back to my first pregnancy. This is all off memory, so I'm sure I'll leave out somethings. I found out I was expecting our first on December 10, 2003 she was planned and we were very excited, but I didn't know much of anything about labor and delivery. I assumed I would be fine and wanted to do no meds but had the 'if I need them I'll get them' mentality. I went into labor for the first time at 34 weeks 2 days...they stopped it, I stayed overnight and was released and then I was back at 34 weeks 4 days, they tried to stop it but everytime the contractions came back the first time it took longer and each subsequent time they'd come back faster. So, my OB at the time decided they weren't stopping it and broke my water he did ask, but he asked in a way that made me feel like that was the best course we could take at the time. Again, me not knowing much of what was going on or supposed to be happening I figured that the dr wouldn't do something that wasn't in our best interest. They broke my water at 9:05am and things intensified, I don't really remember times at this point but I know I got a shot of nubain in my IV (the hospital said since I was preterm I had to have antibiotics even though my GBS they took from my first hospital stay came back negative), and then an epidural. I don't remember much of what was happening, it was hectic and I was scared but either way the epidural didn't do anything for me. I was later told it failed and at a seperate appointment I was told that it was in fine but I was fully dialated before they could put meds in it either way she was born at 11:56am on July 27, 2004 at 34 weeks 5 days weighing in at a whopping 5lbs9oz and 18 inches long. Lots of dark brown hair and boy did she look chubby for a preemie! She actually did fine for the most part. No breathing issues, never had to go to the NICU; but she did have jaundice and latch/suck/swallow issues. She came home with us on day 2 and ended up with a billi blanket at home. The breastfeeding issues continued and eventually I gave up and went to exclusively pumping, which I managed to keep up with until she was a year old. I ended up with some pretty bad PPD, looking back there really isn't any one thing that I think triggered it, just a variety of things that didn't go as I was expecting on top of the shock of being a new mom.
When dd1 was around 13 months old (Sept. 11, 2005) I found out we were expecting again! Definitely unplanned. I think I was in shock half of her pregnancy but I was a lot more determined to have a natural birth with her. I started with preterm contractions around 28 weeks with her and was put on procardia and again right arount 34 -35 weeks I noticed it being less and less effective. I went in at 35 weeks with regular contractions fully expecting to be put on terb. again to stop them and to my shock they didn't even try. They had me on the monitors for an hour and I dialated what I assume was enough for them and they decided to 'keep me'. They broke my water at 4cm at 10pm. I did get to labor in the tub for a while with her before they broke my water and it was heavenly, but there were all sorts of rules and restrictions and of course no delivering in the tubs. After they broke my water things got hectic. I was managing just fine until they checked me at 11pm and said I was 6cm. She said it'd be a few more hours and things just intensified 300% to where I thought it was unbearable and I asked for nubain (same hospital, same antibiotics policy), it was put in my IV at about quarter after 11 I believe? Not more than a few minutes after they gave it to me I felt the urge to push to which I got some eye rolls and "there's no way you're fully dialated" only to have her eyes bug out and run out of the room yelling for the dr. My body was pushing whether I wanted to or not, when her head came out dh sat on the bed in shock thinking he was going to have to deliver her but just as her shoulder started coming out the dr came in and with one push, she was out. 11:27pm, 35 weeks and 5lbs 5oz 17.75in, she looked a lot thinner and blue when she came out. The room filled with people and they got her 'stabalized' (oddly enough I don't remember much of this, I didn't realize she was in trouble at birth until dh told me and I found out she had the cord around her neck twice) and then she started grunting so she was off to the NICU. I felt like I was fighting over everything when she got there but somehow I managed to get a good breastfeeding start with her. I was down there every 2 hours on the dot and made sure everyone knew she was not to have bottles/pacifiers. She dropped down to 5lbs even but then stayed steady and they let her go home after 5 days in the NICU. We were pretty lucky in that the hospital I delivered her at had a 'hotel' on the top floor for family of patients so after I was discharged we payed to stay the whole time. After she was home things went pretty well, I managed to keep the ppd away. She did end up with reflux which was awful but she's a sweet little 3 year old these days
DH went back and forth on being done after #2, I always knew I wanted more but definitely wanted some time before we had another. But the baby fever returned when we bought out first home last December (we closed December 18, I keep telling baby what a good day that would be, past 37 weeks and marking the one year anniversary of owning our own home ) and we got a little less careful about bc and then decided to ttc in March. (or Feb?, I can't really remember) We decided to do a shettles attempt for a boy (dd1 was a perfect shettles for a girl, unintentionally) and on April 25 I got the faintest (10dpo) of faint positives! The pregnancy has gone pretty well. I was a little more tired and sick in the first trimester than I remember being the first two times, my face has been much better this time and I feel better in general. We found out in August that we are having our first baby boy and we're very excited as is dd1 (dd2 still needs some convincing, I think she's still holding out hope it'll be a sister when he's born but we're sure that won't happen he gave us quite a few confirming boy shots) Honestly, I have been contracting a lot less this time. I remember it being a daily issue with dd2 after the third trimester started and while occasionally I'll get a scary bout of close together painful contractions it's nothing like what I had before. I had the FFN test at 26 and 30 weeks, both negative, and while my cervix was soft, a fingertip and thinning at 26 weeks there wasn't a noticable change from that at 30 weeks. So I am pretty happy about that. I'm trying to be optimistic that I'll get to 36 weeks and I even joke he'll surprise us all and I'll go over My mom had my brother at 34 weeks (PROM) and I was 10 days overdue, so it's possible. My midwife doesn't think it's likely though since my body seems to be showing signs of getting ready again.
Speaking of midwives. Up until my 30 week appt I was seeing a midwife I loved. She was very easy to talk to and we agreed on a lot of things, but either I forgot something she said or she didn't feel it was as easy to talk to me because when I went to make my 32 week appt I found out she was leaving the office I go to! Nothing was said to me before that point, even at the appointment I had just had with her. So now I'm seeing a different midwife in the office, which is also the only midwife they have left so if I go into labor when she isn't on call it's a toss up on who I get of the OBs some I'm told are better than others with natural birthing moms. The new midwife did reassure me that she has a good relationship with the nurses and that she has told the nurses to do as she would with her patients if she can't be there so hopefully it will work out. I showed her my birth plan and she said everything in it was great and she'd try her best to help me acheive it, and I really actually believe that for once. Plus I am good at working through contractions until transition hits and based on my last two I can't imagine transition will last long and I was in bed almost the entire time with the girls (I'm delivering at a different hospital this time, they have a lot more equipment available as far as birthing stools, squat bars, birthing balls, ect go) so I'm optimistic I'll go completely natural this time around. I will always wonder if the nubain less than 15 min before dd2's delivery was why she had trouble with her breathing at first, can't imagine narcotics would do anything good for a premature baby.
If I deliver before 36 weeks I can't deliver at the hospital I am planning on, and it is probably the one hospital in the area (out of 4) that I really do not like so another reason to make it to 36 weeks even if it means laying in bed 24/7 that last week or two.
I don't think my expectations are too high, but my dream birth is a water birth with baby staying with me the first hour. My other two were whisked away immediately. Based on their deliveries I'm not sure if I'll be able to but I have asked my midwife to remind me at the time of delivery to catch my baby, which from reading on this board I really would like to do. It sounds so neat to be the one to first touch your baby. If I can't or won't I asked her to let dh do it if he wants to.
I think that about covers it. I tend to go on and on so kudos to anyone who reads through the entire thing
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
Great intro hun!! Sounds like your doing everything you can to make it to 36 weeks, I hope the little man sticks with the program Have you thought about the possability of a Christmas baby? I hope you get the birth of your dreams hun! Getting to catch your own baby is a really wonderful moment and I wish that for you as well!
Congratulations on your first boy! Your doctor deciding to break your water when he did with your first birth really doesn't make sense to me. I also think you are right about your second. Usually they like to have a few hours between when they give the narcotics and the birth so it has time to wear off on the baby before he/she has to breathe. I hope this little guy cooperates with what you want and waits to come so that you can have the birth you want.
Well, last night we took our girls to a sibling class at the hospital I plan to deliver at. It was pretty generic as far as a movie and practicing diaper changing/holding with baby dolls but we did get to see the birthing rooms and a newborn baby. It was a pretty big class so I didn't get to ask any questions really, so now I'm trying to think if I should schedule a seperate tour or not (our first two were born at a different hospital). I did ask where the birthing pool will be and it seems it will be at a complete different end of the birthing rooms not that I should pay much attention because she also said it wouldn't be in until January! I hate getting conflicting answers. I know it's not likely I'll get my water birth but I think they should at this point know about what week it should be in rather than an average month it should be in.
I've been pretty sore and my BH/contractions/whatever they are, are increasing again and baby seems a bit lower since the last day I've been getting the urge to pee something like every 5 minutes Really though, I went 4 times in the 2 hours we were out of the house last night and then countless times throughout the night. I'm 33 weeks today though and I can't imagine delivering in the next 3 weeks so hopefully that's a good sign. I just have to start paying more attention to myself I guess. I got them to really slow down when I increased my protein/calcium/water intake about a month ago and I'll admit that lately I've just been so busy with everything else I'm not focusing on it quite as much. I'm torn between really soaking up this pregnancy and trying to enjoy every last moment because it's our last and almost hoping that I get really miserable in the last few weeks. I generally have pretty easy pregnancies apart from the preterm labor problems and I love being pregnant, it would be so much easier to be at peace with being done if I absolutely hated being pregnant I am content with having three, but part of me still wants just one more.
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
I TOTALLY understand what your feeling.....I'm wishing for just one more! I felt so good with my last pregnancy I thoight I'd never have him I say soak it up, best to have good memories!! I wouldn't worry about another tour unless you need to know more. Personaly I've birthed at 3 different hospitals and taken no tours. I hope the urge to pee cools down sounds frusterateing!!
I enjoyed reading through all of your previous experiences. It realy does seem strange that they broke your water, etc. I'm really crossing my fingers for you that you make it to 36 weeks AND get your midwife for delivery.
I wonder what happened with your other midwife? I'm guessing it wasn't something good since it was kept quiet.