Hey Girl! How are you feeling?? Hows the family doing with the new addition? Thinking of you!
Thanks for all the lovely comments girls. Sorry I didn't respond sooner - I haven't really been online much the last few days since her birth as I'm having problems with my SPD (seems worse now then when I was pregnant ) and breastfeeding is not going well right now. My poor nipples are all bleeding and painful.
I'm also suffering some major baby blues right now. Kinda disappointed that I went through all the pain and health stuff I did during pregnancy and the one thing I looked forward to was breastfeeding and now that's painful too I can't help but wonder sometimes if it was all worth it especially as all she does is cry most of the time... Definately not a happy baby like my previous babies were.
Thankfully the kids have taken to her really well - even little Lacey-Rose is loving having a baby in the house although she calls her "That" at the moment even though she's quite capable of saying other things like "baby"! My DH I won't even go into - suffice to say I haven't had much rest recently and what with breastfeeding every 2 hours throughout both day and night and Libby only waking at night I am beginning to feel quite ill now.
Other than all that though things are OK. Just finding it difficult to find my feet with dealing with a demanding, whingy newborn, 5 other kids and my DH really whilst being largely unable to walk or move much.
I came on here to try and catch up with everyone... But she's just woken up and is screaming for attention again so I guess I better go for now.
I sorry to hear your having such a ruff time. I had hoped that you would be feeling better by now. All of my best wishes for quick healing are on the way to you. If I lived there I'd be on my way over to help, I can't believe no one has been over to do anything for you. Why doesn't your little sister help you out some? You DH needs to step it up, this is a very big time for you and this little girl and he needs to try and make it a little easier for you. (((HUGS))) and please try and take as much care of your self as you can.
My little sister thinks her social life is more interesting than coming over here right now - she didn't even turn up for the birth despite saying she would be there. My Mum would help but she can't get over here and my DH would have a hissy fit if I asked her and just get in the way. I've tried to go over to hers a few times these last few days but everytime I tell my DH I'm going over, he either insists on coming too (then blames me because he's got no work done) which stresses me out or he makes it so difficult it stops being worth going after awhile.
My DH is more interested in his work than us right now. I can kind of understand it as if he doesn't work we don't get any money in at all and we're in a lot of debt to his business and have a large-ish mortgage to boot... But he promised me he'd look after us all for the first couple of weeks so I could just do whatever I felt I needed to do to get healthy again.
Ah well. I just fed Madam Libby on my better side and I'm sure it's not hurting as much as it was earlier. I know the latch is good, and so is position - even my midwife agree's with that. I think most of the damage was done in the first 24hours or so as I couldn't get her to open her mouth wide and so had to go with the best I could get and ended up with bleeding, cracked and blistered nips. Hopefully a couple more days and it'll be much better or gone altogether.
On a more positive note - I'm actually healing quite well apart from being tired and my SPD. I didn't bleed heavily at all after the birth, and even now it's still minimal. I'm not sore anywhere except my boobs and pelvis which was to be expected I suppose and I'm producing a truck load of milk - I have to pump before bed as otherwise I get really engorged and can't sleep and am already pumping a full bottle of milk to freeze each night, whereas in the past I always had supply issues and struggled to feed my last two babies enough and could never pump as there just wasn't enough. I'm thinking if things carry on at this rate I might actually consider breastmilk donation to my local unit in a few months!
And despite what I said earlier Libby is a kinda cute baby... Just VERY different from my others and it's taking me awhile to adjust to her differences. Reminds me of the famous quote;
And despite her weight she's a cute little baby - she definately doesn't look like she was 9lbs 7oz! When she was born and we were all guessing her weight before we weighed her we all thought she was only 8lbs or so..."Before I was married I had six theories about raising children.
Now I have six children and no theories."
~ John Wilmot, Earl of Rochester
Anyway, I've really got to pump now... I'm so engorged right now on my bad side. Ouch!
Thanks for your kind words... It really cheered me up tonight!
i hope your recovery continues to go well and bf'ing issues clear up. I can only imagine how tired you must be!
<3 Dh Jason 3/22/03
Baby #4 11/24/13
Im sorry that you arent feeling that well right now! I hope that Libby starts breastfeeding better soon! I also hope that your DH will start helping out a little more soon!
I am glad to hear that bfing is getting a little easier. I hope it continues and that Libby will become a little happier. Hopefully your dh can step it up a bit to give you a break.
Mommy to three gorgeous girls
at 6 weeks 22/10/09
I am so sorry to hear that you are having a rough go of it.
I too have SPD and it sucks! I hope that the pain begins to resolve soon. You can try to manually push on both sides of the pubic bones to be sure they are in alignment (while lying on your back) but it is pretty hard to get the right pressure. There are also some soft tissue releases that you can do to help. PM me if you need some more help. I am stuck here in Abilene TX (middle of nowhere west Texas) and there are no practitioners - chiropractic or physio therapists- that treat it. I am worried that I may require surgery after I get done having babies. Have you ever been treated for it before? I saw a good doc after having DD and he measured the separation. If the gap does not close after delivery, there are other more invasive options. . . I do not know how well any of them work. I believe teegs ? also has severe SPD. She might have other ideas.
I will be praying for you to heal and that you have lots of helps and support!
Ah man, I'm so sorry about the family issues. It's hard for men sometimes to balance the needs of the wife and the monatery needs of the family. I think they just get it into there head that it's best that they bring in the money since we can't and that way we'll have the "things" that we need. On a possitive note, I'm really happy to hear your breastfeeding is getting better! At a whole bottle a day, you should be able to leave her for an afternoon on the weekend and sneek off to do something for yourself Please KUP on how your doing and take care of your self.