Yay for an update! Your kids are all too cute. I love the big sister signs the 2 older girls look like they made a taped to their shirts! Hope he gets that latch down like a pro.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
A little postpartum update...
I thought i was going to lose it yesterday. I think it may be normal to feel this way after a week of barely any sleep, processing birth, learning all about a new human being who is 100% dependent on you for food, health, and love, and having parents living with you for nearly a month now. (Not that I am not grateful!!! I know mom's going a little stir crazy too!)
So W. has not really learned how to nurse well yet. He has a hard time getting the latch right and often gives up on the sucking after just a couple of sucks. So then he ends up more chewing on me until i can try to fix it, and that gets him frustrated, and my milk doesn't let down, etc, etc.
Saturday night I was up with him almost the whole night, and then yesterday he REALLY started having a hard time, to the point that I was very engorged on one side and floppy on the other. At one point yesterday it was 6 hours before i could get him to latch and drink anything from either side, and that was after hours and hours of trying over and over (not successively, but with many attempts over many hours). But actually, I think I did spend up to an hour trying a couple of times. I read on kellymom this morning that you aren't supposed to try to latch for more than ten minutes at a time, so I was making a mistake with that yesterday. Kelllymom was very helpful with that tip as well as a reverse compression for the engorged side. Also, making sure baby isn't starving by the time he tries to nurse. That was the other problem yesterday. Everyone else wanted to hold the sleeping baby...DH, my mom and my dad. Well he just doesn't wake up when he's held all the time and so we went WAY too long without a feed and he was upset and i was engorged.
By the time everyone else had gone to bed, only DH & I were up and I was still trying to get W. to eat, and I was just sobbing by then. I felt so miserable and I was all sweaty and covered in dripped out breastmilk and he just wouldn't eat and my back was killing me from the strange positions I had been in all day trying to nurse. it felt awful.
Oh, and i had had an upset moment with DH...after the kiddos went to bed i wanted to bathe W. And since DH had been complaining that he hardly gets to hold his new son because he's at work, I welcomed his help with the bath. So he got him undressed, and I was trying to fill the tub, and it kept leaking out, like three times this happened, and the phone rings and it's his dad and they start talking about FOOTBALL of all things, while the baby is crying because he's naked and the tub is leaking, and I really thought he wanted to help with this. After several discreet attempts at trying to get his help, I finally had to say "I think this is a little more important than FOOTBALL right now!" So he finally did explain to his dad that we were bathing the baby and had to go (his dad would have totally understood if he had said that to begin with). So then the actual bath took like 3 minutes, and it was done, and I said, you can call your dad back now if you want to, and he was totally pouting and like, it's too late there now. Whatever. i was so mad because i just felt like the bad guy.
Baby crying. I will continue this later. I need to get this out!
Ok, so it's not that big of a deal, but I was already past my breaking point with the nursing going bad, etc. So once we get upstairs he was very kind and understanding, I think once he saw me crying he realized how bad i was feeling. Things ended on a good note for the night with him, but that was just one of those moments where I was like...arrrrgh!!! you know?
So the night went pretty bad for me and W. I took a shower while DH held him, but then DH went to bed and it was just the two of us. That's one of the things that makes nights with a newborn either great or not great. Great when everything is going well and peaceful, and it's nice to just spend as much time as you want to staring into his face and getting all googly over him. Not great, when the house is full of other people sleeping peacefully, and I am struggling to get my very hungry and fussy baby to latch on, while my nightgown and his blanket became completely soaked in milk because all my other clothes were in the washing machine.
And did I mention that me feet are swollen to twice their size? Can't even fit into my slip-on crocs. So I have not been able to take a walk around the block. Unless i went barefoot but it's wet and chilly. And that would be gross.
Ok, so W. has done a little better today with nursing because I have been very careful to not let him go more than 2 hours between feedings, and also with a bit of luck that it hasn't taken him quite as long to latch today. Thank goodness!!! BF-ing can be SO hard at first but it's SO worth it. i am not about to give up. Plus I didn't not get more than 3 hours of sleep last night, but two of those hours were in a ROW! That really helps a LOT! 20 minutes at a time does not cut it, even if it adds up to more.
That vent was very needed.
Vent away! That all sounds super frustrating, especially considering how exhausted in general you have to be on top of situations that would make anyone crazy even well rested! However, thanks for sharing, because it's nice to know that now when I have days like that, which I know I will, I have evidence that it is normal and happens even to very experienced mamas, and it's not just me!
I hope your little one continues to do better with the nursing. Sounds like making sure he eats regularly whether it's his idea or not is a good plan.
Sounds like it's been a tough week. I'm sorry that he's not latching well - but good for you for keeping up with it. He will get it eventually. It's usually around this time I say never again we're done... between nursing and all the discomforts plus trying to feel normal again and having no sleep on top of that...but it does get better as you know well I'm sure. ((hugs))
Big hugs to you. Vent away. I'm so sorry he has had a hard time latching, I know things will continue to get better.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
That sounds so frustrating. I'm glad he's latching a bit better for you now.
I can totally relate to your DH on the phone story. My DH will take a call no matter what we're in the middle of doing and then call me rude for interrupting him, even if I can hear he's just talking to my brother about fantasy baseball or something stupid like that. It drives me nuts.