I'm putting Drew's birth story in a seperate post so the previous one isn't so long. I've never written his story, only spoke of it so I'm not sure how this is going to go. It is likely to be long though...
I found out I was pregnant with Drew on DH's 30th birthday. I thought it was a wonderful birthday present, he although very happy was a little overwhelmed at turning 30 and finding out he was going to be a daddy on the same day. My pregnancy was very uneventful and I really enjoyed being pregnant. Towards the end, like all moms-to-be I was ready to meet my child. I had a gut feeling I was having a boy but we did not find out the gender before he was born. Drew was born 10 days post his "due date" by c-section for failure to progress after an induction.
I was planning a NCB with DS. I felt that I was really educated on the NCB process, different positions to labor in, how to deal with contractions etc. I was excited to birth him and I couldn't wait for the day he would arrive. However, I was not aware of the dangers of indcution.
At 41.2 days I had an OB appt. All was good except that my blood pressure had gone up about 30 points and I gained 3lbs in 3 days and was fairly swollen. Dr. A(my OB) felt we should induce and we agreed. I was not dilated and only 50% effaced so I went in that night for the cervical ripening agent. In the morning, I was 3cm and the pitocin was started. At noon I was 4cm and Dr. A broke my waters. At 4pm I was still at 4cm. For the previous 8 hrs I had been changing positions, walking the halls, squatting, sitting on the birth ball etc. I had continuous monitoring but they had a telemetry unit so I could move more freely. Dr. A was not on call that night but encouraged me to do what I was doing and that everthing would be fine. About 5pm the on-call doc, Dr. V came in, I was still at a 4. He said "you can continue to labor if you want, but you will need a c-section" and walked out. DH and I looked at each other and said WTF??? We asked the nurse what his deal was and why only 45min prior Dr. A said things were OK and Dr.V had a totally different point of view. She basically made up some BS answer.
I don't remember if the pitocin had been increased throught the day or not but by 7pm I was done with the pit contractions, so I got an epidural. The anesthesieologist(sp?) was wonderful and I had almost immediate releif. I think I slept on and off until close to 10pm. Dr. V came in and said I was still at 4cm. I don't remember what he said to us except that a c/s was the only way DS was going to come out. I was SO upset. I think I was wailing actually, DH said he could hear me down the hall when he went to tell his parents. The nurse came in and asked why I was so upset about having a c/s. I told her that I wanted the baby on my chest right away, and that I wanted to nurse right away, and I didn't want to be seperated from my baby, that I didn't want to have surgery and that my brother was getting married in 6 weeks, I had already missed my sisters wedding(2 weeks before) and that I didn't want to still be recovering. She brought in the nurse that would be caring for the baby who assured me that the baby and I would be seperated for the shortest amount of time and as soon as I was in recovery that she would bring the baby to me to hold and nurse.
When Drew came out I didn't hear him cry and I got really scared b/c there had been meconium in my water. They told me he was fine. I had to ask if the baby was a boy or girl! The first good look at him I got was when he was on the scale and I said "god he's fat!!" lol. He was big, 9lbs 1oz. He had a 4cm bulge at the top of his head from pressing against my cervix, but he was beautiful. Even now everyting is still a blur, I had no concept of time I was so out of it. DH and Drew went to the nursery and I went to recovery. I have no idea how long I was there for but it felt like a long time. I think I finally asked where the baby was and DH brought him to me a few minutes later. The nurse helped me put him to breast but I couldn't even hold him there I was so out of it. I think I got back to my room around 1 am and I was finally a little more with it.
I found out later that my MIL and FIL were allowed into the nursery when DH and Drew were in there. They both held Drew before I did. DH made the mistake of telling me that he wanted to bring me Drew and his mom said she wasn't done holding him yet. To this day I get SO VERY upset that this happened. I"m not sure why the nurse let them in after I told her how much I wanted to be with my baby right away. I can't and don't blame DH b/c he was so caught up in the moment of his son being born. I didn't even want MIL and FIL at the birth at all, but they insisted and DH said it was important to him to have family there. So the first 1.5 hours of Drew's life I missed out on and MIL to this day still gloats about how she got to hold him so soon after birth
Of all the things that went wrong the actions of my in-laws have been the hardest for me to deal with. DH finally told his mom that they won't be present at the birth of this baby and she got really upset. Oh well, it's not about her. Now that he has told them I am more at peace and ready for this baby to arrive!!
Last edited by novafan; 02-17-2008 at 01:35 AM.
First Drew's birth. I am so sorry for how things went I can't believe how horrible Dr. V was!! How awful. I'm also sorry about your MIL I would be extremely upset as well & for her to still gloat over that, oh! I don't know how you don't eat her alive. I wish I could give you a big hug! My biggest wishes are being sent to you that you get a beautiful, healing & amazing birth this time. You certainly deserve it. I am glad that your in-laws wont be there, that is good.
Now some comments for your previous post.
You have my "I'm not worthy" bow from me I think your one brave mama to be transitioning your ds to a bed esp. at 19 months lol I hope that things begin to calm down & that your little guy not only begins to feel better but also sleeps better soon.
It sounds like you've done a lot of emotional work, how wonderful!! I had horrible ppd after the birth of my 4th son so in a way I can relate to how hard that is, I hope that your pp time with this next baby is ppd free ((hugs))
Sun!! Oh I'm jealous - it's miserably cold here right now lol
You have my "I'm not worthy" bow from me I think your one brave mama to be transitioning your ds to a bed esp. at 19 months lol I hope that things begin to calm down & that your little guy not only begins to feel better but also sleeps better soon.[quote=chimmy;27213347]
lol Chimmy! I think I might be just plain crazy! My rationale was that he needed to move rooms, and I didn't want to do 2 transitions(one to the new room and another to a bed at a later date). I also didn't want him to associate the new baby with taking over his room and bed. And I really thought in my heart of hearts that the transition would go alot smoother than it has. Oh well, it's too late to go back now.
Thanks Cindy! I sure hope the whole experience surrounding this baby is entirely better than my experiences with Drew.
ETA...I apparently don't know how to quote other messages very well
Last edited by novafan; 02-18-2008 at 12:44 AM.
Reason: more stuff
I can totally see your rationale though, I did something similar with Seamus while pregnant with Isabelle although he's still in his crib - I'm wimp & actually hope he stays there until he's 2.5 LOL
I'm always impressed when someone has an easy transition from crib to bed, none of my boys were easy.
You've reached 38wks! How are you feeling? For some reason reaching 38wks is always a neat milestone for me. I'm excited to find out what your having Do you have an inklings as to what the gender might be?
Yey!! I"m at 38 weeks, I can't believe it!! This pregnancy has gone SO SO fast! I am feeling very ready for this baby to come, especially physically. Throughout the pregnancy I have prepared myself to be pregnant for 42 weeks (i have a maternal history of late gestations) but I really don't want to be pregnant for that long!! Who does?? A few days ago I was feeling like the baby would be coming by the weekend, now I"m not so sure...I think that he/she is very comfy and will be in there for at least another 10 days.
I don't have any inklings what sex the baby will be. With my 1st I had a gut feeling I was having a boy and I was right. This time..nada...no gut feelings at all. I do have boy and girl coming home outfits so we'll see which one we use!
I had a MW appt today. All looks good and I lost 3 lbs The baby is finally in a head down postion although not engaged. I had her check my cervix today just to see if the EPO is working at all or if I need to step things up. The cervix is still slighty postierior, soft and she thought about 1cm dialted but not certain. So I"m going to step up the EPO to 2 capsuls and use DH for his goods He'll be very happy about that.
We haven't decided on names yet. We've narrowed it down to 2 first names for each sex but can't decide on middle names. Our last name begins with 'K' but sounds like 'knife' or 'knight' and is 4 sylables long.
Margaret Caroline Ryan Matthew
Margaret Claire Ryan William
Erin Claire Ryan Patrick
Emily Claire Matthew William
Margaret Abigail Matthew Oliver
DH vetos most names I come up with and visa versa If we name our girl Margaret we'll call her Maggie. Erin and Ryan flow with the rest of our first names together but does that matter? No one IRL knows what names we're thinking of b/c everyone is too opinionated(sp?) but I welcome your feedback!