~Laura's (Winky_the_House_Elf) Birth Lodge!!~

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~Laura's (Winky_the_House_Elf) Birth Lodge!!~

It occurred to me after the preggo check-in thread that you need a lodge! Welcome!!

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Congratulations! Welcome to your lodge!!

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YAY!!! Welcome to your lodge Laura!

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Yay, you have a lodge...one I am most interested in reading!

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welcome to your lodge. looking forward to your into.

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Congratulations on your lodge. Enjoy these last few weeks!

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Cool! A lodge! I didn't get one last time. Smile Here's my intro:

Dh and I have been married for 9.5 years (hard to believe it's been that long). Our oldest is 8 years old. When I was pregnant with her I wanted to try a natural birth. My mom had all six of her babies without pain medications. My MIL had mostly unmedicated births with all four of hers (her doc forced an epidural when dh was crowning, which didn't take effect until after he was born :rolleyes:). MIL had her last baby in a freestanding birth center.

So, I figured if they could do it, I could to. I thought I was pretty well educated. I read What to Expect When You're Expecting. I took two hospital-based childbirth classes (one generic 6-week, get my epidural class and one natural childbirth Lamaze class). Unfortunately, neither class did not really educate me about my options. They were more like orientation sessions for the hospital. I learned all about when would get x, y, z intervention.

I saw a family practice doc rather than an OB and here I lucked out somewhat. While he definitely approaches birth with a more medical mindset than I'm comfortable with, his intervention rate is still much lower than a typical OB. I went into labor at 38 weeks, but it was prodromal and instead of getting support for the great work my body was doing I kept being told "false labor". I also got a shot of narcotics that slowed things down. I think if I had been given support and not drugs things would have picked up on their own.

In the end I consented to a pitocin induction about 4 days before my due date. I was due on Memorial Day and I do wonder if that factored into my doc's "mercy induction" offer. Several times during the course of my elective (no medical reason) induction my nurses reassured me that my doctor "wouldn't do anything that isn't safe".

I lucked out again in that my labor was only 7 hours and it resulted in a vaginal birth. I did have a number of interventions (pitocin, IV, continuous monitoring, AROM, amnioinfusion, narcotics, oxygen, epidural). I'm very grateful that nobody knew I was completely dilated until dd was crowning because I only had to push for 20 minutes.

It was pretty deflating and detached to give birth with an epidural. I felt like I was watching someone else give birth. The no pain was great, but I hated the paralysis and not feeling like an active participant in my baby's birth. Post-partum my baby was taken away (thankfully I got to nurse her first). The nursery nurse gave her a bath which caused her temp to drop which meant they "had to" keep her in the warmer for several hours. The most depressing moment I think was when I was left alone in an empty and dark delivery room with no baby and no husband (he went with our baby). I was unable to move so I couldn't even reach the phone or TV remote. It was horrible.

Anyway, that experience taught me quite a lot. When I was pg with #2 I started to actually research my options (ie. I read factual-based info rather than American OB propaganda ;)). I already knew I didn't want an epidural again. For the first part of my pregnancy I saw my same doctor, thinking that if I knew what I wanted I could get a natural birth in the hospital. The more I read and thought about my options, though, the more I realized that the type of birth I wanted was unlikely to happen in a hospital setting. I ended up switching to a home birth at 26 weeks.

I have never felt comfortable with the whole "pain with a purpose" philosophy when it comes to labor pain, so I was determined to find a way to reduce or eliminate it without drugs. I found hypnosis (first HypnoBirthing, then Hypnobabies). I took my practice very seriously and ultimately had a lovely, 5-hour, pain-free home water birth. It was fantastic! Biggrin I felt so powerful, so connected, so in control--everything that was lacking during my first baby's birth.

That wonderful birth experience contrasted with my first horrible birth experience and I felt passionately that I wanted to help other women have good birth experiences. I became a doula and later a childbirth educator. I now teach Hypnobabies (which I also use).

My last three babies have been born at home in the water using hypnosis as will this little baby! Smile I'm using my midwife for the fourth time and she's great. She really gives me a sense of trust and respect that I love. I've also hired a fabulous doula who I know will be so helpful during the birth. She's been great during my pregnancy!

I'm 35 weeks now, but all of my babies have come early. #2 came at 38. #3 came at 37. #4 came at 38.5. I'm guessing somewhere around 38 weeks for this little one. Smile

That was longer than I intended, but there ya go! Smile

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Welcome to your lodge Laura!

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welcome to your lodge!

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welcome to your lodge Biggrin

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:woohoo: congrats on your lodge! Smile Wonderful intro too!

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Welcome to your lodge and great intro!

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Welcome to your lodge! Great intro!

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Hi and Welcome! Great birth stories!

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Welcome to your lodge!! I can't believe your so close to having her.

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welcome to your lodge, thank you for sharing your first birth experience!

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It's so nice to hear your birth stories, and very inspirational. makes me want to stop slacking so much on MY Hypnobabies.

WELCOME WELCOME to your lodge Smile

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Congrats on the home stretch. Great intro!

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Congratulations! Looking forward to sharing your journey.

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"SaucyVidel" wrote:

It's so nice to hear your birth stories, and very inspirational. makes me want to stop slacking so much on MY Hypnobabies.

Me too!!

Welcome to your lodge Laura! I can't wait to hear about another successful Hypnobabies birth!

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Congratulations, Laura!

You've now reminded me that while in transition with Xander, I looked at DH, and said, "next time, MAKE me do the Hypnobabies!!" I'd started it at 36 weeks with Mikayla, which was too late for me to get it figured out, and then kept procrastinating with Xander and never got my new CDs (the kids had ruined the tapes) so I was just winging it again with him. I'm going for it this time.

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Go for it, Kelly! Smile

Well, I had big plans for today in terms of nesting-type activities, but I think this morning's playgroup at the park and swimming lessons have done me in. I do need to organize what we're doing this fall for home school so I might work on that at the computer for awhile.

Dh decided that I'd enjoy the rest of my pregnancy more if we had a housekeeper (not gonna say no to that!) so we've got cleaning ladies coming this afternoon. Yippee! He wants to keep them for several weeks after the birth as well. I'm hoping to find a way to keep them indefinitely, lol.

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What a great DH you have! Yeah, Kevin just says that I don't need to be cleaning, but yet nothing ever gets done uless I do it. :roll: So :woohoo: for the help!

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Your husband has got to have a talk with mine! I would LOVE a housekeeper for these next few weeks. Enjoy it Smile

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Welcome to you lodge! And congratulations on getting a house cleaner, I am truly envious.

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Well, today was busy, but it was outside-of-the-house busy. We had swimming lessons again and then I dropped my older girls off at a club they do while I took the younger two with me to the grocery store and Costco. I bought several frozen meals because dh does not cook and I want to eat decently after the baby is born. Wink I specifically purchased the types that could be microwaved, thrown into the oven, or dumped into a skillet on the stove. Hopefully he can manage that.

On the baby front I've been having lost of practice waves (what we call contractions in Hypnobabies), especially after going to the bathroom or walking around. I typically have this warm-up for days or weeks beforehand. I'm working on getting my baby turned around from posterior to anterior and I'd like that to happen before my birthing time begins.

My doula called me this morning to tell me she found a doula-in-training who is willing to come be my kids' doula. And she's FREE! Biggrin I was worried about what to do with the kids since there's nobody I feel I can rely on and be ok with them attending the birth.

I scored some cute print PUL on diaperswappers today, too. I don't know if I'll have time to sew them into new diapers before the baby comes, but eventually I will.

Having the house cleaned not by me was great! Smile

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What a sweet dh for getting a housekeeper!

Congrats and welcome to your lodge. Smile

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That is so great that you will have a doula for your kids, that is a great idea!

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YAY for cute PUL and housecleaners!!! Both sound right up my alley. Smile

What are you doing to get baby to turn?

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That's awesome that you'll have a doula for your kids!!

How do you know baby is posterior and what do you do to get him/her to move?

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Yeah DH for cleaning! That is wonderful you found a doula for to look after the kids!

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My doula has me doing a whole regimen of positions. She's very knowledgeable on how the pelvis works and what movements a woman should use to get her baby in a good position. I start in hands and knees, then I lift my head to look forward/up. Next I go down into child's pose and take a deep breath there. After that I go back to hands and knees, looking down, and tuck my pelvis under. Repeat for 20-30 minutes.

I'm going to the chiropractor on Friday morning as well and will probably see her 2-3 times.

I know my baby is posterior because it's all kicks in the front, my belly is indented at the belly button, and my midwife felt my belly and confirmed it.

My doula also had some affirmations for me about baby rotating that I've been repeating. Have I mentioned that my doula rocks? Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge!!!! Your doula sounds awesome!!! I loved your intro. It was very inspiring for me and makes me want to go practice my Hypnobabies right now! I hope your baby rotates into the perfect position!

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That is a really neat idea to have a doula for the kids Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! I'll be asking about those positions maybe a little later. I think my baby is posterior right now, but my midwife says that there is still time for him to rotate. I hope your baby rotates soon! Biggrin

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I think we've solved the mystery of the posterior baby. I went to a ICPA pregnancy-certified chiro this morning. She gave me a thorough exam and my pelvis is quite torqued. When I slipped on the ice in February and broke my elbow I think that's a major factor into my pelvic misalignment now. She adjusted me today and I'll be going in 2 or 3 times next week, too. She said that once it's all in place it's likely the baby will rotate and I'll go into labor. We'll see!

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Fingers crossed that the chiropractor helps. I really miss going for adjustments this pregnancy, I think it really helped me last time.

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I'm sure that will make a huge difference in your baby's position!! Just make sure to keep it up! Smile

Pics of the PUL?

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I'm so glad that the chiro had some good news for you. I'm sure that baby will rotate in no time. You hit on something very interesting...so if my belly is indented, it's a sign that Matt is still posterior? I have been feeling kicks very far back on my side, but my belly is still indented a bit. That's so cool to know. I sware, this board is so cool. Ya'll have the best info!

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Hopefully, between the chiro and the positioning exercises, you'll be able to get that little one to turn around.

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I hope getting your pelvis realigned does the trick!

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Welcome!!!!

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Some friends of mine held a mother blessing for me tonight. Here's a pic of my henna belly:

They also made me a bracelet with beads that mean different affirmations. It was really nice. I'll be 36 weeks tomorrow and am starting to feel ready to welcome this new little one. Smile

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I love your henna belly...you look beautiful! I like the bracelet idea too, do you have any pics of that?

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Laura, you're so beautiful! Thanks for sharing that picture with us. Smile

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you look gorgeous with you henna belly!

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What a gorgeous henna belly!

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Laura, that was beautiful!!!

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Gorgeous!!! TFS!

I love the idea of putting affirmations on your bracelet how creative!

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Thanks. Smile What was neat about the affirmations is that they wrote them before I shared some of my specific fears/concerns and there was an affirmation for each one! I was amazed by that. I plan on wearing my bracelet constantly from now on. Smile

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what a cool belly!!!!!!! and I'm not sure I've seen a picture of you before, you're so pretty! Smile that's great that you had the affirmations, sounds really neat.

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