Your midwife sounds amazing - I totally respect her for having the discussion with you now. She seems to really understand who you are and what you want and need from this birth.
I don't regularily have dreams either so I agree with you that your dream about Jonah is important. I am interested to see how it plays out in reality.
Mommy to three gorgeous girls
at 6 weeks 22/10/09
I still feel like a bit of a headcase for being so affected by a dream, of all things, I am fairly skeptical on things like that most of the time. I need to get up my courage to mention it to DH, he'll probably think I'm nuts!
BTW, I think you have a wonderful team working with you for your VBAC, sounds like everything possible will be done to help you work toward your goal.
Last edited by kris_w; 09-20-2010 at 11:46 PM.
Getting caught up here, I loved your intro. That is pretty crazy about the vivid dream, I think my DH would think I was a bit nutty too , he always does when I tell him about my dreams!
Taryl - I went in with the attitude that I would do anything as long as the baby came out of the birth canal. This went a long way with my care providers and I got the perfect natural birth (save IV fluids). It also helped that I showed up at 6cm where I got stuck with Zane. I think sometimes they want to hear that you are open to stuff to assess how well mentally you have gotten over your first birth.
Jonah is a great name. Could you use it in conjunction with the name you've discussed?
I'm not super attached to the boy name I've chosen anyhow, and DH was surprisingly supportive of the whole acid-trip dream scene I was on He likes the name (it's Hebrew for Dove) and was fairly convinced that if reality in any way paralleled the dream to take heed, so that's half the battle done already.
Since he is a logical, scientific guy who NEVER dreams (he talks in his sleep and CLEARLY does, but he has yet to remember a single one ) I was surprised he'd take my word on it, but I suppose since this is a fairly rare occurrence for me he decided to go along with the craziness.
I feel SOOOOO lazy ladies! He is slaving away in the garage cutting the casements and trim for the stairs he put wood on last week, he's up and down and bent over all day after working a 50+ hour work week and hardly ever complains, and my chunky rear is on the couch contemplating what to make for dinner. I have laundry to do, but don't have good enough balance that I can haul it up and down half-finished stairs to DO it. Callie's bathroom needs cleaning, but the fumes make me feel faint (Tilex and pregnancy don't mix!), and it's all I can do to just keep the main floor of the house picked up everyday after the toddler whirlwind. I feel quite good, but it is just a fact that I am less capable of the same sort of energy level and maneuvering that I am when not pregnant, and when he's working his butt off FOR ME, to beautify MY house, I feel like such a slug He's so handy and smart, and I feel so lucky to have him, but some days I feel I am not doing enough compared to him.
I know it's silly, and he's assured me I do more than enough each day with Callie (like taking care of a happy toddler is *so* hard compared to engineering 200 foot bridges and architecturally funky office buildings!) but I am not even on top of the basics most days, it's so hard to do anything but pick up after the baby and loaf. At least when the next baby comes I'll have a LEGITIMATE reason for walking around in an exhausted daze. I am so lucky to have such a supportive husband, he does his share AND helps me with mine, he's so good with the baby and about the least demanding individual on the planet.
*sniff sniff* I just wish I could be the kind of wife he deserves these days. I know he doesn't care, but it bothers me! I guess we all just do the best we can and the days roll on. I try to let him know how much I love and appreciate him each day and it seems to be enough. Which is good, because it's such a struggle to do more than that!
Aww, it sounds like you have a great DH. That's awesome that he does so much for you and doesn't make you feel bad about being tired and not being able to do everything you want.
As far as the dreams, that's actually how DS got his name. We knew he was a boy (from the u/s) and had a list of names we were considering. Then one night I had a dream that we named him Ian Michael, which wasn't on our list. DH really liked the name, the meaning was significant for us, and we sort of tucked it away for awhile, then ended up actually using it for DS. So if you're crazy, I am too. LOL
Oh, I love the name Jonah! I actually suggested it to dh but he nixed it Funny about those dream things . . . another possible name came to me in a dream state too. But as of now, this baby remains nameless (and it's stressing me out!).
Glad your dh is taking good care of you!