~~**awini8's (Alicia) Birth Lodge**~~

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~~**awini8's (Alicia) Birth Lodge**~~

You're due the day after me, you should have a lodge!! Blum 3

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Congratulations and welcome to your lodge!!

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Congrats on your lodge!!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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YAY! Congratulations and welcome to your lodge!

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First I'd like to thank all of you for such a warm welcome! I love this board!:bigarmhug:

My name is Alicia (27) and DH is Troy (30). I met DH a little over 5 years ago in a bar. He was in a band with a few good friends of mine whom I had not seen in a long time. I was still in college at the time, so I drove 2 hours to see my old buddies and little did I know I would meet my soul mate that night. We had an instant attraction to each other and felt as though we knew each other before this first meeting. We both feel we have been together in a past life or at another time. Before our meeting my DH dreamt he would marry a girl named Alicia and oddly enough we both grew up during our adolescent/ teen years in the same town, had similar circles of friends, and had attended some of the same parties, but never met!!! It seems like it was just destiny that our souls would keep crossing paths until we met.

So after our initial meeting we were inseparable from that point on. We started dating and really hit it off. We moved in together about 6 months after we started dating, a year later bought a house, and on my birthday (March 20) 2 years after we started dating he proposed. We had a very quick engagement. We always said we would get married after I finished grad school. I finished up in May and we married July 16, 2005. I did all of the planning for our wedding. We wanted an untraditional wedding on the beach. A good friend of ours married us. She is a Native American Shaman. DH and I wrote the ceremony we wanted and it was just beautiful.

Here are some pictures of our wedding:

We also have two dogs Sophia a Boston terrier and Samson a Pomeranian. We got Sophia first as a puppy and rescued Samson after we returned from our honeymoon.



I always knew I wanted children, but we wanted to wait a few years to have “couple time” before taking the plunge. We decided to go for it. I teach full-day 4 and 5 year old public pre-kindergarten, so we wanted to try for a spring/summer baby. Timing was very important to me, so I read TCOYF charted my temperature/CF and I got pregnant the third try. I got my first positive test on Halloween! I didn’t think I was pregnant this time. I was really trying not to get my hopes up and bam 2 dark pink lines!!! I was floored and called DH on the phone right away (he was still at work I just couldn’t wait).

We did decide to find out the sex of our baby and we had our big ultrasound on Valentines Day. He was not shy. DH squeezed my foot before the tech turned the monitor toward me. The first shot on the screen was a money shot!

We are just thrilled to be having a son.


We are first timers so I don’t have any birth stories to share, but I have been inspired by so many of you on this board. I feel very confident about my decisions regarding a natural birth. I feel I have done a ton of research and feel well informed about my decisions. I have always envisioned myself birthing in a tub even before I got pregnant, so here is hoping for a beautiful water birth!

Pre-pregnancy-I look so little! I am still amazed at how the body grows so beautifully when pregnant.


Here are my last belly pics. I need to take new ones. I’ve been lazy. 34 weeks

To prepare for my baby’s birth I am practicing Hypnobabies and nesting like crazy now that I am off of work! Thanks for all of the warm welcomes and for reading!

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Welcome to your lodge! I loved your stories and pictures.

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Alicia - you are too cute! I love the pictures. And the story of you and your DH is wonderful (especially how he knew he'd marry an Alicia). I can't wait to hear how hypnobabies works for you - I wish I had known about it with my first. But I went the Bradley path, and stuck with it.

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Great intro Alicia!!! I'm so excited for you to have your lodge already. Time sure flies when you're having fun, huh?!?!? Congrats on your lodge and welcome again!!! Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge! You look great! Very sweet how you and dh met! Biggrin

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Congratulations on your lodge. I loved reading your intro and seeing the pictures of your wedding. Beautiful!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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So I have a list started for my birth bag. I don't plan on packing it until I go into labor. We live very close to the birthing center and I hope to labor at home as long as possible. I'm curious in your experience what types of things BTDT momma's suggest for down there for after the birth? What kind of pads and how many should I get? What types of things for any pain/tearing afterwards? I've heard of frozen pads soaked in witch hazel. Any other *must* haves?

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My hospital gives the frozen pads there ... I just pack clothes to go home in, pajamas (of course, now that it's summer I'm living in t-shirts and boxers at night), a boppy for nursing in the hospital, and Depends. I don't want to wear the disposable panties they give you, I'd rather bein the Depends the first few days.

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What a wonderful love story Alicia Smile We got our BFP on the same day! I called my DH too. I just couldn't wait. I wish I had some advice on the bag thing but I'm in the same boat as you. I had saved a thread where Emily listed stuff to pack that seemed pretty comprehensive so I have been sort of following that. I'm so glad you found the birth center and look forward to hearing about your wonderful birth.

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You look beautiful and congrats on being in the home stretch!

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Gwen, really? Depends??? I guess I got lucky with the girls cause I don't remember bleeding all that much. The thought of bleeding that much more this time around is kind of scary. Wink

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"coolmama72" wrote:

My hospital gives the frozen pads there ... I just pack clothes to go home in, pajamas (of course, now that it's summer I'm living in t-shirts and boxers at night), a boppy for nursing in the hospital, and Depends. I don't want to wear the disposable panties they give you, I'd rather bein the Depends the first few days.

I'll have to pack a lot more I suppose, since the birthing center doesn't give you things like the hospital does. Depends really? I bet that keeps you from making a big mess. Thanks for the suggestions.

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"furbabymama" wrote:

What a wonderful love story Alicia Smile We got our BFP on the same day! I called my DH too. I just couldn't wait. I wish I had some advice on the bag thing but I'm in the same boat as you. I had saved a thread where Emily listed stuff to pack that seemed pretty comprehensive so I have been sort of following that. I'm so glad you found the birth center and look forward to hearing about your wonderful birth.

I saved the list Emily made a while back too it was a good one! I'm curious how many pads I should get. I'd hate to have to send DH to the store because I know he'd get something I didn't want!

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So I had my breastfeeding class last night, which was very informative. The lactation consultants at the birth center are so knowledgable. I think DH learned a lot too. He seems very interested in breastfeeding. This morning he asked if it was colostrum on the bed where I was laying when I got up! I said, "No I don't think so." (since I haven't been leaking at all yet, but looked down and sure enough it was!) My BB have been sore the last few days maybe that is why.

Now, if I could just get DH to read a little bit about birth. I got him the book "The Birth Partner" and he left one copy on the plane a month or two ago and so he ordered a new one, but really hasn't touched it! He says he has plenty of time. I don't want to be a nag, but I also want him to know what to expect during birth and have a few ideas as to what he can do to support me during birth. What would you do?

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Yeah, I MADE Kevin sit at the computer and read some stuff online one night. That's as far as I've been able to get him. But I've heard good things about that book and may go off looking for it today. Glad the class went well!

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"klebanik" wrote:

Gwen, really? Depends??? I guess I got lucky with the girls cause I don't remember bleeding all that much. The thought of bleeding that much more this time around is kind of scary. Wink

Depends was perfect for the first couple of days, really. I don't think I needed it after day two though. But I bled for the first 6 weeks with each kid. I'm sewing mama cloth pads this time around - the Depends are the only thing I want to toss in the trash.

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I bought pads at BJs, so I got quite a few Smile I hate pads and know I will change them constantly.

On your DH, I know it is a little late, but is there a class you can drag him to? Or even put together your own little class and present the info to him. I made DH promise to read a thinking woman's guide but let him out of it when I found a non hospital birth class for us to attend. I'm not a nagger either but this is pretty important for him to understand. I would put a bit of pressure on him.

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So my girlfriend gave us a cosleeper we are going to borrow. I have it all set up and ordered more sheets for it today. They won't arrive until July. I don't know if it is stress about the baby coming, but DH and I have been not doing so well these last few days. This is very unusual for us. We usually don't fight and get along really well. He doesn't want to go to the pediatrician interview today because we have another appointment next week with another pediatrician. He thinks it's pointless. He isn't even coming to the second appt. with the other pediatrician since he is working (which is fine he has to work), but it's not like its a BIG waste of his time. It is important for us to talk to more than one pediatrician. I'm tempted to tell him to just stay home if he doesn't want to take a part in it. Ugh. I'm just frustrated. Sad

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Hope your pediatrician appt goes well today and you are able to find someone you click with.

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I think sometimes men just get overwhelmed by all this baby stuff and don't really feel like they're cut out to be part of it, even though we really want them to be involved.

Hope you find a pediatrician you like!

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So DH and I talked. I really think it is the stress of this LO coming so soon that has got us both at each other. We're going to work hard not to fight anymore...jeesh! It's just not like us to disagree.

So we just got back from the first pediatrician visit and it went alright. I didn't get a "great" vibe from her. She seemed fine in that she supports breastfeeding and is open to an out of hospital birth. I really just didn't feel like I connected with her at all, but on a positive note DH does like her a lot and says she has lots of experience which is true. Drawback is she does not have extended or weekend hours.

I go to see the other pediatrician on Wednesday evening. I've heard many good things about this second pediatrician. The receptionist on the phone asked where I was birthing and said they just had a new baby from my birth center there the other night. I've heard she is very AP friendly, pro BF even extended, she herself cosleeps and has breastfed her adopted children, she does not believe in CIO, and doesn't push vaccinations. This second place has a nurses line which you can call if you have questions and they have extended/weekend hours.

My midwives really want me to have a pediatrician picked by my appointment on Monday, since I will be 37 weeks and have the paperwork filled out. If I go into labor between now and Wednesday when I make my decision on this pediatrician I'll have to birth in the hospital :(. Once I have one of these pediatricians fill out a form saying they will see the baby within 72 hrs. of birth I'll be good to go. I think I'm fine. I'll be seeing this second pediatrician soon and I am strongly thinking I will be picking her. I definately have more references for her.

I can't see myself going into labor between now and Wednesday. I'm hoping not anyways!!! :eek: Here's to crossing my legs for a few days! I'd really like him to bake as long as possible anyway! Bake baby bake!

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I'm glad you and dh are doing well. It's hard this close to the end. Everyone gets on edge. :bigarmhug:

As for the pedi's, it sounds like the second one really fits into your views which is awesome. I hope you get a good vibe from her and it all works out. Good pedi's are like gold when you find them!

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I'm back to update. I've been so busy lately! So, I was able to select the second pediatrician a little earlier then anticipated which is awesome because now I can officially birth in the birth center when the time comes. DH and I took some maternity photos. DH has an interest in photography, so we decided to do them ourselves instead of hiring someone. I'll include some G rated ones below. Taking the pictures was fun. We looked up professional photos online and tried to recreate poses that we saw. The only drawback was that from doing the "outside" shots I found within minutes 6 tiny ticks on me and 4 on DH. I had to get right in the shower. I should have expected it. We live in the woods!

I also had my 37 week midwife appointment today. I got to see my favorite midwife which was a treat. I'm really hoping she will be on call when I go into labor. She is going on vacation around the 2nd and will be back around my due date so we'll see. Anyway, the baby's heartrate sounds good and I'm measuring 39 cm. She gave me some info on tinctures we can use to ripen/tone the cervix. Is anyone doing any of these?

I also got to pick the birthing room I prefer. She mentioned that they are getting another big tub (similar to the ones used in HB) for the room I like that I could possibly use if I like, since it is deeper than the jacuzzi tub in the bathroom attached to the birthing room. I'm excited about birthing in the water.


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You look beautiful! Great pictures!

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I LOVED your pictures. They turned out so good. Who did the ones of you and dh? Were they on a timer or something?

That's cool that you have an option of where to birth. Were the rooms very different from eachother? Regardless, having access to the water like that will definately come in handy.

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Replied on the BB, but you look great and I love that you did the pictures yourselves. Smile Whoo hoo on picking a great ped. What a relief, right? I'm jealous that you can birth in the water, can't do it at my center. You'll have to share all about it!

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Your pictures are wonderful. You guys did a great job.

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So I have awful heartburn!!! :eek: Last night and today I'm getting heartburn just from drinking water it is really stinky! My aunt is here visiting from out of state an she dropped by yesterday to visit. She got to see our little boy's nursery and of course my big belly! It was nice. I'll probably visit more with her as she is here all week and staying with my mom.

Also, I'm pretty sure my MW on Monday said baby is posterior. I read about some techniques to get baby repositioned in my Hypnobabies manual, so I am going to try those. I'm going to try to sit on my birth ball a lot instead of the couch. Anyone else have any suggestions?

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This is what my doula sent me when I was having really bad back pains...

- Walking along the curb outside w/ one foot on the street, one on the curb... make sure you do both sides.
- If you have stairs you can do a variation of the above by walking up the stairs "side stepping" instead of the usual stepping in front of you...again.. what you do to one side make sure you do to the other.
- Side lunge - place a kitchen chair or something sturdy against a wall and make sure you have something sturdy to hang onto yourself (another chair in front of you or something)... stand next to the chair and place your foot up on the chair and lean (lunge) into it.... turn and do the other side. If you are doing this during contractions and one side feels MUCH better than the other then continue doing the side that feels best.. this is probably the side that you need to open up to allow the baby to turn just right.
- sit on the birth ball/excersize/core ball (whatever you want to call it..hehe.. it is called so many things) as much as you can. It helps to relax the perinium and the ligaments attached to it. Do the "elvis" or "hoolahoop" by doing circles with your hips on the ball.. do clock wise and then counter clock wise. Again.. helps to open up that pelvis so baby can get into a good position and sometimes once that happens the "annoying" contractions will ease up a bit.
- you could try a quick inversion. I have heard of women using their ironing boards proped on their sofas so they are not high or anything and then saying on those upside down.. or you can prop the cushions from your couch on the floor up to the couch so that you can lay kind of diagnal/upside down for about a minute then go back up right... doing that stretches the ligaments that attach the pelvic floor to the uterus which when those are tight sometimes it's harder for the baby to get in a good position.
- any type of body work that would help relax the soft tissues (ligaments/muscles) around the uterus and back. .when those are tight they make it harder for baby to move around to get in a good position. Soak in the tub for a bit and then have hubby massage your back to help loosen the muscles (the warm bath will help loosen and soften the tissues so they are easier to work with!)... get a prenatal massage (even if it's JUST a half hour and working on your back), chiropractic adjustments.. any of thost types of things can certainly help.

For pain try warm compresses (heating pad, rice "sock"...) or a warm soak in the tub (you could add some epsom salts).. this will help relax the muscles and help relieve some muscles spasms/tension. For the actual pain ICE is good or a cold compress applied to the area it is hurting. Your husband could give you an "ice" massage. If you have any dixie cups or paper cups freeze some water in those then you just peel away the paper from the ice... he can use a rag to hold the ice and then just "massage" it onto where it hurts. It will be cold first, then have a burning sensation, then go numb... just don't hold it on ONE spot and make sure you move it around a lot.

Water, water and more water! If your muscles are dehydrated they WILL contract and spasm. So that is why when you go in for ptl they want to give you fluids first b/c water is so essential for normal tissue function. Keeping your bladder empty is also important (make sure you empty your bladder at least 1-2 hours.. when in labor about every 1 hour.. it will help labor progress.. a full bladder interferes with uterine function).

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Just getting a chance to read up on your lodge now. Oh, you have a beautiful name, BTW Wink

I hear you on the heartburn! Zantac has been helping me. Re: the posterior baby - some chiropractors can do spinal/pelvis adjustments to help your baby get into a better position.

I've heard of lots of moms using Depends for postpartum bleeding - actually, DH's grandma offered some to me for my upcoming birth! LOL

I have the same issue with trying to get DH to read/prepare for his role in the birth. He's just not as into it as I am, kwim? Plus, he's super busy. He works all day, then works on our house in the evenings & on weekends.

Anyway, looking forward to following your birth journey! Oh, and your wedding bouquet was just beautiful. Biggrin

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I love the pics! Beautiful.

On your hands & knees is helpful with posterior baby. I did a lot of that & sitting on the birthing ball with dd.

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How's the heart burn today? I hope the email from my doula helped you out some!!!

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Your pictures are beautiful! I'm with you on the heart burn, cereal sets me off so I figure I may as well eat spicy if I want it. I hope you can get that baby facing the right direction.

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Any position that has you leaning forward helps get the baby's back off yours and is good for positions both during pregnancy and in labor.

Hope the heartburn settles down. I'm debating whether I need to buy more zantac. I have one every night and I've got about a week supply left.... Will it be enough? I'm a real gambler. Smile

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I love the pictures! So sorry about the heartburn. I wish I knew what to tell you.

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So I spent the afternoon with my mom today. She did my hair and painted my toe nails, since I can't really reach them very well. Bless her! Biggrin She is so wonderful!!! I met with the pediatrician we selected tonight and she sat down with me for a whole HOUR answering all of my questions and telling me about herself and her practice. It was awesome! She is a perfect fit really. She is everything the recommendations I had for her said she is and more! I'm really very happy with selecting her.

Although the appointment went well I am extremely disappointed that DH was not able to make it. He wanted to be there, but couldn't because of his work. He NEEDED to hear a lot of the things she was talking about. She talked about so many isssues that I could really use some help discussing with him. We talked a lot about family history and the fact that he smokes did come up. He really needed to hear from her the issues with smoking and how it effects a baby. He doesn't smoke in the house, but it still stays on your clothes. I've been working on getting him to quit for 5 years now and nothing has worked. I feel so strongly about him quitting I wish I could do it for him. His parents also smoke heavily. The pediatrician said heavy smokers should really not even hold the baby because of all of the carcinogens on their clothing. I just wish I did not have to deal with smoking at all!

I know DH and I have to sit down and talk about this issue again. Ideally I'd like for him to quit. He has this idea in his mind that as soon as the baby comes he will be able to quit. Until he quits I told him he would have to change his clothes and wash up after smoking a cigarette before holding the baby. That's probably the best I can do for him if he continues smoking.

But what do I do about his parents? Has anyone dealt with this before or feel similarly about cigarette smoke? I know that there are many people who do not think cigarette smoke is a big deal, but research has proven it is damaging to a baby. I just want to do what is right for my son. :confused:

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I'm glad the meeting with the ped went so well. And that does suck about DH missing it. On previous BBs I've been on, there's been the issue of the smoking grandparents, but I don't remember some of the better advice. My recommendation? Post on the Anything board and ask for some advice there, since moms from all boards tend to post there. Wink

And that's great that your mom came over and pampered you!

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I'm so glad you found a pediatrician you like. Cigarettes and babies are a huge deal. I have no idea what to tell you. I had to quit cold turkey when I got pregnant after 15 years of smoking and will never have another one because I know it would get on my clothes and be bad for my child. Is there any literature the pediatrician can recommend for DH and his parents to read.

One thing to mention to your DH about waiting til the baby is born to quit is that the last thing you need is a cranky, miserable man when you need him the most. Quitting does not bring out the best in people and you will need him more in those first couple of weeks than you do now.

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Beautiful pics! You look great! I'm so glad the meeting with the ped. went great. I hope your dh can quit before the baby comes. My in-laws still smoke and we never go over to their house, only in the summer when its not too hot and we can be outside. It really is sad that they are missing out on their grandchildren growing up, but thats what happens when you choose to smoke. Sounds like you are getting pretty much set for baby! Biggrin

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Awe! What a sweet mom you have!

As for the smoke thing, I 100% agree with you. These is no reason it should be anywhere around a newborn. And that's how my mom had her heart attack. Cause of smoking .It is such a horrible thing to do to your body let alone expose others(a helpless newborn) to it.

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DH and I had a big talk last night. I think this LO is stressing him out more than he will let on. I know it has made me feel like I'm on an emotional rollercoster here lately. We had a long talk about everything that is on my mind and his mind and everything is much better now.

We discussed circumcision, which was a much touchier subject for him that I thought it would be. We had talked about it a few times before, but had not made a decision. I really wanted us to make a final decision on whether we were going to do it or not, since it's getting closer. I also broached the smoking topic again with DH. I know he is so sick of hearing it. He even asked if he could tune me out! and I feel bad about this, but I have to do what is right for my child. I know how hard it is to quit. I did so myself 8 years ago and it was the hardest thing I've ever done. He agreed that he does need to quit smoking and wants to quit. He said he is going to make an appointment with the doctor to see about getting on Chantrix. DH is very anti-medicine he won't even take headache medicine (so he is very hesitant), but he as tried everything else, hopefully, this will give him the extra boost he needs. I'm feeling better since we had a chance to talk.

I got a lot done yesterday while DH was at work. I cleaned out the fish tank and I worked on painting the letters of my baby's name for his wall in his nursery. I'm painting little murals on them in a rocket theme. They are turning out awesome! I just have one letter to finish up. I'm going to work on it today. I will probably do some cleaning today too if I have the energy. My feet and ankles are so sore so I'm trying to stay off my feet if I can. My feet look like sausages they are so swollen Sad I can barely fit them in my Reefs. Other than the feet I feel really good. I'm trying to stay out of the heat it's well over 90 degrees here and very humid.

A lot of people on my BB have been talking about having contractions. Maybe I'm just not there yet, but I don't think I've had any yet! Just the BH ones here and there, but I don't really notice them. Is this normal? LOL I'm thinking he will be on time or late, since I don't feel like I've had any prelabor symptoms yet.

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There has been TONS of prelabor anticipation and concern about contractions. I guess it is pretty common on the BB, this is the first I've really been involved in.

Don't worry about not noticing any contractions or symptoms. In fact, count yourself lucky! The constant anxiety about whether "this is it" is awful and makes these last weeks seem to take forever. I haven't got any "symptoms" either, in fact, I don't really feel any different than I did a month ago.

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"kris_w" wrote:

I haven't got any "symptoms" either, in fact, I don't really feel any different than I did a month ago.

Good I'm glad I'm not the only one. I thought maybe I wasn't noticing them! I'm happy you are feeling well too!

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