I'm all ears, waiting for part III! :D
I'm all ears, waiting for part III! :D
Aww thanks for sharing so far!! I really appreciate you putting it all out there like that and I hope that maybe getting it out before the birth will bring you a sense of peace about everything. Can't wait for part three ;)
I agree! Let it all hang out. That's what your lodge is for.
My degree in Conservation Biology would've gotten me no where fast if I hadn't obtained research experience while doing my undergrad. I've been working as a research technician in a microbiology lab (oh joyous rapture) to pay the bills. Now I'm moving on to the grad school thing so perhaps I can actually get paid to do what I went to school to do! If you're looking for a career change I might know some people who know some people depending on where you are located. Field work and babies are totally compatible (or at least that's what I keep telling myself)!
Waiting patiently for part III!
Thanks for sharing your story! I know my dad terminated a pregnancy with a girlfriend long before he met my mom, and he's since went through the process of finding forgiveness for himself and moving on, and now has 5 adult kids and 14 grandkids. Though I'm about as anti-abortion as they come, he's taught me a lot about never judging the decision one makes when in a situation like that.
THat's funny about how you met Erik, sounds like a great guy. Can't wait to hear part 3!
Thanks for sharing your story, Rheannon.
I love how you met Erik - too funny!!
Thank you for sharing your story! I hope you are in a place of peace with everything from the past.
I love how you and DH met!
Thanks for sharing your story!
The EPO capsules are made of gelatin, I believe. They just dissolve and absorb. :) Lubricate stuff down there. :)
I'm glad this pregnancy is working out for you. You've had quite an adventure for a life. :)
If you are worried about the EPO capsules not coming out you can just get plain oil. I never did anything with the capsules but I got some oil and just used a syringe and put it in that way. I would totally recommend using it!
I'm so sorry these are so long. I should hire an editor! This is the last installment. I promise I won't make you read any more books!
So, Erik moved in and we got the place all set up and made a room for his daughter. Her mom still lived about 5 hours away from us at that time, so it was a huge ordeal for him to see his daughter. Her mom wouldn’t contribute to the cost of transportation, or meet him halfway, so it was a 12 hr day for him to go get her and bring her up here. She’d stay with us for a week, but it was difficult because we both worked and we didn’t have childcare set up for her up here. She was 3 ½ at this time. We’d arrange a babysitter when we could, but we were both working at a grocery store, so we’d end up paying the babysitter as much as we’d earn at our jobs! On top of all this, he didn’t have a vehicle, so we’d have to rent a vehicle (my truck wouldn’t make the trip at the time, either), pay for gas and pay for childcare while she was here. It was soooo expensive and so frustrating, but she’s such an amazing little girl and really, really loves her daddy. He was a SAHD with her from age one to two and they really bonded. We tried to see her at least once a month, but it didn’t always work out that way. Luckily, about a year later, his ex graduated college and decided to move back here (both of them are locals). We went and got his daughter about a month before her mother moved back here, and when she finally did move back, she didn’t have a permanent place to live, so we pretty much had Frances full time for around 3 months. Her mother would have short visits, but she was mostly with us. With the financial help of Erik’s father, we enrolled her in a nice preschool and things settled down. When her mom finally got her own place, we began sharing custody 50/50 – one week on and one week off. It’s been this way for the past 2 years now and things are going really well. I went into all of this because it was how hard he works for his daughter that showed me what a great dad he is. He’s also a really great partner to me. Before we got together (while I was still on my dating rampage) I was beginning to resign myself to the fact that I may end up single and childless for the rest of my life. Now, as you know I’m not exactly baby crazy, but when faced with the real possibility of never having a child, it got me thinking about what is important in life. Plus, that biological clock does seem to tick louder and louder beginning somewhere in the 30’s. So, in walks Erik, Mr. Great Dad and baby fanatic. His mom ran a daycare while he was growing up and he really does love babies and kids. He’s probably changed more diapers in his life than most moms even. It’s not like we started talking about having babies right away, but I did inform him that I was running out of time and that if I did get pregnant, I would keep the baby. But, I stayed on my BC. In 2008, I quit my job at the grocery store to join AmeriCorps. I did a 10.5 month stint as a fisheries tech with the Department of Fish and Game. It was somewhat related to my degree, but I realized that fisheries isn’t for me. So, November 2009 finds me unemployed and unqualified for unemployment because the AmeriCorps was considered a volunteer position with a stipend and they didn’t take out unemployment. We decided that instead of finding another job, I should focus on my side job, which was yardwork/landscaping. I would pick up more clients and next spring I would buy some better equipment and really get it going. We also decided that I should stop taking BC and see what happens. At that same time, Erik’s stepfather was losing his battle with cancer, so Erik spent about 2 months in Mexico (that’s where his mom and stepdad retired). We decided that I was going to go down there and spend the month of December and that we were going to make a baby while we were there. Well, things got too crazy with his mom and I only spent the first week there and we both flew back together early. So, the baby wasn’t hecho en Mexico, like we’d wanted, but I conceived sometime between the 17th and 21st. So, yay, I was pregnant! Of course, I didn’t know it until around the beginning of January. I got an education grant from AmeriCorps that I could use to go to school or pay off student loans. I wanted to pay off loans, but since I didn’t have a job, I enrolled in 2 classes at the jr. college and they gave me the rest of the money in cash. We used that to live off of and to help us rent a house. We were rapidly outgrowing out apartment. We got a dog in September, already had a cat and a kid and a baby on the way and there was no way I was going to do a homebirth in that tiny, cramped apartment! Plus, I needed a place to store my landscaping equipment. It took us until April to finally find a place (the rental housing market is really tight up here). Basically it came down to the owners of the house liking us because we reminded them of themselves (small family with a baby on the way). So, we finally have a wonderful house (just renting) with a yard for our dog and cat to play in and a garage for our equipment and we even have chickens, who should start laying eggs any time now! The sad part is that during my first trimester I was too sick and tired to do much work and the weather was still horrible during the 2nd trimester. I did get some jobs done, but not as much as I had wanted. Now I’m just too darn huge to be out mowing and weedwhacking and hand pulling weeds and hauling yard waste. Luckily I was able to work for the Census for a couple of months – that job just ended a week ago, so now I just get to nest! Hopefully, after the baby is born I’ll be able to start some of my jobs again. Not right away, of course, but I will be able to bring the baby with me to a couple of places where I just do hand weeding and lighter work. Erik and I alre also planning to open a mobile barbecue restaurant within the next few years. The class I took in the spring was a small business entrepreneurial class and I pretty much wrote our entire business plan for the class. So, that’s where I am right now. It’s the first time in my life (since I was 18) that I haven’t had a job or been in school full time and it feels weird. But, I’m looking forward to expanding my landscaping business and working and saving so that Erik and I can open our own business and he can finally quit working at a grocery store. Oh, and of course looking forward to having my baby and being a full-time mommy!
Yay for a baby on the way and a house and a cat and a dog and chickens!!! LOL!! That is really a great story and you two have already been through a lot! I remember similar feelings when I was terminated (5 days before coming back from maternity leave after DD); all I have EVER done is work since age 13 and go to school. It was so weird, and still is at times, but now I am going on 20 months as a SAHM. You may find that to be your niche ;)