Dangit! A day late.
But I'm thrilled to be the one to start it for you!
Welcome to the homestretch, momma.
welcome to your lodge
Tiff + Bobby 8/22/04
Yay Molly! Nearly there....
Harmony, JM, A, & M Our preschool-at-home blog
6w5d on 6/19/07 hb of 107 bpm 10/1/07. Lost at 7w6d
CONGRATS and welcome to your lodge
DD3 & DD4 03/11
Wow, times goes so quickly! Yay for your lodge Molly! I look forward to your journey and your birth!
Ericka~Mommy to David, Paul and Adam
Thanks for the warm welcome! I can't beleive it's time for my lodge! Early last week I sat down and finally wrote out in detail my birth story for dd. I was surprised at how much I remember, yet some moments are a bit of a blur.
I will start with a little intro and how dh and I met:
I’m 31 and dh-Elton is turning 30 on May 22nd. We met in college. My junior year, his freshman year, we met at a party. I had friends visiting, who decided to head to a different party with a college friend of mine. Elton was very slick and said he would walk me home and it wasn’t until we were half way there that I realized my friends had my keys to get back to my dorm room (I lived in a single at the time). So Elton said I could hang out at his place until they got back (I’m sure you can just imagine where this is going…). We are hanging out in his room. I call and leave a message for my friends and tell them to call me at Elton’s. Well, a lot of time passed and Elton kept trying to put the moves on me and I was resisting. I finally called my friends again only to find out that they HAD tried to call me, but Elton had turned his ringer off , how convenient. So I left. For the next few months Elton would periodically leave me a message on the message board on my door or call, but I was very standoffish since I didn’t want to be a “basketball player’s girlfriend”. The team did not have a good reputation for being monogamous. Turns out I was right to be cautious as Elton actually already had a girlfriend at our school and I just happened to work in the library with her roommate. Freshman…
Fast forward to my senior year, his softmore year; He had broken up with his “girlfriend” and would constantly try to approach me in bars and such. Eventually a mutual friend said he thought we should get together. I was of course skeptical, but kept an open mind. For a good two months, Elton would stop by my townhouse and we would talk for hours. He never tried to make a move although he would ask. He had finally proven himself to not be like the other basketball players. He was one of the few actually getting a “real” degree and was very sincere and attentive towards me. We eventually started dating but I still kept a bit of a guard up. I stayed to get my masters and we continued to date even after I graduated. By that time we realized we were in this for the long haul.
Elton asked me to marry him in May of 2003 after he graduated college. Turns out he had bought the ring the August before and waited. We were married in October 2004.
And since I always get this question...he is 6'8" and I'm 5'5".
Last edited by molly_4711; 05-04-2009 at 08:22 AM.
Molly & Elton 10/2/04
Mary 5/24/06, Celia 6/9/09
DD's birth story and some pics:
The summer after our wedding we decided to “stop trying not to get pregnant” or as my neighbor puts it “we removed the goalie”. We had heard of a number of friends that had trouble getting pregnant so we said, lets see what happens. The intention was that if nothing happened in a year we would TRY for a year and then seek help if we were unsuccessful. Lucky for us we were pregnant by month 2! Unfortunately I was pregnant for our one year anniversary trip to Las Vegas! I had to take naps everyday just to stay up until 11pm! I was very lucky to only have mild nausea and sleepiness in the first trimester and my pregnancy was uneventful. We hope to go back to Vegas when I’m NOT pregnant.
Our birth experience was not exactly how we planned. My due date was May 21st, although two u/s, one at 18 weeks and one at 28 weeks, both put the due date at May 14th. Thankfully my OB did not push the 14th as my due date. I started having NSTs every 3 days starting the week of the 14th though. I went to work on the 22nd and just felt run down so I made that my last day of work since we were in the process of moving (closing date May 31) and still had some packing to do. I don’t recommend moving when you are due to have a baby!
On May 23rd I wasn't feeling as much movement as I normally did from Mary. I got up had some orange juice and eventually started to feel her move. Elton and I continued to pack and then went to the Cheesecake Factory to celebrate his birthday and then to see the Matrix 3 (he remembers that being the movie, but I totally didn’t remember that). Throughout the entire movie I was trying to count kicks and still didn’t feel confident that there was enough movement. The theatre was right near the hospital so I decided to call the doctor and he had me go in for an NST. Mary was fine, but I had very low amniotic fluid so they decided to admit me and start induction. I was not very happy since I knew this lowered my chances of a natural birth. I recently talked to my OB who was not on-call that day and he said he would have sent me home to drink a gallon of water and come back in 24 hours. Wish I had known that…I was given the option to go home and come back to start pitocin in the morning at 7am, but the resident at the time said “she’d be thinking about me all night” so this guilted me into being worried too and I didn’t feel comfortable at the time going home since I was obviously already concerned with the lack of movement…oh the things I know now that I wish I knew then!
By the time I was set up in a room to start induction I hadn’t had anything to eat or drink since the Cheesecake Factory at around 2pm and it was now around 8:30pm. They started me on an IV which took three nurses and multiple attempts (HELLO, I’M DEHYDRATED!!). I ended up with the IV in my right hand which made wiping when I went to the bathroom near impossible and I had a really hard time sleeping! They started the induction with cytotec with the intent of doing a dose every 3 hours up to 3 times. Well, Mary's heart rate was all over the place when they started the induction so they decided not to do another dose of cytotec and waited until 7am on May 24th to start pitocin. I really feel her fluctuating heart rate had a lot to do with me being dehydrated and hungry. Once she wasn’t handling it well they also wouldn’t let me eat or drink and Elton had just walked in with food for us! (another thing to ignore this time). That was when I first really cried hard.
I had prepared for the birth using hypnobirthing techniques. The pitocin was started right at 7am. The hypnobirthing techniques and the pregnancy ball were essential to keeping the contractions consistent and manageable, which by noon were coming every minute with little relief.
By 1pm I was only 5 cm and opted for the epidural which resulted in me going to 9.5 cm within an hour. At that time they broke my water. Within that hour I kept pushing the button to increase the epi! The epi helped with the contraction pain, but now I had awful tailbone pain and pressure during each contraction. It was another 2 hours before they were set up to let me push. My OB stopped in after his office hours just after 4pm and just in time to jump in for the delivery. Mary was not handling the contractions very well and before I even started pushing my OB decided to do a forecep delivery (can we say ouch!) with about 14 people in the room (my mom counted, ha ha). The nurse, who was awesome, said I was lucky my doctor arrived as no one uses foreceps anymore and after reading a number of similar birth stories I’m pretty sure she was right since most if not all ended in c-section. The cord ended up being around her neck and she was posterior. They placed her on my belly for a short time and then the nicu staff checked her over to make sure she was okay. The nurse then placed her in my arms. Shortly after that I started to feel myself fading and unable to hold her and I yelled for someone to take her from me as I thought I was going to pass out and drop her! The nurse rushed in, checked me out and gave me some food. I’m sure it was my low blood pressure, but I honestly can’t remember. Mary was born on May 24th at 4:39pm weighing 7 lbs 10 oz and 20 inches long. Her wrists and ankles were VERY dry and even cracking so she was definitely past her due date. My placenta was in perfect condition.
Shortly after her delivery we were moved to a post partum room. The nurse wanted me to go pee so she helped me to the bathroom. While sitting on the toilet things started to fade along with sounds. I said this to the nurse and she immediately pulled the emergency cord. Another nurse rushed in and they helped me into a wheel chair to go the 5 feet to my bed. I got into bed and they asked if I would want to try a catheter. I consented because I knew I had to go bad, but my body just wouldn’t do it. The catheter wasn’t bad and I immediately filled the bag! Such relief! I’ve continued to have episodes of lightheadedness since the birth and my regular practitioner believes I may have orthostatic hypotension, which results in my blood pressure dropping if I get up too fast for example. It concerned me many times when I thought I was going to drop Mary when she was a baby, but thankfully it never came to that. I really hope to avoid the epidural this time since I believe that made my blood pressure situation worse.
I'm hoping this time with the help of hypnobabies and a doula, I'm able to have a much more natural birth.
Mary in the hospital after she was born, one year, two years, 3 years (almost )
Molly & Elton 10/2/04
Mary 5/24/06, Celia 6/9/09