Yay! I can't believe I'm almost there! This is my second natural birthing lodge, I just can't believe it! I'll be back later with my intro and my other birth stories!
Okay, this is going to be long, sorry! My dh and I went to middle school/high school together. I've known him since 7th grade, but we didn't start dating until our senior year in 1997. We got married in 2001 and our dd was born in 2004. We've been through a lot, dh was in the military for 4 years, I went to college and got an associate degree in Veterinary Technology. My dh is currently going to school and will have a triple major when he is done. He will be done this Fall! He does have a promising job offer, hopefully that will work out for us. We are also planning to buy a house soon. We have been pre-approved, just need to find the right one! And I don't think I want to move before this baby is born!
Okay, so dd was born in 2004. This was my easiest birth so far. I saw hospital "medwives" and was happy with them at the time. I went into labor at 38 weeks, my first day of maternity leave! I started contractions early in the morning around 7am, was able to sleep until 9am. The contractions started to get harder and closer together throughout the day. But I tried to go on with my day, doing laundry, cleaning a little bit, finishing the birth announcements, etc. Finally around 5pm, we decided to leave for the hospital. We got there around 6pm and I was 4cm. I was hoping that I was farther along! I loved that hosp. though, they were very NCB friendly, I was able to labor in the jacuzzi tub for most of the time I was there (so relaxing!). I threw up twice and then knew I was in transition. I did ask for drugs and the midwife said I could have a 1/2 dose of nubain, but the nurse blew my vein, trying to get the IV in, so I never got any. My midwife wanted me to get into bed to start pushing, I was on my back and my mom and dh held back my legs when I was pushing. It took about an hour for me to push her out this way. Had I known that being in a more upright position was better, I probably wouldn't have had to push so long. I had my dd about 4 hours after arriving at the hosp. She was 6lbs 8 oz and 19 1/2 inches long, I delivered the placenta and we got to see the placenta afterwards, so cool. I didn't have any tears, just one internal skid marks. It was a great birth, I was so happy and proud of myself for going drug free (even though I asked for drugs!). If I would have known how close I was to giving birth, I would have held out. My midwife didn't tell me how close I was and my dh was just going along with my wishes! Overall it was a wonderful experience and I was very happy with the hospital and staff, my dd roomed in with me the whole time, they respected my wishes to breastfeed, my husband got to stay, it was wonderful.
Okay, my ds's birth is a little longer. He was diagnosed with Tetralogy of Fallot (heart condition) at my 20 week u/s and would need surgery after he was born. So needless to say, it was a very stressful pregnancy. I saw the same midwives up until he was diagnosed, then I had to see an OB too. Which was stressful also, because he was not NCB friendly what-so-ever. He also didn't want me to go past 40 weeks and I had to deliver at a different hospital, than the one I delivered w/ my dd. Def. not a NCB friendly hospital either, but it had a children's hospital and NICU. Here is his story:
Things kind of started Monday July 3rd. I had contractions on and off that day, about 20-30 min apart. But they tapered off and went totally away at about . Then they started up on Tues. morning again and were about 10-20 min apart. Not anything painful, just uncomfortable. Those also tapered off, I laid down for a nap around and they totally went away. Then around , they started coming back about 10 min apart, getting a little more uncomfortable. My parents brought my dd down to us, they had her for the previous day and night, and were going to drop her off, because I didn’t think I would go into labor. They went out to dinner w/ us, we had some yummy spicy food! I had several uncomfortable contractions through dinner, but made it through okay. After dinner, I said, well you better take Lanie back home w/ you, as I think this is it. My mom wanted to be there for the birth, so she said she would take her home and put her to bed, then to call when we left for the hospital. We got home around and they really started to pick up. Started getting painful and about 5 min apart. I was able to breathe through them pretty well and use my hypnobabies. That helped a lot, but as I felt myself getting more and more out of control, I knew I wouldn’t be able to concentrate w/ the hypnobabies as well. I was having lots of back pain during the contractions. What helped the most was I would get on my knees on the couch and lean into the back. My dh would rub my back and hips and that helped a lot. I had paged my midwife twice and she never called me back. She said she would come for the birth at the other hosp. for me, but most likely I would be having the OB deliver me. It was the 4th of July, so I figured she wasn’t on call and didn’t have her pager and was doing some celebrating. Contractions started getting really painful around , I jumped in the tub, and I told dh that I didn’t want to leave until my water broke. Contractions were 3-5 min apart. I had a few really hard contractions in the tub, I jumped out and said we need to go! Called my mom and left for the hospital. We got there around . I had several very hard contractions on the ride there, it hurt just to sit there. I was checked when we got there and was 6 cm and 90% effaced. I gave them my birth plan, they were so nice about that. I said that I wanted a midwife to deliver me. I told them that the baby has a heart defect, which was the reason I was seeing the dr I did, but he said it would be okay to have a midwife deliver me. I met the midwife after that, his name was Joe! I have never met a male midwife before and I was a little leery. But as soon as we got into the labor/delivery room he was so great. I was monitored a little bit, then he said, we can take those monitors off. They were really bothering me. They would monitor me periodically, the nurse kept asking Joe if he wanted the monitor on me, but he would say, no, she is fine and the baby is doing fine. He also said I didn’t have to have an IV in, I was so happy about that! I was in and out of bed a lot, mostly on my hands and knees in bed or leaning over a chair. My mom was there helping me breath through contractions and dh was always rubbing my back or hips. I started feeling the urge to push through contractions. Joe checked me and I was 9 ½ cm. He said if he broke my water I could start pushing. I said do it! It wasn’t painful at all, the fluid came out clear. He then checked me and said I had just a little lip of the cervix left. He was going to massage the cervix at the next contraction to get that out of there, so the baby wouldn’t press on it and make it swollen. He did and that was really painful. I was on my back for that and just had to switch to my hands and knees to finish pushing as my back hurt so much. Joe showed Eddie how to press down w/ the heel of his hand on the small of my back to really help w/ the pain and w/ the baby’s head pressing right there. I had 3 contractions that I pushed and grunted through on my hands and knees and then he was out! He was posterior (sunny side up) through most of the labor, but switched to anterior before he was born. That is what caused all of the back labor. Joe caught him and then I flipped over and held him and helped clean him and was so happy! He was born at , a little less than 3 hours after we got to the hospital. We waited until the cord stopped pulsing (that didn’t take long at all), then Joe clamped it and dh cut it. I immediately put him to breast and he latched on really well and started nursing right away. I delivered the placenta right after and was checked for tears. No tears, not even a skid mark! The neonatal team was there to check him over, because of his heart condition, but he presented well and got 10 and 10 on his apgars! He was weighed and was 6 lbs 5 ¼ oz and 19 inches. The pediatrician/cardiologist came in and said that he would have to take him to the NICU, just to watch him for the rest of the night, because of his heart. I was very unhappy because of this, as I wanted him to room-in the whole time. But I did understand and dh was able to go with him when they took him there. I had dh tape up the sign I made on his bassinet it said “Breastfeeding Mama, No bottles or pacifiers please.” I started bleeding a lot and they were a little worried about that, as my uterus wasn’t contracting as it should. (I think I didn’t nurse him long enough, before they took him away.) I was given a shot of pictocin and then another shot to help it contract. After the second shot, my bleeding really subsided and I was able to get up and clean up a little, then they took me to the NICU. I nursed him again and told the nurse I would be back in about 3 hours to nurse or to call me if he wanted to nurse before that. He was the only baby on room air in the NICU, he did really well, they were worried about is oxygen saturation. The dr told us with a baby w/ his heart condition, they expected his saturation to be in the 70’s. It was in the 80’s when he was born and got up to the 90’s (which is what a normal baby would have) before he left the NICU. He spent 6 hours in the NICU, then roomed in with me. We went home 2 days after he was born, he was nursing wonderfully, my milk came in the day we left full force! The echo on his heart when he was born went well on his heart, it was what we expected. My heart dr was on vacation, so 2 other drs looked at his echo. One said he would have to have surgery 1-3 mos and the other said several months. My dr has been telling me 3-6 mos for surgery. He actually ended up having surgery at U of M at 7 weeks old. We were there for 14 days and it was a horrible long experience. It is still hard for me to talk about, 2 years later. My ds is doing wonderful now. He did end up having to get 2 stents put in after the surgery and he will have to get those ballooned out until his heart is adult size. He really is a miracle baby and doesn't show any signs ever of slowing down.
So here we are with #3! I was actually done having babies, after going through the stress of my ds's pregnancy and birth, I didn't want any more babies. But someone had other plans for us! I was still bf'ing and hadn't had a postpartum af yet. We had unprotected sex ONCE! I said to my dh, do you think we'll be okay? He said, oh yeah, you haven't even had a period yet! I took a test, about 4 weeks later, it was negative and I was a little relieved. Then I started feeling a little funny and took another a couple of weeks later. It was positive!! My dh said, NO WAY! I can't believe it! We had an u/s to confirm it and see exactly how far along I was, I was 6weeks and due Aug. 21st.
Any plans I had for a homebirth/birth center birth with my ds went up in smoke at our 20 week u/s. (We had just started talking about it.) I started seeing a homebirth midwife right away with this pregnancy and she knew how worried I was. We did have the 20 week u/s and everything looks wonderful with this baby. We also found out that its a boy! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my midwife. She is everything I had imagined, she is more like a friend and its like going to a friends house for the appt, than to the drs. She owns a wonderful birth center and that is where I go for my appts, we talk for the majority of the appt, then we go back to the birthing suite and I lay on the king size bed, she measures me and we listen to the heart beat, the kids get to help with that and they love to do that. There is also a play room with lots of toys for the kids, so that is fun for them. I think next week is when my midwife comes to my house and brings the birth kit and tub, I'm SO excited!
Here are some pics of my wonderful family:
Ignore my pregnancy double chin:
32 weeks belly:
I'll have to post pics of my newborn/small diaper stash soon. I have WAY too many dipes for one baby, lol! I got a little carried away, as this is my first time cloth diapering a newborn!
Last edited by holly22; 07-24-2008 at 08:58 PM.
Welcome to your lodge! Your birth stories are wonderful.
I'm a bit confused though... you say your plans for a home birth/birthing center went up in smoke at your 20week us? Maybe I'm just reading that wrong....
You have a beautiful family!
Great intro and belly. TFS.
I loved your intro and I am so excited for your homebirth!
Mommy to three gorgeous girls
at 6 weeks 22/10/09
Thanks everyone! I've been feeling SO crappy lately. This has by far been my worst pregnancy and I'm usually an upbeat pg person! Maybe its just harder with 2 little ones than with 1 or none! I've had a cold the past 3 days (who gets a cold in the summer!), I have really bad heartburn, which has seemed to gotten worse with each pg. I'm having horrible swelling in this heat, I didn't even have any swelling with my ds born in July! Anyway, I hate to complain, but there are my complaints for today!
I missed my midwife appt. on Wed, because I was sick, we rescheduled for Monday. Hopefully we are going to do the home visit soon after that, because I'll almost be 37 weeks and I hate to not have stuff done before the baby gets here. I have all my diaper sewing/washing done and I have a couple shirts that I want to appliqué yet for the baby and a few things that I still want to low water immersion dye (diapers). I have a few things I want to sew for my midwife as a gift. Then I'll just be waiting on the birth kit and tub and I think I'll be done! Everything else baby related is pretty much done! My dd came right at 38 weeks and my ds came at 39 1/2 weeks, so I want to be totally done with stuff around 38 weeks.
I also have been nesting lately and I threw away 2 big bags of stuff from the bathroom/linen closet! My mom is coming down the next weekend and she'll be helping me clean my sewing/scrapbook space that is out of control! I can't wait to get that looking better. I also need to go through our bedroom and throw some stuff out, I love nesting energy! (Although its hard when you have a cold and want to do stuff!)
Anyway, theres my update for the day! Hope everyone is having a great day. I can't wait to read about more baby births!