Welcome to your Lodge!
Thanks Marjorie for starting my lodge!
A short intro:
I'm Nicole and am 32, pregnant with my 1st LO and due on May 2. DH and I met in the AMC (Appalachian Mountain Club). I had moved from rural NH to just outside of Boston and was going crazy in the city with all of the buildings. I was happy to find the AMC and meet others who lived in the city but loved hiking and the great outdoors. After some trips I decided to become a volunteer leader and took a leadership training course. DH was one of the volunteer leaders running the course and we started dating shortly after the course ended. We got engaged a year and 1/2 later on the top of Mt Tam (right outside of San Fran - close to where DH grew up). We got married in Sept of 06. I work full time doing research at a pharma company and am working on a PhD. We weren't TTC, but I was charting to do family planning and I ended up with a BFP on August 29, 2007. We were very excited and can't wait for our LO to arrive. Here are some pictures:
DH and I at our wedding:
Our LO at 19 weeks along (it's a girl!):
Our furry baby Maddie:
Our furry baby Cleo:
Me at 29 weeks (on Valentine's day):
At my baby shower at 35 weeks:
Congratulations on your lodge!! You look great!
Congrats on making it this far! You look fab!
Tell us everything about your birthing plans! What are your hopes and fears?
Welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to hearing about your birth.
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge- you look great!!
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge! Can't wait to hear about your final month of pregnancy. Another May Mom! WTG May NCB'rs.
Welcome to your lodge!!
Welcome to your lodge, I love the pictures. What is your plan for this birth & what made you choose NCB?
Congrats on your lodge! I loved reading your story & looking at your pics. You & DH make a beautiful couple.
I live in NH now (moved from VT recently) but I'm from the Bay Area so I've hiked Mt. Tam many times. What a great place to get engaged!
Hey, Nicole! You look terrific! Yay for another May mom getting a lodge!
So I thought I would tell the story of how I decided to do a NCB. I work as a scientist at a pharmaceutical company, and I am simultaneously working on a PhD in Pharmacology. I kind of always felt that being pregnant would be the ultimate experiment I could do on myself. So, once we got the BFP, I started reading about fetal development and the birthing process. Maybe it's the scientist training, and maybe it's my personality (or a mix of the two) but the more I read about labor and birthing, the more convinced I became that my body was designed for birthing and that the current medical, "cutting edge" technologies were things I wanted to avoid for my health and for the baby's health. It also helps that my parents did NCB with me and my sister and are super supportive. DH read some stuff and was supportive of NCB too. I get some strange comments from friends and coworkers who are not really on board with NCB... "you work with drugs but you won't take them to ease the pain of labor?" is pretty common. Yes I work on making therapeutic drugs but they are for serious conditions (chronic inflammation, prevention of congestive heart failure, cancer treatments...) NOT for something our bodies are normally designed to do.
I ended up choosing a MW practice that also has OBs (but I see the MWs). I will give birth in a hospital, with a MW and a doula (we hired our hypnobirthing instructor). I want a NCB, free from medical interventions. Ideally, I want a healthy and happy baby, and I will take the necessary steps for that to occur, but I totally believe I can have a normal NCB and am confident in myself and the baby. I am very excited to have the experience and I am excited for the LO to arrive and finally meet her face to face!
Lately I have been spending time reading about breastfeeding, and am pretty excited about that. It's amazing how cool breastmilk is... filled with antibodies, nutrition and even stem cells. DH and I took a breastfeeding class and I am all jazzed up about trying it out.
Until next time...
That's a very cool story. If I'd have finished my original degree I'd have been a genetic engineer. It's always interesting to me to see how people in the science field see natural things.
Helina, it's neat you are from CA! I was up in Franconia about 3 weeks ago (good friends of mine live up there). I was keeping an eye out for you as we were out and about since I figured you live around there. I went to grad school for my MS at UNH, and spent lots of weekend time in Lincoln and the WMNF trails backpacking and hiking up there. I sure wish I lived up there now but it would be hard to find a job doing what I do. Maybe once I finish the PhD...
Congrats on your lodge. You look great.
I'm terrible at keeping up with the lodges, but I'm trying! I love your wedding pic! you look fantastic!
Nicole, cool story about how you got into the idea of NCB! I work in a biomed research lab at a certain Ivy League med school (that should tell you where in NH I can be found ;)) and I also think that working in science makes me that much more fascinated by the human body and what it can do.
That's so cool that you will have your HB instructor as your doula! And it's great that you're so excited about BFing. I found it to be one of the most amazing, fulfilling, and wonderful aspects of motherhood.
I thought I would post an update on what I have been doing to get ready. Today DH and I went out to run errands and I got stuff at the drug store I will need (like super big maxi pads) and we got snacks for the labor. I have no idea what will appeal to me at the time so we went to Trader Joe's and I got stuff like flax seed tortilla chips, rice crackers, chocolate covered pretzels, dried fruit, yogurt smoothies and nuts. DH got us some bubbly water and more snacks for him (he can share mine too). Do you think those foods (or at least some of them) will appeal to me in labor? Other than that I have the baby's room ready and our room ready with the cradle. I set up a pack n play downstairs so we have a changing/napping area on each floor. I packed my hospital bag and made a detailed list to include the last minute things in it and DH packed his. We still have to put the car seat bases in our cars, but they are sitting by the door. I am also going to bring the final (I hope) copy of the birth plan to my MW for my Tuesday appt. I am going to get my GBS results then, do you think they would have called if I was positive?
I wonder how much longer it will be until our LO decides to arrive?!? Very exciting times now.
Sounds like you have everything ready to go. I was just thinking about the snack thing to. although last time I took a lot of snacks and ended up not wanting to eat anything until the next morning. Not sure what I will do this time.
sounds like you're ready! we have to put our carseat in, too.
and that snack list is makin' me hungry!
Hi Nicole, how are you holding up? You're still working, right? Have you found a way to get off your feet a little more? Also, are you allowed to drink or eat at your bench? It's hard to get in enough water (and snacks!) if you can only drink/eat on breaks.
Trader Joe's is my favorite store, your snacks sound great! I labored in the hosp for 4 days (slow induction) so I was eating full hospital meals for the first few days of that, but once things started getting really intense I wanted things like yogurt, pudding, fruit, cheese, toast, chocolate, juice, etc. The main thing though was drinking liters and liters of water. It's hard to tell what will appeal but it sounds like you've got a good variety!
I am still working full-time, and plan to until I go into labor, as long as all continues to go well. I really want to spend all 12 weeks with the baby if possible, and I don't want to have to leave work before she arrives. I had been pushing myself too hard with long days on my feet all day, but I had to cut back. Luckily for me I have two major presentations to do coming up, one tomorrow and one next Tuesday, so I have been spending at least half of each day sitting at the computer. This helps a lot since I can sit down and eat and drink at will at the computer. The pelvis pain and BHs have dramatically reduced themselves. I still really want to take a nap after lunch, but other than that, I am doing pretty well.
A friend told me to get stool softners for afterwards, any particular brand you could recommend?
Also, here is a possible TMI, yet kind of funny story from last night. DH has been super patient with me having essentially no sex drive during this pregnancy. I always thought I would be one of those women with a crazy sex drive while pregnant, but I am not interested at all, much to his dismay. I make an effort to DTD with him at least once during the weekend, since I am so tired from working during the week. So last night we DTD and then laid in bed talking for about 10 minutes. I got up to go to the bathroom and came back into the bedroom to put my pjs on. As I was awkwardly trying to put my underwear on (isn't it funny how hard underwear and socks are right now), all of this liquid came out onto the floor and my legs. We both thought my water had broken, it was clear so it didn't seem like it could have been anything else and I had just gone to the bathroom. It wasn't too much, maybe 2 ounces or so (about 5 tissues cleaned it up). So we went to bed thinking maybe labor would start up but it didn't so I guess it was something else and a false alarm. Now I am wondering if I should avoid DTD until she's born, but poor DH wouldn't be too happy about that!
Okay, back to my presentation and then to lunch!
I have no idea about the leaking fluid.
But I can relate to the no sex drive while pregnant, my poor DH, but I have been useing him to help get my cervix ready.
Today I had my 37 week appt with the MW. A bit late, as I am almost 38 weeks, but whatever. So here are the stats:
BP 120/80 (weird since it's usually 120/60 or so but still normal)
I am GBS negative !!! Hooray!!!
Baby's heartbeat ranged from 130-150 (she was asleep but woke up and got grooving).
MW and I went over my birth plan and she really likes it. I can post it if you are interested. I used website searches, hypnobirthing stuff, and some of the plans posted on here to create it.
Baby's head is still not engaged in the pelvis b/c she can feel the top of it, but she's still head down (and has been since week 32).
I also asked about the fluid thing after DH and I DTD on Sunday night. Turns out that at this point in the pregnancy the sperm mixes with all the vaginal secretions and mucous and can come out as a watery discharge. She said it could come out all watery even as late as the next morning. Apparently lots of women think it's their water breaking, but she said that would be a bigger volume. So, I guess all is well.
She also said to drink 3 glasses of RRL tea a day and to DTD as often as possible. DH is super excited about that! All in all a good appt.
Today I have been feeling a lot of pelvis pressure. I am hoping this LO is trying to engage! I am so curious about when she'll arrive. This Sunday is the full moon so perhaps that will hurry things along. All in all I am still feeling pretty good, just tired and I don't sleep very well at night, so I could keep going for awhile (good thing since it's still 2 weeks until my actual due date). Once I get past my DD I will be begging you ladies for all kinds of natural induction techniques!
One thing I had a lot of fun doing was putting together a birthing play list on my iPod. We are going to bring my iPod to the birthing center and play my tunes during labor/delivery. I think it will be cool to see what song is playing as the baby arrives. My iPod had been packed away (DH and I just mostly finished a major home renovation) so it's so nice to have it back and hear my favorite songs. I am listening right now.
Thanks for reading and hope you are all well!
sounds like things are going well for you! Putting a play list on your IPOd is a really good idea, I'll have to remember that for next time!
Okay, so I think that I might be in early labor. I have had contractions with crampy back pain since about 4pm today, and I have had an upset stomach and have gone to the bathroom multiple times. I am focusing on relaxing and drinking lots of water. I am going to bed now but I am so curious as to whether or not this is the real thing. I am going to feel kind of silly if it's a false alarm. I called the doula but not the MW yet. I am excited!
Wow, things could definitely be happening! Whether or not it's a false alarm, you're making progress. Keep us posted--I'll be checking back.
Great idea to get a playlist together! My DH still has mine from last time, too.
Good luck and KUP
Oh, I hope this is it for you ! KUP! and ELV
I hope your in labor now!!! Good Luck!!
Still no change. I am still having contractions but they are not really timed apart equally from one another. I called the MW today and she said it sounded like my body is getting ready but it still could be a few days or even a few weeks! Yikes. My big thesis committee meeting for this sememster is tomorrow afternoon, and the MW said I should still plan to go. It's on a med school campus, so if anything does start up the hospital will be right there! For tonight I am supposed to take a bath and 2 tylenols just before bedtime and get a backrub from DH. The tylenol is supposed to calm my uterus down if it's not real labor, but essentially do nothing if it is real labor. In the morning I will either head into work or call work and school and cancel the meeting and go into the hospital birth center as things progress. I will keep you updated and in the meantime hope all of you are well!
Wow, good luck at your thesis committee meeting (if you make it!)
Enjoy that prescribed backrub, too. I'm sure your body will kick into high gear soon!
I made it to the thesis meeting and it went really well. My committee loves my research project and that's nice to hear. So now I am ready for this LO to arrive. My plate is pretty much clean at work. I have a MW appt tomorrow morning and I think I will have her do a VE so I can know if I have dialated/effaced at all. Not that it will mean that much, but I am hoping these contractions have been doing something!
BTW, the bath/tylenol/backrub combo gave me the best night's sleep I have had in weeks. I highly recommend it (or at least the bath/backrub part).
Glad to hear that your meeting went well. Now you can sit back, relax, take some more baths, get some more backrubs and wait for LO.
I had a MW appt this morning. All is good with baby and me. I was curious to see if those contractions did anything productive so I asked for a VE. My cervix is soft and I am about 1cm dialated. So basically, nothing much is going on. The MW said most FTMs deliver in the week after their EDD. So, that means another 9-16 days... crazy! I hope I can make it that long. I am feeling so ready to have this baby make her appearance. I am attaching two photos DH took of me last night at 38 weeks and 4 days... my belly button is freaking me out right now (or lack of belly button).
So cute!! I'm envious. I still have an innie. *pouty face*
Well Marjorie, mine is just flat, so it's neither an innie or an outie... it's totally weird! My LN gives that darker pigment in my belly button too so it just is so bizarre...
I think it's a beautiful belly!!!
Love your belly! Sounds like things are going great and your body is gearing up!
You look great and you have a beautiful belly! Just perfect. Glad your thesis mtg went well, now you don't have to worry about that for a little while & just focus on the baby coming.
Don't worry about not being further dilated--it can happen in a near-instant! You're very close!
Today was a pretty stressful day at work. About 30 of 180 people in my department got laid off. Luckily, I was not one of them, but it is sad to be losing some of my lunch buddies. The stress level was high (they kept coming to get people all morning) and then later this afternoon we had a meeting about the changes and pep talk on the new way forward. Needless to say, I have been having all sorts of contractions (although I don't think they are real ones as they are not regular at all). I do think I have dropped even more than in the photos I posted 3 days ago (I will take some new photos and post them soon). I have felt lots of pelvic pressure so I hope this LO is getting more engaged. The day ended on a more positive note as we gathered at the local watering hole and tried to relax. DH went to a concert tonight so I am hanging out alone at home and taking it easy. Hope all of you are doing well.
I'm sorry to hear about what's been going on at your work - that would be very stressful.
You look great in your photos Nicole! I was just contemplating my navel yesterday too - mine's also flat and it is freaking me out a little.
It sounds like things are moving along nicely for you.
Yikes that would be stressful day at work. and you have a great belly BTW
Happy Sunday to all. I had DH take some new photos at 39 weeks, 2 days (to compare to the 38 weeks, 4 days) but I have to say they look the same - except I look so tired that I didn't want to put them up... so no photos today. I did manage to scratch my belly (planting pansies in the window boxes on the deck) so now I have a big red scratch just under my flattened belly button.
Today I have been pretty productive, nesting-wise. I cleaned off my desk, cleaned the guest room and put clean bedding on the bed, cleaned the bathroom with DH's help (he scrubbed the tub so I can keep taking baths), have done 1 load of laundry, made yummy french toast using cinnamon raisin bread, changed the sheets on our bed and vacuumed our room, and planted those pansies outside on the deck.
I also have spent a few hours relaxing watching the Anne of Green Gables movies on DVD. I love the books and the movies and I keep crying watching them (I know it's the pregnancy hormones).
I keep feeling lots of pelvic pressure and am anxious for this little one to arrive. Come out baby, I can't wait to meet you!
Hope all of you are doing great.
I totally understand what you mean about wanting the baby to come out. You aren't on any sorta of clock are you? I hope not it's less stressful that way!