~~~Mel02 (Melissa's) Birthing Lodge~~~

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~~~Mel02 (Melissa's) Birthing Lodge~~~

Congratulations on your lodge! I am looking forward to reading more about you, your journey and your other waterbabies!

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welcome to your lodge!

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Thanks ladies!! I came on here to post about some news I got and was excited to see I have my own lodge!! Wow this pregnancy has just flown by!!! I'll post more about me and my waterbabies in a bit and now that I have my lodge I'll post about my news in here.

I'm planning a homebirth and yesterday I went to see my backup midwife. Well as she was feeling the baby she said she didn't think the baby was head down so she wanted to do a quick u/s. (not in front of her but...) I kinda rolled my eyes, she's obviously not like my mw's, they wouldn't rush to do an u/s, she's a medicalized midwife:rolleyes: But fine I didn't want to piss her off and mess it up for my homebirth mw considering all the malpractice and how lucky she is to have this back up dr and mw. Well sure enough as soon as she places the wand thingy where she thought the head was, there was her head!:eek: She's breech. Now I know she must have just turned and thinking back, it explains why things were so different starting on Sunday. (you'd think I would have noticed a flip with this being my 4th but I just thought she was more active) So of course the news was disappointing because now I would have to get care through them till the baby turns. She asked if I was up for an aversion, and my head not being clear I said yes. So it's scheduled for tomorrow. Obviously she still has room in there to turn but the dr will not wait till next week cuz she might be too big for the aversion to be a success. (bull) So after I left I called my orginal midwife (there's like 4 mw's here it's hard to keep track lol), she's the one that was there for the care of my previous 3 and just last year, her and her other mw partner teamed up with the homebirth mw, but technically still work in their office with their dr. Anyway we were talking and she gave me ideas and stuff to do and take to turn her and then she wants to see me today to try to do her aversion since the baby just turned she thinks she might be able to get her to flip back.

So that turned out longwinded lol, but I could sure use some baby flipping vibes! I really think she will flip back, but my concern is not to piss off the back up dr or mw and still be able to wait till next week to see if an aversion is nessessary.

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Wow! I hope she cooperates nicely! Smile Best of luck, and keep us posted!

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Like I said on the BB, try the chiro. and enjoy the day on your ironing board watching some TV.

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Welcome to your lodge, Melissa! Good luck getting your baby to turn!

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Welcome to your lodge! I Look forward to hearing about your water babies! Lots of flip baby flip vibes coming your way!

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Welcome to your lodge! Definately try a chiro and check out spinningbabies if you haven't already. I'm hoping she will turn for you!

Cindy

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So I've been on my head like all night last night and all day. And the one mw wanted to see me today to get her look into it since baby was not breech last Friday. Well she's feeling around and says, I feel stupid because I swear she does not feel breech at all, but maybe I'm wrong. So we go down to the office for a quick u/s..... she's head down!!!! So no aversion tomorrow!! Although the back up dr was cool and told the hb mw that he would definitely deliver a breech baby since this was my 4th. So this day has turned into a great day!!!

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What great news-- I'm glad baby girl flipped for you...and you could avoid the version. And woot for having a doc who will catch breech. I always said that if I was term with a breech baby that I'd be driving myself to the Farm in TN....as it is hard to find folks who'll catch breech these days (but hopefully I'd be able to find someone....as this is my 4th, too.)

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I am so glad that you don't have to worry about version or a breech delivery. My MW said she'd catch a breech (one of my first questions) and I was so happy to find someone confident enough to do it.

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Go little girl!! Congrats on the flip, that 's awesome:) How cool that they would deliver a vaginal breech for you as well, I don't think there is anyone in this city that does it!

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Thanks ladies!! Now I'm a bit nervous she's going to flip back and forth and forget that she needs to really get into position lol. I know whatever she does it will turn out fine though. Although I have been feeling alot of that pressure that I got through most of my previous 2 pregnancys so it's making me think she's at least somewhat engaged? The one mw did say just by feeling she would guess she was at least -3, -4. (which I totally forgot what all that ment!! lol)

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Ok so I thought since 2 boys are at school and the other one is sleeping I can at least start my story.

I had just moved back to NJ after living in UT for a couple years and got a job working at the same hotel as my future dh. I was actually hired to replace him, he was planning on quiting. Well he ended up staying for a few months and we really got to know each other, found out his brother was my sub. teacher in high school and dh had gone to school with my brothers, so knew my family pretty well... just didn't know there were a few younger sisters at the end lol (there's 8 of us) We ended up hooking up during that time. About 3 years later he proposed to me while in Niagra Falls, he's not usually a romantic but it really was just perfect! We got married 7 months later on May 24th, 2002. I asked him if he was sure he wanted to marry me cuz I wasn't sure I really wanted kids, I didn't think I could have the patience for it and honestly, I was enjoying my free lifesyle. Well, after our honeymoon to Cabo San Lucas, it seemed to be taking me quite some time to get my energy back from all the fun we had there. My sister kept bugging me to take a pregnancy test cuz I don't normally wake up at 9am and fall back to sleep at 11am lol. So I finally did and sure enough on June 29th, 2002 I had a positive! I couldn't believe it!! We had just gotten married! DH was shocked but excited.

The pregnancy went fantastic. The only downfall was my dad passing away in Oct. of that year and starting around 5 months I started getting really bad back pain that didn't go away till 2 wks before I delivered. But I loved being pregnant and didn't mind going late. Which I figured I would since my mom was late with all but one of hers and 2 of my sisters were late with theirs. (the other sis. didn't have kids yet) But 6 days before my due date on Feb. 21st, 2003, I woke up to BH that were very steady at about 14 min apart and got closer and stronger as the day went on. At around 7:30pm my water broke, by this time I knew it was labor and was very uncomfortable but stayed home still. Then my sister came over to see how I was doing (she's a doula and she was going to take pic of the birth for us) Once she got there around 8-8:30 she figured we better head on over to the hospital. So we met my mw there, she checked me and I was 9 1/2cm!!! I was sooooo relieved! They got me in the tub and there I ended up pushing for 2 hours, come to find out he had his hand up by his face so his arm pretty much came out with his shoulders OUCH!! But no tears!! He was born at 11:09pm. DH got to cut the cord after a few mins. I was holding him in the tub for a few mins and my sister noticed I was turning white as a ghost, I think I just about passed out not really sure if I did for a min or not, but they got me out and on the bed. Apparently I had passed 4-5 huge clots and several little ones and the water was bright red. They stopped the hemorraging. I was sooo out of it I didn't even realize there was such a concern. My hemoglobin went from an 11 down to a 5.5-6. They kept me in the hospital for 3 nights just to keep an eye on me, I was so weak I didn't care. Thankfully my little boy was healthy as ever weighing 7lb 11 oz, 19 1/2 inches and we named him Jake.

When Jake was 6 months dh decided lets not stop a pg from happening, and I was all for it since I had such an amazing pregnancy the first time around. About 6 months later I took a test and it was pos! Come to find out I was already almost 2 months along. I was still nursing so my periods were not consistent, so I never paid much attention. I realized the last time I had my period was Dec. 30 and it was around Feb 13th when I got the pos. So on to the rest of a wonderful pregnancy, again no morning sickness and this time no back pain!! The only discomfort I had was the last month when I went to bed he would slip into my ribs and they were bruised for 2 wks after giving birth! 7 days before my due date on Sept. 26th 2004, dh and I woke up to go to our part time job, which was cleaning offices with my brother inlaw. While vaccuming and cleaning I noticed I was getting alot of BHs, these were a little stronger. They continued throughout the day, completely not consistent, so I knew it was either very early labor or just a day of doing too much. (if you can do too much when your ready to give birth lol) After finishing our job we went home, and not much, played alittle wiffleball with Jake, and still not much, went for a walk, still not much, then decided to go apple picking, STILL not much. They were getting stronger but still far apart. So at 9pm I took tylonol pm and went to bed. At midnight I woke up to a few contractions and woke dh up to time them real quick, since I wasn't falling back to sleep lol. They were about 4 mins apart, some even closer to 3. So I called my sis that's the doula and she told me to get in the tub and since I could still talk through my contractions and call her in a few hours lol. While I was in the tub Jake woke up and came in to see what mommy was doing, while dh slept on the couch:rolleyes: I finally had to call for dh and told him I had to get out and to help me. As soon as I stood up blood started pouring down my leg and he freaked and said we have to go now!! I get dressed and he loads the car which seemed to take FOREVER!!! I thought my water had broke but come to find out it was a huge gush of blood. So a 35 min or so drive to the hospital in active labor (not fun lol), we get there at 4:20am My mw checked me and I was 10 cm!! and my waters were still intact. Because of all the blood she wanted to break the waters to be sure it wasn't from inside the bag, so I agreed to it. The fluid was clear. They give me a heplock so they could give me pit and methagon (not sure of the spelling) because of the hemorraging the last time. I get in the tub and Tyee was born at 4:55am, weighing 7lb 1oz 19 1/2 inches and perfect (again no tears!!) My mw noticed a little bit of blood and made me get out of the tub and onto the bed right away. DH did get to cut the cord. I couldn't believe when I stood up how much energy I had and little pain I was in!! It was amazing!! Anyway, get the pit, meth-whatever, and uterus massaging. Hemoglobin went from 12 to 7.5 this time... much better!! I still had energy!! I could walk and not be nervous about passing out! It was a perfect birth!

So when Tyee was about 21 months we decided to try again. He was still nursing so my periods were JUST starting to become more reg since his nursing was only morning and night. In Oct 2006 we found out we were expecting again! (only took us 4 months to get pregnant again!) This pregnancy was not as easy as my first 2. I was very uncomfortable and getting a TON of comments about it being our 3rd boy. It was very hurtful at times. It made me sad that people couldn't be happy that my little boy was healthy, they were more concerned that it was our 3rd boy. So I was dealing with emotional issues and looking back it must have been SPD I had almost throughout the pregnancy. VERY painful!! I also got every sickness under the sun, pnemonia, sinus infections, UTIs, the flu, I think it had alot to do with me being depressed so my body was just run down. At his u/s they found a white spot on his heart, which I knew really meant nothing but they wanted to do another u/s to be sure it wasn't from downs. I knew it could be a marker but that alone means nothing, but hey dh can get out of work, we can have a lunch date and get to see our LO one more time. Well obviously it meant nothing, he was healthy. So 8 days before my due date, June 16th, 2007, dh and I get up to go off to our part time job again to clean offices. Again while I was vacuming I noticed the BH coming very consistent at 6 mins apart. Then I noticed I was feeling pretty wet with each mild contraction. Figured my water started leaking around noon. So I told dh who had a mindset of "let's get this building cleaned first then you can have the baby" lol I called my mw because I came up pos this time for group B, she told me I could keep walking around if the contractions are bearable and that I just HAD to be at the hospital around 4pm to antibotics. So I'm working with my niece and we're joking around about me being in labor and I said I just wish these contrax would kinda pick up a bit, suddenly a gush of water and a huge contrax. Right away I said oooooh I take that back!! LOL So around 1:30pm I told dh we need to go over to the hospital, which was only 5 mins away. We finally got into the parking lot at 2:15pm (he was still in that mindset we needed to get the building cleaned.... I was swearing at him!! lol) We get to the room before the mw had gotten there and as I was taking my shorts off I felt the urge to push and did. The one nurse asked the other if they should have me lay on the bed to check me and the other said, I think she's a 10, she's pushing lol. So they get me in the tub as my mw walks in. My sis in the meantime knew what was going on and ran to get my boys at dh's parents house and walked in while I was in the pushing stage, I say pushing stage because I hardly really pushed, I let my body do the work and he kinda slid out into dh's hands at 2:45pm. He wasn't breathing right away but I think it wasbecause the birth went so fast and smooth he forgot to take a breathe or cry to relieve my mw lol. So dh cut the cord, they checked him out (he was fine) and I had started bleeding so they got me out of the tub and again, the pit the other stuff and uterus massaging. Hardly lost any blood at all this time. They didn't even consider it hemorraging this time YAY!! Luke weighed 8lbs and was 19 1/2 inches long. Healthy big boy!!!

Now that I typed a book I need to get the boys from school, then eventually I will come back and update on my plans for this next birth. Thanks for reading!!

rikkiac's picture
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Thanks for sharing your other birth stories! How scary to have so much bleeding!

I will avoid vacuuming so that I don't start labor like you did! Wink

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Your labors sound absolutely perfect & fast. I can't wait to hear your plans for this birth.

Cindy

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Yay for your baby flipping! TFS your birth stories, I really enjoyed them.

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Hi Mel! Glad baby girl turned. I hope she stays down for you to have your natural birth. Good luck!

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Thanks ladies!! I've been feeling pretty good lately, which actually makes me nervous that I'll go late this time lol. I know baby will come when she's ready.

So how did this start? Well I was getting baby hungry a couple months before Luke turned 1 but really didn't think I could handle having kids 19 months apart again. It was really hard on me, I went through some depression after ds2. I love having them so close in age it just took a toll on me. So I actually prayed and begged to take this feeling away until I really could handle another LO lol. Well it worked and it went away.... for a few months. Luke turned 1 in June and then in July dh and I started talking about having another one. We decided if we were going to try we'd try for an April or May baby, and if it didn't happen then wait till we sell our house. Then I realized I had just had my period and I was suppose to ovulate sometime the next week, so we got busy lol. I tested on the day I should have gotten my period according to a 28 day cycle and neg. Then a couple days later, neg. Almost a week late I tested again and it slowly became a pos!! I couldn't believe it happened so fast!! I have to admit I was already getting anxity about all our family members making comments about probably having another boy. So we waited to tell anyone till I was 13 wks. Couldn't really wait much longer, I was already starting to get a little pouch:rolleyes: We told everyone we were going to wait till the birth to find out the gender, but secretly we were going to have the tech try to take a toilet shot and put it's a boy or it's a girl in an envelope. So after the u/s we got home and we just couldn't wait, so we opened it right away. We couldn't believe it said IT'S A GIRL!!! Still to this day, I'll only believe it when she's born lol. (we haven't even taken the tags off the clothes yet!)

So the homebirth, I actually wanted one with my last one but my midwives didn't do homebirths at the time and as much as they thought I could do it, the one told me I wouldn't be a good canditate because of the hemorraging with my first 2. My midwives actually just started working with a homebirth midwife in the area so I was soooo on board with a homebirth. and since my last birth I didn't hemorrage, they were very willing to attend. I am sooo excited to have this homebirth! And it's starting to feel real, we had our first homevisit this weekend. We now have everything ready for the birth, the tub, the birthing kit, towels, blankets and whatever else. I just can't believe I only have a few weeks left!! It's gone way fast!!!

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Great birth stories, TFS! Sending non-hemorrage vibes your way, your first birth story would have scared me to death! Do they have any idea why that happened to you, is your blood just prone to not want to clot correctly? Hope this little one continues to bake until it's nice and ready Smile

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Maybe those #2 boys just make things crazy for their mommas!? I am so glad that you are getting your girl, although I am with you and would not take any tags off of anything for fear of jinxing!

I think it's amazing that you had the births you had in a hospital. I hope that this one at home is all that much better for you. I cannot believe that you are ready to go. I have piles laying here and there that all need to be organized. I feel like by finishing my preparations I am telling the LO that I am ready!

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Wow, you did get pregnant fast. I guess it was time. How exciting to be having a girl this time! Girls are so much fun. I remember when DD was born, we knew she was a girl, but occasionally you hear stories about the u/s being wrong. And after she was born and they took her off of me to suction her, I remember thinking "it is a girl right? Nobody said it is...they looked, right?"

I hope everything goes smoothly with your homebirth!

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OperaDiva, they have no idea why I'm so prone to hemorraging, they say my uterus just gets lazy afterwards, the dr didn't seem concerned to do any testing on it. And I've had no issues other than after giving birth.

Ericka, I'm not usually the organized one lol, that's dh but my midwives kept bugging me to have everything ready, especially since they think I have less than 2 wks left (if I follow the boys and go a bit early):eek: Ok now I don't feel so ready lol

I have to admit I will still be in shock if she is born a she lol.

So last night I thought I'd show the boys a couple youtube videos of waterbirths, it had been almost 2 years since their brothers and ds1 keeps telling me not to scream when I have a baby it scares him. Little did he realize, I don't scream, with my last one it was just heavy breathing. I've never actually screamed while in labor. So there was a breech birth I wanted to see, so I clicked on it, then ds2 spilled milk so I went to clean it up and left the video going, next thing I hear is the 2 yelling, "mommy there's a foot!! Is that ok if the foot comes first? Is the baby going to be ok? EWWWWW mommy there's a foot and it looks gross!!" So lesson learned don't leave a video going if I haven't given it a check first! lol

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LOL cute reactions to the breech birth video! So as a FTM who is seriously thinking about a waterbirth, what would you say are the pros and cons of having one as someone who has BTDT?

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When asked that question I have such a hard time explaining it for me then I tend to ramble so bear with me lol.

I was able to labor in the tub with ds2 at home for a bit, it just seemed so relaxing. Then each time when I got to the hospital, I just remember thinking, there's no way I can sit here on the bed laboring, I need to get up. I could not imagine laboring in a bed. When I got into the tub, it was just relaxing. It didn't completely take away the pain but I do remember each time getting in, the contractions feeling less intense, my body just relaxed (don't know how else to explain it but relaxing) I felt that the water helped me to move as I wanted to. Not only was it nice for me but for the babies as well. I know ds3 didn't breathe right away because the transition was so smooth. His head was actually out for 7 mins before the rest of him came out and he just looked so calm. ds2 cried but it was different than what I had expected for a screaming newborn to come into the world in the chill air after being in the warmth of the womb. He cried but not a constant cry, it was like a I'm hear kinda cry... if that makes sense. It was a very calming experience. It also felt cleaner to me.

Those are the pros, as for cons... I can't think of any to be honest lol

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Welcome to your lodge and good luck getting the baby to flip!

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I thought that I’d just drop by and say “welcome” to another April mom!

I’ve been really bad at keeping track of who’s lodge I’ve posted in and who is at what stage… Hope all goes well! Flip baby!

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LOL--the reaction to the breech video!

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The past few days I've been debating whether to post this or not, silly I know. I'm nervous about this upcoming birth. I don't know why, I mean I've done it 3 times before and it's always been wonderful! I have always worried just before each birth that I will go late, my body won't cooperate, this birth will be the one not to go so smooth, or something like that. Can I really have 4 amazing births? I went early with each child, will I go late this time? Will I have the control I had with the previous births? What if my kids drive me crazy this time? What if I don't call my mw's in time? What if dh is a numnut and isn't a great coach this time? What if he wants to call his mom to tell her I'm in labor? I really don't want her calling constantly, she actually has no idea we're planning a homebirth. All these concerns that are probably silly to some but each one has a reason for me. I've been feeling a bit stressed lately, just the whole getting things ready, selling our house, where is this baby going to stay, and then the normal everyday stresses of running around 3 kids, trying to get them to behave at dr appointments, in the store. I've had a wonderful pregnancy, till I got to 37 wks, I think it suddenly hit me I don't have much time left! And IF I go early, it's less than 2 wks! Do I have everything ready for the homebirth? And suddenly I've been soooo uncomfortable. My hips hurt at night, I can't sleep at night, my ribs hurt. Then I worry about after the baby comes. Will I be able to handle it? No sleep! Someone on me constantly. Will I go through the same thing I did after ds2 and ds3? Will I have the nerve to talk to someone about it this time? I want to enjoy my infant this time, I don't want to feel stressed, I want to love being a mommy and it not take a year for my hormones to get back to normal. I want breastfeeding to go as well as it did with each child, I want to be able to nurse till she's at least 2. ds3 was done at 16 months and he would have been done way before then but I continued to nurse, till my nipples were so sore from being pregnant and I couldn't handle it anymore so I let him wean. He never asked for it again:( Will I be able to get my body back to something I will like again? I know sounds vain but it's been YEARS since I've been happy with myself and YEARS since I had any motivation to do something about it.

Ugh all these silly complaints, stresses, I'm sure I sound like I'm just complaining. I think I just need to get it off my chest. I think I also need some relaxation time, just some time to myself to get through these fears. This is suppose to be my dream birth, why am I letting myself get so worried? If you've made it this far, thanks for reading!

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I know exactly how you are feeling. I could have written it myself only I feel good physically thanks to the chiropractor. Seriously, every word that you wrote has gone through my mind in the last few days. Just stay strong mentally and try to keep your thoughts positive. I think that makes a huge difference. And since you are aware that you may have a PPD problem, you are one step ahead of the game. My chiro recommended a high quality Omega-3 supplement to help and a high quality B complex. He says he recommends them for all preggos but especially for those that may have PPD. I am going to get some tomorrow to start taking because I am really worried about being depressed this time.

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You are most definitely not complaining! I think it is totally normal to be feeling this way, Im a wreck if I actually allow myself to think about how un-prepared and scared I feel. I am sure everything will go exactly the way you want it to. It gets easier with each child (so i've heard), but also it brings more fear of "can I actually do this"? Right now, I'm at how the heck am I going to be able to get out in public with two kids? You're gonna do great and I'ts so awesome you are getting your girl!

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Thanks ladies! At least I know I'm not alone! I am feeling a bit more refreshed today. Not sure why, maybe just getting out and actually having adult conversation today, even if it was at a kid's b-day party LOL.

I've felt so good I was begining to wonder if my body was doing ANYTHING to get ready for this birth (like dialating and stuff) So I've been having a ton of contractions today, like the periodlike cramping and stuff. Which has made me feel better thinking ok my body HAS to be doing something, right? At least I hope so! My next appointment is on Monday, I'll be 37wks 6dys, my mw is coming to my house and she may check me. I think I'll let her because the not knowing anything drives me more nuts lol. Even though I know it doesn't mean much. But for me I've always been at least 2-3cm and 75% effaced and gave birth within the next few days. Anyway I think it will ease my mind knowing at least if I'm doing anything.

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You never know how quickly your body and baby can get ready........I was 0 cent. dilated with a long cervix when my water broke and six hours later, I had a baby in my arms :vibes: The body is an amazing thing and even though you may not be able to see any visible signs, know that things are happening!

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Hey Fawn!! I'm still waiting for your birth story:D Can't wait to read all about it!!

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My body went on and off with contractions for two weeks and then BAM 2 days before my due date, contractions started hard and fast and Eliza was born in hours. You just never know!

Hang in there Mel!

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Hang in there! I went to my appointment at 6:30pm the night before DD arrived at 9:16am and I was only 50% effaced and 1 cm dilated. It really can change VERY quickly!

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Well my mw left a couple hours ago and I'm finding I'm having a hard time connecting with her. She's just more uptight than my first mw's who are extremely laid back.
Before baby went into a breech position she got me worried that because she was off to the right, right over my hip that I needed to get working on getting her more centered, so I got a maternity belt... I think that's why she flipped breech because when I was told she was breech a couple days later I put the maternity belt on backwards, and she flipped back down lol. So obviously I'm not using the maternity belt anymore!!

So this visit.... now she has me concerned that the baby is not growing and I'm losing weight so she's all worried about it and wanting me to do fetal counts everyday this week and if it gets to where the baby is moving less often she wants me to call her right away and when I'm suppose to see my first mw's this next weekend, she still wants to come by so she can feel the baby to see if she's growing. I told her my scale was off, usually by 5lbs, so according to that (if it's even correct) I've lost 5 lbs and she said the baby feels the same as 2 wks ago and I'm also measuring smaller (ok so that might be off for me since I usually measure bigger) She went ahead and checked me, said I'm very soft but couldn't check for dilation because I'm so postier, but that she could feel the head right there (not sure how she can feel my cervix being soft, the head but not feel for dilation... maybe I'm just not dilated??) So I'm (according to my scale) 180, I am tall about 5' 6" losing a couple lbs IF my scale is right shouldn't be that big a deal right? And getting closer to the end and measuring smaller shouldn't be that big a deal because she's more in the pelvis, right? I think at 36wks I was measuring 36wks and today she was measuring me at 33-34wks, where I've always been like 4 wks ahead. Am I being TOO laid back about this? Should I be a little more concerned and try to eat more (healthy of course)?

With ds3 at the very end I did lose about 3lbs. Oh and we did talk about if my dates were off, but came to the conclusion that it's only by a couple days so it shouldn't make that much of a difference. According to LMP edd is 4/21, but could be 4/25-26, so it's not even off by that much. I'm definily not small and I haven't really changed my eating habits... I don't think so anyway.

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So my midwives all talked and they want me to go do an u/s tomorrow. They were too concerned that I was measuring 33-34 wks. I have to admit I am getting nervous now. I've never measured small. I was even measuring 4 wks ahead with this one in the begining, Probably right up till about 30ish wks. They are going to pull my records from my previous pregnancies and see what my measurments were. Has anyone ever measured smaller after measuring fine in the begining?

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hmmm...maybe this is just a variation in growth rate? I hope it's not intrauterine growth restriction or anything like that. A lot of ladies do either level off in weight gain or lose a little weight at the end, and the baby dropping can cause measurements to get smaller, so I don't know. KUP!

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I did level off with with my weight gain with my first 2, my last one I actually lost about 2lbs. I've just never measured small especially after measuring 4wks ahead in the begining.

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I'm sooo done with the hb mw. She's making me not want a homebirth, I probably should have stuck with my previous mw's in the medfree-staff friendly hospital!! Luckily my previous mw's are still with me since they have sorta teamed up with her.

So I went to the u/s feeling worried thinking all kinds of thoughts because why would I measure so small, I have NEVER measured small. I have NEVER had any concerns whatsoever in my previous pregnancys. MY midwives are so laid back with me, because that's how I am, they understand me, they know how I am and what and how to say things, we click! So the u/s.... she's perfect in every way!! (and yup she's a she!) She's measuring right on at 38 wks today (which I am) she's measuring 7lbs (ok so give or take... it is a late u/s) there's enough amnoitic fluids, everything is perfect!! I'm sooo done with my hb mw that I want to have this baby now so I don't have to see her except right after the baby is born. I have my orginal mw's I don't need the hb mw. It seems the last few times I have seen her there has been some sort of issue, she made the whole breech situation worse than it was, this time she pretty much told me I was starving me and the baby... apparently not! Because of insurance reasons she has to be involved in this birth somehow, if I want a homebirth, not that she has to be there but she will have to probably show up at some point. I guess if I want a homebirth I have to put up with her. But MAN she causes wayyyyy to much unneccesary stress in my life!!! I never thought I would say this but I'm ready to have this baby just so I don't have to have another appointment with her!! My next appointment is with MY mw's then after that I seriously hope she comes so I don't have to have another appointment with her. Of course my luck.... yeah! Anyway I'm sure I'm venting to myself but at least I feel better now... I think.

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How frustrating that she made you worry for nothing. I was going to say before your last post to just go with your instincts. Hope things get better with her! I know you want your home birth!

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Well, it's good to hear that your baby girl is okay and the u/s showed there's nothing to worry about. I'm sorry your MW made you worry about nothing. I've always thought having a care provider you like and trust is more important than where you give birth. Would it be possible for you to switch back to your other midwives and have a hospital birth instead? Would you want to?

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I had an appointment with my mw that I like this weekend. I haven't lost as much weight as the other mw was concerned about. I've gained a total of 18lbs so far and the last couple weeks pretty much have maintained it. Much less than I did with the boys which were 40lb, 35lb and 32lb. So I'm happy about that! Although I'm still the heaviest I've ever been, or at the same I was with ds3. I'm measuring 36 wks but she didn't seem concerned because she thought the baby felt at least 7lbs. She still hasn't dropped but I figured she won't till labor since they say you only drop in your first pregnancy and usually drop during labor with pregnancys after that. The boys I think were so low I never felt them drop.

Last night I was really really crampy. I figured it was just gas, though I was still getting contractions. Had great nights sleep then woke up all crampy all day. So I took Gas-X, but it didn't do anything. I'm still very crampy and still having contractions just not reg nor do they really hurt. They are just annoying but the cramping is really hurting. Still don't know if it's gas or what. ugh...

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Well the cramping turned into contractions and were 4 mins apart but now are further apart so guessing it's nothing yet. It was like 4 mins apart for a good 2 hours. I'm not having them as close now but still having them. and only lasting about 30-40 sec. I really thought it was going to be something. I really thought it would be cool to have an Easter baby. Oh well at least the house is clean now.

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I'm sorry the contractions/cramping are giving you fits. I find myself getting frustrated at the complete NOTHING happening. But I wonder if I wouldn't find the starting and stopping more irritating. I think I would. Here's hoping it's just your body warming up for the real deal in a day or two.

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I was getting frustrated when nothing was happening till Friday night. Then I thought FINALLY!! With my first 3 I knew something was going on at 36 wks, this pregnancy has been way different! I even figured I'd go late where I was a week early with each pregnancy. I am sooo happy though that something is finally starting, I didn't think it ever would!

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It's good that something is happening, though annoying that it stopped. It won't be too much longer now.

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It sounds like your getting closer! So crazy how everything can be totally different from one pregnancy to the next.

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Sorry about the hb mw. It sounds like she has a little bit too high-strung attitude for being a hb mw. Of course you always want them to follow up any concerns they may have, but I always figured that (like my mw's are) HB MWs need to be more calm and laid back due to the nature of home birth. She could have easily sent you for the check up, without telling you about it in a way that would make you freak out! Glad everything was ok though.

Sounds like things could be moving along! frustrating that its starting and stopping but remember, there is no such thing as "false labour"....its all doing SOMETHING! towards the final outcome, even if its not the thing we want it to be doing Wink

KUP! I'll be stalking

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Well I guess what was discouraging was that I really thought it was the start of something. It started out alot like my first 2. Cramps, BH's, and they just got more and more intense and longer. And that's what was happening on Sunday. Then Monday dealing with sporatic ones but by evening they stopped. I walked all day yesterday.

So today they have pretty much stopped, BHs here and there but not like the intense ones. Still crampy. Even though I would have liked to have gone into labor at least I can be somewhat comfortable again lol. I'm going to see my mw tomorrow to see if I'm dilated. I know it doesn't mean much but I like to know. My mw thinks the contractions were probably trying to get baby into a better position since the last time she felt the baby was a bit off to the right. But I think she still is, so I've been on my hands and knees today and I layed on the bed to see if I could feel her head and it feels like she may have moved, but I don't think she will stay that way and I'm afraid to use that stupid maternity belt again lol. I think I'll be doing alot of the hands and knees when I'm in labor at least for my peace of mind.

The boys have spring break this week and I'm starting to get bored. It's chilly out and i don't feel like spending money so we've stayed in all day just playing. Hope I can find something fun for them tomorrow. i think we're all actually sick of the tv lol

I forgot to add, and not that it matters much, but i think my actual due date is closer to the 25th-26th, so I still have lots of time! I would just like it to be this week so I don't have to worry about the boys being at school or anything like that.

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