~~~Rachel (YogaMama's) Birth Lodge!! (postpartum)~~~

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~~~Rachel (YogaMama's) Birth Lodge!! (postpartum)~~~

Rachel! You almost slipped through the woodwork, but I gotcha a lodge! Woot!

Can you believe you're this far already? January seems like yesterday!

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It's flying by, isn't it!? Welcome to YOUR lodge!!!

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Thanks, guys!! This is so exciting...I can't believe it's time for my own lodge already! I remember lurking on this site a year and a half ago thinking, I can't wait for that to be me. Where the heck did summer go, anyway?

I feel like my nesting instincts are kicking in a bit today. Got the pack 'n play set up in the living room, working on trying to get DH to put my glider together (ha ha, guys obviously don't nest like we do!). So much to do, so little time. My next task is to put the finishing touches on the nursery, and get some pics up of that.

Introduction to follow later!

(((HUGS TO ALL!)))

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Congrats on your lodge and being in the "home stretch"!

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YAY Congrats Rach!!! I'm so excited for you!

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Yeah, men don't nest unless we make them. Ask my dh! :shock: He's painting our bedroom tomorrow and I made him put up closet doors last weekend. lol

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COngratulations on your lodge.

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Congratulations!! I so get wondering where the time went. I can't believe it's almost over for me! I look forward to reading your lodge. Good Luck!

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Congrats! I hope these last few weeks are comfortable and happy for you!

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Ok, time for an introduction. Smile I'm not great at these things because I feel goofy talking about myself, so bear with me!

I'm Rachel, 30 (31 in just a month), and my DH is John, who is also 30. We are highschool sweethearts, and have been together since we were 16--almost half our lifetimes. After 12 years together, we finally got married on a beach in Mexico. It was an intimate, amazing experience. Here we are, 2 1/2 years later, getting ready for another huge life change...our first baby.

John and I are both in our last year of a family medicine residency in Kansas City (we're both D.O.s). Obstetrics has always been a passion of mine and I have assisted many women (I prefer to say assist, instead of deliver...after all, isn't it the woman doing the delivering??) with their births, such an awesome experience, and unique every time. Training in a university hospital, you can imagine the kind of OB that gets practiced: women strapped down, birthing on their backs, 90% of them getting an epi as soon as they hit 4 cm. I hated it. Luckily, I got the chance to spend a month at a military hospital that utilized midwives. Totally changed my perception about what birth should be like! I learned how to do perineal massage and stretching, learned how to deliver in a bed (instead of stirrups) in several positions, and that there were fewer complications and interventions in NCB. I became a convert! Birth was no longer a medical procedure, but a life experience.

That got me thinking about my own future. I have always wanted children, for as long as I can remember. Desperately. Unfortunately, being in school for all of your twenties doesn't make it easy to start a family, especially when your husband is doing the same thing. I come from a fairly big family myself, and knew I better get started or I may run into problems. My DH didn't seem to hear the same blaring of the proverbial biological clock as I did and was content to keep waiting. There was always an excuse...we need to pay off bills, we're too busy, yada, yada. Finally, Fate got tired of waiting on us and stepped in. Long story short, New Year's Eve was more magical than we thought and here we are 8 months later, lol. DH was very unsure at first (and even angry, thinking I'd gotten pregnant on the sly or something), but is now very excited and looking forward to expanding our family.

Overall I've had a great pregnancy. Some nausea in the beginning, and I'm a bit uncomfortable now, but I can't complain...having a new life growing inside you is so amazing. I'm looking forward to having a NCB using Hypobabies (been using the Home Study course) along with the support of a great OB who has suggested hydrotherapy, a birthing ball, and won't tie me to the bed with a monitor. She had both of her children naturally too. I'm nervous that I won't be able to handle the pain, that I'll lose control...I mean, watching "unnatural" childbirth like I see at our hospital leaves an imprint on your brain that is hard to forget. But my family is supportive and I have you guys, right? My friends think I'm crazy and they all say "No, you don't want to go natural! Get the epi as soon as you can!" I just smile.

Thanks for welcoming me into the group. You are all a bunch of very special women, and I look forward to hearing your advice and experiences to lead me through mine.

(((HUGS)))

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I can't believe you're almost there Rach! Where has the time gone?!

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Nice to meet you, Rachel, and welcome to your lodge! I look forward to following your birth journey.

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Congrats on your lodge & I'm so glad the pregnancy has been stress free!

Cindy

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Congratulations on your lodge! I look forward to reading about the rest of your pregnancy journey.

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37w1d

Had my 37 week OB appt today. Luckily, I didn't have to wait the usual 45+ minutes to get back there--a definite bonus when it hurts to sit for more than 15. Smile The nurse asked if I'd like the doctor to check me, and I almost said 'no' because I know as well as anyone that what your cervix is or isn't doesn't mean much...but my curiosity got the better of me. I had to know if all this pressure and BH were doing anything! So the doc checked (very gently, I might add--love that woman!) and said "you know the kind of cervix that you book a postdates induction for a month in advance...feels like the Rock of Gibraltar? Well, you don't have that!" She said I'm 50% effaced, soft, -2 but not dilated. I figure that's not so bad being 37+ wks with my first, right?

After my appt I decided to treat myself to a little shopping trip at Kohl's. Got some good deals on a bottom/top PJ set, a pair of PJ bottoms (better than those silly gowns for company) for $4, and a nursing bra. Wouldn't you know it, I get everything out when I get home to show DH and I accidentally grabbed the wrong size bra--I must have picked up the one right behind the one I meant to grab. Darn it.

Oh, well. Overall, it was a pretty good day!

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Haha, "rock of gibraltar cervix", that cracks me up for some reason. Glad your appointment went well and you were able to do some shopping afterwards. I think buying some postpartum pajamas isn't a bad idea.

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I am so glad you had a good appt and your great deals at Kohls!

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Haha, "rock of gibraltar cervix", that cracks me up for some reason. Glad your appointment went well and you were able to do some shopping afterwards. I think buying some postpartum pajamas isn't a bad idea.

Makes me giggle too!

Sounds really, really good Rach!

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I am so excited for you! I am due just 2 days before you and I can't wait!;) This is the best part, finding somewhere that we can talk about all that is going on with the LO and our bodies, and having people understand and encourage us on OUR decisions! I wish I would have found this site much sooner, but I have had the last couple of weeks to enjoy reading so many of your journeys and advice. I can't wait to read more!

Alicia

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LOL, I thought the "Rock of Gibraltar" thing was pretty funny myself...puts quite a picture in your mind, doesn't it??

I'm feeling pretty uncomfortable today, lots of pressure low in my pelvis and bottom (why does no one ever mention that part?). A few BH, but nothing regular or very painful. When I woke up this morning I had quite a bit of CM that was tinged pink and for a minute my heart raced and I thought...bloody show?

But alas, then I really woke up and remembered I had an internal yesterday. *sigh*

Oh well, a girl can hope, right?

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So, how long are you able to stay at home for after the birth? How does it work with your hospital? Just out of curiosity.

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I'm going to get about 10 weeks off. Luckily, the residency program I'm in is very family-friendly (they are even flexible about giving dads time away, which is nice since DH and I are in the same program). I'm really excited, since most jobs in the US only give moms about 6 weeks, which in my opinion is not nearly enough time. Actually, 10 weeks doesn't sound like enough either. Think I need to move to Canada??

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Think I need to move to Canada??

YES YES YES!!!

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37w 5d

Wow, so many mamas are having their babies already! No signs of labor yet. This weekend was pretty productive...DH was a big help (without any griping or whining!!), and we got the nursery nearly finished. The only thing left to do is hang a few things up and that's about it! I finally packed my hospital bag and the diaper bag...which can only mean now that I am ready, labor won't start for another 3 or 4 weeks, lol.

I took the pups for a walk today which started a few BH, but not much else. It was a beautiful day outside though...a perfect 75 degrees and sunny (amazing for Kansas City this time of year!). I'm feeling pretty good other than some swelling in my feet. They're so fat right now that I can't wear any of my work shoes. Not sure what I'm going to do tomorrow when I have to work in clinic all day! Think they will mind if I wear flip flops??

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Hi Rachel, I have been reading along and trying to keep up. I didn't realize you are in KC. You're only 3 hours from me! I think it's neat to hear about how your views of birth have changed through your work. I can't wait to hear about your birth. I know for me the only images I had were "typical birth" as well. My MIL is always talking about how she was strapped down, my mom tells all about the broken tailbone she had from me....nobody ever talks about their birth with enlightenment. I am proud to say I CAN do that. I have been very fortunate to have several elderly friends who did as well. Birth is an amazing thing. I found that even my patients with alzheimer's and Parkinson's dementia can tell you about their births. It becomes engrained on the mind forever. It's sad that so many women don't realize they are creating this experience and they DO have a very active hand in the process. This will definately be an experience of a lifetime for you. Enjoy these last week - even with all the pelvic pressure and discomforts of the finals weeks/days.

Erika

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So great to read your story and here about the pending birth of your daughter. I remember you first posting and I haven't been around much since Gracie came along.

I am going to PM you. My dh is in his 4th yr of med school (D.O) and is planning on going into family practice.

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Erika-Thanks for the thoughtful reply! You are so right...I wish women could see birth for the miraculous, life-altering event it is, instead of fearing it with such dread. It amazes me too that even patients who can't recognize their spouses due to dementia still remember going through childbirth. BTW, you have been a huge inspiration to me! You have an amazing birth story, very empowering and something I aspire to.

Brandi-So many ladies on here familiar with KC, it's great! I'm PM'd you back, let me know if you have any other questions!

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38w 1 d

Last night was interesting...I almost thought I might be in early labor. I had contractions every 4-5 minutes for several hours, but not painful, just very strong BH (or what I think are BH). Some pressure and back pain with it too. But I was able to sleep most of the night. Seemed like every time I woke up I was having a contraction though. Still having them today but more irregular. I had another OB appt this afternoon, and I hesitated about getting an internal (I tend to be very hands-off with my PNC), but ended up asking her to check...you know, just in case. Smile

Turns out I have made a little progress...went from being 50% effaced and not dilated last week to 60% and 1cm today. Dr. E said she could touch the baby's head, and she is well down in my pelvis. Yay! I know it's not much, and that it doesn't mean anything, but I am encouraged that at least the contractions are doing something.

After my appt I went out with a girlfriend and had my first pedicure. It was great and relaxing! And now if I go into labor at least my toes will look cute, even if the rest of me doesn't, lol.

Hope you all are enjoying your week!

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I totally need a pedicure as well. Glad you got some beautification done before baby.

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38w 2d

Having some pretty regular contractions every 4-5 minutes tonight that aren't painful, but aren't very comfortable either. And I am pretty sure I lost my mucus plug today! I'll spare you the details. Funny, you would think a physician would know for sure when she lost something like that, but no, not the case, lol. Baby feels very low and it's getting really painful to walk. I'm trying to be positive about all this knowing it will help get me that much closer to meeting our baby. Not much longer, right??

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I hope you go soon!!! I think Dylan is going to follow his sisters lead and not come until the 39th weeks.

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Rachel-it sounds like things are moving along, maybe this weekend...wouldn't that be exciting? I am really excited for you!

Oh yea, Rock of Gibraltor--that is me or as my dr termed it, the "cervix of steel"...haha!

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Well, no baby yet. Contractions got more irregular not long after I posted last night (figures, doesn't it??). Then around 3:30 this morning I was woken up by pretty strong contractions that felt different than the ones before, coming every 5-6 min. The best way I can describe them is that my whole uterus tightened up and then started to kind of burn...you know the burn you get when you're working out and your muscles get fatigued? Anyway, it was enough to keep me awake for 2 hours. I started getting a little panicky...wow, this could be it! So I used my Hypnobabies training (Love it!) and relaxed myself back to sleep because I figured either way I needed some rest. I woke up around 8 AM and have only had around 10 contractions so far today, none that felt like they did during the night, just BH kind of tightening. I lost some more of what I think is mucus plug today. Now I have this crazy nesting urge because those contactions made me realize this could really happen anytime and I feel like there is so much left to do. Can you ever get the fridge clean enough??

Now I know exactly what other moms were talking about! This waiting and not really knowing when you are in labor is a little stressful, lol. Thanks for reading and all of the support!! Please tell me everything will be fine when the time comes. I had no idea I would be so anxious about birth!

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I'm having so much fun reading your Lodge, Rachel! I'm so very excited for you! I was quite anxious and nervous about labor when I had Kai too and you are going to be such a better and different doctor after the whole experience. I know I am! I'm stalking you daily and can't wait to hear about you birth experience. I love birth stories, even though I've been at about 500 of them myself! Sounds like your body is getting ready and I'll be reading your story soon. I'm so excited!

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Rachel, I know what you mean about feeling anxious and OMG will I have everything done that I want, like cleaning the fridge better, haha! Everything will be OK!!!!!!!! You will forget about all the little things you wanted to get done when you are holding your baby girl.

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The waiting and wondering is the kicker, isn't it? I hope it happens for you soon!

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38w 5d

Not a very productive weekend. Sad DH and I went to my best friend's son's 1st birthday party yesterday, and that was fun. But I have to say I am really getting tired of all these BH ctx that make me uncomfortable but don't get me anywhere. I'm trying to stay positive but it gets hard when you're constantly hurting. Tired of listening to me whine yet? I know DH is, lol. Smile

My new mantra is 'not much longer, not much longer...'

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I remember feeling like oh, I will wait "forever" for this baby to come and then as it gets closer and you are getting more uncomfortable it is hard to be patient. I think it is really good to keep telling yourself not too much longer b/c BELIEVE me you WILL forget about how uncomfortable you were...it is god's way I think...

I am praying for you and your little girl--hang in there, it really won't be too much longer.

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((((Brandi))))

Thanks so much, I need all the help I can get!!

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:bighug: I TOTALLY remember those feelings. I was so miserable and each kick was SOOOO uncomfortable. Hang in there darlin', your time will come soon and you'll have a beautiful baby girl!!!

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(((hugs))) I hope that the contractions either start being productive or taper off and give you a break!

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Thanks for all of the hugs and well wishes...you guys are the best.

39wks

Today was a good day, and I'm feeling pretty well. DH and I decided to play hookey from work and got to sleep in together (very rare!). We had a lazy day, just laying around the house. Got some more cleaning and laundry done, so at least I was a little productive. Smile I'm having some pretty frequent BH tonight, but really just tightenings, nothing uncomfortable. The weather this afternoon was slightly stormy with a nice rain after that really relaxed me. I sat in the glider in the baby's room, which is by the window, and just rocked and listened to the rain. It was very peaceful...I can't wait to hold Lily and rock her there.

I've decided that instead of letting TV and my family/friends feed into my anxiety about birth, I will try to surround myself with positive birth experiences. (a big thanks to the poster of the YouTube video earlier!) It's helped a lot, and I am really looking forward to helping my daughter come into the world. I'm so excited to finally meet her!

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That video was awesome! I can't believe how close we are! I'm glad you had a great day!

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39w 1d

I had my 39 week appt today, and we are making progress! Last week I was 1cm, 60% with a midline cervix (closed 2 weeks ago), and today I am "a generous 2," stretchy, 80% and anterior! She's also come down more (which I didn't think was possible, lol). Yay! The OB seemed pretty surprised as she was checking me--thank goodness all this discomfort is doing something!!

Since my appt I've been having regular contractions and they are starting to get pretty uncomfortable, and I'm having to stop what I'm doing to breathe through them. They may just peter out as I'm sure some if it is the stimulation from the internal, but if it gets me even 1 more cm I'll be thrilled. Smile

I've also been pretty nauseated and having some loose BMs today. I feel like my body knows what it's meant to do and we are getting there, slowly but surely!

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I'm glad you're seeing progress. That has to be encouraging! Biggrin

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You're headed in the right direction, chica! I'm thrilled and thinking of you.

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Oh that's exciting!!! Loose stools are a really good sign. Sending you more labour vibes :vibes:

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oh that is great news!!!!

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Great news!!! Glad to hear that you're making progress! :woohoo:

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Oooh, getting so close!! I just can't believe how fast this has gone for you. I'm so excited to meet the new LO.

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Rach, I CANNOT believe you're almost there! I can't wait to see Lily! Geez...it feel like it was just yesterday you got your BFP! What a long way you've come! Oh, BTW....any new belly pics to share?

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