*~*~*Amanda's (MandyMommyto1) Birth Lodge*~*~*

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*~*~*Amanda's (MandyMommyto1) Birth Lodge*~*~*

I just noticed that you don't have a lodge yet...sorry for the delay! Welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to hearing all about your pregnancy.

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Welcome to your lodge Mama!! :wavehello:

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welcome to your lodge! looking forward to following your journey

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Congrats Amanda! This is really special because of the previa!

Looking forward to your story!

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Woot!

Welcome to your lodge!!

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Yay! Welcome to your lodge!!!

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Welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to sharing your journey!

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Oh yay! I'm soooo excited to have a lodge this time, I thought I wouldn't be able to stay on this board because of previous issues, so thanks! I'll start my story tomorrow...

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Congrats and welcome to your lodge!!

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So, here’s my story!

DH and I met at the end of University, he had just graduated and I was in my last year. We moved in together, and he went to work while I did one more year of school in a post-degree writing program, then we just happened to get jobs at the same company! He is an engineer and I worked as a technical writer. After a year of that, we decided to get married and start TTC, we were both in our late 20s by then and I was anxious to get started. Here are a couple pics from our wedding, in a public park in Calgary, we planned it in a weekend! (Sorry nthey're so big! I tried to resize...)

Soon after the wedding DH got a job travelling between Calgary and Houston, and he was gone a month or longer at a time! I was charting my cycle, and he just never seemed to be home during my fertile window Sad After a few months of this, he was finally home, on the day I ovulated, and low and behold, I got pregnant. We had already decided for him to quit that job and take another opportunity in Saskatoon so he’d be home more, and we’d put off TTC until we got settled, but of course, the damage was already done Smile

I couldn’t find work in my field in the new city, so I spent my pregnancy with Claire studying to get my real estate license and just taking care of myself. It was a pretty low-stress, easy pregnancy. I'll get started working on DD's birth story next!

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My pregancy with Claire was pretty easy. I had m/s for the first trimester, mostly just strong nausea, and had a hard time eating much, but other than that it was okay. I did have wicked sciatica pain for the last 2 months, but I was able to keep pretty active, I swam 3-4 times a week which really helped. Here's my progression, I didn't start taking pics until 18 weeks because I didn't have much to show!

18 weeks

22 weeks

28 weeks

33 weeks

38 weeks

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I'm late jumping in, but welcome to your lodge! You are so incredibly cute and tiny! I'm jealous Smile

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I love yoUr story. Too bad you are not still in Calgry Sad

You are really tiny! And gorgeous! Thanks or sharing!

Arevyou going to post claire's birth story?

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How cute are you? has this pregnancy been similar for you? looking forward to following your story.

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Gorgeous pics! Thanks for sharing- can't wait to hear more :-).

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Claire's birth story - what I can remember Smile
I can't find the original story I wrote out, so I'll write a shorter version with my new perspective on it.

I was due on Dec 7, a Sunday - and there's a jewellry/arts festival in Saskatoon the first weekend of December every year that I'd never been to that I really wanted to go to, so it was inevitable she'd be born that weekend Wink

My sister, mom and I had been taking a cake decorating course for fun over the last 6 weeks of my pregnancy, the last class was on the Thursday night before I was due and something was feeling a bit "off" so I didn't go. I was feeling fine, normal, but just had a feeling something was going to happen, so I went to bed early, around 8pm that evening. I woke up at midnight for some reason, with a bit of a backache. I didn't think anything of it because obviously a backache is something I'd been experiencing for weeks at that point! I kept trying to go back to sleep but then I noticed the backache was a little worse every so often, so I looked at the clock to get a rough idea how often. The "ache" was a little worse every 10 minutes. Of course, being a first-timer, I got so excited that something was happening that I couldn't go back to sleep - ah if I only knew then what I know now, I'd have stayed in bed!
It was about 2am at that point, so I got up, ate some cereal, and sat on my exercise ball and read the labour section of my pregnancy book. Then I got in the shower, and shaved my legs - can't have hairy legs for the delivery!
DH and my sister (she lives with us) got up around 7-8, and I told them it was the day so DH called into work. Sat on the exercise ball some more and just kinda wasted time for a while. At about 9am, my contrax were lasting about a min and were every 5 min, and the book said that's when you should head in, so we started out for the hospital (again, if I knew then what I know now...).
Got to the hospital, and I was about 3cm, stretchy to a 4, so I was kinda on the edge of being "admittable." They said to hang around for another hour, they'd recheck me and see if I'd progressed, and if I did then they'd admit me.
This was the start of a very long day. I didn't think to bring anything to do with me, so we sat around in the room for so long and I was bored out of my mind! It took them longer than an hour to recheck me, so I finally got admitted after a couple of hours and was able to get into a tub. We walked the hallways a bit, stayed in the tub for a while and just generally chilled. My labour was progressing, the contrax got steadily stronger, but not painful at all, but they never got any closer together.
At about 5pm, they suggested breaking my water since it hadn't broken yet, as a way of giving my labour a boost. I agreed, not thinking it would be a problem, I was getting pretty tired by this point, I had fully planned to eat through my labour and had brought food with me but I was too nauseated to eat, so I'd just been drinking OJ all day and my energy was really flagging.
They broke my water and the s**t hit the fan. Baby's heartrate plummeted to the 50's, all of a sudden there were a thousand people in my room, the words "emergency c/s" got tossed around, they put an iv in my arm and made me drink this awful anti-nausea stuff. The contrax had gotten super intense immediately to the point where I was having a hard time recovering in between. The surgeon came in and held baby's head off my cervix for a couple minutes and her heartrate recovered, so then they said no c/s would be needed. I'm extremely thankful for that, but I'm pretty sure that happened because all of their ORs were full at that point otherwise I would've been whisked right in there. It was a busy night in the maternity ward - I'm pretty sure that's what saved me from the knife!
At that point I started feeling really rushed. Because of the scare, they wanted continual monitoring, so they put the monitor thing on her head, and I was stuck on my back in bed - which I can tell you is definitely not the way to go when you have back labour! The entire time I never felt anything in my abdomen at all - it was all in my back. They put a small dose of pitocin in my iv to make my contrax come closer together, and I laboured hard for a little while. I think I started pushing soon after that, I'm unsure of the time at that point, but I know that I pushed for a little over 2 hours and Claire was born just a couple minutes after 8pm on Friday night. They used a vacuum on my last push becasue I was just so tired and had nothing left. I ended up with 2 2nd degree tears and she had a huge conehead, but we both came through it relatively unscathed. She was 7lb 3oz and 19 inches long and a total sweetheart.

The after birth part was the worst! They forcibly delivered my placenta, by pushing hard on my belly and that hurt worse than the labour! Then I got some local anesthetic and they stiched me up. Very shortly after that they had me get up and shower, and then rushed me out of there and up to the maternity ward room where I would spend my recovery time. All in all I just felt really hurried.

It wasn't the most horrible birth by any means, I feel mostly positive about it. I was able to get through most of it on my own before they started pushing me into stuff, and I didn't have any pain killers through the labour. But I have learned what I DON'T want to have happen again:

- I don't want them to break my water
- I don't want continuous monitoring
- I want to deliver the placenta on my own
- I don't want them to use th vacuum unless absolutely necessary

Here's a couple of random pics:

3 weeks old

sandraleigh's picture
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What a beautiful baby she was!

Nice to see someone from Saskatoon on the boards! I live in Regina Biggrin

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she was/is beautiful! thanks for sharing your story, it's amazing how one small little intervention can sometimes snowball into more. I hope your birth this time is exactly how you hope it will be!

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Loved catching up on all your stories! Claire is so beautiful - but I'm sure you know that! Smile

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Soo fun to learn more about you! I love your wedding photo's & your dd looks so much like you! Looking forward to following your lodge Smile

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Thanks for all the lovely comments ladies...feeling pretty tired today and sore, and I've reached 37 weeks! Eek!
Claire starts school on Friday, I'm excited for her becasue she really wants to go, but I'm a little sad too - they grow up so fast! It's just for 2 hours every morning, but still...

I'm going to get to my current pregnancy later today I promise!

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"MandyMommyto1" wrote:

Claire starts school on Friday, I'm excited for her becasue she really wants to go, but I'm a little sad too - they grow up so fast! It's just for 2 hours every morning, but still...

I know what you mean... Catie is going to mother's day out two days a week this year (she's done one day the last two years) and even though I know that she loves it, and I'm completely comfortable having her there (I taught there for four years before I had her) I'm sad about her going two days a week! It just feels too grown up!

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You are so positiv about claire's birth, lov it! It is great you have come out more confident. With hopes for this time!

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This pregnancy has been a lot tougher on me. I don't know if it's because I have a maniac for a toddler, or because I'm working, or because it's just different, but I have found this pregnancy a lot more uncomfortable than my first.

It's had it's share of stresses too - I had my first bleeding episode at 15 weeks, a gush of bright red blood that scared the s**t out of me! The midwife checked me out, baby still had a heartbeat so she said it was highly unlikely I was having a m/c at that point, but this prompted monthly ultrasounds that continued until I was 30 weeks. It was determined I had a very low lying placenta that was touching the cervix, and they started preparing me for the strong possibility that I would need to have a scheduled c/s. I was devasted, and it took me a long time to accept that situation. I was on pins and needles about it until 30 weeks when my last u/s showed that the placenta had finally moved well away from the cervix and my natural labour plans were back on!!

I've had a lot more back aches and other aches and pains this time around, I think due to the fact that with the bleeding I was having I was told to do no physical activity at all - so I've spent this pregnancy sitting on my butt a lot:( With Claire I exercised regularly and it made a huge difference. I'm really hoping that this doesn't make the birth a lot harder for me since I'm out of shape!

Because of all the stress and uncertainty with this pregnancy, I only recently started to get excited about it. Since learning I can have a natural birth, my attitude has made a big turnaround, and now I can't wait to meet my new little girl! Only a couple more weeks and I get to meet her!

Here are some pics from this time around, I started showing way earlier, but other than that my weight gain has been about the same.

15 weeks

22 weeks

28 weeks

That's the most recent one I have...I guess I'll have to take one today now that I'm term!

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sorry for the scares this time around! that would be pretty overwhelming. YAY for you placenta moving nicely. Can you start slowly exercising now to feel a little better about labor? or are you still limited on activity?

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I am so happy that your placenta has moved enough for you to have another natural birth!

Will you share your term picture when you take it?

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I'm so glad that the issue with the placenta cleared up so that you can have the birth you want!

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I love all the belly progression pictures, you are so cute! I've always wondered what makes a pregnancy comfortable or not. I have had ones that were comfy all the way up to delivery, and others that were very uncomfortable from the start. Sorry to hear this one has been more of a challenge for you. I'm also so, so happy that your placenta behaved itself and has moved :thumbsup:

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great pictures! Smile

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TFS! You have great pictures.

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you have such cute belly pictures!!!

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Hey ladies, sorry I've been MIA for a couple days...now I'm frantically trying to play catch up with all the lodges, there's been so much going on!

I don't know how many of you know this, but I work as a real estate agent, so a pretty flexible business that at least theoretically I can schedule myself how I want - but realistically you're at the mercy of your clients' schedules! The last week or two I've been so busy! Everyone wants to move in the summer. I was hoping to start slowing down now for a couple of weeks but of course all my clients want to buy at the same time, so I've been doing tons of showings - and let me tell you showing 6 2-storey houses in one go is pretty tough when you're 9 months preggo! I haven't really been exercising much outside of work but I do lots of stairs at work !

Anyway, the BH have been pretty frequent lately, probably because I've been busy, and I get lots of hip pain at night so that makes it hard to sleep - and I already have bad insomnia.

Ugh, sorry it seems I'm complaining so much, I feel like an old granny and I'm sure DH will be glad when I've had the baby and he doesn't have to listen to my moaning and groaning anymore Smile I want the baby to stay put for another 2 weeks but at the same time I really want her out! I feel stretched to the brink and she's a very active baby - she moves constantly and I'm always feeling something sharp sticking out somewhere!

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I CANNOT imagine doing showings 9 months pregnant. You are amazing!! I am assuming you are working up until you go into labor? How long will you take after the baby arrives? I only worked a few hours a week when I was pg with DS, but this time around I am almost full time (32 hours a week). It has been a much harder pregnancy for me too.

I don't think you are complaining too much at all! 37+ weeks and a demanding job and an active toddler...you sound like you are doing great to me!

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Katie - yeah I'm pretty much working up until "labour day" but I will hopefully not be doing any showings during the week I am due. I plan to take at least 2 weeks off to do NOTHING work related (we'll see if that actually happens!) plus DH will be taking parental leave since I'm self-employed I don't qualify for mat benefits. Hopefully he won't be returning to work at all after, so I'll have lots of help and I can start back to business slowly in October.

I think I'm officially nesting Smile I got motivated reading about some of the other mommas on the September board and their stocked freezers so since we have a long weekend I'm doing super-duper cooking and cleaning. so far I've made:
- 2 dozen pumpkin muffins
- 2 dozen banana muffins
- 2 banana loaves, 2 pumpkin loaves
- a HUGE pot of spaghetti sauce, half of which I'll use to make 2 lasagnas
- a HUGE pot of chili
Tomorrow I still plan to make a big pot of chicken and dumpling stew, and some chicken parmesan. Yum!
I still want to do a few more dishes after that, but I don't think I'll have time for anything else this weekend.

I also managed to find my old breastpump and all the accessories when I was looking for something else, but the motor is shot on it so I have to get a new one.

I've had so many contractions today, just 'cause I've been doing so much, so now I have to sit and take it easy for a while Smile

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Lots of pumpkin bread being baked on this board Lol Having freezer meals really is the way to go! Sorry to hear about your breastpump though - what a bummer! What kind did you have?

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I have a Medela single electric, but I think I'm going to upgrade to a Pump in Style - I really want a double one this time!

I love pumpkin Smile

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I love my PIS it's been used with 3 soon to be 4 babies & still works as well as the day I got it. I think having a double helps with let down too, which is nice.

I love pumpkin bread too & fall is almost here so it's perfect!

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I had the medela single electric too - and my motor went out!

I did spring for the double Pump in Style this time around. I hope it was worth it! Smile We'll have to compare notes.

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I had a totally ridiculously busy weekend, now just finally catching up on all the lodges and updating mine...

My midwife came for our home visit last night, we talked about birthing positions, when to head to the hospital, etc. Totally different experience from last time, I'm really starting to get excited for this birth! As she said, I can "go anytime" which freaks me out a little - I need for her to not be born this week, next week is fine Smile

She checked the baby out, position is good, her head is WAY down so I'm thinking it'll be sooner rather than later, heartrate is still good, my blood pressure is still really low, and my weight has stabilised at a 25lb gain. I'm also GBS - (yay!) so no worries about an iv.

Nesting continues, I'm continuing to stock the freezer a bit more every day, now I've got beef stew and chicken and dumplings in there, working on baked beans. I'm going to finish stocking it this weekend, so then as of next week we're all set Smile

My parent got me a change table, and my mom is making curtains so I'll at least have her room somewhat done this week, at least I'll have somewhere to store all the diapers! So far I don't have a dresser or a crib (DD still using it as a toddler bed) but we have a basinnette which she'll probably be in for the first 4-6 months anyway. I've got my hospital bag packed, so I think I'm pretty much ready!

Physically I'm feeling quite tired. I can't sleep much at night at all, so I'm kind of a zombie during the day. This baby is so active I am in constant discomfort with a knee or foot sticking out somewhere, and lately I've been having a ton of BH. Ugh.

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Sounds like you have really been busy! I wish I "nested" more... I never really get the urge, other than making about a thousand freezer meals ;-). Speaking of freezer meals, I never thought of doing baked beans- great idea! Sorry you're so physically uncomfortable! I hope you can get some rest before the little one arrives!

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I love that even though your delivering at the hospital, your midwife comes to the house for a visit. It's similar in Ireland too, or at least was when I lived there. So glad that you and baby are doing well but sorry your so uncomfortable. Hopefully you'll be able to get some down time & some rest before she arrives.

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Hope you get some rest this weekend! Just reading about all you've been doing makes me tired.

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Yeah having the home visit is super nice, they also come out to see us at home on pp day 1, 2, 3, 5, 7, and a couple spaced out after that so we can leave the hospital within a few hours of the birth if we want. I still think I'm going to stay in the hospital for the first 24 hours cause I'll have a private room and I selfishly want that first day alone with the baby to bond and hopefully get breasfeeding well underway without distractions. DD is super clingy right now, and I don't get to rest with her around so, it sounds bad, but I need her to stay with DH for that first day so I can recover.

I swear my skin has reached a breaking point! If I get any bigger I feel like I'm going to split straight down the middle lol! I'm going to take a picture this morning and add it, now that I'm just about to 38 weeks so you can see what I mean!

One more busy weekend for work this weekend, and then hopefully starting mid-week next week I can direct all my client calls to a colleague for the next couple weeks. I'm so ready to just lay around and sleep for a while before she comes.

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Grrr...clearly Photobucket is having issues, my pictures are huge, even though I resized them like I always do! Sorry!

Here's today:

And at 38 weeks with DD for comparison:

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I don't think you sound awful at all, it's important to rest and I also think it's equally important to have some quiet time with you and your new baby. I'm the same way & always have a plan for my older kids when a new baby comes, so we can have 1 on 1 time with our new one. You look great btw!! Love the baby belly Smile

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I am a little jealous of all of the freezer meals. We don't have many. When my mom comes, I think I will task her with that. Love the belly pics, btw. You look great!

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You look amazing!
I think it's a good idea to spend that first day alone with the baby without any distractions. It definitely helps, or at least I think so!

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I had a bit of a disturbing dream last night - surprising considering I feel like I barely sleep anymore! I dreamt that I was in the hospital and I walked into a recovery room where DH, my sister and mom and dad were sitting, and they were telling me all about the baby, I had to ask to be let to see her because it had been a day and I hadn't seen her yet! I hope this isn't a premonition of the future!

I guess I still have some lingering fears about an emergency c/s where I won't get to see her right away...I'll have to do the hypnobabies fear release track a bit more this week.

You know, I'm frustrated at this point. Everyone says "oh you look so good for being so far along, it's all baby, etc, etc" but I feel like crap. I haven't slept more than 4 hours at night in longer than I can remember, and seriously my hands and feet are so swollen it hurts to bend my knuckles. It makes it sooo hard to do anything - write, type, hold a fork! I know the only thing that's going to make it go away is to have this baby, so I find myself wishing she comes early ;(

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I hear ya on the wishing baby comes early. That was totally me right before Evie was born! I felt so miserable. And yet, I also knew that I had it good compared to others (no bed rest, practically no swelling). I was so exhausted and my back hurt and I felt so cumbersome! I felt slightly bad for encouraging every contraction I had that wasn't BH. It's so hard to get comfortable and accept the end stages of pregnancy without having the selfish moment here and there where you beg baby to come out.

:bigarmhug:

Just know you are TOTALLY not alone! And you DO look good. Wink

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I Am sorry you are uncomfortable!

If it gives you any hope, I had a dream about you last night that you went into labour. When I woke up for a feeding I checked my email just in case!!

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If it gives you any hope, I had a dream about you last night that you went into labour. When I woke up for a feeding I checked my email just in case!!

That's awesome Smile Sorry you didn't have a real email!

I'm really hoping she comes this weekend, by Monday would be perfect. I'm going to try whatever I can to start "encouraging" her this week. I have a pedicure Thursday morning, so she can't come before that!

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