*~*~*Erin's (Ibff) Birth Lodge*~*~*

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*~*~*Erin's (Ibff) Birth Lodge*~*~*

Welcome to your lodge!

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Yayyyy welcome!! I can't wait to share in your journey Biggrin

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I'll be reading along too! Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge! It's getting crowded in here! (That's a good thing.) Looking forward to keeping up with your journey.

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Oh boy! I can’t believe it’s time for me to have a lodge. How exciting!

Let’s see . . . I’m Erin and I’ll be 37 in a couple of weeks (most likely before DS2 arrives. DH is Jamey and he’s 40. We’ve been married for just over 9 years, together for about 12. We have a 3.5 year old son named Christopher. Here is a picture of us from our vacation the first week of August:

I’ll back up to how we met. DH and I went to the same small liberal arts college in Vermont, but never met. He was 2 years ahead of me and was away for most of my freshman year (with the exception of 1 month), so we were on campus for 1 year at the same time, but never met. A few years out of school, we were both living in the Boston area. My best friend is married to a guy from his class, and I guess somehow he was at their house for a party or something and saw a picture of me, and asked to be introduced.
Now, my BFF and her husband had tried to set me up with seemingly EVERYONE. I remember them periodically asking me to come over for dinner, and then the day of saying, “Oh, did we mention that {insert guy’s name here} would be here?” This time, I had just broken up with someone recently, and they invited me over for dinner and a movie. I remember distinctly that when DH walked through the door, my heart leapt into my throat, and I thought, “Wow! They set me up with someone good this time!” LOL
We started dating after that, casually at first, and then after a month-long business trip that he went on to Asia, we realized we really missed each other, and started getting serious after that. We got engaged, bought a condo downtown in Boston (Charlestown, for anyone who knows the area), and then got married in August 2001. We had a blast living in Boston and then moved back to Vermont in 2003, which was our dream place to live.

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Our TTC was a journey, but after 23 months of trying and a miscarriage and a chemical pregnancy, we finally got pregnant with DS1 with the help of some Clomid and acupuncture. At my 36 week appointment, I found out he was breech. In retrospect, I guess I should have figured that the very hard body part sticking into my ribs and keeping me from lying down was probably his head and not his butt, but I didn’t know. Anyway, my doctors did an external version at 36w + 4d and turned him successfully, although they indicated that he may have still had a foot down, and wanted to see me the next day. We got 3 feet of snow that night, and my follow-up appointment was postponed. That night (36w +5d) I was awoken around 10:30 or 11:00 by a rush of liquid, my water broke! Since we weren’t sure that he had turned 100%, we went into the hospital and waited it out. My early contractions petered out by morning (after watching Japanese game shows on tv all night) and they started the Pitocin to get things moving. The early part was easy and I was breathing through contractions, sitting on a birth ball. They kept turning up the Pit, and things eventually started to get really fast and intense. I moved into the tub, which helped, but I was starting to feel awful – the contractions were on top of each other, and I was starting to vomit. I asked to be checked, sure I was getting toward transition, and found out I was only 3 cm. I completely lost hope at this point and was sure I couldn’t do this anymore. I eventually got an epidural and napped for about an hour. I woke up and told the nurse I felt some pressure, and we realized I was fully dilated and ready to push. I worked on pushing for a while (less than an hour? I can’t remember) but DS wasn’t tolerating it very well and his heart rate was deceling with every push. They lined up the team to be ready to whisk me into surgery (and since it was a teaching hospital, it seemed like there were approximately 400 people in the room, when you count nurses, OBs, peds, anesthesia, whatever + all the med students and residents), but they were able to vacuum assist him out around 9:50 PM. Besides being little (5lb 7oz), he was healthy. The only ill effect that he had, possibly from being early and small, was that he had almost no sucking reflex at all, so we got off to a rocky start to BFing. Thanks to a good LC and a nipple shield, we got through it and had a great nursing relationship for 14 months.


Anyway, I got my vaginal birth and my healthy baby, but I went into this pregnancy (which also took some Clomid and acupuncture to achieve) wanting a different experience. I am happy that the external version allowed me to have a vaginal birth last time and I would have done it again, for sure, if this baby was breech, but I would have tried other things first like spinning babies techniques and acupuncture. But the Pitocin led to the epidural and to the vacuum assisting and almost to a C section. And while I expect the contractions to be increasingly difficult as they go on, I didn’t expect it to be so hard at 3 cm. I think it was because my body wasn’t really ready to go yet pre-37 weeks. I would like to avoid the interventions and the fear this time around!
I have been doing Hypnobirthing (just reading and listening to the CDs since 24 weeks), and I hired a doula this time to support me during labor. Our hospital here in Massachusetts offers acupuncture and reiki and aromatherapy during labor, although I’m not exactly sure how it will work. I am also seeing my acupuncturist starting at 37 weeks for a weekly pre-labor visit “to help loosen things up.” My OB advised me to stay home as long as possible (til contractions are 5 minutes apart) since she knows I want a natural birth, so I am planning on being in my big soaker Jacuzzi tub, since the water felt so good last time.
I admit to being nervous as I face this birth, but I keep listening to my affirmations and my relaxation tapes, and trying to prepare myself the best I can.

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Welcome!

And I like your stories so far!

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Christopher was soooo tiny! I am excited for you lodge and to follow your journey.

I also love the way you and dh met, it is so romantic.

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I had the best night of sleep I've had in MONTHS last night. I fell asleep on the couch at 9, went to bed at 10, only got up once to pee (as opposed to 4 times or so usually) and slept til 6:30 (I am working from home today, so no commute to deal with, which allows me to sleep later). I'm still tired today, but it was nice to wake up refreshed for once.

I've been feeling crampy and lots of BHs the last few days, but no real contractions yet. It's still early, for sure, though.

My mommy instinct has been saying that I will go into labor over the long Labor Day weekend, not just because of the name and the fact that *I* was born on Labor Day, but because I have a really, really busy work week leading up to that week, and I get the feeling it will be my last hurrah. We have a user conference (in Boston, so I still get to go. :confused:) Sunday, Monday and Tuesday, and then my boss is having a 2-day staff meeting following it. I don't really expect to be at all 5 days' worth of events, but probably a bunch of it.

Either that, or I'll go 41 weeks and face another induction. I am putting that option out of my mind for now - I'll deal with it if I have to.

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Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed reading your intro and birth story! I look forward to following you on your journey!

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Love your stories so far and all the pix. Christopher was such a tiny little thing! Don't forget about all of the natural induction techniques if you start creeping toward 41 weeks.

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Welcome to your lodge! Love the stories so far- Christopher is such a cutie!

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I enjoyed your intro! Christopher is such a cute little munchkin! I hope your good night's sleep multiplies into many more good nights!

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Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed your intro and the pics...cute little Christopher!

It would be nice if this baby was cooperative and came on Labour Day for you!

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Yay for a good sleep!!

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Well, back to normal (or 3rd trimester normal) last night and today - terrible night's sleep with lots of pee breaks and sore hips. Oh well, I guess it's preparing me for what's soon to come!

Other than that, mild-but-annoying heartburn and crampy. And I've graduated to the really big maternity clothes in my closet, now that the stuff I've been wearing barely covers the bottom of my belly. Smile

I have a whole bunch of big deliverables for the next 3 weeks at work, including hiring a manager for one of my teams. I'm working my way through it all as best I can, but of course no one else has the same sense of urgency that I do. I suppose the baby is in charge of his birthday at this point, so I just have to do the best I can and whatever isn't done, isn't done.

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TFS your story! Your son was & is adorable! Sorry your night of good sleep did not repeat. Maybe tonight will be good!

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TGIF! It's been a busy week, and I'm taking a break before gearing up for the afternoon (I have a big meeting at 4:30 that I have to finish prepping for). The good news is that I am working at home today, and have all the windows in the house open and enjoying the breeze.

Not much new to report here. I'm still crampy and with increasing heartburn (yuck!). I start my end-of-pregnancy weekly acupuncture appointments on Monday (just got the confirmation telephone call), so that's exciting.

This weekend, we plan to get the rest of the baby gear out of the basement (car seat, co-sleeper, pack n play, etc.) and get it all washed and ready to go. I will also pack my hospital bag and DS1's overnight bag, and I need to wash a few more of my baby carriers. I splurged and bought a Didymos cashmere/cotton blend Indio shorty on thebabywearer, and I need to wash it and re-familiarize myself with the rebozo carry. I also have a couple of long wraps that will be great for skin to skin with my new little guy. I can't wait to babywear again!

The little guy has the hiccups right now, and it's funny now that he's big enough that the hiccups shake my entire belly visibly!

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Hiccups do that here, too, I love it!

Just keep doing what you can and don't pressure yourself too much. It's hard to juggle work and pregnancy Sad

Have fun preparing baby items, I've been tossing my toddlers up in my carriers to break them in and get used to wearing, they've been surprisingly good troopers. By Christopher and Callie's age, they generally can sit still long enough to be patient with clumsy carrying (in my case) and I have found her really easy to practice my wrapping on.

Washing baby clothes and package a hospital bag makes it seem a lot more real, doesn't it?

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Great intro! Christopher was such a little peanut and he is/was so cute! Yay for getting to start those appts. on Monday! Have a great weekend getting baby stuff ready. I need to get my wraps and carries out too and wash and practice getting into them again.

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I just walked into town to the health food store to pick up EPO and RRL tea. I pushed DS1 in the stroller, and I now I am completely worn out. I know it's good for me, but phew!

BTW, I am 36w + 5d today. That is when my water broke with Christopher, and he was born the following day. I don't think this guy is going anywhere for a while, but it's weird to think that I was about to go into labor at this point with my first baby.

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That's fun- 36w,5d is when they broke my water and I had Daniel. Smile Still better to bake a bit longer, if possible, of course.

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I had my first end-of-pregnancy acupuncture appointment today - I have them weekly until the end. It is supposed to help loosen things up and help with an easy recovery, as well as help get labor going once my body's ready for it. I have been doing acupuncture regularly throughout the entire pregnancy, but this was totally different. All of the first few points that she did gave me huge ZINGs when she put the filaments. Very strange. The baby liked it, though. He was dancing around while I rested.

My heartburn is suddenly gone - I'm guessing that the baby dropped somewhat, although he's still not very low.

Here is my 37 week belly:

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I had the same thing at my acupuncture appointment last week - she put them in and I felt it everywhere! I have an appointment tomorrow and expect a lot more of that.

Yay for no heartburn!

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Hi, Erin! I'm so excited about your second baby. Woot!

Good for you for getting out Smile And double yay for acupuncture.

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You are looking fabulous!

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Had my 37 week appointment today. I've gained 40 lb overall so far, which is not a big surprise since that is what I gained with DS when I delivered at 37 weeks. No more lectures, although I get nervous about it every time I go in.

GBS negative was the big news. Woo hoo!

I had a cervical check. Absolutely nothing going on so far. I know it's early, and I know it doesn't really mean anything anyway, since people walk around dilated for weeks, or alternately go from 0 to labor in no time flat, but it still would have been nice to see a little action going on.

And I have to start going in twice a week for NSTs, due to being of "advanced maternal age." It's rather inconvenient, since I'm still working full-time, but hey, what are you going to do?

Poor DS has been extra-needy the past couple of days. I think he is starting to really feel the big change that is coming. Also, we had some very bad health news family-wise that is weighing on DH and me, and I think he can feel that, too. He is a sensitive little guy, for sure. I am going to try to get out of here a little early today so I can give him some extra cuddles this evening. It's about all I have energy for these days, anyway.

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May I borrow your little guy for some cuddles too? Serious family health issues going on here as well.

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I'm sorry you weren't more dilated, that can be disheartening to hear, but it sounds like things are pretty standard and healthy for your gestational age. Yay to GBS-, that's one less thing to worry about in labor.

When are you finally off for maternity leave?

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Yay for GBS-!

I hope everything is ok Sad Poor DS. I'm sorry you guys are going through a tough time. I will keep you in my thoughts.

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"gardenbug" wrote:

May I borrow your little guy for some cuddles too? Serious family health issues going on here as well.

Sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for your family, too.

"SaucyVidel" wrote:

When are you finally off for maternity leave?

September 10th, unless something happens earlier. My boss was saying something about "if I go late" I could start working on such and such a project. Um, yeah, if I go late, I am pampering myself at home, not going into the office. Smile

DH picked up take-out on his way home tonight so I could snuggle with DS instead of making dinner (DS got leftover homemade alphabet/minestrone soup). I got him to bed at 7:15 or so, so I hope he'll be feeling a little better tomorrow. Poor guy.

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Good news about the GBS-!
So sorry you guys are going through a tough time. Lots of extra cuddles to your little guy. Hope tomorrow is better.
Yes, just say no to working longer if you go late. I can't believe your boss actually thinks that!

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My boss is a little clueless about some things, but he's harmless (and really, really book-smart). He asked me if I would go to India with him in mid-July (I was around 32 weeks at that point). I told him, a) I'm not taking all those shots when I'm pregnant, b) I'm not sitting on a plane for 24 hours, and c) oh yeah, I'M NOT GOING TO INDIA 32 WEEKS PREGNANT!

:rolleyes:

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That cracks me up India in the 3rd trimester....what a thought!

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Yay for GBS-! I bet DS loved the extra time being able to cuddle with you. I had to laugh at going to India at 32 weeks....crazy!!

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Can you imagine how aweful a 24 hour flight would be at 8 mos pregnant? That's nuts.

Yay for GBS-. It's such a pain to be positive.

I don't blame you for wanting time off instead of working if you are still pg past Sept 10. Put your feet up! Do you have a feeling about when you'll birth?

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"Emilys3Guppies" wrote:

I don't blame you for wanting time off instead of working if you are still pg past Sept 10. Put your feet up! Do you have a feeling about when you'll birth?

I'm still thinking that he'll either come over Labor Day weekend, spurred on by the completion of a really exhausting week that I'm facing next week at work (a user conference followed by a 2-day face to face staff meeting), or he'll go all the way to 41 weeks just to be the total opposite of his Type A big brother (and Mom). Since DS1 really came due to the external version, I don't have any sense of when I would have gone on my own, so these are complete guesses.

The other option is that he'll come on September 9th, because that would be the most inconvenient for DH with a big presentations he has that day. ROFL

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Wow, India at 32 weeks?! Can you imagine just how many times you'd have to get up to pee in those terrible little plane bathrooms? And suggesting that you start a new project if you go late! Silly man. I told my boss I'll continue to come in up until birth if possible but he can effectively consider my projects completed at 38 weeks (just in case).

Yay for GBS-!!!!

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I just completely broke down sobbing at my desk (luckily working from home today) - big fat tears, the whole bit. What pushed me over the edge? My dog pooping in the house, after I had gotten up from my conference call 4 times to let her out.

Then I ate a plate of leftover pasta with Italian sausage. Yup, it's 10:30 in the morning.

Now off to a meeting with a colleague I can't stand. Hopefully I can make it without biting his head off or getting fired in the process.

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Oh Erin, what a day.
Won't it be great to get those cuddles tonight!

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Oh no, what a day already. Hopefully that meeting with said co-worker goes fast and you have a great day from that point foward.

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I made it through the day yesterday. My BFF called and cheered me up, and then I took a shower and took the dog for a long waddle, er, walk as a peace offering. I also talked to my Mom for a while last night. I know all of these emotions are normal, so I just have to get through them.

My ankles have swelled up from mildly swollen to huge cankles by the end of the day now, just starting a few days ago. I have to go to 2 days of customer meetings and 2 days of staff meetings in Boston this week, and I have no shoes that are going to work, so I ordered some Dansko Mary Janes from Zappos, and they arrived yesterday. I tried them on, and DH was looking at them, and said, "You're going to hate me for this, but your feet look huge in those." I told him that my feet ARE huge, and it's not the shoes' fault. Anyway, the swelling goes down overnight, so I tried them again this morning to make sure they will be cute enough post-partum, and I guess they will.

Today is Mommy and Christopher day. DH has him the next 3 days (I have to work on Sunday, and preschool is closed M/T and he's covering because of my conference), so I am taking him for some one on one time today. I think we're going to make muffins this morning, then walk to the library and playground (right next to each other), then probably walk into town for lunch. After naps for both of us, we'll see if we're up for going to the pool or if we'll just hang at home. DH will join us for dinner - grilling out, I think. I'm looking forward to it! I hope DS is in a good mood.

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I'm glad you are feeling better today! My dog is getting old and his stomach is super sensitive to things so we have had several recent dog poop incidents and DH doesn't clean them well either. I don't understand why... I hope it will be better when he is changing diapers.

Your Mommy & Christopher day sounds really nice - enjoy it!

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What is with dogs pooping in the house? It seems to be a running theme. The last thing we preggos need right now is having to get down on our hands and knees and clean up stinky poo! Anyway, glad to hear you're doing better. Sounds like you've got a wonderful day planned.

Oh, and about your poor, clueless boss: it sound like he really relies on you. It's nice to be needed. Hopefully he'll be able to manage without you for a while!

I can't believe they want you to come in so often for NSTs due to "advanced maternal age." That would irritate me. They really need to scrap that label.

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If killing your coworker is more satisfying we'll happily hide bodies for you Wink

More seriously, I'm sorry your day has been so awful and I hope it brightened up by the end. The end of pregnancy is hard enough without the hormones making things worse!

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Well, that was a lovely night of sleep. I woke up around 2:00 with some contractions. They were strong enough to wake me up and make me think, "hey, contractions!" but not strong enough to make me have to breathe through them, and not in any pattern. I know full well that it could still be weeks before I go into real labor, and these are likely just the first signs of my body warming up. Last time it was so much more dramatic with a big WHOOSH of water breaking before full term, so I never got into this waiting game. Either way, they got me thinking about a major hole in our Christopher coverage plan, since he does not have preschool M or T this week (teacher training). So, I stressed about this and watched HGTV for a while in the middle of the night.

Just as I got back to sleep, DS then woke up at 3:15 with a sore throat. After a glass of water and a cuddle, he went back to sleep, but then had to go potty at 3:45. And then the dog started at 4:00. DH had been sleeping in the guest room last night anyway, as I've been keeping him up the last few nights tossing and turning, but I marched in and told him to deal with the dog and went back to bed.

And I have to work (and meet customers, no less!) today. Oh well.

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Ugh- sorry you had a rough night. I hope you can try to get some rest in somewhere today.

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After nights like that I used to wish for a paper shuffling job rather than one where I had to GIVE. Meeting customers is much like teaching. Have to be on your toes and give give give. I hope it is a short day for you! September is coming soon! Wink

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Well lets hope these contractions continue and move onto something more productive. I am sorry to hear about the swelling and the lack of sleep. I hate that part of pregnancy. Hopefully today is better.

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Wow, you just can't catch a break, can you? I hope you have a better day today, despite the lack of sleep. Poor thing!

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