I'm on a birth board on a different site. Someone started a thread encouraging everyone to have some NCB tools in case their epidurals don't work (hers didn't). I agreed with her and said those tools are also nice to get you through to when the anesthesiologist is available (I had to wait much longer than I wanted to). Anyway, the thread devolved into consternation over why anyone would go natural on purpose. One lady insisted that ALL women who don't have an epidural scream their way through their births because they are ALL in agonizing pain. I told her that's not true. I didn't have agnozing pain, nor did I scream. I also know hundreds of women in real life and thousands more online who didn't have agonizing pain or scream through their labors. I didn't claim that these births were painless. I said that they weren't agony and that screaming wasn't part of their labor toolbox. I don't have a problem if it is, but I have a problem with the stereotype that NCB = unbearable agony and screaming.
Anyway, of course she came back to say she didn't believe it, but if it was true then I'm some kind of freak of nature. Nope. I'm just educated and prepared.
Wow. So glad that was on a different board and not on our June board!! It's amazing what people will believe or refuse to believe!!!
Mara & Joel, 2009
I actually did scream through both of my home births (pushing, not labor), but to me, it's not just about pain. It's about giving birth in a place where one feels safe and loved and cared for, with the least intervention necessary for safety. My first four births were hospital births with epidurals, and even though my home births were more painful (and honestly, after giving birth at home, drug-free for the first time, I felt a little disillusioned by claims that natural birth could be painless, or at least the pain would be minimal), they were by far the best birth experiences I had, and if at all possible, I'm shooting for another home birth this time around.
Birth board drama - yeah, I can't see getting involved in a birth board again. It's just an emotional powder keg.
I screamed through my natural births (like Lisa, not the labor, just the actual birth), but I'd still do it again over a medicated birth in a heartbeat.
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
oh people are very, very funny. I was rather vocal through my second delivery but once it was done it was done. i've never been high so I don't really speak from experience but seriously the BEST high i've ever had, i felt amazing! My first wasn't completely medicated but there were various interventions (medically necessary unfortunately) and i would take my completely intervention free delivery over the first one ANY DAY, a thousand times over!
<3 Dh Jason 3/22/03
Baby #4 11/24/13
I think most women that give birth naturally scream at one point or another but not because of the un-bearable pain but more because of all the energy going through your body that you need to get it out some how. I screamed twice while the dr was telling me not to push with DS2 because I had a lip that I couldn't push over, I tried, so I had to roll onto my left side. The energy and intensity of those contractions I had to do something with so I wouldn't push so I screamed instead.
I hate how NB is compared to Hollywood movies.
I scream like I am being murdered during transition. But whatever, that 10 minutes of near-death totally is trumped by the fact that I am able to walk to and take a hot shower and eat some food in my own kitchen within an hour of giving birth. And the feeling of slippery velvet baby sliding out can't be reproduced by anything else. And I can't wait to do it again. I stop looking/posting in my birth boards the second I read "My induction date is set!" threads.
Dylan 4/22/04, Devon 6/24/06,Dorothy 9/13/07, Derek 12/19/09, Daniel 12/18/10, Daphne 2/24/12
Mindie and Mark, 5/16/09
Yeah, the truth is, when I was pushing, I also screamed and my mom said I not just screamed, but screamed, "this is killing me!" Of course, I don't remember any such thing! But I do remember the pain of the ring of fire and getting her head out. Ouch. The rest of it though.... if low guttural moaning is loud and dramatic, then, call me a drama queen.
Mara & Joel, 2009