HI! My name is Lynne, I have a 3 year old son, Matthew who was born at 31w4d. I am not happy with the way his birth went and am hoping this time around is completely different.
The cliff notes of DS's birth. I had wanted a natural birth, but wasn't given the opportunity to have one. I know I could've spoken up but I was so scared and they didn't tell me what they were doing. I went into spontaneous preterm labor at 31w3d. I woke up that morning and just didn't feel good. I went to work (at the time I worked for a cleaning company), cleaned a house, even took many breaks because my back hurt. Then went grocery shopping, started dinner, picked up DH at work. Still had back pain, took tylenol, used heating pad, laid on my left side. Nothing got rid of the pain. I wasn't worried about the pain because I always had back pain. I tried having DH crack my back, nothing. Finally at 1130p we put a call into the MW. Walking through the hospital to get to the elevators I started having contractions. When I got to the hospital I was 3cm, I got one dose of steroid shots for DS's lungs. Then got sent into Boston to another hospital with a level 3 NICU. More contractions in the ambulance. I was 5cm by 230am when I got to the hospital. As soon as my head hit the pillow I was given Nubaine (no asking me, just gave it to me), I had no idea what was going on. I thought they were going to try to stop labor and wasn't even sure what Nubaine was. I don't remember much after that. But I was given another steroid shot, started on pitocin and given an epidural (to which I got a spinal headache and the anesthesiologist said it wasn't. At about 7/8 cm my bag of waters was broken. At 228pm, I told DH that I needed to push. DH ran to get the doctor. She came in and said oh yeah you're at 10cm. None of the NICU team was ready, they were called down and just made it. Matthew was born at 232pm on 3/23, he weighed 4lbs 1/2oz and was 16 inches long.
So I've never been this pregnant before since I've made it to 34 weeks I can deliver locally. :woohoo:
Two of the four MW's in the practice know I want a NCB. So I have a lot of questions to ask my MW on Monday. About different "practices" and whatnot. I want to know if I'm missing something regarding the labor process. Since the hospitals version of a birth plan isn't very specific, I want to know beforehand what may or may not happen, KWIM.
In my birth plan I stated I wanted to walk in rooms/halls, sit in recliner, use tub or shower, use heat/cold/massage, listen to special music and use my own pillows under the pain control/positioning section.
So the questions I have are....
When do you typically start internal exams?
If I come in before 37 weeks will you try to stop labor?
How long can I labor at home? (I live about 30 min away from the hospital so I dunno what she will say about it)
How long after my EDD will you allow me to go before talking induction?
If I need to be induced what do they use?
Do I need to have an IV? Can I have a hep-lock instead?
Am I allowed to eat/drink during labor?
Do I have to have continuous monitoring or can I have intermittent monitoring?
Will you break the bag of water or can she be delivered in the caul? If you break it can it be after 7/8 cm?
Are the other MW's on the "same page" as you regarding these questions? Or do I need to ask everyone what their practices are? Or is it hospital practices?
Thank you if you made it this far.