Anything I should ask?

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raingirl28's picture
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Anything I should ask?

I have my 20wk appointment next week. I know it's a rather stupid question, but is there anything I should start asking or preparing for? I feel like whenever I go in, we just do the weight, pee test, check heart beat, and measurements, then a Q&A. I never feel like I have a whole lot to ask though and I don't want the midwife to think I'm not planning or something! I think it's because I've just read so many books and planned this for so many years, there aren't a lot of things I need to ask about.

I already have pre-natal classes scheduled. They are taught by a former midwife and are home birth focused.

It's a little too early I guess to prep for anything for the home birth. Besides, we have a full house with DH's parents and BIL/fiance/nephew living with us for the next 4 weeks so I can't do much prep anyway!

I'm just wondering if there are things I'm not thinking about that maybe you all have more experience with that I should ask??

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It's not a stupid question at all, but I totally felt the same way last time...and this time, forget it! My appointments are super quick and routine because it's literally just a weight and heartbeat check and a little chat where I tell them I feel fine and have no questions. But seriously, if you're a big researcher and on here chatting with other experienced ladies and everything...there really isn't a lot to ask about besides maybe specific policies and procedures of your midwives typical birth plan, etc., and that can wait until much later. Are you getting an anatomy scan/finding out gender?

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We aren't finding out the gender, but we had our first anatomy scan last week. Unfortunately baby was being insanely lazy and laying on his/her stomach and refused to flip over at all. Therefore the tech couldn't get a good look at the chest cavity organs/heart or the facial structure/brain. We go back this Thursday night for scan number 2! Hopefully baby cooperates this time and is a little more active!

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Enjoy your extra look! Smile Mine was curled up in a little ball facing down but the tech was able to get everything she needed except a facial profile..after a TON of prodding she finally turned long enough to get it at the last minute. These little stinkers like to start messing with us as early as possible, don't they Wink

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He/she was all stretched out for ours. Head/hands up on my left, legs down in my hips. Got to see the baby stretch out then bend their legs back but otherwise they were chilled out.

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I think at this point it's a bit early to have too many questions. Your midwife will probably start asking *you* questions in the next few weeks like how you're preparing for labor, have you encountered any emotional issue to work through, do you have a car seat, what supplies you'll need, etc.

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Thanks. Good to know!

I think the only thing I may ask the midwife is about the stress from my job. I'm finding the shift rotation harder than I thought I would. Each week I work a different shift, sometimes starting at 7AM one week, then the following Monday starting at 4PM, then back to 7AM the following week. I'm finding it harder to adjust to the change in sleeping patterns. There are two people who work a "9 to 5" shift I could trade with...but I think the midwife would have to put it in a letter/request to my manager first. Something to consider down the road if I get too stressed.

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I definitely think that's worth asking about. Your body is doing a huge job even at rest these days...makes perfect sense that your tolerance for sleep disruptions would be affected! Otherwise I agree that the mw will probably bring anything up that you need to be thinking about herself, as time passes. You're in the honeymoon period right now...just baking!