Some may know me, others may not. My name is Linda, and I have given birth naturally(vaginal, med-free) to 4 children. I ended up with an emergency c-section due to my daughter turning breech. Against my wishes, they surgically delivered my first daughter. I was subjected to 3 scheduled c-sections after that....just because I was a patient with 1 prior c-section. The hospital was a small community hospital, but that didn't matter. They banned VBAC's and my doctor refused to try. He told me he would lose his license if he even let me attempt VBAC.
My DH and I had many problems with fertility, and we had 5 m/c's along the way before we conceived with the help of clomid. Our first biological child together is almost 19 months old. We are surprised to be expecting now, especially since we did not use medication this time. We consider this pregnancy a blessing and a miracle that it happened on its own.
I have been searching, emailing, and making phone calls in preperation for labor and delivery. February will be here before we know it, and we want to be prepared and have all bases covered.
I am located in Oklahoma (North Central). I have visited the OK ICAN website, but there is nothing located even remotely close to me I found Midwives that work with Dr. Ryan in Tulsa I believe(or maybe they are in Oklahoma City...forgive me, I'm losing myself in locations and information at times), however, he can not do VBAC with a woman who has more than 2 prior c-sections the midwife tells me(the hospital wont allow him to). It is much harder than one would suspect when seeing the ICAN website and statistics on who has higher percentages of VBAC's versus the updated information when you call or email. It seems that things change quickly.
The midwife I emailed with said I am not a candidate to even be seen, much less delivered by any of them because I have 4 prior c-sections. Hmm, I'm lost. I need tremendous support ladies. I am trying to find information and it seems no one shares what they know. I can understand to some extent. I, myself have helped out in any situation when I saw someone in need. That is what I am asking for I guess. Someone with compassion and an understanding of how badly I need to find help. The c-sections have caused a great deal of issues for myself and my babies. Medical problems that I know where brought on from the use of the medications during surgery. None of my vaginally birthed children needed oxygen, nor did they need to be watched in the nursery for over 4 hours.....nor did my heart rate plummet and need meds to bring my heart rate back up.....my vaginal births did not cause scars to my uterus,etc.
I am open to suggestions here or privately. I will never use names or share anything that would involve anyone here or elsewhere. I am open to underground midwives as well. I just need help and support if anyone can help another mom and family.
Sorry for rambling and such a long post. I'm having a little fogginess today and having a bit harder time trying to correctly convey what I am in need of.
Thank you in advance for any help and/or information you can lend me.