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    Welcome to your lodge!!! Sorry it's a bit late.
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    Welcome to your lodge! Excited to follow your journey with this newest addition
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    holycow!! I can't believe I'm 36 weeks, what a crazy pregnancy this hasbeen! Not so much the pregnancy itself, thank Gd, that's been prettynormal, but just everything else that's been going on in my lifethese past 9 months... But somehow I'm here in my last month ofgrowing this little person, and I'm finally starting to slowly feellike I have time to connect with the birth and the fact that we aregoing to have 5 kids very soon!

    Thisis my 4th lodge... how crazy is that? I learned so much from thisboard over the past 7 years! (DD is 6.5, I joined when I was pg withher) cloth diapers, home birth, so much about what's important tobirthing women which has helped me on my doula journey... so eventhough I haven't known all of you for the past 7 years, I feel likethis board has been a really wonderful resource and source of supportand love. Thanks!! (I'm feeling so sentimental!!)

    Soa brief intro and rundown of where I'm at: I met my DH at a friend'swedding in 2001, exactly a year after my grandfather passed away.About 3 months later, after finally allowing myself to believe thatsomeone as sweet and good and stable as Yoram would be interested insomeone like me (not that I was a "bad girl" just I'd dateda lot of real bums until then... my sense of self-worth was prettymuch nill.) so anyway, that was when Yoram asked me out and I saidyes and 9 months later we got married Our 11th anniversary isnext week on the 24th!

    WhenI got pregnant with DS1, I knew I wanted to have a natural birth, b/cit just seemed natural! Why interfere with natures plan? We took aBradley birthing course and didn't really think too much about mydr's tolerance of my wacky birthing choices or that the hospital shedelivers at has a 40% c/s rate... I did have him without pain meds orpitocin - but I didn't avoid much else, AROM, CFM, absolutely no roomto move around, purple pushing for 2 hours, episiotomy, immediatecord clamping, yadda yadda.... and then after handing me my baby fora whopping 10 minutes, he was whisked off to the nursery (DH in tow,thank Gd!) and I didn't see him again for hours. It took every ounceof strength I had to fight the dr's constant push for pitocinand "my" epidural. After that I felt like if I want anatural birth in NJ, I'm going to have to put in a bit moreeffort!

    Sowhen I found out I was pregnant again, a little over 2 years later, Ifound a midwifery practice that had come highly recommended. Theysaid that they attend births at a birthing center in a hospital, butwhen I went to tour the hospital at around 31 weeks, I found thatalthough the birth ward was set up to support natural birth, therewas no separate birth center. Aside from feeling disillusioned, I wasalso much less keen on the fact that the hospital was 45 minutes upthe Garden State Parkway (meaning that except at 2am, the drive couldbe up to 3 hours!). So at 34 weeks, we changed course completely and DD was born at home in water with a fantastic MW and thesupport of my incredibly open-minded DH and my doula. Not to mentionDS, who was almost 3 at the time! He moaned with me and rubbed myback and was generally adorable to the extent that I remember!

    Then,when DD was almost 2 and I was 10 weeks pregnant again, we picked uplike a pack of lunatics and moved from NJ to Israel without knowingexactly where in the country we wanted to actually live! We spent ourfirst 5 months in an apartment provided by the ministry ofabsorption, which was basically a hole in the wall. By the time wefound a house to rent in an absolutely beautiful rural town in theNorth of the country (15 minutes from the Sea of Galilee) I was 33weeks pregnant and having irregular bouts of premature labor. I'm notgoing to get into the whole story of Yitzchak's birth, but the shortstory is that I hired a MW who was recommended to me, even though Ididn't fully trust her and moreso I felt that she didn't really trustherself. She practices without a license, which didn't bother me b/cshe's been a midwife for 30 years, but she agreed to attend my birthdespite being 30 minutes from the closest hospital and then proceededto tell me for the rest of my pregnancy how dangerous it was and howany little thing could end up "placing me out" of having ahome birth... but I went with it. In the end she decided we needed totransfer when I was 9cm and pushy for absolutely no reason, (she saidthere was swelling around the baby's head. Every MW I've asked sincehas not had a clue what she meant) So I ended up trying to push inthe back of a bumpy ambulance for 30 minutes until they finallystopped outside the ER, where I finally was able to focus my energyand push him out, which no help from anyone. I caught him myself, andthen was subjected to staying in the hospital until the next morningb/c the dr on call refused to sign a release form even thougheverything was fine with me and the baby. I had no shoes or socks, nocell phone charger... DH was with me but they tried to kick him outat some point b/c they don't have private rooms. I told them theycould kiss my ***!!

    Anyway...somewhat unexpectedly (although seemingly right on schedule for me!)I was pregnant again about 2 years later. Our lease was up on thehouse we were renting, and I was feeling very traumatized aboutgiving birth again... I prayed every day that I would have a healingbirth experience and that I would find the right birth attendants andchoose the right place to birth. It wasn't easy, but I did find awonderful midwife team and had a truly healing home water birth. Itwas my longest birth, and the most intense. And the experience reallyforced me to face the fears and trauma of my previous birth andaccept them and also to move beyond them to a new experience.

    Sohere I am again, my LO is not even 2. We just moved again, to adifferent town, I've hired a different midwife, (the team from lasttime isn't doing home births anymore... grrr!!) and I definitely feellike there are a lot of unknowns again this time. For example, will Imanage to clear out the boxes from the living room in time for me tobirth in there?? (it's the only room big enough for the pool!)


    Butat the same time I feel very good here. The community is reallysweet, neighbors have been coming over to help unpack and bringcookies! The house has a really good vibe. I need to clean the moldout of the kitchen cabinets... and the a/c is virtually useless inthe middle of the day... but aside from that its great! The kids havealready made a bunch of friends, I've been able to connect with someof the women I already knew and I've made a few new friends as well!DH is loving it here as well. So all in all, I think we're in a goodplace.


    NowI just have to keep this baby cooking a few more weeks and not overdoit!!


    Soif you skimmed most of this, I totally don't blame you!!
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    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

    Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
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    Wow, you have had a lot of different birth experiences. I hope this one is everything you hope for.

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    I've seen you around here for years, but it's really nice to get to know you a bit better! I hope this is one of your best birth stories yet. I think knowledge is almost everything, and you certainly have that on your side! Glad you're feeling positive about your environment, even though it's so new...can't wait to watch this story unfold!
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    Welcome to your lodge! I am so excited to get to follow you through another lodge!
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    so tonight starts the 9th of the Hebrew month of Av. It's known as the saddest day of the year - many of the most devastating tragedies in Jewish history happened on this day, which supports a really cool concept in Jewish philosophy that we exist in a spiral, from the creation of the world going towards some unknown redemption. I can't really express much more about how cool that is b/c my brain is in placenta mode! But I'm sure some of you ladies who are not currently having your brain cells commandeered for reproductive efforts can think about it more deeply!

    So its a day of fasting that starts the night before, and it's a day of mourning and of praying for the future... obviously I'm not fasting! But DH is and all the kids will be home tomorrow so that's going to be a bundle of fun. We've already kicked off the day with DS2 having diarrhea all over the bathroom floor! I'm just hoping that we have an uneventful 24 hours ahead of us where the children are cooperative, and DH and I get to take it a little easy - since unpacking isn't really so appropriate for the mood of the day.

    Today I unpacked 6 kitchen boxes!!! Soooo exciting! I have my dishes out and more of my pots and pans and baking stuff. I still have a long way to go since my kitchen is tiny with very little cabinets. I am going to need one more shelving unit/cabinet and a pantry of some sort. I had to put a bunch of things back into boxes b/c there just isn't anywhere to unpack them to. I am also frustrated at not having any bathroom/linen storage. theres a small medicine cabinet above the sink in the bathroom and that's it. I'm going to need to get some sort of closet or something for linens and toiletries. All that stuff is currently piled in the guest room/office. My brother and SIL and their 2 adorable kiddies are coming to spend a few days with us at the beginning of August, so I really need to get all that cleaned out sooner rather than later.

    But I definitely have to pace myself better than I did today. I am so sore and crampy and uncomfortable now! But at least I have a more functional kitchen!
    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

    Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
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    My house is pretty small without much storage either, so I hear that! They make some pretty slim cabinets for bathrooms that could probably help you out in that area, at least. Maybe baskets under the sink? I have a little wall mounted shelf over my toilet where I keep my makeup and the toilet paper and stuff like that since we have no counter or room for a wall-mounted roll, even.

    Interesting about the 9th of Av. I've learned a lot about Judaism in the last 1.5 years since DD started attending a daycare/preschool at a temple, but that one is new to me Hope it's more mellow from here!
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    you're such a busy lady!!! I can't imagine being 36+ weeks pregnant and unpacking all day. I hope you get to take it easy today!

    will your Brother and SIL be helpful when they visit if baby arrives before then?
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    Lol! we didn't do any unpacking today, but I did do some strategic thinking about what we still need and how to move forward.
    I cooked a full meal in my kitchen today for the "break fast"!! I made miso soup, rice, lasagna, and corn bread - yay! I know it's a lot of different tastes and cultures but I had to work with the ingredients on hand - I am sooo overdue for a major grocery trip!

    One of the things I'm still getting used to about living at the far end of nowhere is having to drive nearly an hour to the big discount supermarket and stock up on groceries! I grew up in Brooklyn, NY!! I could get any grocery item I wanted 24 hours a day! Including Kosher stuff!! in the local grocery store, I can pretty much count on milk and some overpriced dry goods, but I can't even count on them stocking eggs or fresh bread!

    will your Brother and SIL be helpful when they visit if baby arrives before then?
    yes they totally will! One thing I really am grateful for is awesome helpful family on both sides! My parents are coming in two days after I'm due (hopefully I'll already be pp!!) and they will help with the older kids at least, they're travelling half way across the world, so i don't expect them to do much else. Although I think they would enjoy taking DH out to a home store to get some nice little things to touch up the house.
    plus my dad is a baby whisperer! I know he'll happily take the LO for a few hours at night while they're here. And then after they leave my IL's will probably come up for at least a week and they are awesome! they'll cook, clean, take the kids out, help with whatever repairs, unpacking we still need to do, etc... and both parents will probably offer to take us on a grocery stocking trip, all expense paid! the only problem is I don't have enough pantry space to store extra stuff!!

    My BH tightening feeling have been getting a little more uncomfortable and harder to work through the past couple of days... and my tolerance levels are way down. I'm having trouble dealing with my big kids. But my rescue remedy and motherwort tincture are keeping things at bay... tomorrow they go back to day camp and we're going to the pool in the afternoon, so I hope that will help me calm down as well!
    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

    Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
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